Question: Why does my girlfriend's clitoris hurt after I rub and touch it several times? Is it because of lack of moisture, thus due to abrasion her clitoris hurts?
Answer: The clitoris is a very sensitive and delicate organ, and men are often too rough when using their hands. The surrounding folds of skin normally protect it. The irritation could be caused by insufficient lubrication, and too much pressure and friction. Acquire some lubricant or use saliva. If her vagina is moist, you can use that moisture to lubricate her clitoris. If the skin on your hands is rough and dry, start using hand lotion, and consider buying latex gloves, available over the counter at your local pharmacy or drug store. You might also stimulate her through her underwear, rather than directly skin on skin. Please take the time to examine her vulva closely and see how things move, and their normal range of motion.
Find out if she masturbates and is willing to show you what she likes and her technique. This is a great way to learn how to stimulate her clitoris correctly.
There is a small chance she has clitoral adhesions or that there is smegma trapped under the hood of her clitoris. Please read the article about clitoral adhesions for more information about this.
Additional information can be found on the page about Vulva Massage.
Last update June 3, 2015
Published May 27, 2001