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| 148 | 720 | First things first, thanks admins for giving us guys a place where we can easily share/obtain the info we are most un/familiar with :P I'll dare and befoul this pristine new empty section with some question that's been dwelling the back of my craneum for some weeks now: I'm a 31 y.o. male with little to none background in lovemaking, three years ago I hadn't even kissed or caressed anyone outside family or friends context. But at 25 I changed, lost some weight (off the belly and the brain) and began feeling more secure about relationships, after some lingering and testing the waters, me and this fine lass found each other about a month ago. :D She's 33 and states that I'm her first anything (I wouldn't know how to tell if that's true even if I cared), she recently got herself up from some past issues including depression and self-loathing, she hated to be stroked. She's now very sincere and cheerfull, loves to hang around and chatters with everyone. So things have changed for us both immensely and at a quite fast pace, we often find ourselves wondering "aren't we going too fast?" but those thoughts evaporate in seconds. We have pleased each other to orgasm manually and orally in several pleasant occasions; in turns for now, but the future gives prospect of timed togetherness, the orgasms themselves are not our goal, we just get so into it and are so intuitive and caring/curious that it just happens. But when it comes to full intercourse, things don't go so smooth, we want it but a combination of factors impedes it. When I first tried in the condom felt all weird and I lost my erection cause I wasn't used to it, I think that's covered now since she's successfully masturbated me with latex on and it was great. The next time we tried my cock was like made of oak for the good 2-3 hours that our preamble took, when I positioned and she let me in, all we could fit in was a mere inch and a half of glans, that little stimulation and/or the fear to hurt her (as she had previously felt pain when I tried to finger her G spot) ultimately brought my dick soft after ~10 mins of just staying in and moving very very slowly. ACTUAL QUESTION :D So what's your guess (if you have endured this far :shock:). Do I have situational erectile dysfuncion and/or is it some other kind of condition?. Thanks a lot for every view and reply. | 2005-10-23 20:25:59 |
| 148 | 727 | Ah virginity. It means a lot for most women to lose it. To most men it's a curse that must be gotten rid of as soon as possible. So, your problem is that you lost your erection after ten minutes of "sorta" having sex. You say you're comfortable in the condom, so that's not the problem. But, you also say you're afraid to hurt her. Well, I hate to be the one who says this, but it's going to hurt her the first time. My first time was with a virgin too, and believe you me, there were a few ruined condoms, a couple botched attempts, and a fair bit of fluid (the saline kind from the eyes as well as the red kind from down below). You need to be confident in yourself and reassure your girl that it's going to be okay. Because it will be. My current girlfriend was a virgin too. It came down to me, as the experienced lover telling her that yes, this is going to hurt, but if you grab my right hand and look me in the eyes it won't hurt much or for very long. & You're going to find that that one inch or so that you can insert yourself into your girl is where you need to work. Put it in and be that reassuring man. Then slowly start working it in and out. Pressure will be needed and you have to remain confident, otherwise you're going to lose your erection when she starts to wince. And she will. I'm not a girl, but I've seen the looks on their faces when they "give way" for you. Make sure you've got an old towel underneath& for... ahem... sanitary reasons. & Your erectile difficulties are all psychological. You're embarking upon a mission most men take between the ages of seventeen and twenty and that's not helping you. Just remember that it has to happen sometime and if she's willing, you have to be willing to remain focused and confident that you'll make her feel good in the end. Is that a solution? Maybe, maybe not. Try it and see. & :) | 2005-10-28 23:59:17 |
| 148 | 735 | You shoud try different positions, maybe you find one, that doesn't hurt her. I lost my virginity from behind, and it didn't hurt or bleed. Good luck! | 2005-10-29 12:56:45 |
| 148 | 746 | many thanks for both your insights and support six and miss doolittle I will comply with your advice and report back soon, hopefully with even more gratitude. :cool: Edit 1 (03/11/2005 00:39 GMT+1): Nah, nothing to report, guess I'm discontinuing my posting in this thread. The reason being relationship issues are, apparently at least, too deeply intertwined with sexuality issues in this case. So it feels right to stop airing personal matters, that might turn the good signal we get from these board and site into noise, and I don't want that. Thanks again. | 2005-10-31 09:52:41 |
| 148 | 1120 | Well, hey back! Now I can happily announce that all of our past trouble has well gone past and we have been enjoying a very fulfilling relation for the past 3 or so months, coitus included :D Far from feeling completely satisfied I am now overwhelmed with waves and waves of new questions that will most surely be transponded here in a orderly and non-hogging fashion. So please keep bearing with me. :dude: | 2006-01-31 21:12:14 |
| 148 | 1298 | Congratulations, Luis. Before I even got to read your most recent post, I was quite sure you had no dysfunction whatsoever. And if there is such a thing as "situational erectile dysfunction," trust me -- every swingin' male who's ever walked on planet earth has had it from time to time, too. One thing I think indicates what a good heart you have is that you started to go soft when you knew that you were causing your lover pain. All that tells me is that your body was telling you to back off and spare someone you care for the discomfort of a painful penetration. There's absolutely nothing wrong or dysfunctional about that! Enjoy your lovemaking, hombre. It's the greatest thing on this earth. | 2006-03-11 02:55:16 |
| 149 | 724 | I am 30 & my wife 25. We got married 10 months ago. Here are some of my experiences and doubts. I expect "mywowbb" fraternity to dispel these doubts with their exp & knowledge. 1 & & I cum within 2 min of penetration. but if i pull out just b4 & then engage myself in doing the fingering& job for my wife, we stretch it upto 1/2 hr. IS IT NORMAL FOR ME TO CUM IN SUCH A SHORT TIME? (Already, I've started doing Kegel exercises as advised in 'Q&A' forum of 'the-clitoris.com') 2 I do not feel much pleasure while ejaculating. I remember my first climaxes during teens when i masturbated, were immense - as if a storm has come. The pleasure that i get is more psychological - that i am fucking hard !! What is more, my ejaculate often comes out of my wife's vagina after i withdraw - which may cause problem in conceiving. HOW CAN I MAKE MY EJACULATES FORCEFUL & PLEASURABLE? 3 & & I have pain in legs (calves) after ejaculation. We have sex once a week. HOW CAN I OVERCOME THIS WEAKNESS PROBLEM? 4 & & While having sex my wife gets so wet that my penis slips in & out so easily that I feel little pleasure due to friction. WHAT CAN WE DO SO THAT IT IS PLEASURABLE TO BOTH? We request the fraternity to enlighten us with their varied experience. | 2005-10-27 02:15:07 |
| 149 | 726 | Hey there. This is my first post here (just thought I'd let that bit of knowledge out :cool:), I'll address your concerns one by one for you to the best of my knowledge. 1. If you're climaxing only two minutes after penetration you qualify as a man who suffers from premature ejaculation. I'm not sure about your sexual history, but if you've never been with a woman before your wife perhaps this new way of climaxing is too arousing for you. If this is the reason you're getting off to soon you should conceivably overcome this problem, although to be honest, ten months of two minute sex isn't normal. You should talk to your doctor if this problem is harming your sex life. & 2. As for the quality of your climaxes, there's two things to consider. First, the fact that you're coming within two minutes of penetration needs to be addressed. Forceful ejaculations rarely occur after two minutes of intercourse. Extended periods of stimulus are usually needed to cause the volcanic ejaculations you seek. Again, this could be solved by seeing a doctor about your premature ejaculation problem. The second thing to take into consideration is your (I believe it's called) PC muscle. That's the one that clenches when you're climaxing. Try relaxing this muscle as long as possible during intercourse. You'll find that it takes longer to reach climax and that the climax you achieve is much more pleasureable. & 3. I have no clue why you'd have leg pain from sex. Unless you're engaging in some kind of acrobatic intercourse you shouldn't be in any kind of physical pain after sex. And, no offence intended, if your intercourse is lasting less than ten minutes any physical pain should be considered abnormal. If you're already talking with a physician about premature ejaculation, you could ask about this problem too. & 4. Friction, eh? Well, the fact that your wife is getting wet should tell you that she's enjoying the heck out of herself. If you're still getting off I wouldn't worry about it. And, if sex is primarily a baby-making thing for you, there are other ways you can get pleasure from your wife. Don't feel that anything other than vaginal intercourse is taboo. Have some fun and experiment. Your wife already seems to be having a good time. Best of luck. | 2005-10-28 23:48:23 |
| 149 | 729 | I beleive it is very normal for you to orgasm so fast! I find when guys stick it in they last under 2 minutes....alot also depends on position...does missionary get you to last longer? If she stays still it may help you somewhat...I find when you wiggle your hips and talk naughty the guy ejaculates very fast...yet if she is responsive it is good also because she is starting to get into it...maybe you can get her off first by fingering and then stick it in and come...practicing your Kegel exercises may help your ejaculation feel better...how would you describe the feeling of sex-pleasuring when you lasted longer as opposed to when you enter her pussy? Is it less friction which causes your ejaculation to be less pleasurable, but nicer cause it's warm that gets you off fast? I am curious as to if intercourse was a letdown or felt better than you expected? Melissa | 2005-10-29 00:25:54 |
| 149 | 732 | The average length it takes a man to climax is given at around eight minutes. I believe anything less than three is considered premature ejaculation. However, if both partners are fine with that, who cares? But clearly it's an issue, as Mr. Nancy has made a point of mentioning it. | 2005-10-29 00:42:07 |
| 149 | 736 | Isn't 8 minutes long for a guy after he inserts it into a vagina not to ejaculate? Where did you hear 8 minutes is average? | 2005-10-29 20:37:01 |
| 149 | 738 | Going simply on personal experience (the data I gave was read somewhere, probably one of those anatomy texts my girlfriend had last year), eight minutes is a very short amount of time. The first time I had sex I lasted at least eight minutes! :P & I'd estimate that on an average day I can have intercourse for at least 25 minutes to a half an hour. My personal best would have to be whatever the length of A Clockwork Orange minus the first ten minutes is. Where's the laughing smiley? | 2005-10-30 02:01:41 |
| 149 | 740 | Hello, I personally think three minutes of constant stimulation and friction during intercourse is average for a man to then ejaculate. Not eight minutes! During sex, try changing rhythm and slowing down. Alternate between the pace to make the experience last longer. If you feel like your building up to ejaculating, withdraw and do something else instead like orally stimulating your wife / partner. Then begin penetration again. Princess | 2005-10-30 08:01:36 |
| 149 | 743 | I hate to be on and on about it (but I will differentiate between what is considered premature and what is considered average in relation to "mindset".& & After doing a search for premature ejaculation and another for average time to climax during intercourse the consensus among every website visited seems to be 10 as a low to 20 as a high. Although again I'd like to point out that if both partners are satisfied, there's nothing wrong with any amount of time. :) | 2005-10-30 14:12:47 |
| 149 | 749 | As for my sexual history, as enquired by "six", i've been constantly masturbating thrice a week since 16 (ie for over 15 yrs now!!). As suggested by "Princess", we already follow the suggestions mentioned by u, which is why we're able to last till about 1/2 an hr. As for the 8-min or 10-min debate about cumming, MAY I KNOW IF IT INCLUDES PURE SHOVING TIME OR IT IS INCLUSIVE OF THE ENTIRE SESSION ? | 2005-11-02 05:07:07 |
| 149 | 760 | Hi nancy My own thoughts on your questions are that what is 'normal' for you is 'normal' for you. If that makes sense? Dont spend any more time worrying that there is something wrong with you or that you are doing things wrong or not pleasing your wife etc. Just relax and start to go with your own body more. You say that you already do the things I suggested before and that makes you last longer up to half an hour each session. That is good. Is your wife satisfied with your love making? Have you been talking with her about how she feels or if there is any thing else she would like to include in your love making together? There may be a burning desire that she has that you could try. Penetration to my partner and I is not the be all and end all of our love making. He is the same as you in that department when, as you put it, "total shoving time' is not very long. But by then, we have both been playing and enjoying each other so much it doesnt matter and I love the way he cums so quick through penetration as most of the time straight afterwards we fall asleep together in a heap still wrapped around each other. I used to be hung up on the idea that I wished he could go on for longer. And he in turn then started to feel like you do and worried about it. But all we achieved was a vicious cycle of anxiety which was totally unnecessary. We both enjoy each other and simply do not worry about length of time, or anything else. As long as we both share and both get the same from the experience we are happy and fulfilled. Talking helped a lot for us. He had no idea that I was worried that he was worried about the length of time he could penetrate me for. I think it is fairly normal and certainly in my own personal experience over the years, that men that can go on and on with penetration are quite rare. Just relax and enjoy your wife. I am sure you do already and she does you otherwise you would not have lasted all these years. Remember your love and sharing your love with her is the most important thing along with communication. I dont want you to feel patronised and if you do need to talk at any time please private message me by clicking on my name and leave an email address for me to email you. i dont mind doing that if it is easier than on here. Princess | 2005-11-05 20:24:52 |
| 149 | 761 | Hi Princess...Even as I can relate to your experience of short penetration time for alot of guys, I have heard alot of guys go on with penetration for long extended amounts of time....and a member of our former group, Jen, she said she comes as soon as her boyfriend enters her.... | 2005-11-05 20:39:15 |
| 149 | 792 | no one seemed to mention position here because I found it to be a big factor with my bf. In missionary or lying on our sides, he can last a long time, definitly more than 8 minutes, however with doggy style, 2 or 3 minutes is all it takes so we always leave it to the end :) And he usually stops himself before he reaches orgasm, takes a minute break and then we go again Try different positions, if you want to last longer, you have to find one that is not too stimulating for you. Also training to control your orgasms with masturbation is also one option I suppose. | 2005-11-10 14:17:24 |
| 149 | 800 | 8 minutes is absolutely average, and yes 2 minutes absolutely is considered premature ejaculation. The good news is that it's easy and pleasurable to fix. First - it's ok to go slow. The longer it takes, the longer both of you will& feel all those good feelings. The penis is very sensitive at first so start slow until the initial wave a pleasure dies down, then gradually increase speed (but no pounding).& Be careful not to get too close to fast. Before you get too close to the point of no return, STOP. Take a break until the feeling subsides. Then start again, slowly ...& while trying to relax. When you get close again, stop. Do this start and stop routine a few times then allow yourself to finish. By doing this routine, you're conditioning your body to last longer as well as& teaching yourself& to watch for the signs and feelings of your own body. As you learn these, you'll be able to slow down if you feel yourself getting too close faster than you want. Think of it this way. You can't run a marathon the first time you try running. The body must be gradually conditioned to last long enough to run a marathon. As an added bonus,& all the starting and stopping will& build& up the future intensity& of your& orgasm. You'll need to do this for at least a month, or until you can last an amount of time that is more satifying to you. I find that 10-15 minutes is a nice amount of time. For me less than 10 is too short and more than 15 things start to lose feeling and feel a little raw. Premature ejaculation is mostly& caused because when boys masterbate, they try to end it quickly as not to get caught, or they feel they shouldn't be doing it and want to end it quickly. Over time, the body is conditioned to& climax quickly.& Men then& must reverse this conditioning to cure the problem. | 2005-11-11 23:59:05 |
| 149 | 804 | [user=323]bogart45[/user] wrote: " Premature ejaculation is mostly caused because when boys masterbate, they try to end it quickly as not to get caught, or they feel they shouldn't be doing it and want to end it quickly. Over time, the body is conditioned to climax quickly. Men then must reverse this conditioning to cure the problem. " Hi that just rang so true. Thanks for posting that. Personally, it is true that we all become conditioned in one way or another when it comes to sex. I have had a partner who could go on and on. While this was a novelty to me in the beginning, it was unusual as I was used to only being penetrated for a very short period of time. I felt mixed feelings. First I thought, Gosh is this what I have been missing out on, and secondly, I kept thinking, why could it not have always been like this, and thirdly, why am I lying here like this when is it going to end - surely this guy cant last much longer - can he? ! So yes, I have mixed emotions and feelings too because I had been conditioned into the short period of time of penetration. Masturbation for me having grown up in an extremely deceiptful 'Catholic" household, was always on the sly and quick. So subsequently, as I got older, it was more of a quick release which I considered to be body maintainance. The same can be true of my partner but oh how I wish he could penetrate me for longer! Princess | 2005-11-13 07:35:51 |
| 149 | 833 | Kay talks of positions, but i wonder if it is really possible to get into all such positions! We r newly wed average couple, but i cant penetrate either in doggy or side-by-side position! My dick is 5.75" and i dont enter more than an inch in these positions! Also, i remember while single i used to masturbate with pillows and i used to get mind-boggoing "grip" from the pillows, whereas the grip of my wife's cunt is certainly not that exciting. | 2005-11-22 03:18:22 |
| 149 | 834 | bogart45 & Princess have told ways to extend the time. But that's not my real question. I've already said that by withdrawing just b4 felling like cumming can make u last AS LONG AS YOU WANT.& i have myself done this upto 1 1/2 hr. What i've been asking all this while is about the pure-shoving time till cumming! Actually my wife loves my shoves and reaches near climax with my poundings, but the problem is that almost everytime i tend to climax just b4 her so that i have to withdraw & complete her climax by fingering. So what i want to ask is if the men& should last till their wife climaxes? | 2005-11-22 03:29:11 |
| 149 | 835 | Hi for me, my partner climaxing after me, while inside me is the best. We reach a different level of emotional intamacy if I orgasm while he is inside me and penetrating me and then orgasms himself afterwards. But it doesnt have to be like this every time. As long as it is once in a while then that is great. I find that feeling him "shoving" as you put it, and then uncontrolably orgasming himself, even after a very short time, is just as exciting on a physical level. Princess | 2005-11-22 09:45:18 |
| 149 | 836 | Nancy...I kind of thought using a pillow to masturbate was a lady way!...interesting that you used to do it...how would you describe it as being different from intercourse?& Is using a pillow slower or faster than intercourse? You mention in intercourse, the grip is not as tight, but does the warm and wetness of the vagina get you to feel intercourse is better? Melissa | 2005-11-23 21:42:16 |
| 149 | 837 | Nancy, do you think that what is happening is that as she is getting excited she starts thrusting more, and her thrusting sends you over the edge and you come? I find if the woman is just laying there, he usually is able to last longer, but if she is getting excited and quickens the pace, he shoots off...maybe you would want to try for 50% of the time she comes first and then you ejaculate inside her and other 50% of the time you ejaculate inside her and then finish her off...Sometimes it's nice for the guy to ejaculate first... | 2005-11-23 21:50:33 |
| 149 | 838 | I agree Princess..AT TIMES& it's exciting when the guy sticks it in and he gets very excited and you start thrusting fast and like it's you know you got him so excited that he just shoots off so fast& and says aaah Missi, your pussy was just too beautiful...alot of times it happens moreso if you put on a sexy dance for a guy...then he gets so excited, bu the time he puts it in he squirts... | 2005-11-23 21:54:27 |
| 149 | 853 | One guy's opinion... A lot depends on how much thrusting you're doing. If you can hold your erection, try thrusting less and enjoying other pleasures more -- like kissing and caressing and nipple-play. By thrusting less, I mean lengthening the duration of each thrust to five or ten seconds, or stopping altogether for ten seconds in between slow thrusts. You'll know when it's time to pick up the pace again! Also, how much stimulation is your cock getting during foreplay? Together, you and she may be "priming your pump" to the point where ANY guy would be ready to come pretty soon after penetrating. Talk this over with her. As above, maybe your foreplay could involve less direct stimulation of you and more of her. By the way, I discovered quite by accident that, for some reason, if I moan audibly during orgasm it greatly increases the pleasure I feel in my cock. Sends a positive message to my wife, too! The semen that's coming out of her vagina afterward is just gravity at work. Don't worry -- you're leaving plenty inside to do its job! And finally, I ENVY you having the "problem" of a wife with a very wet vagina. Good luck, Nancy. (Nancy?) | 2005-11-28 11:09:17 |
| 149 | 855 | I don't beleive that there would be too much stimulation during foreplay that ANY guy would come too soon after entering...There are alot of guys who are rock solid and and can "go all night"...and alot of guys feel more foreplay de-senses them.. prime the pump is I think a myth...seminal fluid just gets re-absorbed back into the body...sometimes there weill be a nocturnal emission every 3 weeks or so...sometimes not...either way no harm...and there are guys who learn to stop an ejaculation and still have orgasms...they are multi-orgasmic and they find dry orgasms better...actually about any man, there is a book called Any Man Can, which claims any man can have non-ejaculatory orgasms...now I do admit, I haven't met guys who fit the above descriptions, but they are ou there... | 2005-11-29 18:00:25 |
| 149 | 927 | I have another suggestion from a guy's perspective. I don't know how quickly you can get it back up after ejaculating, but if you can get it up quickly, just climax from oral sex soon after you start. A second orgasm in one session generally takes longer to achieve than the first. After the first one, you can continue with other foreplay, and then proceed with penetration once you're hard again. If it takes you longer and you have sex at regular times (a certain night of the week at roughly the same time), you can masturbate before sex and time it so you can get hard during sex, but still maintain an erection for longer. Otherwise, just pace yourself. You don't have to thrust at full speed. Practice pacing yourself when you masturbate so you can learn your limits better. With self knowledge you should be able to maintain a constant erection with constant (properly paced) physical stimulation for a few hours. The payoff is definitely worth it. Just be careful not to give yourself blueballs by doing it too long :D | 2005-12-30 07:32:33 |
| 149 | 1656 | coming early can happen to any man. If this happens to you regularely and you find it an issue then whenever you feel 'its' going to happen in a moment just change position for example or kiss your wife, tell her how much you love her etc and draw a few deep breaths(the cold air rushing in always calms me down) and then start again slowly. Try not getting over-excited. Restrain yourself On the other hand. Your wife and you may want a 'violent' quickie and in that case 2 minutes is fine;) You may also want to treat penetration more as a dessert rather than main course. Pleasure your wife until she comes and then finish it off inside. @melissa: priming the pump is not a myth. If you had a penis you would understand this. If you get a guy very very excited through oral sex or masturbation aswell as assautling his visual senses i.e tempting him, turning him on, the he IS going to shoot early as he is on the verge of doing it already. Inserting the penis can get a guy over the top. However, we can control this reaction by calming ourselves down or even if I come quickly I still remain hard and ready for a nice long screwing. Some guys however go soft and need some time. Speaking of average times is foolish in my opinion. I've shot off after two minutes and lasted for ages. Thrusting away through a whole movie(it was with J LO anyway, no loss) Though if you normally last for 2 mins only then that is unusual. I find coming after my girlfriend impossible. The rapid contractions of her vagina muscles just befroe orgasm and her excitment make me come every time. Quite often though I stay hard after both coming once and am ready for round II;) About orgasm in the vagina not being as pleasureable: In my experience the moment of ejaculating aint anything spectacular, sure it is pleasurable but not amazing. Its the things around it, before and after it that are most pleasurable. So, only half of the pleasure comes from my dick, the rest is in the mind. As you said, there is less friction when the penis is in the vagina then while masturbating. That is why I come quickly when masturbating and take much more time when having sex. For me though, masturbating or getting a blow job is just the appetizer, penetration is the real pleasure. No comparison in my opinion. just my 2cents | 2006-05-19 09:08:06 |
| 149 | 1657 | & & & I am& making a disticntion between increased arousal and staying away.& I have spoken to guys about it. In the book Super Marital Sex by Dr. Pearsall& he discusses& deprivation as a means of priming the pump is a myth. Staying away from sex or masturbation is NOT a means& of priming& the pump. It does not create a "sex drive bank" and build-up of fluid is emitted during nocturnal emissions or in those who don't even have sex or masturbate, or get noctural emissions, by re-absorbtion of the fluid. I am not saying that arousal doesn't increase the need to ejaculate, and in this case prime the pump, but that is not any different from saying that arousal in women doesn't cause the juices to flow. I'm saying deprivation as a& cause of priming the pump is a myth, but am not saying that increasing arousal or having sex as priming the pump is a myth any more than I would say it is a myth that such causes girls to lube up. & | 2006-05-19 11:51:13 |
| 149 | 1660 | I stand corrected. Thanks for pointing this difference out to me. English is not my native language so I guess I interpret things in my own way. Infact I now agree with your original point, hehe >< :dude: | 2006-05-19 15:25:43 |
| 149 | 1702 | After 8 mths of the posting of original message & after so many replies, my original queries at S.No 3 & 4 remain unanswered! Infact, i got my semen analysis done & found that although my sperm count is quite healthy, its motility is very low, with only 20% motile (volume was 2 ml)! Also, as i said, my ejaculate is like "flowing out" rather than like a "throw", as it used to be in earlier years. That is the reason perhaps, why is my wife not conceiving! Also, my problem at S.No 4 (pain in legs after coition) seems to be realted to "general weakness". Thus, i think, all my problems are more pathological than sexual. Anyway, thanks to all who tried to contribute. Bye | 2006-06-16 04:57:29 |
| 149 | 1767 | [user=298]nancy[/user] wrote: " Also, my problem at S.No 4 (pain in legs after coition) seems to be realted to "general weakness". Thus, i think, all my problems are more pathological than sexual. Anyway, thanks to all who tried to contribute. Bye " Actually, that's *one* thing I can answer. It's not so much a sign of weakness as it is a bit of nervous system cross-talk. The best explanation for it comes from V.S. Ramachadran's 'Phantoms in the Brain' but essentially, the part of the cerebral cortex that controls the legs is very close to the part that controls the genitals and there is some overlap, the extent and nature of which varies with individuals. One thing a lot of people find highly stimulating for one is having their toes sucked, big toe in particular. A lot of amputees find that sex actually becomes a more intense experience for them both because the nerve endings are now closer to the body and because the brain remoulds connections in response to limb loss -- one memorable example was the chemical engineer who'd get an orgasm whenever he scratched his stump.& Pain in the legs isn't the most usual experience& but it's not inherently abnormal and it may well go away at some point, the brain being the peculiar thing that it is. Cheers. | 2006-06-24 08:48:40 |
| 149 | 1819 | Indeed, a very insightful perspective. But i must add that i've invariably strained legs after a long session and almost no pain after a short carefree indulgent jerk!! Could i rephrase part 1 of my original Qs? "Once u r inside, after approx how many 'thrusts' do u cum?" | 2006-06-29 05:32:25 |
| 149 | 1821 | I find if the guy is experienced, and you just meet his thrusts, it usually takes 12-& 15 thrusts or so...if you start doing some thrusting of your own and wiggling your hips and talking naughty, flexing your vagina, etc. it is around 7-12....for an inexperienced guy or virgin, they usually ejaculate on entry.... Melissa | 2006-06-29 22:34:43 |
| 149 | 1826 | 12-15 thrusts usually do not take more than 1 or 2 minutes. Does this mean that most men cum within a minute or two of entry? As for me, its true that i cum anywhere btw 10-30 thrusts, depending upon the mood, position & response of wife. And this does not take more than a minute or two for me! | 2006-06-30 03:37:55 |
| 149 | 1827 | [user=130]melissa malena[/user] wrote: "I find if the guy is experienced, and you just meet his thrusts, it usually takes 12- 15 thrusts or so...if you start doing some thrusting of your own and wiggling your hips and talking naughty, flexing your vagina, etc. it is around 7-12....for an inexperienced guy or virgin, they usually ejaculate on entry.... Melissa " Hi Melissa that is only your experience not the general consensous. People are all different and some women do not like to do the 'talking naughty' bit and may be offended by you telling them to do it. Princess | 2006-06-30 09:38:11 |
| 149 | 1829 | Hi Princess...I agree that is my experience...also I wasn't advocating someone talk naughty...I was just saying if you (meaning the girl) does talk naughty...then& the guy orgasms faster, but again it is not a consensus.....I wasn't under the impression that studies were asked for, just a person's finding or individual anectodal stuff... Melissa;) | 2006-06-30 21:57:07 |
| 149 | 1830 | I think around 2 minutes, maybe 3 is around average for experienced guys, depending on how reactive you& get, & but again, it is not a formal study data.... | 2006-06-30 22:00:21 |
| 149 | 1831 | [user=130]melissa malena[/user] wrote: "Hi Princess...I agree that is my experience...also I wasn't advocating someone talk naughty...I was just saying if you (meaning the girl) does talk naughty...then the guy orgasms faster, but again it is not a consensus.....I wasn't under the impression that studies were asked for, just a person's finding or individual anectodal stuff... Melissa;) " Thanks Melissa no offence meant it is just that when we all type things down on here we have to be careful using words like "you" as opposed to "I" because whilst most of us on here enjoy the banter and chat, there are some who this subject is a highly sensitive and emotive one for them. If that makes any sense. So we dont want people thinking we are dictating or telling them what to do. It is fine to say "I like to talk dirty to turn my partner on more" instead of "if you ...... " Princess :) | 2006-07-01 17:19:08 |
| 149 | 1833 | hmm, 15-20 thrusts you say? It takes a lot longer for me but I don't believe that that determines the quality of sex. Its so much more than..thrusting;) There are methods of prolonging it if you wish. Learn to control yourself, restrain yourself when your close to coming. Practice while jerking off. Also try to keep your penis errect as long as possible after jerking off. Infact, masturbating before sex or coming from oral sex will make coming soon after more difficult so you should last longer. Anyway, thats some of the stuff I've heard or experienced. Also. if you come quickly, don't stress about it. Pleasure your partner differently and you may find yourself ready again very quickly:) | 2006-07-02 21:32:32 |
| 149 | 1852 | My problem is& PE (premature ejac). Although i can last hours by withdrawing whenever i feel like cumming, the problem is that i cant satisfy my wife. After a few thrusts she gets very hot and asks me to shove faster and harder. But if i do that, i cum b4 her reaching the orgasm. And if i withdraw to take a break, she feels very helpless and unsatisfied and her entire build-up shatters. I've tried condom to get some desensitisation, I have also tried taking my mind to some other topic so that the urge to cum does not build up fast, but nothing helps. When i hear her sobs and see her& climbing up to orgasm, i& feel helpless to have control over my mind.& Any solutions? | 2006-07-07 03:34:46 |
| 149 | 1862 | Hi, While unconventional, this is when the use of a strap-on by the MAN is useful. When you use one you don't have to worry about ejaculating too quickly or losing your erection. It takes some of the pressure off both partners. She isn't as concerned about taking too long and he isn't worried about not lasting long enough. For marathon sessions, the couple can take turns doing the thrusting. Of course, you will need a lubricant with staying power, i.e. one that wont dry out like may glycerin based lubes. Several of the strap-ons we sell actually feature a man and woman on the box, each is wearing one. We have sold more than I expected. ;-) Brad | 2006-07-08 03:37:55 |
| 149 | 1896 | I think strap-on is a good idea until i learn to last long enough while thrusting continously till she cums. I'll definitely give it a try. Thanks | 2006-07-10 00:51:01 |
| 149 | 1958 | I can see the embarresment it causes you. I remember my partner complaining about WAM BAM THANK YOU MA'AM. I had to discover how to make her sexual experience better. I learnt to change what I was thinking about after getting an erection and entering into her. This was easy to quickly get an erection, very hard, and then enter slowly, as a dry vagina can be 'tight' for both parties. Foreplay can moisten her passage and intercourse during menstration is very soft and spongy, particularly delightful experience for the female. Once entered I thought about anything completely different to to having sex. I would also concentrate on the number of 'thrusts' I made. Now as I was entering slowly and deeply I would make each thrust deeper and slower. I even used to ask if it was the depth of the 'thrust' she preferred or the speed of the ' thrust'. She really didn't mind so long as I was actively in and she could feel my penis it still led to orgasm for her. Concentrating on the number of 'thrusts' also took my mind off ejaculation and when I counted to 100 I would go onto 200 (I never bothered counting over 500). The other method of control I used was frequency, the more often the better control. It is also much better physically to have regular sex. I masturbate every night up to 2 or 3 times. These days I rarely ejaculate (I detail this later for any interested readers). I really enjoy the experience and pleasure. | 2006-07-16 06:59:52 |
| 149 | 1972 | Greetings, I have read somewhere that if a man can not last longer than 7 minutes it is considered premature ejaculation.& I don't mean that if this happens once or twice in a month, but all the time.& I think then you need to do some homework in that area (premature ejaculation) I also have found that masturbation, although fun and normal, if done too fast ie. race to orgasm... can lead to premature ejaculation.& When masturbating, try to draw it out for more than 15 minutes and see if that helps in the long run. You can try to go slower rather than the hard fuck!& This will tease your wife more too and the longer you go the more powerfull your orgasm will be As for your wife being too wet, this is due to her youth and the fact that she is excited.& You can try taking a break if she gets too wet to feel, and give her time to settle down a bit.& There is nothing better than lovemaking for 45 minutes to an hour.& Take your time, relax and enjoy. | 2006-07-17 08:27:07 |
| 149 | 2017 | [user=28]Kemi[/user] wrote: "Greetings, I have read somewhere that if a man can not last longer than 7 minutes it is considered premature ejaculation.& I don't mean that if this happens once or twice in a month, but all the time.& I think then you need to do some homework in that area (premature ejaculation) I also have found that masturbation, although fun and normal, if done too fast ie. race to orgasm... can lead to premature ejaculation.& When masturbating, try to draw it out for more than 15 minutes and see if that helps in the long run. You can try to go slower rather than the hard fuck!& This will tease your wife more too and the longer you go the more powerfull your orgasm will be As for your wife being too wet, this is due to her youth and the fact that she is excited.& You can try taking a break if she gets too wet to feel, and give her time to settle down a bit.& There is nothing better than lovemaking for 45 minutes to an hour.& Take your time, relax and enjoy. "I remember when my friend told me about her first boyfriend, and how she could never get him off since he would masturbate super fast.& He would actually get a little frustrated, and would tell her that he would do it.& She said he was at least going 85mph up and down. When it does narrow down to lovemaking, I think going nice and slow is really good.& That's when I really feel my boyfriend inside me.& And then it's also good for the man to fondle his woman's breasts when they are going slo-mo. plus, he can withdraw, and then go down on her to switch things up a bit.& Keeps things exciting and can make it more arousing for the woman. :) | 2006-07-22 16:54:49 |
| 149 | 2934 | Well, by now i've learned to get some control over ejaculation. But the problem of "dull orgasm" still persists. I ejaculate w/o much pleasure. What cud b the reason? Any solutions? | 2006-10-05 13:42:52 |
| 149 | 2965 | One of the things I have learned about myself is that I can have a real hard on when I am masterbating alone.& & Its like I can do what ever I want and think about whatever I want.& I can have the best fantasies and not have to worry about anyone else.& & When I am with a woman its different.& & You have the dynamics of your relationship and if the relationship is not strong with trust and love then I find that I will be softer.& I may indeed come but its shallow and often unsatisfying.& & I know some men dont care if there is no love or trust and just pound away however that is not me. And maybe its not you. & & So perhaps there is some fear or performance anxiety that you are carrying with you.& & Definately if you are concerned about coming too quickly it will lead to a less satifying experience.& The trick for me is to ensure their is no fear anxiety or anger but as pure as possible to have love and trust.& This definately makes me harder and I have a more satisfying experience.& & Also its more satifying if I am coming with her or after her.& I get off on her whole body tensing with the soon to come orgasm. | 2006-10-09 01:19:47 |
| 149 | 2966 | [user=851]jessee[/user] wrote: "One of the things I have learned about myself is that I can have a real hard on when I am masterbating alone.& & Its like I can do what ever I want and think about whatever I want.& I can have the best fantasies and not have to worry about anyone else.& & When I am with a woman its different.& & You have the dynamics of your relationship and if the relationship is not strong with trust and love then I find that I will be softer.& I may indeed come but its shallow and often unsatisfying.& & I know some men dont care if there is no love or trust and just pound away however that is not me. And maybe its not you. & & So perhaps there is some fear or performance anxiety that you are carrying with you.& & Definately if you are concerned about coming too quickly it will lead to a less satifying experience.& The trick for me is to ensure their is no fear anxiety or anger but as pure as possible to have love and trust.& This definately makes me harder and I have a more satisfying experience.& & Also its more satifying if I am coming with her or after her.& I get off on her whole body tensing with the soon to come orgasm. "Yeah Jessee I have similiar satisfaction | 2006-10-09 06:29:29 |
| 149 | 2980 | does it help if some of the times she would tell you to just ejaculate as fast as you want to? Maybe this way, you don't worry about coming too fast, and you can enjoy it knowing that if she says go ahead and come fast, it is OK? | 2006-10-10 21:53:23 |
| 149 | 2981 | [user=130]melissa malena[/user] wrote: "does it help if some of the times she would tell you to just ejaculate as fast as you want to? Maybe this way, you don't worry about coming too fast, and you can enjoy it knowing that if she says go ahead and come fast, it is OK?" The brain is a funny thing when I am told to ejaculate I normally have trouble getting my penis to cum. It all depends on how relaxed and satisfied you are as to how you enjoy ejaculation. When I'm having intercourse I really get the most satisfaction from knowing I am giving my partner some satisfaction. It is very comforting to feel some wetness around my penis during intercourse that has 2 benefits 1/ it makes smoother penetration with less friction. 2/ it give emotional sensing of perhaps stimulation toward orgasm, not always orgasm. This is a powerful emotion that inspires my mind to think I have at least participated in a mutual loving experience and that will often lead to ejaculation. I haven't decided whether it is the emotional sense that leads to ejaculation or the intense physical feeling of a very wet penis that is covered in a nice warm, sticky, sensual fluid. Either or both have the desired effect. Another more emotional sensation that leads to, or perhaps guarrantees ejaculation is after I notice the wonderful warm, wet sensation around my penis I say something like-: 'You do have a lovely warm, wet, soft cunt that sucks my dick into you" I always try to cum slowly to make the enjoyment last as long as possible, sometimes it is to long for my partner and I end& up masterbating which is probably sexually more enjoyable. I then can have full contrlo over my ejaculation and am 90% of the time able to stop it, unless she wants me to ejaculate inside her | 2006-10-11 01:41:07 |
| 149 | 3674 | I am confused that most seem to think orgasm is the be all and end all. Personally i love the long drawn out journey towards orgasm - longer the journey better it is. However I dont mind my partner cumming if she wants to along the way. I love the feeling of being deep inside her to the hilt, holding it in there still for some time while I suck on the nipples or play with them, feeling the sides of her body or licking all over her or generally kisisn all over or feeling us where we are tightly joined together or taking her hand down there to feel us and such like. I also love to rub her clitoris while I am slidin in and out. So, generally I love to make it last for atleast 80-90 minutes and slowly work up towards a faster and deepr pace towards mutual explosion together. | 2007-02-10 03:47:31 |
| 186 | 921 | Here is an article which I contributed to the now-defunct allaboutsex.org, a Web site primarily for teens. Despite the title it's suitable for all ages. Enjoy! --- Here are some basics that the guy in your life would like you to know. Maybe it's awkward for him to tell you - maybe there even are some things he hasn't discovered yet. Let's begin at the end: the glans. This is the very sensitive end, or tip of the penis. It's covered by the foreskin in boys who aren't circumcised. The glans looks and feels unlike skin on any other part of the body: it is soft, squishy, and the home of the most intense and delightful feelings a man can experience. It is so sensitive that the feel of, say, a stream of water from a showerhead may be too intense to stand for more than a few seconds. Yet for all its sensitivity, stimulating the glans alone usually does not lead to orgasm - you need to massage some part of the penis shaft as well. This means, if you know what you are doing, that you can give very extended pleasure by massaging the glans. It is so soft that unless it and your fingers are completely squeaky clean most likely any petting will soon become irritating. What your guy really wants is a moist massage, either with saliva or another lubricant. The simplest and one of the greatest treats you can give him is to moisten your thumb and slowly rub it back and forth across the head of his penis. (I've seen this in print only once, near the end of the book 'Mambo Kings Sing Songs of Love' - a good read.) You can do this for ten minutes, twenty minutes, and watch him drift into a plateau of pleasure, without the tension of an approaching orgasm. Of course, you can do the same with your lips, though it is almost impossible to resist the temptation to take more of he penis into your mouth - and then you're off to the races! If you're this close you can see some of the unique geography of the glans. First, it has a grain - small ridges that go fore and aft (away from his body, rather than side to side). It's usually more comfortable to pet with the grain, though if you are using lubrication it doesn't much matter. Second, there are distinct regions on the glans: the very tip, around the urethra opening ('pee hole'); the twin bulges on the front, separated by a small cleft; the broad, flat back; and the flared bluish ring where it connects to the penis, called the corona. The most sensitive parts are the tip and front. Try gently massaging the front, spending five or ten seconds on each side, then switching, then spending an equal time on the very tip. The back is the 'grainiest' region and should be petted front to back. The tip, just behind the urethra opening, is the best place to get started - a very good erection stimulator! Notice that all this is about stimulating the skin of the glans. It is a soft and delicate region and not meant for deep massaging - too much pressure doesn't exactly hurt, but it isn't so delightful, and in fact a good squeeze to the glans is one technique for bringing down an erection. It really is possible to give very extended pleasure to the glans alone. This may be very relaxing for your guy, or it may make him desperate for more - it's a matter of mood! Once you do start to involve the rest of the penis, things change quite a bit. Just below the glans on the penis shaft front is the main action area, the part that is most involved with the intense feelings that cause orgasm and ejaculation. The penis itself really has two parts, the raised part on the front through over the urethra, and everything else (sides and back). While we enjoy stimulation to any part of the penis, it's the front that is the seat of pleasure. Petting or massaging the back of the penis doesn't do very much. The top inch of the front of the penis is the trigger, the part that all boys first learn to rub when they masturbate, either by an up-and-down motion (the veritable "jerking off"), or by rubbing side to side. This part of the penis is sensitive to pressure, rather than surface petting. Once a boy is fully aroused, even a slight pressure to this part of the penis will lead up to orgasm. If you are using your hands or lips on his penis, it's up to you to be sensitive to how much stimulation you are applying here, as that controls how long the ride will last! Pressure to the top front of the penis doesn't have to be applied directly, and this is where the rest of the penis gets involved - and a whole lot more. Once an erection is full grown, the penis is stretched tight, which means any pressure along the front or anything pulling at the base will tug on the top part just as surely as if you were massaging that part directly. This is something that grows more intense as he comes farther along towards orgasm: after a few minutes of stimulation, with his penis rock-hard and pumping from within (more on this later), even a small tug on the scrotum at the base of the penis can trigger an orgasm. If you are using your hands, you can continue to massage the glans while stroking or gently rubbing the front of the shaft. Of course, if you are using your mouth or taking his penis into your vagina or anus, all this happens automatically - it's exactly what the penis was designed for, and his whole body will get involved to make sure there is an orgasm soon! But let's not hurry, please, you have a lot of delightful territory still to explore. With his penis at 'full attention' you will learn that what you see is only half the story. The shaft of the penis goes equally deep into his body, where the right pressure gives long-lasting pleasure without hurrying to orgasm. Follow the ridge of the urethra down along the front of the penis, to where it goes under the scrotum. Massage it from side to side as you move down, and feel how his erection really extends several inches below the base of the penis, disappearing into his body below the base of the scrotum. Spend a few minutes massaging his penis in small circles through the scrotum - once he is fully aroused, this is a nice place to spend some time. You will eventually get to a point about an inch below the bottom of the scrotum where you will feel his penis shaft go 'underground'. Remember this point: it's an excellent place to apply pressure during orgasm. At this point you have left the soft tissues of the penis and are feeling muscle. You can press a lot harder here; a firm push is rewarded by a greater firming of his erection and a rush of pleasure along the whole penis. If you have a finger still on his glans (or even if you don't), you should see a drop of fluid every so often. This is his lubrication, or 'pre-come', and - I don't have to tell you this, do I? - should be gently massaged into his glans. (Note for the girls: though this isn't semen, it can potentially contain sperm, so use whatever precautions are appropriate for full intercourse.) You have a hand on his scrotum, or 'balls' - another very interesting place! The skin of the scrotum is also unique, and quite different from that of the penis. It has ridges, odor glands, hair, and is exquisitely sensitive, loving to be stroked and tickled. Hiding inside the scrotum (which by now is probably firmed up like a little baseball) are the two testicles. At this point it is probably wise to ask if he likes to have his balls touched or massaged. Although they have a well-earned reputation as the seat of pain in the male body, it actually takes quite a bit of pressure to hurt the testicles - they are really much more sensitive to impact than to pressure. He may find it exciting to have you massage them, or he may hate it. (Note to those in long-term relationships, testicle cancer is one of the most common cancers in young men and it is very treatable - so check for lumps several times a day!). If he has never tried it, I strongly recommend removing the hair from the scrotum, either by shaving, or plucking. As Dr. Evil (Mike Meyers) said in Austin Powers, 'a shorn scrotum is a thing of beauty.' Removing all the hair makes the scrotum fantastically soft and much better for petting. Plucking is by far the best, taking about half an hour. If you shave, use a sharp double-edged blade and do it dry, with baby powder or cornstarch for a lubricant. Trim but don't shave the hair at the base of the penis or the top of the scrotum, as that is the 'load-bearing' area during intercourse, and any prickles will be a serious problem. The scrotum is also very temperature-sensitive, acting like a little weather station. So are the tissues behind it. Cold, in particular, has a dramatic effect, and if he is up for it, you should try pressing ice into the base of the scrotum - the sensation is incredible, especially during orgasm. (This is demonstrated in the movie 'The Other Side of Midnight'.) Where were we? You have a firm finger below his scrotum, where you can feel his penis pump up when he contracts his muscles (there's some Latin name I don't remember [pubococcygeus - Ed.]; these are the muscles you strengthen with 'Kegel' exercises, and most people would likely call them the 'love muscles'). If he is close to coming, even this pumping may stretch the front of the penis enough to trigger an orgasm. Move your fingers down his perineum (the slight ridge between scrotum and anus). This is a wonderful area to massage. In another inch you reach the anus, the other focus of erotic pleasure in his body. The skin around anus is as sensitive as the lips, a place for soft tickling, but able to grip as firmly as a fist, a place for fucking. Bill Cosby may get mileage out of fear of anal penetration, but I think 99% of men love the feel of a finger in the ass. Use some of his or your own lubrication to massage his anus. If you wish to, press firmly and feel it open ever so slightly to allow you to massage the entire firm sphincter (opening). Slowly or by surprise you can slip a finger in. There are no more nerve endings past the anus, but the feeling of stretching and penetration is heady and delightful all in itself. At this point you may decide to head farther up to massage his prostate. This is (as everyone says) a 'walnut-sized gland' about one finger's length in. It is the true root of the penis, which you have now followed from the delicate glans, along the soft shaft, down to the muscled base, and deep into his body. Massaging the prostate enough will usually (not always) trigger orgasm, a different experience from a purely penis-based orgasm. If you do this, you will feel the enormous firming and contractions that precede and accompany ejaculation. It's time to put him out of his misery. With one hand pressing against the scrotum or pushing into his anus, and another massaging the glans and final inch of the penis (or with your mouth doing the same), 'go for it!'. There's more you should know about how a man works. Erection, orgasm, and ejaculation are all separate mechanisms. They do not have to accompany each other; the only rule is that orgasm does cause ejaculation (unless something is medically wrong). In particular, erections can come and go for no apparent reason, so don't worry if you feel him go soft once in a while. We have been talking a lot about the 'primary erogenous zones', which I hope you now know well. There are of course other parts of his body that he wants you to pay attention to, such as his nipples (as sensitive as a woman's, and too often neglected). But there is one erogenous zone more important than all others, and one you can spend a lifetime exploring together: his mind. We men love to be touched and petted and stroked and sucked, but more exciting than all of that is the thrill of giving pleasure to and sharing pleasure with another person. Bon voyage! | 2005-12-24 06:57:01 |
| 186 | 6563 | Long and thoughtful. But there's just one problem: the silence about the foreskin and the frenulum, my most sensitive parts by a long shot. At the same time, my head isn't very sensitive, except the rim. The very tip of the foreskin is exquisitely sensitive. During erection, it forms a ring of high sensitivity, called the ridged band, about 1 cm behind the rim. I fully engage this sensitive zone only if I thrust to the max. If don't go too deep, I only tickle the frenulum, not the ridged band. By doing so, I don't come. I did not fully appreciate these aspects of myself until after I turned 50. Sex research is almost entirely conducted by circumcised American men, or by their spouses. Hence we uncuts are engaged in a long uphill battle to be understood for what we are. | 2009-04-06 00:26:34 |
| 192 | 954 | I'm in this relationship for quite a while now but can't understand why she doesn't seem to have any sexual desire. She's small breasted with quite attractive nipples, which have been my focus during foreplay but she just doesn't like it when I'm inside her no matter how slow or seemingly aroused she is. My understanding is that sex should be a mutual desire in a relationship and intercourse is a pleasure. Why does she have such low interest, if at all, I don't get it. There are times when I tried playing some games with her, e.g. she being a "naughty girl" and me being her& "disciplinarian"& and she could even follow along but again she doesn't seem to like it to be connected to& intercourse no matter how I try it. What can I do? What can she do? | 2006-01-05 01:49:51 |
| 192 | 955 | Oral sex is probably your solution. Some women just don't get off on penetration at all, no matter what you do (a lot of women are embarassed about it, hence the fake orgasms). A lot of women can only get off with oral sex, and a lot of women who can get off on intercourse still enjoy oral more. Nipple play is fine and dandy to get started, but as a rule of thumb, the clitoris is where you should be focusing. Remember, sex is more than just intercourse. | 2006-01-05 15:19:57 |
| 192 | 967 | Thanks, but I have heard of oral stimulation of the clit before. I'm new to this and also don't know how she would like it. She's strong willed and often rejects me. But at times she seems to be ok with some nipple play. I myself feel kind of sick at the thought of licking her clit. She also doesn't like me to touch her down there. | 2006-01-05 23:29:57 |
| 192 | 968 | if she doesn't want oral, try taking her panties and rubbing them back and forth in the front part of her near her clitoral area....you'd be surprised at how panties rubbing the right place will do! | 2006-01-05 23:44:03 |
| 192 | 971 | [user=385]medscener[/user] wrote: "Thanks, but I have heard of oral stimulation of the clit before. I'm new to this and also don't know how she would like it. She's strong willed and often rejects me. But at times she seems to be ok with some nipple play. I myself feel kind of sick at the thought of licking her clit. She also doesn't like me to touch her down there." It sounds more like a comfort/security issue then, or perhaps body image. How old are the both of you? If she doesn't like intercourse, or even to be touched, and is only "ok" with nipple play, then perhaps you are moving too fast and she hasn't said anything about it. Frequent rejection should be a hint that something is wrong. You really should talk to her about it to see where she's at sexually, what she expects and wants, and if she feels ready for sex or if she feels pressured. When you get the psychological and emotional things sorted out, then you can worry about technique. | 2006-01-06 01:56:12 |
| 192 | 989 | Thanks, I'll try that even though she seems very sensitive once I touch her down there. It seems that the only thing she goes along with ok is the nipple play and she sometimes dirty talks to me asking me to squeeze hard, etc. and when I do she starts moving her crotch against me and asks me to squeeze harder and then moves faster. One time she asks me to attend with her a demonstration on nipple torture at a club. Is this taboo? | 2006-01-06 23:31:06 |
| 192 | 6684 | [user=385]medscener[/user] wrote: "I myself feel kind of sick at the thought of licking her clit. She also doesn't like me to touch her down there." It's not surprising that she doesn't want you to touch her, when you admit to being repulsed by her! It's not easy to hide those kinds of feelings, and I'm sure she can sense your reluctance. When I first started having sex and receiving oral sex, I was terrified that my partner would think I smelled or tasted bad! It's nearly impossible to connect emotionally, or relax enough to actually like sex when you're preoccupied with fear and self doubt. If you ever want to have good sex with your girlfriend you need to start making her feel like you actually want her, not just a warm body.... As for the nipple torture, it certainly isn't average, but it's only taboo if you don't like it. She might be looking for enjoyment through excitment and boundry pushing, in order to get her aroused and engaged enough to orgasm...or she might just really like to have her nipples treated roughly, everybody's different! Either way, if it's bringing her pleasure, and you are ok with it (or even like it) then go for it! (Just be careful not to hurt her!) | 2009-07-04 04:24:00 |
| 200 | 1021 | What do the men on this site think on different subjects so I will just mention a couple to get some dialog going:& & Do you shave your pubic area? It seems us guys like our ladys smooth but what about us? Can you, do you masturbate in front of your lady?& Again it seems we like to watch but do we put on a show?& & Do you dress up or strip down to please your lady?& We like the thrill of& our ladys dressed to the nines or doing a pole dance& but are we that secure with ourselves.& & I have done all these things for my very special lady and am pretty darn comfortable that she will be thrilled and most often ends up being the initiator to fantastic love making.& & I am hoping to share ideas and experiences and also learn more about how to be a better Lover and friend. & & edunmai | 2006-01-08 20:05:31 |
| 200 | 1367 | i don't shave my pubic hair. i tried it once but it so itchy and just horribly uncomfortable. So i trim it instead. | 2006-03-29 23:28:05 |
| 200 | 1411 | I love to masturbate in front of my wife. Sometimes when she wasn't in mood, I just sat in living room and beat myself off slowly, showing off my nice sized cock (not large or anything) at my wife as she looks at it, inspiring it, with my tight jean and white polo shirt loosely on, my cock through the zipper only (still buttoned on) with balls outside as well. when I stroke up, I held my skin against my shaft to pull my balls up and stroke all way to my head letting my shaft skin go, dropping my balls, stroke down slowly and repeat cycle. The view becomes irresistable to my wife as I torture myself, watching my wife getting turned on secretly from inside, I feel fully aroused. When I was about ready to come, she just went straight to my cock, took my hands off and started the hand job, which eventually led to full oral on both sides, and intense and pleasurable sex. Indeed, I feel completely comfortable with masturbating myself in front of my wife. Sometimes she is completely turned off, I just came, cleaned myself up and went on with life as normally. | 2006-04-12 15:29:30 |
| 200 | 2200 | I tried shaving once it is very itchy and very uncomfortable for a few days:( & & & never again! | 2006-07-30 18:49:11 |
| 200 | 2223 | I tried once,the hairs that remains seems harder because of the shorten of length,so they stick into every part of you body that touches them,it's painful indeed.So I never did that again. | 2006-07-31 02:57:48 |
| 200 | 2276 | I trim closely all pubic hair and shave my balls and base of my penis in the shower every 2 to 3 days. I love the feel of soft, smooth skin. I find it particulary good to not get tangled while maturbating. I've heard other post's comment that they like to 'play' in their male partners hairs. I find it becomes uncomfortable and can get smelly. :cool: I love the freedom | 2006-08-01 07:42:55 |
| 200 | 2351 | being a male, i once did a heavy trim on my pubic hairs and came to regret it, because the short hairs are very coarse, tough and scratchy on your penis whenever it is positioned upward.& I advise against it.& If you want to get rid of hair, I suggest waxing. | 2006-08-10 14:52:53 |
| 200 | 2848 | Hi All,I'm new here and this is my first reply.I am a 48 year old male and yes,I do shave my genitals.I just love the smmoth slick feeling. I am very comfortable with my body and my sexuality. I have never masturbatedin front of my wife but that is something that I am working on.Thanks for a great forum section. | 2006-09-26 16:30:47 |
| 200 | 2849 | i think its very uncumfortable:D | 2006-09-26 20:51:00 |
| 200 | 2859 | I'll put in a reply for my boyfriend - He tries to keep himself cleanly shaven because I do.& Yeah, it gets itchy sometimes, but the skin so soft when it's cleanly shaven and I find it makes things feel so much better. More sensitive to the touch. | 2006-09-27 21:51:25 |
| 200 | 2870 | Have you ever cut yourself shaving down there....that would suck! | 2006-09-28 18:54:43 |
| 200 | 2872 | I've nipped one of my lips before and it did smart.& But it healed! | 2006-09-28 20:48:02 |
| 200 | 3398 | i trim alittle cuase if i dont i will get pretty hairy and they r usualy up to and inch long if i dont trim but i refuse to shave i tried that once and its way to& itchy for me so i wont do it again | 2006-12-14 20:22:10 |
| 200 | 3399 | I believe I'm quite comfortable with my sexuality in general, and so is my girlfriend.& She shaves completely, usually, so I shave as well.& I don't shave everything, though, that leads to far too much itchiness!& I simply shave it all down to about a half inch above my genitals and trim that hair.& I also shave my testicles and the inner part of my thighs.& Really, there isn't much there, but all the itchiness from before came from the lack of hairs directly above my penis, which I why I leave those there (albeit very short).& Also, without the softness from this hair between my girlfriend and I during sex, I think a rash might develop. I'm not embarassed to strip for her, and I wouldn't be afraid to masturbate in front of her either.& She just never really asks for that kind of show, so I haven't done it.& | 2006-12-14 20:36:41 |
| 200 | 3537 | I don't shave and have no interest in it but I've had several partners I've masterbated in front of... A couple had never seen a guy do that and were fascinated. One had but still found it enjoyable and demonstrated her 'techniques' for me after I had 'show and tell' for her. I think it depends on the situation but think it should be a two way street. | 2007-01-12 19:47:08 |
| 200 | 3573 | Shaving your pubic hair is not any different to shaving any other part of your body. When you shave your legs, armpits or face do you shave dry or use any old razor? And do you add any moisturizer? So preparation is the answer. & Make sure first you have the right tools, sharp razor, shaving cream and body moisturizer. & Then make sure your body is clean, wash thourally and leave wet. Perhaps even use a small amount of skin cleanser. & Lather up and shave. If your skin is sensitive use a body lotion to soften the sensitive skin | 2007-01-19 22:51:02 |
| 200 | 3988 | I don't care if the woman shaves pubic hair. I find it strange when one tries to get rid of pubic hair, because they are natural. | 2007-04-06 23:15:57 |
| 200 | 5219 | Yes, but I'am currently undergoing laser hair removal in the pubic and genital area. | 2007-12-25 09:50:27 |
| 200 | 5394 | [user=1758]windryder[/user] wrote: "I don't care if the woman shaves pubic hair. I find it strange when one tries to get rid of pubic hair, because they are natural." Pubic hair may be natural, but that's no reason not to try what it's like to be without it now, is it? I'm a male, and while I've never shaved my crotch area, I've noticed that the smooth skin of my scrotum is very sensitive in the small area where it is hairless for me. I think I'll definitely give shaving it a try at least once in the future. Quizer | 2008-02-02 06:55:54 |
| 200 | 5603 | i do trim my pubes every 2-3 months, but its right. after trimming, the skin becomes itchy for 4-5 days, and i have to apply some cream or so. however, i do absolutely love whn my wife waxes her pubes, and god, the sex on that day is rocking!!!!!!:-X | 2008-03-17 05:52:06 |
| 215 | 1111 | Being female and enjoying anal penetration. I was wondering how straight men feel about it. I wonder if I should slip a well lubricated in my guys ass while I am sucking him off. Would it help him reach orgasm quicker?, I love swallowing his come! Is there a specific way to do it? and does it matter how far in? Is ther anyone out there who can enlighten me? | 2006-01-30 18:28:47 |
| 215 | 1157 | Antoinette I personally quite enjoy having my ass licked, and fingered during sex, and oral so I would say yes. The majority of men would be worried about their sexuality and this wouold more than likely cause the concern - I say go for it... | 2006-02-09 15:57:16 |
| 215 | 1158 | you should talk about it first. most guys have conflicts with sexuality and insecurity, but it can be enjoyable if they can get around the mental aspect. there are two kinds of anal stimulation for males. the first doesn't require penetration, just tickling or rubbing the anus is enough to boost the pleasure. the other way is prostate stimulation which does require penetration, but its not thrusting like a man penetrating a woman. you just insert a finger and use it to massage the prostate using a similar motion to the way you stimulate the G spot. | 2006-02-10 05:14:00 |
| 215 | 1285 | My husband enjoys having his ass licked as well. I usually perform this as part of giving him head. Licking and sucking from the head down, to his balls, and then his ass. I love to see him cum on his stomach and licking it up from there. My husband also loves to have his nipples sucked during intercourse and although I had never done this before we met, I also found that it is very stimulating for me as well, often bringing me to a hard cum.. Mom | 2006-03-07 14:55:21 |
| 215 | 2108 | i dont mind it.... i'm just worried i'll damage something. Its not like there is really a guide book on it. haha. | 2006-07-27 05:25:23 |
| 215 | 2138 | Talk openly about it... to my knowledge, most guys are mostly affraid of their partners response, should it turn out that they like it alot. But mostly I have to repeat that you should definately talk about it, before you do it for real. Just like I find most girls would like that you adress it before you finger their arse... however you can do some initial tests to see the response. Does he like it if you lick him between the balls and anus? How does he respond to other sensitive touching around that area etc. Just dont penetrate anything without a word and some lube >:) | 2006-07-27 15:02:00 |
| 215 | 2139 | [user=664]strange brew[/user] wrote: "i dont mind it.... i'm just worried i'll damage something. Its not like there is really a guide book on it. haha." Oh, and surely there are plenty of great guides& for all of this stuff. Just dont watch them movies. That is not for normal people :shock: | 2006-07-27 15:03:15 |
| 215 | 2169 | My boyfriend and I have talked about me anally penetrating him with one of my toys and he said he would try it, but if it gets to be too much, I'll stop. :)& | 2006-07-29 01:23:38 |
| 215 | 2399 | How many enema's (sp?) can a person take before it could give them problems?? | 2006-08-19 05:01:12 |
| 215 | 2433 | I don't think it's possible to have too many?& Unless you're abusing them. | 2006-08-21 19:49:49 |
| 215 | 2461 | I like it by my man really never thought about it.& I think he is getting more comfortable with it but I don't think he would ever let me try to lick.& I don't know lets see.& | 2006-08-26 23:09:23 |
| 215 | 2471 | Kitten, Are you& talking about enemas or anal sex? | 2006-08-27 15:14:07 |
| 215 | 2479 | Anal Sex, I'm sorry I wasn't all that clear | 2006-08-27 18:45:04 |
| 215 | 2558 | [user=116]Ladybug[/user] wrote: "I don't think it's possible to have too many?& Unless you're abusing them. " Hi all, Cool!!& That is kinda what I was thinking too.....:) | 2006-09-03 06:24:46 |
| 215 | 3084 | & It won't make him orgasm quicker, but it will make it a LOT more intense, especially if you find his prostate and massage it. Most importantly always wear latex gloves to stop you from getting a nasty UTI infection. | 2006-10-28 13:04:51 |
| 215 | 3090 | I would say talk about it first and then if he is a bit afraid of it, you should slowly work towards it. Maybe the next time you give him oral sex massage past his scrotum to the perinium, and slowly get closer to the anus each time you do this easing him into it, then eventualy introduce external anal stimulation with your fingers another time, eventualy testing with slight penetration with your finger, if he reacts negatively immediately than its probably not a good idea to continue; however, if he likes it you can continue with your anal exploration. This is how a friend of mine introduced her boyfriend to it, now he lets her penetrate him with some of her toys on a regular basis. You have to remember to take it slowly over a few oral sex sessions. | 2006-10-29 22:54:44 |
| 215 | 3092 | I was talking to my sister the other day about enemas.& She has bm problems and has to take them every once in awhile.& I asked her how frequently a person can use them, she said on the container they actually have a limit per time frame.& I don't know what it is, but I'll look it up sometime and let you all know. | 2006-10-30 10:00:57 |
| 215 | 5515 | I'm sorry but in most healthy men that's a big no no and not because it's apart of being victim to your sexuality it's just to most people a filthy act. Now if he can get past that then hey that's his bag and no one has to know so ask him if he'll try it. | 2008-02-22 20:58:44 |
| 215 | 5902 | Hmmm...that's a rather broad statement you have made. I suspect you assume this based on your own beliefs and not on any real data. The respondents in this forum may not be typical but if you read through the responses to this and other postings you will see that some percentage of men (health ones, I would say) enjoy some level of anal penetration during oral sex or other intimate acts. Cleanliness is important, as noted, but this need not be an obstacle. | 2008-06-28 17:16:27 |
| 215 | 5903 | As far as I can see, there is no universal reason to state that any sexual act (be it anal, oral, orgy, BDSM or anything else), when happening between consenting partners and posing no serious risk, should be labeled as bad or filthy. It is all a question of personnal preferences. Judging this as a "filthy act" is also very insulting to everyone who likes it, since it suggest that they are inferior to those who find it bad. As for the matter of anal sex, I'd love to try it on my SO and i'd love my SO to try it on me. Things are progressing towards that, but we're not there yet. | 2008-06-30 11:07:02 |
| 215 | 5919 | There is some literature about this online and it seems that "a lot" of guys enjoy prostate massage. From what I've been able to discern, more than a few couples have added it to their sexual repertory. Just Google "prostate massage" and see for yourself.& From what I read, younger guys are probably (pun alert) more open to it---we older guys are pretty set in our ways, so it seems. Glad my doctor is a woman!:) Somehow it makes those yearly checkups just a little more, ah, pleasant. Best regards, Maui boy | 2008-07-16 15:34:02 |
| 215 | 6847 | My girlfriend and I have a rule, nothing will go up her arse, if nothing goes up mine." thats the way i prefer it, and i think she's happy with that too. Neither of us are interested in anal play. Just the idea puts us both of, but there is plenty of other things for us to do | 2009-09-05 19:21:54 |
| 217 | 1122 | I am posting this on the male board although most of my subsequent ones will appear over on the female one. That is because much of my experience will concern that with my wife, whereas, the first discovery and introduction was personal, my own, I always loved the company of girls, and would have played with them more had I not also enjoyed doing boy things: football, field hockey, or cricket. But the first inkling I had of the excitement of sex was very brief: a neighbour girl slipped her hand up my shorts when I was eight years. She didn't reach the mark, but I found it electrifying. Perhaps it was the surprised look on my face, but thereafter I waited in vain for her to repeat it, fully! I learned to masturbate at about 11 years. I would stimulate my penis in bed at night, and found that if I held it firmly and persistently, I could bring it to an incredible height when it would explode in what I learned was a climax. There was no ejaculation, just raw pleasure. I did that as frequently as I could, until the disastrous night when a small ejaculation occured, and I could no longer do it under my clean sheets. The popular myth was that this habit was very bad for health and sanity, so it wasn't advisable to talk about it. But it never stopped the performance, and any advertisement, especially of bath soap featuring a towel wrapped young woman was a great aid in getting me going. Such pages were carried frequently to the toilet. I went to sea before I was 15, putting my age up to gain engagement. My first port of call was Sydney, and the other teenaged crew members, (all older by at least a year) went on a pilgramage to the red-light district, as they had promised on the voyage over. I assumed this was all run of the mill for all of them - except me! I was terrified, having no idea how to exclude myself from the situation. Peer pressure, from within myself as much as anything, compelled me to approach the door of the brothel we had chosen. I was second from last of the six who had ventured ashore. The one young woman who hadx welcomed us one by one, ushered me inside, took my money, while I just stood there, petrified. She opened my flies, and reached for my v very sorry limpness. I have to tell you that she was a pro. alright; she ensured I got an erection of sorts, lay herself back and invited me in, so to speak. She was shaved, and was red from her earlier encounters. She steered me inside herself. I knew that I had to move, so move I did, feeling nothing for my effort. After a short time, she said: "You've come already, I can feel it running down my leg." Oh what a wise girl. I think she knew I was terrified, and gave me an out from the dilemma I had been in, but, in her way, she let me keep my dignity. She did ask me if I had not done this sort of thing often before. I agreed with her, before escaping back to my mates, assuring them, as they had done in their turn, that it had indeed been great! Some of you may wish to comment, or add something of your own experience. Was it as bed for you guys? Within the year, I really lost my virginity, but that is another story for the other board, anothere day. | 2006-01-31 22:00:36 |
| 217 | 1165 | As I indicated in my earlier post, my first experience was disappointing, if not a put-off. I continued masturbating, and fantasizing what it could really be like. Many months after that first experience, I met a girl who was a year older than me, and who, I was to later learn, quite experienced. I met her when sharing transport back to my port, a commuting trip, for her from work, and for me, to. We flirted (I was quite good at that, but not for the follow-up!) But we did make a date to have a picnic together for the following Sunday, when I would be in port. The day duly arrived, and the picnic ensued. We made a nest for ourselves in the long dry grass, and unpacked our lunch. But it was cuddles first. I thought, from the perceived pressure from my peers, thst I was supposed to make a move, but I felt that was not respectful of the girl. I was in a personal dilemma. What was I to do? how was I to find whether she would be offended if I started to grope? She was eager to pash, but gave no sign she wanted more. So I tried a game. I said a spider was running across her blouse...it was going inside...she laughed when I tried to catch it, but didn't try to stop me. I chased that blessed spider for a couple of hours,never actually touching her skin, but very close to it. We had to leave, she for a meal and then to Church where she sang in the choir, and I back to my ship for my meal. But she did suggest we meet up after the service, and I agreed, actually going to church to see her sing. Afterwards, we walked back o my ship and I smuggled her aboard. Common sense then persuaded me that sex was being offered. My caressing her via the "spider" had got us both prepared for more. I took her down to a vacant cabin, no lights giving me courage, and we lay, half naked together on a bunk. I expored her body, and no objections from her led me to lying upon her and I entered her. My first real eaxperience. It didn't last long. For I was acutely aware, and surprised, by how hot she felt inside, and the effect her movement had on me. I lost control, and within three strokes I ejaculated. I felt a proper fool. We did have a few months together, during which she took me to her favourite little park where she was accustomed to having nookie, and it was with her that I learned how to stimulate a woman. We parted when I learned that she was acommodating a number of guys apart from me. I opted out, using the doubl;e standard that we males use too often. And, thinking back, she was probabnly good for me. I've probably made this too long. But those first experiences have influenced my adult life, and given me values that have had an effect on my marriage. And it might help other guys in sharing their own first experiences. | 2006-02-14 23:58:27 |
| 217 | 1297 | Great stories, Frankie. It doesn't mater if your first time was a raging success or not, just as long as it was fun and pleasurable and memorable. I am probably much older than you and remember my many different "first times" as if they were yesterday -- first time sharing a real kiss, first time seeing a girl naked, first time touching this or that, first time coming, first time having intercourse. Lifelong memories, lifelong treasures. | 2006-03-11 02:46:22 |
| 217 | 1319 | what's it like for a guy's first time at intercourse? does it live up to expectations or is it a letdown?...does it feel surprisingly warm to a guy....now I think guys ejaculate fast, but for a guy who has intercourse for first time, does it seem to him he ejaculates fast or does it seem to go on for awhile....what does ejaculation in a vagina feel like? Melissa | 2006-03-17 21:10:44 |
| 217 | 1628 | Melissa, what a question.& Is the first time a disapointment? How does ejaculating inside a vagina feel?& Frankie seems to have given a response which I can empathise with.& Many years ago, I was in a front line infantry company in Korea, and after some 7 months we received R&R (Rest and Recreation).& I was a virgin at the time and when I landed in Japan the first stop was the local house of ill repute.& As Frankie described I was mortified when I entered a room and a woman virtually nude was waiting for me.& She helped me get my uniform off and my erection stuck out of my boxer shorts.& I never took them off because she put a condom on my erect penis and I& was very close& to ejaculating.& Being a professinal, I am sure she knew that I was a virgin and& her manipulation of my erect penis assured her that I was not going to keep her busy very long.& & She& helped me insert my penis into her vagina and I& came before I penetrated very far.& It was "Wham Bam Thank You Mam" and& get out.& That was not my idea of how it should be.& Fortunately when I returned from Korea and& dated girls and had sex with several, things improved dramatically.& I love every minute that I spend inside& a& woman.& & I am not sure I would descibe the feeling as warm.& Ejaculating inside a woman feels unbeliveably great and very enjoyable.& How does it feel for you? | 2006-05-17 13:05:54 |
| 217 | 1636 | First time I had sex was at the age of 19. The girl I was with was as inexperienced as I was and just lay there while I went down on her (not having any idea what I was doing, of course, just licking away at it like a mad-man - though, I don't feel toooo embarrassed when I think back to it because she wasn't too good at giving head either... she thought she literally had to 'blow'. I remember a comedy sketch where a guy says to the girl who's giving him head "ummm, what are you doing?" The girl& answers... "I'm giving you a blow-job." "& I can't feel anything." says the guy,& to which she replies "well my bloody ears are popping down here!" lol. Anyways, I moved up and& she grabbed my erection to guide me in, I remember thinking& "I'm not going to last long here"& but to my surprise, I went on for what seemed like forever. We even changed positions so that she was on top and I still didn't come. In fact, it went on and on and in the end she climbed off and sat next to me and watched& while I jerked myself to an orgasm. We met up the next day and I remember feeling quite proud of myself for having lasted so long and thinking she would never have guessed that I was a virgin last night. & It must have been nerves or something, because we made love again the following night and I shot almost immediately upon entry... as I did for quite a number of sessions in our 'early days' together. (We stayed together for about four months). As for ejaculating inside of a woman?& & It always depends on my emotional state at the time... if we're in the mood for a 'quickie' then the feelings from& my orgasm often stay around the groin area, but if it's a long session with hours of foreplay and lots of 'stopping and starting' then the feelings can take over my whole body. Nothing beats that feeling of melting in to one when making true love... & | 2006-05-17 22:13:59 |
| 217 | 1638 | when you feel the guy ejaculating inside, you don't feel it if it is deep inside, only if near the entry....it is incredible though that you do feel when he is getting near to ejaculating how he grabs your hips and you do feel& the awesome& thrusting deeper inside and grunting and you see how quick his penis is pistoning in and out and there is a big thrust and grunt followed by smaller ones where you gently squeeze your vagina around his penis at the end | 2006-05-17 23:59:32 |
| 217 | 1639 | bushman it is a lot faster if the girl glides it in as opposed to & guy glides it in. | 2006-05-18 00:01:03 |
| 217 | 1721 | My first discovery was pure accidental.& When I was around 8, I was in bathroom filling up with warm water, and I guided the running water around my young body.& Out of curiousity I decided to guide it towards my tiny penis and the warmth felt good (non orgasmic).& I noticed that my penis was getting hard and when directing towards my penis head, I could feel some strange feeling encircling in my emotion level.& It felt so good that I held the running pattern and the feeling kept on building and it got me giggling in astonishment.& After a long while, my feeling exploded and I kept at it until the explosion was depleted and my penis head got too sensitive. I've been on it since then and still do occassionally. I met a girl (Rhonda) in New York, my grandparents' neighbor, same age as mine when we were around 9 years old.& She seems to know what sex was all about, she got me into backyard with cardboard surrounding us.& She got our pants down and tried to straddle her pussy on mine, and to no success we gave up not knowing exactly what needed to be done.& From that day to on it has been on my mind constantly (even now). My first exposure to sexual intercourse was when I was working as a newspaper boy when I was around 12 years old, I came up to the door to collect dues, there were a very thin curtain leading to TV located right across the room.& There was 3 some, 2 guys doing a gal, doing doggie and blowjob, I watched in utter shock, looking at huge size going into that something, totally confused, trying to figure out what went on until someone came up at the door, and turned the TV around.& I was disappointed with full of curiousity with what went on. So I decided to go experimental -- feeling girl's pussy -- and met some girl who was familiar with stroking the clitoris, taught me on how to pet, had me going but wasn't& familiar that& penis was to go into pussy.& (my parents was strictly religious, didn't teach me a thing or two about sex,& except to say that marriage is to come first.)& I have done that so many times during high school years in school bus, field trips and such.& I STILL love to pet clitoris nicely, l ightly, slowly and presistently. When I became 16 years old, I got a drivers' license, owned Chevtte Scooter (ugh, I know) and started to drive around.& I went over to my& best friend's house, picked her up and went out for a ride to friend's house and things like that.& I started to experiment with her breast, petting her pussy with her jean on, finding that jean's line lined up with her clitoris, stroked on that spot turning her on fire started to pet her wetily.& She gave me the very first blowjob and it felt so much better than running waters, with pressing and wet flesh encompassing around my penis, and I ejaculated pretty quickly.& After that I felt excited with that new discovery. As we got things going with heavy petting, she came over to me when I was at my friend's house, she wore skirt, hinting that she wants me to pet her so I left my friend's house and took her to some club parking place, she opened her legs and told me to lick it.& I nervously licked her pussy, I must admit that I wasn't good with it at all, and lapped like a thristy dog.& She cummed pretty quickly and gave me blow job. & Finally when her parents was out on vacation, she invited me over and we joined into swimming pool, cuddled, fingered her pussy til she cum (she can& come quick), she took my penis out and slid it into her, it was very very powerful feeling that I ever had.& We stroked in and out in water, looking at each other's reaction, feeling all powerful, feeling going up like slow fire, my penis tightened itself as I feel the explosion coming, I slowed down feeling hard and she took off me and stroked my penis in same stroking speed until I exploded with sperm floating around.& I was in total pleasure, finally got it done in a swimming pool. & To answer melissa's question: I lived beyond my expectation, it was surprisingly warm and I must admit that it did get me out of control, but luckily, she knew what it was like before I came.& & With same girl, we went over to some farm land, we decided to do it in car.& I sat in passenger's seat, she came over and sat on me, straddled on me slowly going up and down.& After a long and controlled while I could feel it coming, had my mind racing (get out or stay inside?) so I decided to stay inside her, while ejaculating inside& her vagina, it was a whole different experience!& When I was exploding inside her, she slowed down to a point that my explosion was half way up, it was the most wonderful feeling that I had! It felt like explosion was first imploding, like holding in the breath, then hold that twice then hold again...& once when that implosion was ignitied with ejaculation, the explosion went out explosively and SLOWLY and then it imploded a little more then explosion and it continued until I was totally worn out with orgasm still inside.& Since that time I've been exploring into expanding orgasm and found this great book "Expanded orgasm" and found it VEEERY useful, made me feel like I just re-discovered it all over again. I would recommend anyone who explore into expanding orgasm to read that book. | 2006-06-19 12:22:38 |
| 217 | 3545 | my 1st experience was when i was bout 15 i went over to my bud house to spen the night at a bud of mine house we were watchin a movie on tv and he just whips it out an starts jackin and im like what r you doin and he come over to me an starts givin me a handjob it was ok but i didn't rely get off on it so i just had him stop an he was liike ok thats kool | 2007-01-14 09:38:41 |
| 217 | 3546 | my 1st experiences with a& girl was i had been goin out wit this& girl for bout a month an a half and we started pettin each other and one night a went over to her house ot spend the niight and we were listenin to music on her laptop and she comes over to me and starts to giv me a handjob, i was shy at first but after awhile she was like its ok and told me i could finger her so a stick my hand down my pants and start. then bout 2 months ago we went to the library to hang out and she pulls me gently over to the sigle bathroom and she asked me if i would eat her out and so i did and foun it quite enjoyable for me as well as for her and then a couple days after that we went to the library and she had gotten high a bit befor she caame to the library and still was and we got to the bathroom and i start to eat her out after awhiole she asks if she can go down on me and im like no an shes like why and im like i wanna be mean so shes like i can be mean too and makes me stop eatin so we sit there and snuglle for a bit and she makes me lay down an im like what for and shes like just cuase and she just gets on top of me and thats when i lost my virginity. since then every now an then we go to the batrhroom& at the library and like yeah an the beginin of last month i go over to spend the night at her house again& she ad her friend over we were pettin an makin out and her friend goezs to take a shower and while she was in the shower my girlfriend asks if i wanted to hav sex and im like ok and that was the 1st time we ever cactualy did itin a warm room and it was magnificent it seemed like we were there forever it was the best and then when she woke up in the mornin she came out an got me from the livin room and told me to come to her room so we could hav sex and we did it for like 3 hours and passed out afterwards its was like yea | 2007-01-14 09:43:19 |
| 217 | 3572 | My first chance at having intercourse was so exciting that I had a very strong blood nose and couldn’t finish. My g/f came with me into the country on a delivery trip and as the last delivery drop was at 6pm we headed for home. She made some very erotic suggestions that made me so excited my nose began to bleed, it was a regular difficulty I had ( I remember & ]a boss I worked with telling me to go home and have a good pull to relieve the blood pressure. I did and still continued having blood nose) and this was very profuse and weakened me too much to have my first encounter. So a few days later we arranged to meet at a quiet place away from habitation, I was so nervous that I couldn’t eat my tea that night and my mother kept saying I shouldn’t be going out as I was too ill. Anyway I convinced mum it was important and I would be alright and headed out. We met at the quiet place my g/f sat in the passenger seat next to me (lay back seats) and I began my first sexual experience. I had absolutely no idea, I hadn’t even seen a vulva before and didn’t know what to expect. My g/f, who was older than me and had been divorced for a couple of years, said “I will teach you how to kiss as this is the most important act in the beginning†She really did teach me well as I learnt more in that time than I ever did from watching movies. After our lengthy kissing episode she became very hot and randy, slipping her hand down and undid my pants belt, button and fly, then gently placed her hand around my penis, which was throbbing with erection, squeezed and fondled making sure not to rub the skin up and down. She obviously wanted it inside her. After what seemed like several minutes of her fondling she asked “Would you like to feel HER? Or would you rather me play with HIM?†I was so excited I didn’t know what to do so I fumbled around undoing her pants; she wasn’t wearing any panties which made it much easier. I then ran my fingers around her outer lips caressing the opening. I was unsure of what I was doing and then slipped my hand up her back where I successfully undid her bra and with her persuasion fondled her nipples with my tongue. After what seemed like a very long time, 10 - 15 minutes? I climbed over on top of her and inserted my penis into her, I don’t remember if she guided my penis into her vagina, very probably she did. I was amazed at how moist and easy it was to insert my penis into her vagina. The temperature was sensational; it engulfed my entire penis in beautiful wet heat. Starting at the glans as I was entering, giving electrifying sensations all over the very hard, large glans and transferring that wonderful moist heat all along the shaft as it entered finishing at my body, as it couldn’t enter any further. I moved in and out for what seemed a very long time, it must have been several minutes perhaps 10 minutes, until she orgasmed & ]strongly. Enough to make my penis very wet. And with her erotic sighs I also ejaculated and she made some wonderful passionate sighs and remarks climaxing again. To answer Mellisa's question the experience is unforgettable. My penis was so stiff and hard that if we had have attempted to bend it I’m sure it would have broken. My glans was also very hard and swollen, a larger diameter than my shaft (it doesn’t get hard any more these days). The sensitivity of the glans was ‘out of this world’. It was like pulsating electric shocks traveling all around the head and down the shaft to my body stimulating my testes. The feeling of entering her vagina was going into a tunnel covered in tiny tacks or very rough sand paper, although the smoothness was so unique and it seemed to be like a vacuum sleeve, drawing my penis in. By that I mean if when entered and stationary the sensation was as if the entire penis shaft is being ‘sucked’ outwards to the vaginal walls as well as the glans being sucked ‘in’ to the innermost cavity of the vagina. Her secretions were memorable and enjoyable. I didn’t ‘feel’ her cuming. I did ‘feel’ her emotions as she was cuming. After she climaxed and almost, 99% finished orgasms I felt the lovely sticky hot fluid around my penis and as she had a very large amount of liquid, down around my testicles. My ejaculation was also sensational, an experience that is very hard to accomplish with masturbation, although I have probably more practice and more experience than most others. It was a feeling that encompasses my whole body. It began as I was ‘drawn’ into her sensationally wet, hot vagina. The electrifying feeling encompassing my entire penis, starting at the glans and moving all the way down the shaft into my groin. On this first ejaculation my testicles drew in, like having a firm hand crunching them together, and sperm flowed quickly from them up through my shaft exploding out through the opening of my glans. Describing a full load of sperm is as if your entire testicles and penis is filled with 20 gallons of very high pressure liquid. The sensational feeling begins as I felt my testicles contract pumping under pressure my sperm up through the cavity inside my penis, trying to force it’s way out through the sides of the shaft although taking the ‘easiest route’ straight to the top and giving the glans an indescribable, electrifying experience as it ejaculates. My g/f remarked at the sensation she experienced as I ejaculated into her After ‘our’ and more particularly ‘my’ first ‘taste’ at intercourse, she remarked that she didn’t come to our meeting that night with any intention of having intercourse. She thought that after I learned how to kiss we might have 2 or 3 tries before we engaged in intercourse. She was obviously satisfied as we planned our nest ‘attempt’ the following day and we remained active partners for a couple of years. & | 2007-01-19 21:57:48 |
| 223 | 1166 | Erectile disfunction can impact on a couple at some time, whatever age? Both partners might suffer. Who has been affected by this and how have you handled it?(no pun intended) | 2006-02-15 21:15:52 |
| 223 | 1746 | Well , it appears the most of the guys on here are afraid/embarassed to answeer this question.. I am 67 yrs old and for all intents and purposes am totally impotent...& This problem began when I was about 35 and steadily progressed to the present state.... In 1984 (45yrs of age) I went to a Urologist with the problem and after certain tests was given a supply of "Papavarin" and a supply of needles and instructed to inject my penis with this stuff and see what happened... No instructions.. just do it and let me know what happens...???? Well.. filled the syringe and did the trick.. got an immediate HARD erection which lasted for a whole lot longer than the time they tell you to call the hospital (4 hours) but I was enjoying it so much, I didn't call.....& it eventually went down and over time I managed to determine how much was enough for a 2 hour erection..... Then after enthusiastically using this medicine for about 5 years.. they took it off the market for sexual uses... For the next few years I basically suffered with the problem.. NONE of the pills worked AT ALL.... tried the vacuum pump.. good results in the tube, but not able to sustain when vacuum absent...& & Finally again in 2002 I returned to another Urologist and although not much more was determined as to the cause.. I was given an injection in the Dr's office of the substance they use today.. and sent away to play with the results and return to the Dr's when the erection subsided.... I did so , and use the current meds to this date.... With each passing year, the injections seem to result in less and less Really Firm erections...& and at times do not work at all.. I am currently examining the possibility of having a Penile Insert installed... Haven't talked to the Dr. about it yet... As a side note, I am in the Swing life style and you might be amazed to find that many women are not as& concerned about the ERECTION as they are about the cuddle and play aspect of a sexual encounter.... & I am fully in the open with anywone I am going to be with and have "Friends" as young as 26 and as old as 78... we have a good time one and all.... Mike | 2006-06-21 15:36:46 |
| 223 | 1782 | Mike, I had almost given up on getting anyone talking about this problem, although I note that you don't see it as a huge problem. I agree, but what guys (and their gals) do in tfheir heads can make it so. that erectile disfunction is the sexual end of the world. My erectile disfuntion first started to manifest itself over 20 years ago. My wife thought I was losing interest, but I wasn't, and we consulted a Dr together. Becaue I had lost a testicle some years before, I was tested for testosterone; it was low, but before they would supplement it, I was further tested for glusose tolerence,& & prostrate health., then a specialist endocrinologist. Then I had a short-term stroke, 1 night in hospital, and put on a medication to control clots. Meanwhile, we continued with sex, which for most of the time was fine, weaker erections, but lots of mutual foreplay helped. Then I had 4 cardiac bipasses and a mitral valve repair, so that delayed things for a while. But as soon as I returned to some health, and exercises, sex was resumed, but the erections steadily lost their fimness, and diabetes developed. That desease damages the blood vessels, and it emerged that the valves in the penis were failing, and although, even now, my wife can induce a blood flow, my penis will not retain it so that I cannot even develop a partial erection. In anticipation of this, we bought ourselves a dildo, and this has proved invaluable. I have recovered the pleasure I always had from providing sex for my wife and she is having the best orgasms of her life. Driving a dildo by hand gives her freedom to apply a vibrator, and I can share vicariously in the joy and power of her climaxes. It's a heady combination. Sex, we've discovered, is not ended with erectile disfunction, believe me. | 2006-06-24 23:27:22 |
| 223 | 1783 | Frankie, Unpopular subject I guess.. LOL Another thing you might find Helpful is to purchase a Strap on... One of the type that your penis fits in and then you use it just as if it was the real thing...... Most of them are made so that a person with a "Large" member might have some trouble with it, but for us "Average" guys it works just fine.. & It not only serves the purpose of being able to perform almost natural intercourse, it gives the male a sense of actually doing what comes naturally...& Look into it.. Mike | 2006-06-25 00:11:19 |
| 223 | 1787 | [user=600]1500rider2[/user] wrote: "Frankie, Unpopular subject I guess.. LOL Another thing you might find Helpful is to purchase a Strap on... One of the type that your penis fits in and then you use it just as if it was the real thing...... Most of them are made so that a person with a "Large" member might have some trouble with it, but for us "Average" guys it works just fine.. It not only serves the purpose of being able to perform almost natural intercourse, it gives the male a sense of actually doing what comes naturally... Look into it.. Mike " Hi Mike I am intreguied by this concept. What material are these made of? Princess | 2006-06-25 18:28:34 |
| 223 | 1790 | Yes, Mike, I've heard of and have seen pics of these harnesses. We haven't considered them, as it sounds like no improvement over what we're doing. I understand the upside is that we would be in a "natural" position with each other regardles of who is top, bottom, side, behind... But the dildo has been so successful for her orgasms, that me working against her body is going to impede the applying of the vibrator, which is actually a massager. And I would get nothing more than what I am getting now, which is a highly charged thrill of being with her, hearing her, and being there for her recovery. For me, the satsifaction of her manipulation of my genitals is v ery loving, and a "turn on" that really gets me going into action. It's just that I don't have an erection, in spite of trying vacuum pumps, injections, Viagra and other pills. The problem is& vascular. My wife thinks a cement injection might do the trick. I would welcome women contributing to this thread, as I believe it is an issue that affects them as much as it does their partners. I want to help all who are affected. Princess, the pictures I saw looked as if they're made of leather but would work well with silicon. They're& very similar to what lesbians use for their pentrative action. | 2006-06-26 01:02:53 |
| 223 | 1792 | OK my female perspective, well you did ask :) My Partner and I have been together now for coming up for nine years this August. We were both married to other people before me for ten years and him for eight. I already had three children when we got together the youngest was just under a year old and now we have had two more together. He is 41 and I am still 35 soon to be 36 our youngest child is now 5. In the beginning during the first few months sex was a regular thing. We were very much into the honeymood phaise and were at it when ever we could which was mostly during the nightime hours when the children were sleeping. He started to display hangups quite early on which we worked to get over. He was not used to having sex while there was children in the house even though they were asleep. He started to become paranoid that one of them would walk in. Despite my assurances that even if they did it would not pose a problem, he became pre-occupied with this thought and started to go limp. I think it was just an excuse though because that following year he became very impotent and the only way to 'please' him was orally. He could not penetrate at all after a while. I took it quite to heart emotionally and felt really rejected. He was very aroused by oral sex but not physical penetration or anything else. After a couple of years of this I became very disheartened at working at our relationship and said that I wanted to leave him because he showed little interest in my body or me for that matter and I did not have to put up with that. I was very physically attracted to him but he did not show that he was that way towards me. We worked at things for a good while longer. He stimulating me in other ways. We both became so wound up about sex that I could not orgasm and he was still impotent. So came the next crunch when I suggested that he saw a doctor about it as five years had now past and I think it would be better to have this 'problem' checked out medically to make sure that there wasnt anything major going on with his body. He refused. Flatly refused saying that no doctor was going to interfere with 'his bits'! A few more months went by him trying and me being kind but totally bored with the situation. I bought a vibrator. After learning to orgasm myself properly we were able to share this together. He became aroused by me being turned on and actually orgasming that he started to become erect himself. Great ! he could penetrate me for about two minutes or less and orgasm himself. We tried some viagra. Did not work too well for him because the erection was hard and lovely for me but he could still only penetrate me for a short time like around two minutes. Boring for me. Sex has become so predicatable I have gone from wanting sex at least four times a week to not wanting it at all now. The fact that he cant take me orally stimulating him for more than a minute before becoming too aroused and needing to ejaculate and the way that he only penetrates me for such a short space of time I cant get aroused. I use my vibrator every time he goes out when the house is empty which is about once a week I get the house to myself for more than ten minutes. It always starts with joking around in the evening when the kids are in bed. I know what is coming straight away after he starts goofing around. We will go to bed usually very late after 2am. He will actually ask me to 'taste him' which I never say no too ( maybe that is my problem ) then he will orally stimulate me, use the vibrator on me, I orgasm slightly then he will penetrate me for about a minute or two, cum and we go to sleep. Well he goes to sleep I lay there awake thinking about why I just went through with that AGAIN and feel highly frustrated. Erictile disfunction is horrible when it is just going on and on and on for years. I dont take it personally emotionally any more but do feel let down, sad and ugly because of this problem. I feel angry that he wont seek advice about it even on here or a place similar to this annonymously. He fully supports my function on these forums so that makes no sense. He is not into porn and gets quite annoyed about it actually. If anything vaguely erotic comes on the television he turns it over until that scene is finished with. I often wonder whether he turns it over when I am not in the room sitting on the sofa. I pay him lots of compliments throughout the day and we are quite romantic and certainly love each other deeply. He pays me a lot of attention when another guy does. If we are out and he notices someone looking or if anyone comes up to chat to me he will be all over me then and get a nice erection which lasts over two minutes but still goes limp just as I become aroused with sensations inside my vagina. It is so difficult. We have talked often over the years about sex. He has made changes in that he stimulates me to oragsm but lately I think for about a year now I just cant be bothered with talking as I see it as nothing changes and that makes me feel sad too. I dont think it is ok for someone to have a problem that frustrates them and causes upset for their Partner and simply not do anything about it. He is not on any medication nor has he ever been. He does not drink alchahol to excess and only has the odd glass of wine with an evening meal. He does smoke. He is very fit and young looking. No one believes he has past 40 years old as he looks like early 30's. I am at a loss and this is probably the first time I have bitched or moaned about this for months. It feels good getting it out. I fantasise about sex often and not getting any real penetration winds me up but then I feel bad about wanting it. Does that make me a bad person? I dont think so but other times I worry that I am too idealistic. Still, once or twice a year to be completely screwed would be nice! Every week ideal but I would settle for him being really hard and able to penetrate me till I let go at least once but I know it aint going to happen anytime soon. Princess | 2006-06-26 08:59:29 |
| 223 | 1793 | Hello again.. Well Frankie, I do understand your feelings as to what you are now getting from your current methods of making love to your wife (partner). & and I concur that for you they are working, they are satisfying and you are content..& No problem with that. But you might look into the strap on as another method of satisfying you both.& I generally start out (as I did when I could get an erection) with a time of cuddle and play, moving on to Oral as the excitment rises... My current partner is very orgasmic and by the time we even begin to think of the strap on, she has climaxed 4 or 5 times.& & I often use a dildo on her approximately 6" long by 4" circumfrence in conjunction with the oral... Penetrating her with it as I attend to her clit...& When we are ready, I position her on the edge of the bed, put on the strap on and alternating periods of oral (me to her) and& penetration with the strap on, we continue until either she is satisfied or she wants another position... and using the strap on allows us to be in any position that is possible with a "Real" erection....She orgasams with the strap on just as if it was real.. At various times during the time of play, she will performan oral on me.. which feels just as good soft as hard....and at times I get so "Turned on" while using the strap on that I will ejaculate inside the thing..... Mike | 2006-06-26 09:49:57 |
| 223 | 1794 | Princess.... I will give you the dimensions and materiels of the strap on I use and will also include a picture of it.. I read your last post with interest especially when you said that your husband will NOT get help.& & I have found this to be a common problem with many men.. What exactly do they fear by finding out what the problem is and HOPEFULLY finding out what can be done about it.... It took me a while to really realize that I was having a problem, not just an occasional failure... As soon as I did I headed for the Urologist.& And although I do not feel that either of the urologists I have seen have worked hard enough to find the actual problem, their solution (The injections) Worked wonderfully early on, and only as I have begun to get "OLD and SENILE" have they begun fo fail a little bit...I have a brother in law who refused to get a vasectomy because "It will make me less of a man"& AHHHH& & I DIDN"T KNOW THAT.. LOL Over the entire period that I have been plagued by this problem (some where around 30yrs) everything I have done or tried to have done has been to enable me to satisfy my partner... This is not a "Altruistic" view of the thing, but just common sense.. if she is satisfied.. I will be more satisfied...& & I really don't know how to address your post, since it is between you and your husband.. BUT I can only say to him... Unless he is just no longer "Really" interested, a visit to the Urologist can only HELP, not HINDER his love life and the satisfaction of you both..... Now as to the strap on... Distributed by "New Concepts Co." and named "Dr Love's The Perfect Extension" The inner sleeve is 6.5" inside length by 1 3/4" diameter Overall length is 8.5" with a circumference of 6" at the head and 7" at the base The inner sleeve is made of a rigid plastic tube with about 1/16" wall thickness The outer materiel is of (Latex ??) . The head is solid (Latex ??) and approximately 2" long (in front of the sleeve)& My& & partners say that the "Feel" is very lifelike unless we get at an awkward angle and they can feel the Sleeve As you can see from the picture I have attached.. Other than being "STRAIGHT" it is pretty realistic looking I have never had a partner who didn't like the strap on.. and most have said "Oh, I can't get that much in me"& but they could... LOL..... I wish you well and hope that your husband realizes what HE is missing as well as what he is depriving you of. Mike | 2006-06-26 10:18:57 |
| 223 | 1795 | Thank you Mike. You have educated me. I never talk about this and after posting earlier I felt like I was growing two heads or something and my stomach was in knots too. If I wasnt one of the two managers of these forums I would have most certainly have waited till the early hours to look back at responses. That is the trouble with places like this, excellent though they are, once you post something people will respond. All of my close personal friends are much older than me and I feel that I have always related to and been understood more by your age group than my own. I have a couple of questions. Sometimes I think that ejaculating after one to two minutes of penetration is premature for my Partner but over time I have come to realise that this is 'normal' for him. What is the normal length of time usually that continuous penetration can last? I have had other partners before who could go only slightly longer all under the age of 40 but yet a man 20 years older than me could sustain his erection for some considerable length of time. Is it just an individual thing or is there an average in minutes that penetration can go on for before the inevitable happens and they ejaculate? If not a medical problem and it is a psychological one, then can a man learn to penetrate for longer without ejaculating? I feel really bad about this one because my Partner tries so hard and apologises often for not being able to carry on. How do you broach the subject of seeing a Urologist? sounds like a dumb question but would it offend if your loved one came out with that one day or night? I dont know how to bring it up without offending him. As you will know this is a delicate subject and I dont want to ruin the once every two weeks or once month that we do share so need to get that part straight in my own mind first. He has hang ups too and would not in a million years consider a vasectomy for the same reason you already mentioned - it would ruin his manhood!!!! This astonishes me too. Thanks for your response and the image. It has helped a great deal. Princess | 2006-06-26 13:11:18 |
| 223 | 1797 | Thank you Mike. You have educated me. I never talk about this and after posting earlier I felt like I was growing two heads or something and my stomach was in knots too. If I wasnt one of the two managers of these forums I would have most certainly have waited till the early hours to look back at responses. That is the trouble with places like this, excellent though they are, once you post something people will respond. ******* WELL... the only stupid questions are the unasked ones... at least that is what my gramma used to tell me.. LOL...& & and I know perfectly how you feel as I have felt the same way....******* All of my close personal friends are much older than me and I feel that I have always related to and been understood more by your age group than my own. ********THERE is something to be said for experience and lifes ups and downs.. we can look back and see that we might have been there at some time or other and got over it... therefore can at least give some options....********* I have a couple of questions. Sometimes I think that ejaculating after one to two minutes of penetration is premature for my Partner but over time I have come to realise that this is 'normal' for him. What is the normal length of time usually that continuous penetration can last? I have had other partners before who could go only slightly longer all under the age of 40 but yet a man 20 years older than me could sustain his erection for some considerable length of time. Is it just an individual thing or is there an average in minutes that penetration can go on for before the inevitable happens and they ejaculate? ******* Hummmmmmmm& well the very short answer is there is NO NORMAL time.. in my experiences I have known me to ejaculate with in 2 or 3 strokes and others that can hold off for an hour... Myself ejaculate so seldom that for all intents and purposes I can last forever.. LOL....& WHEN I DO Cum... it is only after a protracted time of foreplay (oral, manual, etc..)& and then some Very intense and hard thrusting for 5 to 10 minutes...& & I probably have not ejaculated from intercourse ONLY in 25 years.....********* If not a medical problem and it is a psychological one, then can a man learn to penetrate for longer without ejaculating? I feel really bad about this one because my Partner tries so hard and apologises often for not being able to carry on. ********* I suppose that there are ways, but since I do not have the problem, I haven't looked into them..... Does it happen even if YOU do nothing except have intercourse..? & If this is the case then it may be uncurable, but again. Seeing a UROLOGIST is the Only way to really find out.. which brings us to your next question....******** How do you broach the subject of seeing a Urologist? sounds like a dumb question but would it offend if your loved one came out with that one day or night? I dont know how to bring it up without offending him. As you will know this is a delicate subject and I dont want to ruin the once every two weeks or once month that we do share so need to get that part straight in my own mind first. ****** First I would say (and of course I do not know you or your partner) but he is being very selfish by refusing to go to the Dr.& Sexual disfunction is a Medical problem (either physical or mental) and as such should be seen too.& & I had absolutely no hesitation going to the Dr. when I finally determined that it was a PROBLEM.... as to how........ GHEESH Girl... lol & If I were he and you came to me and said& "Honey, I love you, I love to make love to you and because of that I would Love it if WE& were able to make love longer.... don't you think seeing a Dr. would be a good thing.....and Honey, I will go with you because it could be something that I am doing or not doing"& I would be out the door and on the way before you could finish...& But in view of the following statement... he probably would not accept that either.....***** He has hang ups too and would not in a million years consider a vasectomy for the same reason you already mentioned - it would ruin his manhood!!!! This astonishes me too. *******All it did for me was to make our sex life so darn much better.& We had 5 children ages 10 to 1 and sure didn't want anymore... NOW we can make love and not have to worry...... and it did not harm my performance one bit.. I was younger then (28) and could still get it up and get it on.. LOL... SO that is a very BOGUS reason....******** Thanks for your response and the image. It has helped a great deal. ****** you could bring up the subject of using a strap on and see how he reacts to that.......I think it shows a greater degree of love to let me use that than to suffer because of my problem......******* Mike Princess | 2006-06-26 14:10:55 |
| 223 | 1798 | Sorry Princess... in the post I just made I said & & "in my experience I have known ME to ejaculate...... That should be MEN& & Sorry | 2006-06-26 14:13:17 |
| 223 | 1802 | Hi Mike I appreciate it very much you taking the time to talk so openly about this, I really do. Thank you. We have talked over the years and I have said that it is so selfish and that at my young age I dont actually need to put up with this because I could be getting sex from elsewhere. This did have a major reaction in that he started using the vibrator on me and started to actually show that he cared whether I was stimulated by him or not. It opened up new realms for him because I doubt he had bothered to that extent before with any of his previous partners. He treats love making like he can take it or leave it and that angers me greatly. I dont mean to feel like this I just do. If I dont orally stimulate him then the penetration is the same only one or two minutes if that. If anything the penetration lasts for less time if I dont orally stimulate him first. I agree with everything you said about broaching the subject and these are things I have tried to say before but as soon as the doctor is mentioned it is like shutters come down and that is it until days or even a week and a half to two weeks has past and he thinks the matter is forgotten about and he can get away with ignoring it again. I must admit that until you mentioned the strap on idea where the penis fits inside one the other day I had not considered anything like that. But the idea interests me a great deal and I think I would actually prefer that than putting him through any anxiety. I think it would be fun. I have been thinking of ways to introduce the subject because when it comes to new things he is a bit prudish until he sees it or experiences the new idea for himself. When I got the vibrator I deliberately brought one that did not look like a fake penis. I got one of the Funfactory bright green fun looking ones and when we were in bed one night I got it out and started using it with him until he took it from me and used it on me himself. He loves doing that. So I may use the same approach. I will try and find one that looks slightly different more fun and buy it. Have not thought that far ahead yet about how we get from taking delivery of the package to actually putting it on him but I am sure I can find a way :) Thanks again for everything. I am glad I finially started to discuss this openly properly. Princess | 2006-06-26 14:37:44 |
| 223 | 1917 | Dear Princess, You have started a discussion on a subject that with most men is still in the closet.& I am certain that every man over 40 years old has had problems with achieving erections that will last long enough to have "normal (my definition would be the ability to penetrate and ejaculate inside& the vagina)" penetration and fulfilling sex.& Yet we do not like to talk about it, go to the doctor to get help& or face the reality that it is really "happening to me".& I just turned 75 and because of prostate surgery I am incontinent and more to the point of this posting totally impotent.& I cannot get any erection, in a sexual setting or nocternal.& So why am I writting this note?& I use caverject injections to obtain hard erections that last well over one hour and work every time.& To fully understand my situation, and I am not sure that I do, let me start many years back.& Like most men I was able to rise ..LOL..:D to the occasion most of the time until sometime in my mid 40's.& I had the occasional failure but not too often until well into my 50's.& I guess I was very lucky, because I continued to have a sex life, somewhat less frequently and often less than monthly because of business travel but still with good hard erections until my late 50's.& The first indication that things were not& perfect was not failure to get an erection, but greater difficulty in ejaculating.& & Although I hid it from my wife, I was finding that I could not ejaculate while my penis was in her vagina no matter how hard& my erection.& I began to masturbate and penetrated just before cumming.& I lied, telling her that it was the second time. The fact that I could not cum without masturbating made me feel that I was losing my manhood, I really felt lousy and incompetent.& For several years I found more and more reasons not to have sex, and since I was away from home a lot I was able to masturbate in my hotel rooms without a problem.& & Just about this time cancer reared its ugly head, and with my PSA increasing sex became a very sometime thing.& Well at the ripe old age of 62 I had a radical prostatectomy.& The outcome was incontinence and impotence.& However, 13 years later no cancer.& I am, however, on hormone treatments to keep my testosterone low so the cancer will not return.& Amazingly, lower testosterone has not interfered with my sex drive.& God! I can't believe I am writing this and sending it to a forum where it will be read by other people.& All of a sudden I feel embarrassed that I am telling you this. For almost 5 years I was totally without an erection.& Not even a little bit.& But I had an excuse, and so for the first year or so my wife and I did not have any sex at all.& Gradually we started cuddling and one night I went down on her and was able to make her orgasm.& I found oral sex.& Not for me, because of my incontinence, but for her.& My Urologist ignored my lack of sexual activity.& So maybe that is not where your husband should go.& Because of my incontinence which was pretty bad, using 3 to 5 pads a day and the occasional accident (several where totally mortifying), I finally decided to try an incontinence clinic which opened near the University where I was teaching.& & I was embarrased and almost left before the doctor could see me because it was a woman urologist.& Well she calmed me down, and after considerable discussion convinced me to drop my pants so she could check me out.& It was even more embarrassing when she did a Urodynamic test (will not bore you with the details, but it is terribly embarrassing) and other manipulations of my penis, testicles and anus.& At the end of several weeks of& embarrassment,& I began to enjoy my visits to her and her nurse, and frankly although they were very professional about it, every time I left& the clinic I was very aroused and went home to masturbate.& & It didn't take long for me to include my wife in my masturbationary activities.& A first for me, and we both enjoyed it.& However, my wonderful woman doctor& & decided it was time for me to& have an erection.& So she gave me Viagra and Muse, but neither worked.& So she took the next step which was to introduce me to an injection directly into my penis and wow! a glorious Hard Erection.& For reasons I do not want to get into, about this time I& found myself with another woman.& My sex life was reborn.& the only problem is it is still difficult for me to& ejaculate, and since I no longer have a prostate, I no longer squirt semen.& & My orgasms are either dry or I ejaculate urine.& & It's a long story, and covers almost 13 years.& However, the outcome is that I have my sex life back.& I make love at least once a week, and sometimes more often.& My erections and I do mean hard erections last well over an hour.& We therefore have a lot of time to play and we do.& I am into oral sex, anal sex, some very mild bondage and the sky is the limit. & Princess, I hope I have not bored you.& I think I know how your husband feels, and not to repeat what someone else said to you, there are solutions out there, but you have to take the first step to go through some embarrassing times to get to the answers.& Believe me, at 75, when I inject my penis, I get a hard erection that both of us can play with and the fact that it takes me& sometimes and hour or more before I have an orgasm is not a problem, but an added value.& Good luck& & | 2006-07-11 19:42:33 |
| 223 | 1921 | Hi, I believe a standard harness like the one shown below would be more secure and provide better control. On a man the base sits above the penis. I don't have a clear photo with a man wearing one, sorry. Brad | 2006-07-11 23:46:04 |
| 223 | 1927 | Hiya and no you have not embarrassed me in the slightest. I feel quite priviledged to have read your post. The whole thing quite frankly scares me to death. I dont think I could ask him to do any of the things you have gone through in your quest to seeking an erection. The more I learn the more I just want to throw my arms around him say 'it will be ok I dont mind' but then a huge part of me simply cant do that either as I feel that the sexual and playful side of our relationship and friendship is oh so very important. I think he would freak out on the inside if I started talking about injections into his penis. The mere thought of seeing a doctor turns him green in the face. He once got a tiny scratch on his penis and it was like the end of the world had just been announced. His father died of prostate cancer after refusing any preventative treatment at the age of 67 only five years ago so the subject is still a little raw for him. I have not had the courage to speak about the strap on yet. Each time I think about saying it I feel like my head has swelled ten times its size and chicken out. It is just so damn hard. I did not have this much trouble a couple of years ago asking him to do a threesome with me but for some reason this is majorly difficult as I really dont want to hurt him or make him feel awkward in any way. Very quickly and as I have mentioned it now, we did try a threesome with another guy three times but I decided that I actually hated it and the whole experience did nothing for me whatsoever. Moving on from that, I found your words refreshing in that you have been there. Truly been there and know how this all feels. I get a huge sense from my partner that he is deeply concerned that I will eventually be sleeping with someone else and so he is trying to please me in every way possible that he can. Every way except sorting out this problem that is. I find it hard to bring it up in conversation because in every single other area of our lives he is trying so very hard. I just love him to bits. He is my whole world and he knows that. I cant imagine what it is like to go to make love to your wife and in the middle of all the foreplay not be able to have an erection to actually penetrate and you get so frustrated that you have to masturbate with her instead. I find myself reasuring him over and over that it is ok but we both know that it is not really even though sometimes it is fun that way. I know how I felt when I couldnt orgasm a while ago and he was trying so hard to help me achieve one. It was quite soul destroying for me and no doubt for him too. Thank you so much for sharing all of that about yourself. It has helped a lot although words are escaping me just now, it has helped me more than I can fully express just now. Princess | 2006-07-12 17:21:13 |
| 223 | 1928 | Hi Brad shame we cant have a pic of a man wearing a strap on. This one looks great on that woman but because she is so fit looking in the body it is hard to imagine that same look on a man. Thanks for showing it though. Princess | 2006-07-12 17:22:36 |
| 223 | 3373 | It is now ten months since I first raised this question. It took four months before there was an acknowledgement from 1500rider2, and Mike, I appreciated that picking up of the issue. Princess was brave enough to join the discussion, and you have both been brave in revealing to members how you have tried to manage it. You suggested to me, Mike,& that I try a strap-on penis. My wife and I discussed this, and we came to the conclusion that she is so happy with our dildo that we have other things we would rather spend our money on, being rather on the less affluent end of the spectrum. She loves her "member", and I have great delight in using it on/in her. I can assure you that at almost 80 years of age, her orgasms are as strong now as they have ever been. And, with her assistance, although I can no longer achieve an erection, with a vibrator and her caresses, I can reach a climax of a quite stong kind. I have used injections and Viagra, without success because of failure of the veins losing the function of the valves that stop the outflow of blood. But, what I want to emphasise is that we only retained a wonderful relationship by good communication. We are not frstrated, and I have to imagine what it once felt like to have penetrated her so wonderfully, for so many years. Yes, I said 80 years, and we have been wed for 59 years. Princess, you have tried to communicate with your partner. I hope that your silence since you last posted doesn't mean that you have given up on achieving what is rightly yours. Brad's illustrated post of a strap-on might have been used as an encouragement to your partner. There are other illustrations in toys on line that you could show him. You see, I suspect that as he feels his erection failing him, he immediately loses confidence and gives up his effort. He is embarrassed as his cock lets you both down, "again"! But if he were wearing a strap-on, you wouldn't feel any difference if his erection had failed, and what is important for him, he would know you wouldn't know his rection had failed, and may well continue with his actions. Could it therefore be a fun-type suggestion? Mike and I have assured members that sex remains a rewarding experience even for geriatrics. There are other members who suffer from the effects of erectile dysfunction. They should be brave enough to join this thread, as it really is such an important issue. | 2006-12-08 23:00:16 |
| 223 | 3669 | Hello all, Greetings to everyone here. Am still a virgin here - bumped into this forum only ysterday by accident and it's interesting. I think guys with dysfunction are actually better off. Consider this problem: Me and my wife make love - long drawn out and passionate, sometimes stretches on and on for like 2 hours and we thoroughly enjoy ourselves silly. BUT shortly after I flop off after our orgasm and the fatigue& am back to square one - hard again and it hurts often. My wife calls me incorrigible. Am wrung out and i cant anymore - she often complains. So we just sleep spoon position with me inside her and wake up in the mornin same position. The problem is it hurts often (not a regular feature (mercifully) when am too hard. I sometimes wish, and she wishes it too& I think, that i dont get such a massive painful hardon. Perhaps someone here might be able to advise on what to do to get some respite from this hard problem?? I would appreciate any help. | 2007-02-10 02:55:07 |
| 235 | 1215 | Hello, can anybody tell me or direct me to a website which would tell me all the different ways a guy can masterbate? oh and can guys use vibrators on the penis like a chick does on the clit? | 2006-02-25 01:32:57 |
| 235 | 1264 | [url=www.jackinworld.com] www.jackinworld.com has many male techniques for masturbating.& They used to have a women's section which I used to look at.& Sometimes I'll look at their techniques for ideas. A guy could use a vibrator on his perineum and balls.& Also, you can use a vibrator on your prostate gland. | 2006-03-01 18:38:40 |
| 235 | 1296 | Check www.ejacu.com. (What a great name.) | 2006-03-11 02:38:55 |
| 242 | 1270 | I've been wondering about this, but never see the subject talked about, so I'm not sure what to make of it. When my boyfriend gets turned on, he gets hard. As far as I know, this is a no-brainer. He remains hard until he is no longer turned on (which sometimes takes awhile) The strange thing is, I really mean that. I can get him off 4 times in a row, without him ever losing his hardness. From what I've come to understand with my limited knowledge on this subject, most men normally go limp after getting off. How unusual is it to remain hard after such things? Then again... Someone knocking on the door when we're doing things like that is normally enough to bring him down. :P | 2006-03-04 07:41:41 |
| 242 | 1271 | Lucky or what LOL Yes most men go soft after the first time and it takes a little while to work back up to full stiffness again. Princess :) | 2006-03-04 18:14:55 |
| 242 | 1273 | well, the erection is mostly mental, believe it or not. her BF is obviously VERY new to sex, so I wager he's just so excited that it keeps popping back up. once he gets more experienced he probably won't get aroused so quickly anymore. | 2006-03-05 06:23:35 |
| 242 | 1274 | It's been like that since I knew him. Or, since we've had any sexual relationship at least. So... for about 9 months. And it doesn't pop back up, it really never goes even a little limp. ^^ | 2006-03-05 08:09:03 |
| 242 | 1276 | well, the principle is the same. | 2006-03-05 17:43:06 |
| 242 | 1281 | If you are saying you get him off about 4 times in a row.Is he ejaculating each time? I f he is and he stays hard all that time then he is one hell of a man. You have something there.Don't lose him. | 2006-03-07 01:48:36 |
| 242 | 1282 | Yes, he ejaculates each time. Not that I frequently get him off 4 times in a row, normally once or twice is plenty ^-^ | 2006-03-07 05:12:07 |
| 242 | 1295 | You don't merely have one hell of a man -- you have a one-in-a-million man! I've never heard personally of what you described, but am sure it does exist -- but very rarely, I would wager. I'd love to know his secret. I have one piece of advice. Anyone out there -- please challenge this if you think I'm wrong: I wouldn't make a big deal about it, especially if he is unaware that his sexual staying power is so unusual. Guys can have some serious self-doubts sometimes, especially if the'yre in a bad way for reasons outside their love-relationships -- and serious self-doubts can lead to decreased performance which increases the self-doubts which decrease the performance and on and on. What I'm saying is that self-doubts and failures -- sexually or not -- can often change a rocket into a wet noodle. Making a point of telling him he's in the 99.99999th percentile for staying power might make him wonder if it's just some sort of temporary accident. Of course, there's nothing wrong with telling him what a great lover he is -- that's quite different! Enjoy your lovemaking and stay safe, KeddyPie. | 2006-03-11 02:36:13 |
| 242 | 1318 | Hi Keddy Pie...Not only can men have multiple orgasms, but I have heard that male multiple ejaculations are possible also, without detumescence (getting soft)...If you do a check for Barry Komisaruk and Beverly Whipple, they published on this..It is unusual, and not common, but not very rare....I do believe you are VERY fortunate, and I assume he is able to do this in intercourse also?????? For most guys, after they ejaculate, their erection disappears, so if a guy gets excited in intercourse and ejaculates fast (alot of men do)...before a woman gets an orgasm, and his erections subsides, then often times she feels frustrated...It seems if you have a guy who can be a multiple ejaculator, than you have 4 times, (as you said), to have him give you more orgasms....I don't think it means staying power per se, because I believe staying power means a guy who can go a long time during sex without ejaculating once....but for multiple orgasms and multiple ejaculations, is he able to do this during intercourse? I believe it would be best this way (instead of just getting him off 4 times in a row by touching him) since he can continue to thrust in and out of your vagina after he ejaculates...and give you multiples orgasms also?& & So I assume you mean intercourse also? Melissa | 2006-03-17 20:58:34 |
| 242 | 1323 | I just wanted to let everyone know that this happens to me too.& I'm 25 and not& currently in a relationship.& & Although I have had one-nighters, I usually don't have& random sex; It's mostly with girls who& I& feel really comfortable with.& (And who I want to please.)& & It's funny because I don't worry about cumming too fast... because I know that I will cum again.& Like your boyfriend, I stay hard the whole time too.& There is a lot of cum the first time around, and a little less each time thereafter.& I& can get myself off several times when I masterbate. You ask why...? I think that [list=1] he's very comfortable with himself he's comfortable being around you (or rather you make him feel comfortable) he's highly attracted to you so he wants to please you as much as you please him I don't think that this is rare, it's something that I've always had to deal with. BUT not all girls do this to me... so please take it as a complament that he really does like you a lot.& (It's not the man that is so wonderful; it's the woman behind the man.) Hope this helps, Jonathan & | 2006-03-18 12:02:35 |
| 242 | 1324 | Considering the amount of times we've had sex (twice, one evening), I can't say much about how he holds up. He did stay hard from one time to the other though. Jonathan, I believe what you have said is true. Except maybe his self-confidence (though it has gotten much better through the months, he's not one to be fond of himself). I think, maybe in the future when either worrying about pregnancy isn't a big deal (5 years from now or more), or I go on some sort of non-inturrupting birth control (hopefully about a year from now), this whole thing will work out well. ^_^ He tends to come -quick-, and I do mean quick. In the future, it will matter very little, because after a 20 second break we can just go again with no problem. Right now, the fact that we have to stop, clean up, and get a new condom... The inturruption is a pain in the arse. Better safe than sorry though. It's worth the wait though. Also, for the joy of pure out-of-subject, I have some fish in a 20 gallon tank facing across from me... One of them just swam backwards for about 7 inches, then swam the other way, like a car backing out of a driveway on to a road. It was rediculous looking. | 2006-03-18 12:54:54 |
| 242 | 1325 | [user=130]melissa malena[/user] wrote: "Hi Keddy Pie...Not only can men have multiple orgasms, but I have heard that male multiple ejaculations are possible also, without detumescence (getting soft)...If you do a check for Barry Komisaruk and Beverly Whipple, they published on this..It is unusual, and not common, but not very rare....I do believe you are VERY fortunate, and I assume he is able to do this in intercourse also?????? For most guys, after they ejaculate, their erection disappears, so if a guy gets excited in intercourse and ejaculates fast (alot of men do)...before a woman gets an orgasm, and his erections subsides, then often times she feels frustrated...It seems if you have a guy who can be a multiple ejaculator, than you have 4 times, (as you said), to have him give you more orgasms....I don't think it means staying power per se, because I believe staying power means a guy who can go a long time during sex without ejaculating once....but for multiple orgasms and multiple ejaculations, is he able to do this during intercourse? I believe it would be best this way (instead of just getting him off 4 times in a row by touching him) since he can continue to thrust in and out of your vagina after he ejaculates...and give you multiples orgasms also? So I assume you mean intercourse also? Melissa " well, generally speaking this is better for him than it is for her. for one, they have to stop each time to change the condom as keddy mentioned. even if condoms weren't in the equation, its still better for the guy for a variety of reasons. for one, most women don't come from intercourse or penetration (and in some cases women can't come while being penetrated, even with other stimulation). for a lot of women who can come from penetration, its not as intense as other forms of stimulation. also, sex is about more than intercourse and orgasm, so for the girl it doesn't matter how long or how many times the guy can get it up. as long as he has he can get her off well and often, she is a lucky girl. | 2006-03-19 06:24:29 |
| 242 | 1331 | I only agree if the condom is the issue and& also for women who have difficulty in particular having an orgasm during intercourse. Actually deep thrusting is MORE intense for& a girl& (and better than for him) as it involves a uterine orgasm& or even a blended orgasm. Singer and Singer showed this. & & | 2006-03-21 21:58:01 |
| 242 | 1332 | [user=130]melissa malena[/user] wrote: "I only agree if the condom is the issue and also for women who have difficulty in particular having an orgasm during intercourse. Actually deep thrusting is MORE intense for a girl (and better than for him) as it involves a uterine orgasm or even a blended orgasm. Singer and Singer showed this. " that's just assuming that the woman can orgasm from penetration, which is not the case for nearly 3/4 of women. | 2006-03-22 02:58:48 |
| 242 | 1333 | [user=374]dfs3[/user] wrote: " that's just assuming that the woman can orgasm from penetration, which is not the case for nearly 3/4 of women." I have never had an orgasm from penetration. I have had powerful unusual sensations before where I thought I might but didnt. That was about three years ago now and it only happened a couple of times. Nothing quite like those sensations from penetration since then. Princess | 2006-03-22 13:02:33 |
| 242 | 1359 | Keddy asked "How strange is this?" Yes, it's uncommon for most men, even if they're completely comfortable with their sexuality. But maintaining an erection after ejaculation is also well documented. My own SO reported an encounter she had with a 40 year old man with whom she was a colleague over a two week convention. It had been successful and they decided to celebrate it with a few hours together, After intercourse had followed a normal, happy time, he ejaculated, but remained hard, and resumed intercourse immediately. She was surprised and commended him on his performanc, but when he repeated it again, she told me she felt ecstatic and really flattered. As posters have indicated, enjoy it while you can. | 2006-03-29 00:27:30 |
| 242 | 1644 | You are right in one thing KeddyPie. From personal experience I know that how long I can keep an erection going depends mostly on how turned on I am. If I am just horny then once or twice is all I can do, as my interest weakens so does my erection. sometimes I enter into a sort of trance-like lust, then I can keep going for a very long time remainig hard after ejaculating twice. After that, even though I am still hard I cannot ejaculate again because I already spent all my juices on two powerful orgasms. After a while I am in a state where I feel I want to come again, that it is going to happen any moment, but it doesnt. That is both irritating and unpleasant. Thats the end of the show for me. This is when I have intercourse with my girlfriend. During oral or masturbation I only come once, its not a strong enough stimulus for me. Conclusion: Staying hard for a very long time is not all that unusual, coming 4 times is though. Does it happen quickly and in small amounts? if not then......he is quite a sperm factory;) The weird thing is not so much that he can stay hard after ejaculating but that he ejaculate a few times. | 2006-05-18 09:29:50 |
| 242 | 3073 | I too experience this, ableit only from masturbating right now *sigh*, but I guess this isn't very common however I know many people my age who are capable of it. Realy I know more people my age that are capable of it than people who are not, possible evolution? I dunno. What I wanted to add to this thread though is that, yes we do ejaculate each time, it is less and less as we go on, however each orgasm (for me at least) tends to be more and more intense as I go on, I'm usualy very calm while orgasming but once after a chain of 6 I had my back arched, mouth open and even think I drooled some......yeah intense. So far on a realy boring day I have been able to have 7 of these continuos orgasms (there was no semen during the last 3 more of a dry ejaculation with a little bit of liquid, but it still felt great) and then a few hours later have been able to do 3 more. There is a slight down time inbetween these, there is no decrease in erection, merely a few seconds where you just come back to reality and aren't interested in anything sexual and sometimes find what you were thinking about or what you were looking at slightly disgusting, but I did say only a few seconds and then you can just close your eyes, look away or think about something else and you are good to go again. | 2006-10-26 02:16:51 |
| 242 | 3150 | Whoa, so wait a second here...& It's supposed to get soft afterwards????& As long as there is stimulation it doesn't matter whether or not I have ejaculated or not, it will stay up.& I was *pretty* sure that this was normal. | 2006-11-09 01:08:53 |
| 242 | 3154 | With my boyfriend... if I were to keep teasing him it will stay up but he says it kinda hurts... | 2006-11-09 09:14:52 |
| 242 | 3161 | Hi, Men on average have a 20 minute refractory period, or down time :P, between erections. Young men may not experience this, and the time may increase with age. It appears some women also experience this, only being able to have one orgasm at a time. Brad | 2006-11-09 18:10:08 |
| 242 | 3673 | With me the downtime is about 12-15 minutes and am back to square one again and it some times hurt to be too hard. But I cant rememebr ever having 2 orgasms in a row and honestly I wouldnt want that as it gets too intense to be comfortable. To me and the partners I have had so far, a long drawn out session with lots of playing around and foreplay interspersed with fast, slow, passionate,stop for while, etc is very enjoyable before the eventual mutual explosion. | 2007-02-10 03:29:08 |
| 242 | 3996 | [user=457]KeddyPie[/user] wrote: "I've been wondering about this, but never see the subject talked about, so I'm not sure what to make of it. When my boyfriend gets turned on, he gets hard. As far as I know, this is a no-brainer. He remains hard until he is no longer turned on (which sometimes takes awhile) The strange thing is, I really mean that. I can get him off 4 times in a row, without him ever losing his hardness. From what I've come to understand with my limited knowledge on this subject, most men normally go limp after getting off. How unusual is it to remain hard after such things? Then again... Someone knocking on the door when we're doing things like that is normally enough to bring him down. :P" Men will never go limp as long as they are& focusing on the& female body, and especially if the penis is still in the vagina. | 2007-04-07 02:59:10 |
| 242 | 5512 | Well I have this same problem too, but mine also involves and very frequently involves long periods between orgasms and at one point thought it was a problem so I consulted a physician about the length of erection time and he said it is merely a combination of great circulation and high blood pressure ( which can explain it since I have Hyper Tension *cardio vascular disease which causes very high blood pressure* ) and he also added that it could be because my blood pressure medicine (verapimil) is no longer effective so he put me on a stronger medication and now it's only half the time the long period of erections occur mainly during stressful periods in my life, etc. & So if it continues I would at least have him take a blood pressure test other than that my physician said it is just great circulation and also he is very aroused by you it seems | 2008-02-22 20:31:08 |
| 242 | 6314 | I always wondered if I'm strange.& I love the idea of being tied up and having a woman use a powerful vibrator and orgasm over and over right in front of me.& She'd be telling me how great it feels and how much more pleasure the toy brings her than any man ever could.& She'd keep this up for an hour or more, then untie me and tell me to screw her.& I've never heard anyone else mention this kind of fantasy.& I wish I could meet a woman who might share this fantasy with me. | 2008-12-26 20:42:43 |
| 242 | 6332 | I can get him off 4 times in a row, without him ever losing his hardness. Can you loan him out????& :P | 2009-01-01 15:20:55 |
| 242 | 6350 | [user=14259]radiationisgoodforus[/user] wrote: "I always wondered if I'm strange.& I love the idea of being tied up and having a woman use a powerful vibrator and orgasm over and over right in front of me.& She'd be telling me how great it feels and how much more pleasure the toy brings her than any man ever could.& She'd keep this up for an hour or more, then untie me and tell me to screw her.& I've never heard anyone else mention this kind of fantasy.& I wish I could meet a woman who might share this fantasy with me." Sounds hot to me!& I would love to do it.& I would have to buy a powerful vibe though because mine wore out.& After that I used a much smaller one, a bullet vibe, and at first couldn't reach orgasm with it, but then to my utter joy, over time, the smaller one kind of re-trained me to not need such power.& Now I am MUCH more sensitive down there, clit and vagina both.& It has been a real blessing because now I can masturbate with only my fingers.& & But I would need a big powerful back massager to make myself cum for an hour!& I've never cum& repeatedly for an hour before, only about 30 minutes or so, scoring 11 or 12 orgasms.& That was by myself though and with someone watching, especially a tied up someone, I believe I could go& even longer than an hour!& I& would force you to count my cums and tell me when I was done and you were screwing me.& Whisper the number in my ear and you'll have me cumming again in no time!!! And.... would you be lying there& with an& erection the whole time you were tied up??& I love to& look at a stiff cock while masturbating.& | 2009-01-06 13:45:20 |
| 242 | 6351 | I can keep myself at plateau for 5 hours while looking at porn, or reading posts on here.& My clit is engorged the whole time continuously.& My heart rate is elevated the whole time.& I play with my nipples off and on during the whole time.& Then I finally let myself CUM!!!!!& I've never had time to go longer than 5 hours.& That was a record.& Usually I do it for 2-3 hours, a few times a month.& The rest of the time I just masturbate regularly, usually one good one, and sometimes I do 3-5 orgasms in a row within 5-10 minutes.& Then a few times a month I do the plateau thing and hold off my orgasm for several hours.& It's fun. But while making love, I can cum over and over without losing any engorgement in between orgasms.& As long as he keeps it hard& and inside me, stroking the walls of my vagina while I hump my clit against him, I have had up to 8 or 9 orgasms before he cums, this whole process lasting up to 30 minutes or so.& It's delicious!!& I need to experiment with him and see if he can multiple and keep it up.& ;D | 2009-01-06 14:02:28 |
| 242 | 6358 | To answer your quetion, yes there with a raging hardon the entire time maybe even you just touching it a little from time to time then telling me how much better you cum with the vibrator over and over and a man just can't do the same for you.& | 2009-01-07 02:34:18 |
| 255 | 1344 | my boyfriend and i are 17 and have been having sex for about 6 months. recently he's been having problems ejaculating during stimulation (hand jobs and oral sex), and can only manage to during sex after foreplay and stimulating condoms. he's a normal teenager and never had any problem doing so in the past, and still has no problem at all getting a (large) erection and enjoying stimulation, but he feels a lot of pain around his genitals (not specifically his genitals, but around them) making it difficult to ejaculate. he says that whenever he feels like he is about to, thats when the pain is most, and so the feeling of being about to cum passes. he's becoming worried, and i don't think the anxiety helps. any ideas? | 2006-03-26 16:40:30 |
| 255 | 1352 | Hi Karen probably nothing to worry about and may be a pulled muscle or ligament but I really think the two of you should go to see a doctor. I understand how embarassing this can be when discussing private things like love making to a doctor but it is always best to get things like this checked out properly. It could be an indication of an infection of some sort or a blocked tube. That would be the best thing for both of you asking a doctor because it would put both your minds at rest. Thank you for having the courage to ask your question on here and I hope you find the groups useful in the future. Princess | 2006-03-28 14:13:45 |
| 258 | 1355 | i still haven't eaten out a girl yet and i know the taste varies for each woman. I just want to know the range of smell & taste a healthy woman can have. I'm wondering if you guys can fill me in on the details from your experiences. | 2006-03-28 19:46:35 |
| 258 | 1360 | SMELL? If a woman keeps herself clean, and she is in a good state of health, smell is never offensive. It's a lovely muskiness that is a real turn-on. TASTE? Think of a fresh oyster. Its texture is quite similar to a sand oyster, and tastes like it too. But the greatest joy is in being aware of the pleasure you're giving her. It's a truly two-way thing, and if you get the opportunity, don't hesitate. She'll love you for it. | 2006-03-29 00:35:10 |
| 258 | 1395 | Oh, how about diet? does what the woman eats affect her taste? like high fiber foods give a bitter taste while fruits like pineapple give a sweet smell. | 2006-04-09 20:56:55 |
| 258 | 1401 | Hello the best thing to do is just not worry about oral sex and enjoy it. There is a chance that if you worry about it too much and over analyse it, you willl not enjoy it at all because your mind will be focused on this thread! If you are in a situation with your girlfriend and want to try it, then just do it. All women are different and thus have different tastes and smells. Usually the odour and taste are very very attractive to their partner and a huge turn on. The truth is there is no short answer to what you ask and in some ways it is impossible to answer your questions about smell and taste. Just go with it and enjoy it. Princess | 2006-04-10 05:13:28 |
| 258 | 1455 | How would you know how chocolate taste like when you haven't tried it and yet expect people to explain it to you? Not that I'm saying that pussy tastes like chocolate, but it has its unique characteristics in flavor. I will try at my best to explain what it tastes like, mostly in emotional point of view (preferably in poem (first draft).) Vaginal Juice Savouring on vaginal juice, something soothing like a rose, Undiscovered sweetness, not a glucose nor sucrose, Juicy flows like a pomegranate, yet crystal clear, Erotic and forbidden juice, oozing over lovable frontier, Found your tongue wanting, licking and sucking like crazy, Swallowing up like onto honey, your face filled with hazy, Vaginal mist that's a honeydew, set our emotion on fire, Munching up to women's verge, found us forever to admire! | 2006-04-18 12:53:59 |
| 258 | 1466 | Yeah, i know. It's that i'm afraid i might puke if i try it the first time. i grow up with the notion that the vulva is pungent and gross. Guess i have to outgrow that. | 2006-04-19 20:33:46 |
| 258 | 1469 | tomcat, I would recommend this way: Start out by having shower together and have your woman clean her vagina out throughly. While water is running down on her vagina (a great way to get rid of stuffs off vagina) start out by kissing her area next to vagina and start to lick on outer lips, keep licking (think of nothing) until you get used to it then try to lightly lick her vulva. Keep on licking her vulva lightly until you get used to it then try to open her vulva with your tongue and explore around. That is probably the best way to get rid of your phobia and to introduce yourself to a tasty meal. | 2006-04-20 08:51:13 |
| 258 | 3470 | i personaly love the taste of my girlfriend | 2007-01-02 11:19:22 |
| 258 | 3663 | [user=493]tomcat[/user] wrote: "Yeah, i know. It's that i'm afraid i might puke if i try it the first time. i grow up with the notion that the vulva is pungent and gross. Guess i have to outgrow that." Hi Tomcat, you said it yourself, you said you grew up with the notion that the vulva is gross and the you came to the solution, outgrow it. Tomcat, if a woman keeps herself clean, then there's nothing that#s gonna make aou puke. I love women and I adore a pussy, i like how thy look, how they smell and most of all how they taste. And I will lick a pussy for hours whenever I get the chance. Take your time it will grow on you. Odlid | 2007-02-09 05:19:07 |
| 279 | 1479 | Hi, I have observed this recently...I am 29 and I used to get hard erection few months before. Now a days the erection is quite soft and it does not feel hard and goes away early...Help me to know what is happening.... | 2006-04-21 23:40:20 |
| 279 | 3701 | Could be a lot of things. Are you in good shape? Maybe it's high blood pressure. New girl? Nervous. Assuming everything is fine I'd say you're getting old. I noticed this too when I turned 30. Basically you need to keep the pipes cleaned. If you're not having sex frequently then masturbate and keep an erection for a while. That will keep the blood flowing and the pipes cleaned. If you go without for a while I think things can get clogged up. | 2007-02-15 23:39:34 |
| 286 | 1520 | Yeah, I have a small (5") penis. so i'm open to suggestions from you guys& on sex positions and techniques to best use my (limited) asset. | 2006-04-30 01:06:44 |
| 286 | 1556 | take your glans and move it around her clitoral hood area without inserting...if she has an orgasm and you haven't then you can penetrate and ejaculate deep inside her vagina | 2006-05-02 23:59:16 |
| 286 | 1577 | Don't have any advice to give but I will tell you that small isn't always a problem, especially for women like me with vaginismus. The smaller the better for us, lol. | 2006-05-08 19:53:27 |
| 286 | 1579 | I didn't know that having a small penis could be a problem.& & Doesn't 5" mean 5 inches? | 2006-05-09 08:30:38 |
| 286 | 1587 | Yeah, about 5 inches. i keep reading about& other guys having 7,8 or 10" penises. guess i'm feeling inadequated. | 2006-05-11 19:46:57 |
| 286 | 1589 | You shouldn't have any problems.& I knew someone who had a penis of about 3 inches that had no relationship problems.& As far I know from what I've read, the average young woman can comfortably fit a maximum of about 6 or 7 inches.& And from personal experience, 9 inches causes a lot of difficulty with extra foreplay before sex being a necessity.& It should be easier for you. | 2006-05-12 05:02:16 |
| 286 | 1598 | Yeah, i guess it's male vanity. a big penis make you keep more masculine. i think i'm unconciously comparing mine with all those porn flick dudes. | 2006-05-14 01:29:07 |
| 286 | 1599 | [user=493]tomcat[/user] wrote: "Yeah, i guess it's male vanity. a big penis make you keep more masculine. i think i'm unconciously comparing mine with all those porn flick dudes." You know the answer then dont you - cut all the porn out of your life! At least until you have gotten to know your own sexuality better and have confidence in yourself. Gain real life experiences instead. Much better. You really do not have anything to worry about. With a woman, she is not going to have the thought in her mind about your size. It is after all what you do with it that matters and what you do with the rest of you as well. Having respect for yourself and knowing inside that you are you, a unique individual man with loads to offer, and having the confidence to accept this for yourself and share. That is the key. Princess | 2006-05-14 06:48:16 |
| 286 | 1621 | aye... have to agree with others... its not the size. I am alittle below average in that respect, but have had only few complaints, and lots of endorsements along the way. However you need to face your feeling of adequacy or it could easily become a real problem for you on a personal level. Understand that most women doesnt prefer this size to this size. But this& sex-partner to this sex-partner! If you are good listening to your partners sexual signals, and you do not focus on your own manhood and egoistic pleasure... then you will be a better lover. That is if you can overcome your own feeling of being "too small". There is alot of medical stuff that could be brought forward to emphasize this knowledge, however... all you need to know is that no orgasms emanates from 10"-12"& inside the vagina (not& any1 we know of, I think)... on most accounts its rather the opposite. PS. Some women DO have a fetich with big dicks. Just avoid them as u would any other individual with noncompatible fetichs... Oh, and to answer the question... I think that most of the positions will work for u and your partner. In my opinion the positions that isnt good has more to do with the ability to "stay inside" while you move... beside& that its the same positive and negative sides that is noted in general to each position. Oh and of course the best positions to fx hit her g-spot is of course :P& the hardest to "stay in", but you can work around that. If you for instance do a "high doggy style" or& are spooning,& going gently for that g-spot, use your hand to make sure you repeatedly goes inside and hits the area. Remember its 5-10 cm up the vagina. Not 10 inches.... with a little training you can actually use the same hand to caress her clitorial area AND& help yourself stroke into the right area... | 2006-05-16 10:59:34 |
| 286 | 1625 | Another good position for us smaller guys is to have your partner lay on her back with you on top and her& feet over your shoulders (with her ankles keeping your ears warm). If she has a pillow under her lower back so that her butt is raised as you enter her, your glans will feel great as it rubs against the front wall of her vagina and hopefully against her g-spot. You could also try this one..., again with her on her back, but this time without the pillow and her legs on the bed/floor/grass/car roof lol, lie on top and position yourself higher up her body so that when you enter, your penis is pointing down as much as possible and rubbing against her clitoris as you slide in and out. Of course, lots of communication with your partner to find out what suits both of you is most important of all. | 2006-05-16 20:12:47 |
| 297 | 1631 | Does it really matter? And please don't give me a response with analogy and "it doesn't matter". Could you give me a scientific reasoning in a way it does or doesn't matter. ps:mine is 4.5 inch. | 2006-05-17 17:42:26 |
| 297 | 1634 | there is no scientific reason why size does or does not matter, it's all personal preference. for some women it matters, for others it doesn't. for the women to whom it matters, bigger is not always better. for some women smaller is better because too much is painful, other women like them as big as they can get. for those to whom it doesn't matter, they might not enjoy penetration regardless of your size and place more emphasis on oral sex instead. as long as both people are satisfied, who cares? | 2006-05-17 19:21:32 |
| 297 | 1646 | Yeah, I know some like it big, some like it average, but some like it small.. But what happen if the gf I get wants a big one.. | 2006-05-18 11:49:00 |
| 297 | 1647 | then it might not work out. | 2006-05-18 12:38:37 |
| 297 | 1653 | this is something that puzzles me. Through evolution/by god(whatever you will) women all have very similar vulvas/vaginas/clits, why such& differences in the male penis? Anyway, 4,5 inch is about 11cm I guess. Whether that is a problem or not depends on the womans prefferences and anatomy. I wouldn't relate sexual preformance to penis size though. Being a good lover requires much more than a large penis. My advice to you is to try some positions that allow deep penetration, for example doggy or missionary with the womans feet against your shoulders etc..you should be easily able to hit the g-spot then. Focus on good foreplay, stimulating her clitoris orally or with your thingers. Make sex and exciting& experience, lots of variation and experimentation& and she will not care too much about your penis anyway. You need to use your penis for pleasure but strangely women don't 'need' it for anything:/& :shock:& & Infact I believe that the result of this& women's sexual revolution that seems to be going on we men will be soon relegated to being a sort of living sexual toy anyway. Rub me here, lick me there..penetration?you crazy?thats soooo yesterday's stuff! ;)& just mocking the ladies, forgive me:cool: I also experienced penis problems, but of a different nature. I am a tall man and my penis is quite long, about 21cm. This means that before I penetrate my girlfriend I need to spend a good deal of time on foreplay getting her really wet. A spontaneous quickie is not possible:( Lastly, I believe that very few of us men are good lovers, I know that I am not one yet. We need to learn a lot about sex, learn from women. Discuss and experiment, learn to pleasure her. We are not born with such knowledge. That will put you miles ahead of a guy who thinks he's best because he has a 14 inch telegraph pole between his legs! | 2006-05-18 17:42:08 |
| 297 | 1654 | female genitalia are not so similar as you seem to think. even in an aesthetic sense, the exterior parts vary widely, but also the size/sensitivity of the clit and the capacity of the vagina differ greatly from one woman to the next. anyway, the discussion is moot since the great majority of women do NOT orgasm from penetration, regardless of how good it feels. pleasing a woman is about more than stuffing her like a thanksgiving turkey. even if she is one of the lucky ones that CAN orgasm from penetration, good sex is still about more than coitus as far as women are concerned. if you are a fan of Friends, keep in mind the episode where Monica educates Chandler about the 7 erogenous zones. if you really want to blow her mind, your penis just isn't going to cut it regardless of size. | 2006-05-18 20:01:44 |
| 297 | 1655 | Ooooh, that's the reply I wanted...thank you.. | 2006-05-19 04:18:17 |
| 300 | 1663 | I am very curious about BDSM.& I have read about it.& I have tried tying up my testicles, and slapping them to inflict light pain.& Is there anyone who practices this form of sexual stimulation and can elaborate on what to do and how it feels? | 2006-05-22 19:30:26 |
| 307 | 1684 | Hello, I am a 20 year old male virgin and I would like to here what the women think. I want to save my self for the right one but I feel like I am the only man left who wants to stay a virgin untill the right woman comes. I just really want to make sure that if I ever really loved some one that I would not hurt her in any way and I am afriad that having sex with lots woman before I meet her would cause problems latter in life. So what do you think of male virgins? | 2006-06-09 23:36:17 |
| 307 | 1685 | Hello I think it is brilliant that you are saving yourself. Princess | 2006-06-10 08:53:23 |
| 307 | 1686 | Thank you & Um...I forgot to ask, dose being a male virgin matter to woman. I mean do you pefrer men who have all ready had sex or do they like it when we chose to wait? | 2006-06-10 10:24:24 |
| 307 | 1687 | [user=590]Loner[/user] wrote: "Thank you & Um...I forgot to ask, dose being a male virgin matter to woman. I mean do you pefrer men who have all ready had sex or do they like it when we chose to wait? " the women who also wait for marriage like virgins.& just gotta find someone that shares your values. | 2006-06-10 16:10:42 |
| 307 | 1691 | It shouldn't matter although, to a lot of people, it does. I think that anybody who doesn't want to just have meaningless sex in order to get rid of their virginity is making the wiser of two decisions. Some people find their right partner earlier than others of course....still, not everybody cares about waiting for the right person. I'm female and I worry about the fact that& I have vaginismus which stops me from having IC. I worry guys will run a mile when they find out. Telling them I'm a virgin is one thing but telling them it's because I have a condition that prevents me from having IC is something else entirely. If only more people were like you, things would be much better. | 2006-06-12 09:52:37 |
| 307 | 4445 | Hello, I am 23 years of age and male. I am also virgin. There were many occasions where I could be devirginized by some beautiful girls I met, but I always step back. The reason is religious. I am a Muslim, and I am entitled to have sex only with my future wife. | 2007-07-18 16:58:40 |
| 307 | 5511 | It's a great thing especially in this era of mankind to do such a thing. As well a lot of women are intrigued by it and this is being said from experience by the words of many woman I have talked to especially in your's and my age group (I am 22 btw). I don't know if this is true but many of the women I have talked to say it is easier for here to communicate her likes and dislikes because a male virgin is very eager to listen and have no preset ways of going about intercourse. & So do not feel your the only one, and do not feel like it is a bad thing. I am not a virgin and in some ways I wish I were because yes in a lot of ways women do take to the defense just a little if they find your sexual history is a bit vast in amount. & Your in the green my friend | 2008-02-22 20:08:40 |
| 312 | 1752 | hi i am a 38 yr old quad i have tried viagra but my erections only last a few minuts iheard of activ otc power strips for erectile disfunction can anyone tell me if they really work i dont know what els to try& thanks:( | 2006-06-23 15:55:31 |
| 312 | 1770 | Have you seen a doctor? Princess | 2006-06-24 11:31:35 |
| 314 | 1784 | Hi, I am new and only joined because the web has little that I can find on the following:- The female, I am male, is supposedly slow to arousal and not all climax. Presumable true! I am a cynic. Much research seems devoted not to understanding what is going on, not on what sort of education of the male might make the actions more pleasurable, promoting orgasms,& as well as respectful but to what entrepreneural opottunities are offered. The data on dysfunction male and female may well be skewed by this. Equally the subject of any experimental work has already been socially conditioned. & Such conditioning I think includes the following. Sex is to deny god except when the aim is to make a soul. It is thus wrong. The male assumed to be superior and more urgently needful as well as being dominant (why if true mostly?) recieves some latitude the female none indeed she is considered a threat and deviation from the assigned role is punished. If that is true then is the research showing fewer orgasms (measure of pleasure?) and general sexual dysfunction may relate not to some physical or hormonal complex but to guilt. Certainly in the male guilt or being observed, same thing really, can for many destroy erection. Anybody with research evidence in which the conditioning is somehow allowed for, perhaps by cross cultural and historical sampling? Douglas | 2006-06-25 00:47:32 |
| 315 | 1822 | I was wondering if you think it is common when a guy is having intercourse and he is ejaculating, is it common for him to stop his thrusting while he is ejaculating? It seems like you feel his thrusting and one last deep thrust inside your vagina but when he starts to shoot off, his penis is not thrusting, but only is deep inside your vagina, although it twitches....also after ejaculating do you notice he likes you to flex your vagina then to milk the penis? | 2006-06-29 22:51:44 |
| 315 | 1823 | When my boyfriend and I are engaging in IC...He usually stops thrusting while he's ejaculating, because he usually does this little quiver thing.& I usually don't flex my PVC muscles because he's sensitive after he ejaculates, and me doing that would definitely send him to the roof.& When he pulls out, he goes slowly so it doesn't tickle as much. | 2006-06-29 23:38:40 |
| 315 | 1824 | cool. I kind of thought guys stop thrusting while they are ejaculating in the vagina...but it doesn't mean they are not& active...it seems it is at this time when they grab your hips when they thrust into you deep and grunt...so you feel their penis quiver while it is coming too? you should flex to milk the penis hehehe | 2006-06-29 23:52:00 |
| 315 | 1828 | Well I have flexed it.... and the last time I did that, the session didn't last that long. hehehe... I told him I'm never going to do that again! ;) | 2006-06-30 16:08:42 |
| 315 | 1834 | hehe, flexing is great!Drives me nuts. I guess most if not all of us stop when coming. The twitching is part of ejaculating, the penis is still pumping but there is nothing left. My penis is very sensitive at that time so thrusting during that would not be much fun. Soon after though.. | 2006-07-02 21:39:10 |
| 339 | 1980 | Hi Everyone I am hoping someone can maybe confirm what I am thinking or steer me in the right direction on this one. Before I explain the issue let me just say that I have not looked this up or done a search or anything as I am fairly confident I will get the support I need right here :) I am the mother of five children ages 16, 15, and 5 year old boys and daughters aged 9 and 6. My 15 year old who has always been mild mannered extremely polite and very caring and soft personality wise had recently turned into a monster from hell teenager with full blown shouting bursts and stamping etc. Nothing unusual there but then there was the obsession with all things male on top. I thought he may be gay. That would not bother me in the slightest and I would be very supportive. Yesterday I got angry and could not allow this to go on so gave him an ultimatum to either tell me what is bothering him or I will take him for a drugs test or something maybe to see a doctor because his behaviour has changed so much and he no longer smiles or anything and is so distant there is obviously something on his mind. Then I left him alone. Hardly spoke to him all last night and today. At around 8pm this evening he hands me this hand written letter which started "Dear Mummy" He went on to describe how he feels there is something wrong with his penis because it has a line at the top and around the base of the skin where it meets his pubic hair there are little raised pimples. Gosh I was so relieved I cant tell you. We started to think he was going out on his own because he was into drugs or something. Straight away upon reading this I called him to me. I sat him down and described what a normal penis looks like and asked him if that is what he means. He was tearful and said yes that it was. I reasured him over and over that he is normal and there is nothing wrong with him. He was relieved and said that a mate he was staying with last week when he was away on work experience showed him porn on the computer. He said that the man's body was different to his and so he thought there was something wrong with him. He had seen other porn movies or clips when he stayed at this same mate's house back at the end of April when he came home different and has gone rapidly downhill ever since. I assured him that tomorrow when the little ones are playing in the garden I would give him some web addresses where he can look himself with my laptop in private upstairs on his own so he will know what exactly the male genitals look like. That is where I am stuck. It is past 2am in the morning here in the UK and I am worried that I now cant deliver this educational material for him tomorrow. I am so proud that he could finally tell me all of this that was worrying him. He thought he was deformed and that the hair folicles were a sign of a disease or something and he was about to have his penis drop off at any time. I guess at that age the worry over something being wrong with your penis is a big deal. I want to be able to prove to him that he is normal without embarrassing him and without making him feel odd. Does that make sense? All help gratefully appreciated Princess | 2006-07-17 20:16:26 |
| 339 | 1981 | Hi, Now I know why people have been asking me to create a website like The-Clitoris.com for men. Maybe if I clone myself. :-D The-Penis.com website was suppose to be like The-Clitoris.com but it is now a dissapointment. X-( Here are some website on the anatomy of the penis, and some have photos. [url=en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Penis]en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Penis [url=www.geocities.com/Wellesley/1889/maleana.html] www.geocities.com/Wellesley/1889/maleana.html [url=www.webmd.com/content/article/7/1680_50125] www.webmd.com/content/article/7/1680_50125 [url=www.cirp.org/pages/anat/] www.cirp.org/pages/anat/ [url=net.indra.com/%7Eshredder/intact/anatomy/]net.indra.com/~shredder/intact/anatomy/ [url=www.fpnotebook.com/URO8.htm] www.fpnotebook.com/URO8.htm [url=www.noharmm.org/anatomy.htm] www.noharmm.org/anatomy.htm Brad | 2006-07-17 21:36:39 |
| 339 | 1986 | Congratulations and well done. I highly commend you on dealing with your son's problem of not knowing. These are some excellent sites showing the penis and I am sure you will allow your son to look at them regularly untill his learning is satisfied. I really wish that computers and the internet were available when I was seeking information at that age. I now use it to teach myself and I'm 52. You deserve applause as a mother who is understanding. I was not allowed to ask questions and as my sister was 10 years older than me, I never knew untill I was about 10 that girls didn't have dicks. I got to see and touch my first at 22. I was brought up in the country and didn't have any neighbours. I was taught by a pedifile that I had a penis (the only benifit of the whole experience) at the ealiest I can remember was about 3, I think I was still in nappies. He always instilled in me to keep it a secret from everyone, particularly my parents. At about the age of 9 I became too embarresed to talk to girls full stop as I thought I was gay. It was many years before I could talk to anyone about my experience. I can now talk about it to anyone and I'm not gay, probably because I'm too old to be embarresed about it. I regularly read info on this site and find it very friendly. Thanks and Good Luck Neil | 2006-07-18 06:08:43 |
| 339 | 1987 | [user=1]bradf30[/user] wrote: "Here are some website on the anatomy of the penis, and some have photos. [url=en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Penis]en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Penis [url=www.geocities.com/Wellesley/1889/maleana.html] www.geocities.com/Wellesley/1889/maleana.html [url=www.webmd.com/content/article/7/1680_50125] www.webmd.com/content/article/7/1680_50125 [url=www.cirp.org/pages/anat/] www.cirp.org/pages/anat/ [url=net.indra.com/%7Eshredder/intact/anatomy/]net.indra.com/~shredder/intact/anatomy/ [url=www.fpnotebook.com/URO8.htm] www.fpnotebook.com/URO8.htm [url=www.noharmm.org/anatomy.htm] www.noharmm.org/anatomy.htm Brad " Hi Brad cant thank you enough for these sites. When he and I get some time alone later I will give him the links and he can take my laptop upstairs to look at them then I can make sure he is not interrupted. I have only had a chance to look at the first Wiki one but great description of the spots issue about half way down the page. I am certain that that alone will really help. Now it is just after the morning of the night before so to speak, I know why he had an issue with the spots. My 16 year old son has a bad problem with acne on his face and had to see the doctor about it to get some treatment recently. So if the spots around the base of his penis is very spotty to him, my 15 year old must have freaked out big time. I found it difficult to understand the line and rim issue though as even in porn this is shown sometimes. Depending on what porn clips he has seen at his mate's house of course and what age the men were. Even a dildo has ridges! We all know that teenage girls can develop an issue with self awareness due to the 'perfectly sized' bodies that are used in advertising and in lads mags and so forth but for a boy to have developed a self image problem about his genitals must be more common than we realise and far less talked about. I am pleased we have this forum to discuss male sexuality and maybe a separate site is not a good idea but rather roping some information for teenage boys into the main clitoris web site would be better because teenagers of both gender can then learn about both sexes at the same time. Cloning yourself - hhhmmm now there's a thought :D You know, a couple of months back they had this program on television which was all about invetions for the future which are very much present now and they showed these electronic women at a Japanese Tourist Info Center at the airport where people could go up to them and ask questions about directons for the city. We could have Brad's available in every school / college/ medical center/ hell - even in resturaunts :) so people can ask questions about all the kinds of things we discuss on here. LOL :) Princess | 2006-07-18 07:07:55 |
| 339 | 1988 | [user=640]Enjoy[/user] wrote: " I was brought up in the country and didn't have any neighbours. I was taught by a pedifile that I had a penis (the only benifit of the whole experience) at the ealiest I can remember was about 3, I think I was still in nappies. He always instilled in me to keep it a secret from everyone, particularly my parents. At about the age of 9 I became too embarresed to talk to girls full stop as I thought I was gay. It was many years before I could talk to anyone about my experience. I can now talk about it to anyone and I'm not gay, probably because I'm too old to be embarresed about it. " Hi Neil thank you for your kind words of encouragement. I do pride myself on having a good relationship with all my children and they know they can come to me and discuss absolutely anything. I homeschool them and have been doing that now for eight years something which we all find very rewarding and fulfilling. The quoted text that I have added to this post caught my attention because Brad and I both run another forum for people who have experienced sexual abuse or gone through incest. If you want to take a look here is the link - www.the-clitoris.com/abuseforum/ Princess | 2006-07-18 07:14:05 |
| 339 | 1992 | An Update - so I gave my son the pages open my laptop to read and occupied the little ones to ensure they were kept well away so he could have privacy. shortly after reading just the first link site he came outside to me in the garden and said how relieved he was and he kept saying thank you to me. he is now relaxing and appears much much lighter than before and is smiling again and even made a few jokes this afternoon as well :) just want to say thank you really for the links and the space to be able to talk about this. I could not sleep last night for worrying about how to handle this issue. All the kids know that all I have ever wanted for them was that they grew with an inner happiness and have confidence in themselves. Then they will be able to achieve anything that wish to. The other thing is I have tried to preserve their precious childhood years. I think one day in the not too distant future they will really grow to value that side of things. I feel all proud and mushy now :) Princess | 2006-07-18 11:13:32 |
| 339 | 1998 | Princess, You have every right to be proud.& I don't know about being mushy. I will repeat an earlier posting. & You are an outstanding mother to be able to address successfully a problem so sensitive for a young man.& Maybe not as good as some of the sites noted by Brad, but a good site to try (you look at it first before telling your son) is Bettydodson.com.& There are numerous pictures of men's penises, and they all look different.& This should make him more comfortable with his penis no matter what it looks like.& From reading the postings on this site, a common thread of concern for both men and women is "am I different" and therefore abnormal.& Good luck and keep up the good work.& Your children are very lucky. Jumper& | 2006-07-19 10:06:17 |
| 339 | 2003 | You may want to go to the site--Penis.com there are picures of different penises--also depending on age let your children see and read on this site and be honest and open about sex and its purpose. Dennis R | 2006-07-20 14:58:49 |
| 339 | 2040 | [user=625]jumper1951[/user] wrote: "Princess, You have every right to be proud. I don't know about being mushy. I will repeat an earlier posting.  You are an outstanding mother to be able to address successfully a problem so sensitive for a young man. Maybe not as good as some of the sites noted by Brad, but a good site to try (you look at it first before telling your son) is Bettydodson.com. There are numerous pictures of men's penises, and they all look different. This should make him more comfortable with his penis no matter what it looks like. From reading the postings on this site, a common thread of concern for both men and women is "am I different" and therefore abnormal. Good luck and keep up the good work. Your children are very lucky. Jumper " Thank you Jumper :) Princess | 2006-07-23 16:42:07 |
| 339 | 6587 | I can endorse anything in print or on the web by Betty Dodson. She has been a sexual activist for 40 years, and I have known of her work for 20. She used to be a militant feminist, and was a lesbian for a while. But the fact that she grew up in a poor but happy family in Kansas, during the Depression (Betty is now about 80, and still sexually active) had the last say. She now has a PhD in sexology. While best known for her work in getting women to understand and accept their genitality and sexual nature, she is also a critic of routine circumcision, something many American parents simply can't put behind them. I like the way her lifetime focus on the feminine pink bits has made her appreciate their male analog, the foreskin. | 2009-04-13 15:50:44 |
| 341 | 2008 | I am a 17 year old male virgin i wanted 2 say that massaging tip shower heads can giv you a great blowjob& if positioned right on the the head of the& penis it feels fantastic :-) | 2006-07-22 16:11:42 |
| 341 | 2175 | I don't think so.The top of the penis is too sensitive but not comfortable.I think the zone closely underneath the top is the best place for massaging.You women to give a blowjob or hand job should keep this in mind,I suggest. | 2006-07-29 12:36:09 |
| 341 | 2201 | You'd be surprised!:D | 2006-07-30 18:51:36 |
| 341 | 2220 | I have done what you suggested,It felt uncomfortable.You said you don't know what's orgasm.If you keep doing what you said for a long time,fantisying at the same time,you will know what it is.:) | 2006-07-31 02:46:06 |
| 341 | 2240 | Hi, Whether a man is circumcised or not will likely influnece whether he would like this type of stimulation. Brad | 2006-07-31 09:40:56 |
| 341 | 2247 | I haven't circumsised,by the way.But that feeling was just hard to endure.Too sensitive,not as comfortable. | 2006-07-31 11:08:47 |
| 341 | 2256 | I& am, so that probably make a differance & | 2006-07-31 16:05:00 |
| 344 | 2021 | Does it mean im gay becuase i masturbated with anothe guy i still get turned on by women and all:-/ & & Please comment:cool: | 2006-07-22 17:32:53 |
| 344 | 2034 | Hi, No, it just means you are curious and sexual. It is not any different than girls/women who masturbate in the presence of other girls/women. Brad | 2006-07-23 10:01:44 |
| 344 | 2035 | I have friends that used to masturbate with each other when they were your age.& They are heterosexual. | 2006-07-23 11:33:39 |
| 344 | 2042 | [user=661]DracoXXX89[/user] wrote: "Does it mean im gay becuase i masturbated with anothe guy i still get turned on by women and all:-/ [Please comment " can you please stop putting Please Comment in such big letters. If you post something on here like a question it will be answered. Thank you for your co-operation Princess | 2006-07-23 16:47:06 |
| 344 | 2350 | [url=en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale]en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale | 2006-08-10 14:47:54 |
| 344 | 5516 | sounds a little more like bi-curious confusion cause as a heterosexual male it always seemed unnatural to perform the act of masturbation around another person of the same sex, but it doesn't bother me to be in such a place as a locker room and be around nude men. It's all up to you whether you like men and women or you just like women either way it's your mind you have to convince | 2008-02-22 21:06:18 |
| 344 | 5522 | It seems to me that a lot of guys are self-conscious about their sexuality, i.e. afraid of becoming gay. As far as I know, a gay man is defined both by a sexual interest in other men and by a lack of sexual interest in women. So, Draco, the answer to your question (and the question of quite a few other men who are in the same boat, I'm afraid) is no. | 2008-02-25 11:20:34 |
| 344 | 5531 | [user=661]DracoXXX89[/user] wrote: "Does it mean im gay becuase i masturbated with anothe guy i still get turned on by women and all:-/ & & Please comment:cool: " Do you care what others think? I mean, if you are bisexual, homosexual, heterosexual, does it really matter? Yes, society hasn't exactly been the lightest on people who AREN'T heterosexuals, but there is nothing wrong with them nor are they bad people. Perhaps you are just curious? Curious, meaning, that you wish to see? Perhaps see how guys do it? I don't really know how men work when it comes to sex, but I had a friend who masturbated almost DAILY with his friends who were men. Haha, while watching porn or just being in the same room (more than one guy). He's not homosexual, or bisexual. He's a hetero, he was just curious. It shouldn't be a bad thing, again, it's how society views homosexuality. Like it's a bad thing, or a sin, that again being because majority of countries have religion tied into it. America having Christianity, granted there are a BUNCH more behind it, but..Christianity has a strong tie and we all know the views of that, granted not all agree to it. Either way, what I'm trying to say, it's not bad! lol | 2008-02-27 21:36:18 |
| 346 | 2025 | i hav a lump on one of my testis& how do i tell if it is cancer or not?:-/ & & Please reply | 2006-07-22 19:52:19 |
| 346 | 2026 | Hi, Please see the information linked to below: www.ehealthmd.com/library/testicularcancer/TC_symptoms.html www.tc-cancer.com/signs.html tcrc.acor.org/tcprimer.html hcd2.bupa.co.uk/fact_sheets/Mosby_factsheets/testicular_cancer.html Brad | 2006-07-22 22:26:33 |
| 346 | 2027 | a simpler answer is to go see a doctor.& nobody here is qualified to diagnose an illness like that. | 2006-07-23 05:47:43 |
| 346 | 2041 | [user=374]dfs3[/user] wrote: "a simpler answer is to go see a doctor. nobody here is qualified to diagnose an illness like that. " absolutely spot on any lumps will need to be looked at and exammined properly by a doctor and then a biopsy will usually be ordered to rule out any cancerous cells being present. Princess | 2006-07-23 16:44:57 |
| 346 | 2052 | Srry bout the PLEASE REPLY n big letters ill stop that & | 2006-07-24 17:10:22 |
| 346 | 2071 | [user=661]DracoXXX89[/user] wrote: "Srry bout the PLEASE REPLY n big letters ill stop that  " thank you that is most appreciated Princess | 2006-07-25 17:15:44 |
| 346 | 3333 | Hello, I think every man is afraid of something happening to his crown jewels - but with not seeing a doctor out of fear you might kill yourself! No forum can tell you if you have cancer, but, as I had testicular cancer myself some years ago, I might give you some idea about what might happen - or not. First: In most cases, this kind of cancer does not hurt - one of your balls just starts getting bigger, and suddenly you notice that it somehow feels different. Don't be shy to go to a doctor immediately. If it is serious, every day counts, and if it is not serious, good for you to know. If it really is cancer, one or (in a very few cases) both testicles will most probably have to be removed (Yes, I know what you think now - I know how I felt when I got my date for the operation...). The operation itself is really not so bad, after all - about the same as when you have your appendix removed. I hardly had any pain afterwards, but of course you'll want to be careful for some weeks.& If you have waited a bit longer than you should have, however, it might be necessary to remove some (other) lymph nodes, and then you will be in hospital for quite some time. So, again: See the doc immediately! Depending on which of the various types of cancer you have, you might have to undergo chemo or radiation therapy. This will be the worst part of it - during chemo I had several weeks when almost all I did was puke, and even watching TV was too much an effort. But this will be just a rather short span of time - I have had eight great years since, so what are ten weeks in comparison? Also, thanks to pharmaceutical progress in the meantime the side effects should not be as bad as they were then. I cannot tell you about radiation therapy, as I did not need any, but it should be a little better. Your sex drive will most probably dissapear completely during the chemo (together with your hair), but as soon as all the drugs are out of your body, everything will grow again just fine:D; all it takes is a little time. Don't worry that the operation will change anything in your sex life when you are back on your feet again - one testicle can do anything that two can. For me, there was absolutely no difference - I had no problems with erections, orgasms still felt great, and as far as I can tell there was no reduction of seminal fluid. Even if you should be one of the cases where both testicles will have to go, you can take hormone pills and lead your life as before - just think about saving sperms if you want to have children some day. If you are worried about your appearance, you can get an implants - nobody will be able to tell the difference, as far as other guys in the hospital told me. I don't have an implant myself - when I am intimate enough with someone to show my most private parts, I don't expect cosmetics to be an issue. So, to anybody who might read this: Nothing is as bad as waiting too long - all you will gain from that is missing several decades of your life. Now stop reading and see your urologist, if anything except curiosity made you read this in the first place. And maybe there are others willing to share their experiences? | 2006-11-30 12:25:52 |
| 346 | 3334 | Thanks for sharing with us your experience. | 2006-11-30 13:07:52 |
| 351 | 2048 | This site was mentioned on the main page, as inspired by The-Clitoris. Going there, I admit, at least there are no popups, and some nice images... but does anyone else notice that there's a lot of salesmanship going on? I've never noticed that with this site, but the-penis just seems to be a moneymaker... | 2006-07-24 08:54:52 |
| 351 | 2054 | Yes, very true.& Hence the reason why I never go there.& I hate it.& the-clitoris.com is the best!:D | 2006-07-24 17:13:04 |
| 351 | 2199 | Same here this website is& better;) | 2006-07-30 18:37:49 |
| 351 | 2210 | Hi, Um, well, it isn't cheap to host these "free" websites. The Clitoris.com website attracts over 30,000 visitors a day, which means a lot of bandwidth is consumed, especially by all the images. (Bandwidth is the measure of data traveling around the Internet. We use almost 300 Gigabits bandwidth a month) The more time I dedicate to the website the more of a share of my personal expenses it must pay. A simple fact of life. The website started out as a hobby, now it isn't. We cannot exist without generating some cash flow. I keep the sales aspect as low in profile as possible, which isn't what you normally do when you want to generate sales. Creating sales is about getting noticed, which hiding the advertising doesn't necessarily do.& Initial sales through this website greatly exceeded my expectations, but if the website is to grow so must sales.& The more time I must spend on the business& aspects of things the less time I have for the content. So one is caught between the proverbial rock and a hard spot. Brad | 2006-07-30 20:18:48 |
| 374 | 2198 | Did You know semen travels 21 miles per hour out of the male body? learned that in sex ed;) | 2006-07-30 18:31:16 |
| 374 | 2224 | Oh ,that's astonishing indeed!No doubt sb. call penis guns. | 2006-07-31 03:01:10 |
| 374 | 2228 | thats why most condoms break! who would've thought, wonder how& scientists figured that out, hmmm..... | 2006-07-31 07:30:54 |
| 374 | 2253 | that's not why condoms break.& they break from friction or air pockets caused by improper use. | 2006-07-31 13:41:55 |
| 374 | 2257 | and becuase they have a thin layer, that being hit at 21mph would probably break | 2006-07-31 16:09:34 |
| 374 | 2264 | No, semen does not have the necessary mass to break a condom at that speed.& If it did, the impact would severely injure the interior organs of a woman and the condom would be an incedental. | 2006-07-31 20:03:29 |
| 374 | 2266 | :-D Imagine the workman's compensation claims on adult movie sets if this was true ! [img]/sexforum/images/emoticons/16.gif[/img] | 2006-07-31 21:12:48 |
| 374 | 2267 | yeah, it reminds me of the old joke about superman blowing up lois lane with his super orgasm. | 2006-07-31 21:56:52 |
| 374 | 2274 | im sure the condom breaks the speed down quite a bit | 2006-08-01 07:28:44 |
| 374 | 5517 | [user=374]dfs3[/user] wrote: "yeah, it reminds me of the old joke about superman blowing up lois lane with his super orgasm. " haha my new favorite reply on any forum ever lol. & Scientists probably found that out by putting a low mph radar in front of a man while ejaculating. | 2008-02-22 21:08:16 |
| 385 | 2366 | I'm male and circumcised.& I have received blowjobs& just& twice in my life, the first time from a female and the 2nd time from a male (long story on the guy; in short he was a tranny and had me fooled for 5 minutes).& I was very emotionally&physically aroused in both cases for at least 5 minutes.& I could not orgasm for either person. & & What do the rest of you have to say from your experiences? | 2006-08-11 16:38:57 |
| 385 | 2368 | I could say that I definitely orgasm my best when my boyfriend is down there.& Just thinking about it gets me excited. I also love to perform oral sex on him, and he does orgasm from it.& I think most of it has to do with is your train of thought, and the intimacy that is coming from the act. | 2006-08-11 21:22:04 |
| 385 | 2501 | I only did that for one boyfriend and he didn't seem to have any trouble getting off. | 2006-08-28 20:53:31 |
| 385 | 2520 | I have to agree with [user=766]NoMoreGuilt[/user] but that doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you.& It could just be that you need something a little different.& I think as long as something is pleasurable it doesn't matter whether you orgasm or not. Kit | 2006-08-30 00:02:46 |
| 385 | 2612 | I find it difficult to relax and fully enjoy blowjobs because my wife has made it clear she does not want me to ejaculate in her mouth. EP | 2006-09-11 18:08:56 |
| 385 | 2807 | Yes that would be a problem I like to give my guy blowjobs the only problem is that I get to be too much ;) | 2006-09-23 11:04:26 |
| 385 | 2815 | You have the problem too, kitten?& I thought I was the only one! ;) | 2006-09-24 15:38:22 |
| 385 | 2816 | hehe yes i do.& Usually he just pushes me back a bit and after awhile I can try again.& I guess in a way its a good thing but its would be nice to give him a blowjob and not have to stop. | 2006-09-24 15:42:10 |
| 385 | 2818 | I usually stop after he orgasms, but sometimes I like to lick it a little more... and then he tries to push me off because it tickles him. | 2006-09-24 15:47:08 |
| 385 | 2820 | See I have to stop in the middle even before he orgasms. | 2006-09-24 16:11:49 |
| 385 | 3189 | [user=116]Ladybug[/user]& wrote: I usually stop after he orgasms, but sometimes I like to lick it a little more... and then he tries to push me off because it tickles him. & so im not the obnly one whos ticklish down there im not ticklish anywhere but on the head i find it pleasurable but hard to take cuase its rely ticklish but yeah & | 2006-11-16 17:42:59 |
| 385 | 3194 | The glans of the penis becomes very ticklish after ejaculation or even a mild orgasm such as some semen flowing if ejaculation doesn't eventuate. The nerve endings give a signal that 'no more sperm is available' at the moment, light carressing would be ok. The glans is similiar to the clitorus, as some females cannot stand their clitorus being touched at all, as it is very sensitive, others can have light touching through the hood. That would be a reason why the tounge is sought after as it is much more gentle on the sensitive clit. Uncircumcised penis's glans would probably be easier to fondle than circumcised penis's glans. I really enjoy feeling my glans when my penis is semi erect through the skin, I call it foreskin as these days when my penis is flacid it is like a foreskin covering my entire glans. I wonder how long it would be if I wasn't circumcised. I think we could start a new topic with this subject | 2006-11-17 03:36:51 |
| 385 | 3195 | Ladybird wrote I also love to perform oral sex on him, and he does orgasm from it.& I think most of it has to do with is your train of thought, and the intimacy that is coming from the act. I was also very shy about ejaculating or orgasms even with hand jobs, as I thought my girlfriend wouldn't like sperm on her. I really believe that couples cannot talk to much about what they like and what they don't like. Talking about sexual likes and dislikes don't have to be when your being intimate. Talking is best when you think about it. I like to do something stupid like ring and say 'Darling I really want to lick your clit. Would you mind relaxing and allowing yourself to cum?' Some people don't like talking very much, unless they are in the 'appropiate' situation. I think the 'appropiate' situation is when you think of something to say. | 2006-11-17 03:49:16 |
| 385 | 3201 | i`m 45 and been married twice. both women& have been good about giving me a good head. lately i just don`t get enough of it. i have to beg her, and no way that she would swallow it. it sort of kills the deal at times | 2006-11-19 07:45:39 |
| 385 | 3204 | & I've always wondered why a girl would give it if she wont swallow.& Come on its already in your mouth.& *shakes my head* Kit | 2006-11-19 15:53:03 |
| 385 | 3209 | Because we are generally raised to be grossed out and offended by body fluids. Brad | 2006-11-20 21:23:58 |
| 385 | 3210 | Yeah, I guess so | 2006-11-21 00:56:41 |
| 385 | 3212 | I do remember in high school a girl once that if you swallowed you'd become pregnant hence her reasoning of not swallowing.& I then informed her that you indeed can't get pregnant by swallowing because your reproductive organs aren't connected whatsoever! I do know that most of my girlfriends prefer not to swallow because the thought of them having little spermies swimming around in their tummies grosses them out.& Even though, the sperm really isn't swimming in your stomach because I believe the acid in your stomach would be strong enough to kill them upon contact. Even though, there's precum, I don't think they think of that... [img]/sexforum/images/emoticons/16.gif[/img] | 2006-11-21 13:45:14 |
| 385 | 3214 | not only would stomach acid kill sperm, it would kill your stomach if your stomach didn't produce a mucus lining to protect itself. | 2006-11-21 14:11:00 |
| 385 | 3220 | oh yes.& Your stomach produces a new layer of acid every two weeks so it doesn't eat itself. | 2006-11-21 23:05:51 |
| 385 | 3544 | [user=640]Enjoy[/user]& wrote: I think we could start a new topic with this subject & ok its up | 2007-01-14 08:25:29 |
| 385 | 3616 | I'm female, uncircumcized and I cannot have a full orgasm via cunnilingus on it's own. I'm comfortable with fellatio and swallowing and I believe that everything done in sex that contributes to mutual pleasure is natural and good.& In my fellatio experience with more than five males, I've only ever had two male partners who seemed hesitant and not fully able to relax enough to cum.& Both did eventually cum, after more effort and creativity on my part. I was surprised to see this topic, and grateful for the learning experience, as until now I was not aware that it's possible for men to experience difficulty or obstacles to& achieving orgasm from fellatio. | 2007-01-30 14:12:18 |
| 385 | 3670 | Why has this thread died out? such a nice one. Just the thought of cunnilingus turns me on. I love cunnilingus and do it often in 69 position. But i love cumming inside the pus sy than in mouth. In all blowjobs i got in the last over 30 years of my sex life, I might have cum about like 10-15 times in the mouth. I dont mind the female cumming in my mouth when am eating her out but I love to cum inside her puss y than in mouth. Just love the sticky slippery feel of cum when am sliding in and out. I wonder if any males, females share the same feeling. | 2007-02-10 03:07:23 |
| 385 | 3690 | Males have difficulty getting the right 'thinking'. Most females are nervous and often reluctant to give head. I had a partner who loved me giving her cunninglingus and orgasmed freely. She hesitated about sucking my penis, I never pushed her to. One morning she got some honey and trickled it over the glans and began to lick it off. Well after all the honey was gone she was sucking firmly around the glans and rim of the shaft. She used her tongue to lick over the glans and excited me when licking the opening at the tip. After a while she stopped and said she didn't want me to ejaculate, so I did stop and quickly went flacid. I have never had a partner who has willingly given me fellatio and as a result I have always found it too difficult to ejaculate. I agree with Funmanhere when he says 'I love to cum inside her pussy.' 'Just love the sticky slippery feel of cum when am sliding in and out.' I prefer to last longer and use her cum. I don't think I would be a disappointment like Evil_Kitten has 'See I have to stop in the middle even before he orgasms." I'm sure I would last all the way through and perhaps if Ladybug 'I usually stop after he orgasms, but sometimes I like to lick it a little more... and then he tries to push me off because it tickles him.' very gently licked I would last until another orgasm. (my thoughts and 'excitement') I've noticed that if I ejaculate too quickly my penis becomes more sensitive, whereas if it is during a longer more'erotic' climax I will last longer and keep 'hard', not flacid nor erect. Strong thinking and open discussion is very important for both partners to enjoy oral sex | 2007-02-13 05:56:44 |
| 385 | 3755 | I am surprised at a lot of the replies to this topic, which is great, always nice to broaden your horizons. i have no problem with oral sex and am quite pleased and comfortable with performing fellatio on my boyfriend. he is uncircumcised, something i had to get used to, but i find that being able to manipulate the foreskin while using my mouth is a very deft and effective technique. He orgasms both through oral and vaginal activity,& but the two are quite different from each other. Usually I can get a better result through oral because i find i have more control (and I am not so distracted by my own pleasure) but as others here have mentioned he does prefer to cum inside me in the traditional sense. for this reason we switch it up quite often, but when I really want to draw him to an end, it is usually with my mouth. I can make him sweat through the bed and collapse until he can't walk, get dizzy with the rush of blood to the& head if he is lying down, or contract so hard with his abdominals that it hurts.& It is immensely satisfying, maybe even more for me than for him. there is nothing I enjoy more than knowing that I am giving him pleasure, and he is always willing to return the favour. i agree, I am sure this is totally dependant on your head space at the time. We don't prefer one type of sex to the other, it simply depends on the mood at the moment and the sensuality you put into the act. If one or neither or you are interested in what is going on, no one will enjoy it. It's absolutely a personal thing, and I don't for a second imagine that every couple would do the same or agree with me. | 2007-02-26 03:09:48 |
| 385 | 3756 | That is very good to hear. You both have 'discovered' intimate love for each other. Speaking out of turn, since I am circumcised, I believe you when you say 'but i find that being able to manipulate the foreskin while using my mouth is a very deft and effective technique.' would be very sensational on his glans. His being protected more with foreskin than mine and yet I know how sensitive my glans is. 1 question is 'he is uncircumcised, something i had to get used to' What did you have to get used to the taste?, smell? 'I can get a better result through oral because i find i have more control when I really want to draw him to an end,' I totally agree with that statement. I always find oral or masturbation the complete ejaculation ans sensation 'it is usually with my mouth. I can make him sweat through the bed and collapse until he can't walk, get dizzy with the rush of blood to the& head if he is lying down, or contract so hard with his abdominals that it hurts.& It is immensely satisfying, maybe even more for me than for him. there is nothing I enjoy more than knowing that I am giving him pleasure, and he is always willing to return the favour.' What a wonderful partnership | 2007-02-26 04:18:00 |
| 385 | 3791 | [user=640]Enjoy[/user] wrote: "1 question is 'he is uncircumcised, something i had to get used to' What did you have to get used to the taste?, smell? " & Sounds silly, but in reality it was simply the construction of it all. I was not sexually experienced before meeting my boyfriend, so while i did have a certain idea to what I was doing (I think anyone can figure things out by themselves to a certain point) I was afraid of hurting him, if pulling back the foreskin was painful, or just what felt best in general. Because I initiated this type of oral activity, he was very understanding and gently helpful. I think if he had asked for it from me first I wouldn't have been so comfortable with learning something so intimate. As for smell and taste, wonderful pretty much describes my feelings. I never worry about cleanliness (we shower enough together for me to feel very comfortable about his hygiene :P) and simply put, I find the salty headiness of his sweat incredibly enticing. It just puts thoughts of warmth, closeness and pleasure in my head, none of which are at all a turnoff. | 2007-03-01 03:55:19 |
| 385 | 3792 | When your b/f is giving you oral sex, plenty of head, do you get the same sensations you describe he gets as you give him 'head' :P If you can make him collapse until he can't walk, get dizzy with the rush of blood to the& head What sensations do you get from his sucking on your vulva. Does sucking or licking make you feel sensational?& :D or do you prefer other methods, vaginal intercourse, masturbation, nipple massage etc | 2007-03-01 06:07:16 |
| 385 | 3799 | [user=640]Enjoy[/user] wrote: "When your b/f is giving you oral sex, plenty of head, do you get the same sensations you describe he gets as you give him 'head' :P If you can make him collapse until he can't walk, get dizzy with the rush of blood to the& head What sensations do you get from his sucking on your vulva. Does sucking or licking make you feel sensational?& :D or do you prefer other methods, vaginal intercourse, masturbation, nipple massage etc"I'd have to say that I like it all.& Sometimes I think about what it would be like to be put in my boyfriends shoes and then him in mine, and feel what it's like to have the opposite done.& But oral sex is one of my favorites.& My boyfriend really is amazing.& I do also love intercourse because I love having the feeling of him inside me. :) I really can't wait until I go home this weekend. 0:-)@};-[img]/sexforum/images/emoticons/08.gif[/img] | 2007-03-01 14:46:41 |
| 385 | 3800 | [user=116]Ladybug[/user] wrote: "[user=640]Enjoy[/user] wrote: "When your b/f is giving you oral sex, plenty of head, do you get the same sensations you describe he gets as you give him 'head' If you can make him collapse until he can't walk, get dizzy with the rush of blood to the& head What sensations do you get from his sucking on your vulva. Does sucking or licking make you feel sensational?& or do you prefer other methods, vaginal intercourse, masturbation, nipple massage etc" I do also love intercourse because I love the feeling of having him inside me. :) " Unfortunately, my reaction isn't quite as strong as his :P, although it does feel "sensational" to put it into those words. I tend to lose feeling in my legs or they cramp up (I guess that could have to do with the blood rushing elsewhere, which is a similarity) but intercourse itself is my favorite because, as Ladybug said, I love the feeling of having him inside me. Actually, I find the idea of having someone enter me the most erotic of all that the imagination could come up with, despite the fact that it& is the& basic principle of sex. & Again, I think a lot of it comes down to how much you can control. It is easier (I think) to properly manipulate the male genitalia orally than the female simply because it is& the& less hidden and secret of the two. That said however, there are tricks to the male body as well of course. Finding the tiny little bundles of concentrated nerve sites always fills me with the greatest joy, as his reaction is constantly priceless. All you need is the touch of the very tip of your tongue in that perfect place and... There are other ways in which he can create a similar response in me. i am lucky enough to be bestowed with very sensitive breasts, and often the feeling of him just caressing and exploring my body with his hands is enough for me. (blindfolds help too.) As far as vaginal or genital stimulation goes, I love it when he fingers me. The deep concentration and pleasure on his face when he is watching what he is doing effects me greatly because I love knowing that he finds it erotic. But my most& especially loved method is when I am lying on my stomach and he is reaching underneith me from behind. Drives me mental!& | 2007-03-01 20:12:55 |
| 385 | 3820 | I have a fear that if my boyfriend ejaculates in my mouth i will get a throat infection. I have also heard that if a man has bad oral hygiene he can give a woman a bacterial infection in her vagina. i have gotten and given and neither excite me as much& the penis in the vagina route. | 2007-03-03 02:10:33 |
| 385 | 3833 | Very true Pink, nothing to compare the deep long slow slippery and hot thrusts inside. If you are uncomfortable or not sure about the cleanliness of your man's dick, just carry on the traditional good ole fashion. You like being eaten out? [user=1413]pinklady[/user] wrote: "I have a fear that if my boyfriend ejaculates in my mouth i will get a throat infection. I have also heard that if a man has bad oral hygiene he can give a woman a bacterial infection in her vagina. i have gotten and given and neither excite me as much& the penis in the vagina route." | 2007-03-05 02:57:01 |
| 385 | 3842 | yes, if he can find the pleasure spot. I have found that some men don't know where to find it.& I have pointed and guided and still no results. & Just like some men say that some women just dont get it when it comes to blowjobs and i am one of these women. | 2007-03-05 23:24:07 |
| 385 | 3859 | [user=1413]pinklady[/user] wrote: "yes, if he can find the pleasure spot. I have found that some men don't know where to find it.& I have pointed and guided and still no results. & Just like some men say that some women just dont get it when it comes to blowjobs and i am one of these women."hmm... how long have you two been going out? Sometimes it take time for people to understand each other's bodies.& I have had trouble with my boyfriend pleasing me a couple times, but with time it has gotten so much better.& Does he tell you what exactly he wants from a blowjob?& Do you actually enjoy it? If your heart isn't fully into it, then the job won't be performed as well as it can be. Practicing these things can help a lot! | 2007-03-07 18:34:36 |
| 385 | 3862 | you are so right. This man that i am with now knows my body. I have experienced this in the past. But as far as affection this man does not show any at all, I am now in the process of teaching him to hug me at least once a day. We have been together for five years. I just dont understand why he dosent show affection outside of the bedroom. He said he has always been this way. ( off topic but i thought i would put this in). No i am not comfortable giving head. I have found out about flavored condoms and he say that he enjoys this when i give him head this way. But i can tell it is not the same. | 2007-03-07 23:53:54 |
| 385 | 3886 | [user=1413]pinklady[/user] wrote: "you are so right. This man that i am with now knows my body. I have experienced this in the past. But as far as affection this man does not show any at all, I am now in the process of teaching him to hug me at least once a day. We have been together for five years. I just dont understand why he dosent show affection outside of the bedroom. He said he has always been this way. ( off topic but i thought i would put this in). No i am not comfortable giving head. I have found out about flavored condoms and he say that he enjoys this when i give him head this way. But i can tell it is not the same." Affection has a lot to upbrining (usually), my dad used to never really be affectionate (or so says my mom) until he met my mom.& My dad's side of the family is very I guess you can say stiff when it comes to showing affection. It's good that you're trying to get him used to it.& I once pointed out to my boyfriend that we usually don't hug, and I love hugs, so I try to get it going more when I see him. You see, if you're not comfortable giving head, then it's not going to be a good experience for the both of you.& Sometimes giving head isn't for everyone.& I personally love it, and my boyfriend can tell I do.& If I didn't, I'm pretty sure he could tell.& Have you ever talked to your boyfriend about it?& Communication is so important when I comes down to sex. Condoms are definitely different with the way things feels.& Have you ever heard of the throat numbing stuff?& I haven't tried it, but I've seen it in sex stores, it's flavored stuff you but in the back of your mouth to numb your gag reflex.& It could be helpful, I'm not sure. I hope I haven't offended you or anything.& I just want to feel like I can help some. | 2007-03-11 20:58:31 |
| 385 | 3890 | No way have you offended me i am grateful for the reply. I was thinking that maybe this might be true about his upbringing not being able to show affection. But then i also think if someone really wants to touch you nothing is going to stop them from showing affection. My mother raised me with out hugs and i am very affectionate. I also will not try the non condom method with my partner because of the b.v. thing. | 2007-03-12 12:42:19 |
| 385 | 3892 | [user=1413]pinklady[/user] wrote: "No way have you offended me i am grateful for the reply. I was thinking that maybe this might be true about his upbringing not being able to show affection. But then i also think if someone really wants to touch you nothing is going to stop them from showing affection. My mother raised me with out hugs and i am very affectionate. I also will not try the non condom method with my partner because of the b.v. thing." I guess in some ways upbringings to play a roll.& I think it also depends on our personalities. :) My dad's brother's family isn't very huggy kissy, and never were really affectionate, my cousin the only girl out of 4, was always the one to want that kind of attention hugs and kisses as well as one of here brothers. You could try using a flavored condom as well as the throat numbing stuff. | 2007-03-12 14:44:56 |
| 385 | 3896 | Hi, I would recommend practicing with a dildo or equivalent so you aren't under any pressure. Find an adult& video with a scene of fellatio that you like and then try what is shown. That way you don't have to take more into your mouth than you are ready for, and don't have to worry about ejaculation. You can pick a small dildo to start out and then work your way up. When you are comfortable doing it alone then try it with your partner. I would recommend relaxation and practice over a numbing agent, as your gag reflex is a normal and desirable reflex, most of the time. Adult film star Nina Hartley wont do deep throat, as she said she values her gag reflex. Use you hand or hands to limit how much he can insert into your mouth. You also can simply lick and kiss his penis and not take the glans into your mouth, or only the glans. Brad | 2007-03-12 20:32:44 |
| 387 | 2374 | Hi, in Europe, it is not common for men to be circumcised, unless for religious or medical reasons. So, most men i had sex with (which are not soo many) were not. Now i have an affair with a& guy who is circumcised,& it is a new& and interesting experience for me, and i would like to get more informations,& opinions and experiences. Boys/Men: Are you circumcised? Why/why not? Would you do it?& How does it feel? Are there differences in hygiene, sex...? Girls/Women: What are your experiences? What are for you the advantages and disadvantages of a circumcised penis? What do you prefer? Thanx Doolittle | 2006-08-13 13:24:47 |
| 387 | 2376 | Hi, This is a subject that traditionally I have not permitted on my forums, as the discussions are not usually constructive. If this one become like that I will remove it and any member who causes it to become that way. So watch your P&Qs. Challenge ideas not people!!! I am circumcised, but only the top half of my foreskin was removed. Except for an area around my frenum my penis seems to be numb to sexual stimulation.& :( I don't know that circumcision is the cause, but I do know my penis is not in its original and natural state. The foreskin, in men and women, is not extra tissue but serves many vital functions. The glans of the penis and clitoris undergo physical changes as a result of the removal of the protective foreskin. How is it that even though the male and female foreskins are the same and produce the same substances, like sebum, but the male foreskin is thought to be harmful to women? Shouldn't a woman's own foreskin pose a health risk to her too? If having a foreskin was truly detrimental to our existence then we would have died out as a species thousands of years ago. The AMERICAN ACADEMY OF PEDIATRICS no longer supports routine circumcision. Their policy statement is linked to below. aappolicy.aappublications.org/cgi/content/full/pediatrics;103/3/686 It seems everything causes cancer and I have not seen any proof of the claims that women with partners who have uncircumcised penises are significantly more likely to get cervical cancer. The reported increased risk may have cultural or hygienic origins not a medical one. I believe the risk of cervical cancer is reported to be 2 times greater in women with partners who are not circumcised. I believe, a woman is 20 times more likely to get breast cancer than cervical cancer but we do not recommend the removal of an infant girls breasts, even though breasts are no longer required to feed infants, and many women don't use them for this purpose. Some women are even voluntarily having their breasts removed because of a high risk of cancer in their family. I am not recommend that we do this, only making a point. We are selective in how we want to look at things. Male circumcision became popular because it was thought to eliminate male masturbation, and some even removed the hood from the clitoris expecting the same result in girls. There was no medical evidence at the time to support this practice, and the medical community didn't have the means of doing so at the time. American society was much more anti-masturbation than the rest of the world. Here are some links from the main website: [url=www.cirp.org/library/normal/aap/]Newborns: Care of the Uncircumcised Penis [url=www.cirp.org/]Circumcision Information and Resource Pages [url=www.foreskin.org/]Foreskin.org [url=www.sexasnatureintendedit.com/]Circumcision Affects Male Sexuality and the Female Partner's Pleasure. Well, that is my opinion on the subject. Brad | 2006-08-13 14:40:57 |
| 387 | 2379 | & I once had a boyfriend that was uncircumsized. He was unaware of the fact, and never knew how to take care of himself in that sense.& His parents never taught him good hygiene. My boyfriend is circumsized.& We've talked about circumcisions before and he said that he wishes that he wasn't because he hears how great it is to not be. He's just very curious about how it would feel.& I prefer my partners to be circumsized since my first experience with a uncut penis, just ruined it for me.& I need someone that knows about their body and to have great personal hygiene. | 2006-08-14 15:08:16 |
| 387 | 2380 | I am circumcized and I have no complaints.& There are really two conflicts that come up with circumcision, and that is hygiene and sexual pleasure. In the question of hygiene, it's no secret that having a foreskin requires additional care.& It's not that hygiene is impossible when uncircumcized, but it does require some extra care.& One of the sites that brad linked compared it to having to pay extra attention to other areas of the body where dirt and grime collect more than others.& Those areas are simply more prone to hygienic problems like infection.& It's easily avoidable, but with something as important as my penis, I'd rather not have to worry about it.& The price of this convenience?& A moment of discomfort right after birth that I don't even remember. As for sexual pleasure, I think the argument is moot.& For all intents and purposes, circumcision is performed on children or young men before they can experience sex.& The number of adult men who get circumcized after becoming sexually active is not sufficient to make a judgement on which is more pleasurable, and aside from the ultra-rare cases of men who have artificial foreskins added in adulthood, the number of men who go from circumcized to uncircumcized is obviously non-existent.& Aside from the statistical problems, you have to recognize that sexual pleasure cannot be quantified.& We normally agree that it's impossible to explain what an orgasm feels like in anything more accurate than fumbling metaphors, so to communicate the degree of sexual pleasure from a circumsized man to an uncircumsized man is a total waste of time. Being circumcized, I can personally vouch for the fact that any desensitization caused by circumcision is not significant enough to inhibit my physical pleasure.& I have no problems achieving an erection or an orgasm.& The fact that cirumcision has been routinely practiced in cultures around the globe for millenia supports my personal experience I think.& If cirumcision was so detrimental to male sexual pleasure, it would have been stopped centuries ago. As for the site that brad linked discussing the effect of circumcision on female pleasure, one of the first things anyone who is interested in female sexuality learns is that women overwhelmingly respond to clitoral stimulation instead of vaginal stimulation.& I think any impact that male cirumcision has on female sexuality is largely psychological.& The glans itself does not become especially hard during an erection. Only the shaft of the penis, around the tip of which the glans is "wrapped", actually hardens during an erection, so the comparison of an uncirumcized penis to a harpoon or a fish hook is completely off the mark.& I got the impression that this site was made by someone who felt insecure about being uncirumcized. | 2006-08-14 18:38:06 |
| 387 | 2381 | I have been circumsised at birth, as was tradition. I'm sure my parents would not have known any difference in the so called attributes of uncircumsised males. I have had intercourse with females who I know would previousley had intercourse with uncircumsised men and no-one has complained of any pain or discomfort. Quite on the contrary really. I am grateful for the body I have and I am sure it hasn't been intentionally disadvantaged. I find intercourse much more than having orgasm, in fact, the most enjoyment I have during intercourse is seeing my partner enjoy, not necessarily orgasm, the experience. Love making to me is about touching, feeling and communicating. Intercourse is mind expanding and stimulating. It is not the most sexually stimulating act, it is the most pleasing to be communicating through the senses of our bodies. I don't believe it is the size, shape, circumsized or uncircumsized penis that makes intercourse more stimulating. I believe it is the person, or couple, who are performing the act. As an extra comment to Brad's message, I congratulate both Brad and Princess for their careful control and encouragement for members to ask detailed questions and for responses to come from members detailing physical, both technical and personal information and most importantly emotional feelings. I have known a lot about my body for years and know a reasonable amount about other people. My learning has grown a huge amount form the information I have gained from this site and it is pleasing to know it discourages 'porn' and any degrading information. Thanks for this. Enjoy | 2006-08-14 20:07:02 |
| 387 | 2384 | I'm circumcised.& I am under the impression that I may be missing out on something extra, because of it. | 2006-08-15 20:52:48 |
| 387 | 2802 | I have watched a video from a site recommended by Brad and Princess on another post and I believe it is really worth considering when asking the question on circumcision, male or female. asp.noterik.com/video/michael/CIRCUMCISION.mov I can only say I'm really glad I was circumcised when I was born to avoid the pain felt. I'm not really glad that I was circumcised at all. More particularly after watching the video. I still believe it is the owner of the penis who is responsible for the 'quality' of the action and now, more than ever, believe if a male is left intact it would be more pleasurable by both partners in intercourse | 2006-09-23 07:46:20 |
| 387 | 2827 | your link does& not work. | 2006-09-24 20:02:32 |
| 387 | 2829 | It worked okay for me, but it appears to be a very large file; I still waiting for the download to complete. You need Quicktime installed in order to view it. [url=www.apple.com/quicktime/download/] www.apple.com/quicktime/download/ The file is 134 Megabytes in size! Brad | 2006-09-24 22:33:57 |
| 387 | 2886 | I was fortunate in the fact that even though I was born and raised in the US, I was not circumsized.& My parents felt the procedure was unneeded and cruel.& I am quite happy with their decision seeing how most parents do it "just because." I'm a huge fan of the Showtime series Penn and Teller's Bullshit, which has an entire episode devoted to circumcision (primarily male circumcision, but it dabbles slightly in female circumcision if my memory serves me correctly).& The video that was linked in this thread also contained some of the same clips that was in the Penn and Teller program, and it covered the same matierial, just in a less humourous and less angry way. " As for sexual pleasure, I think the argument is moot." I'm gonna disagree with that.& Reason being, I have had erections at times, usually at very bad times, like when I am walking around in public, in which my foreskin was pulled back (sometimes an erection will pull the skin all the way back) and my penis rubbed up against the inside of my jeans.& It hurts like motherfuckin crazy.& It will even sting when I pee later.& That happens pretty rarely, but if there is not foreskin, that would happen with almost every erection when fully clothed.& From what I can gather, it doesn't bother guys whom are circumsized much, which leads me to believe that their penis is less sensitive, and thusly it takes more stimulation to lead into orgasm.& This is without even putting how the foreskin is pulled back when inserted into the vagina and comes forward when pulling out which adds another source of stimulation.& To say that circumcision doesn't deny a man of some sexual pleasure would just be silly; however, by no means does it mean that he can't have an incredibly healthy and normal sexlife with a circumsized penis. "The number of adult men who get circumcized after becoming sexually active is not sufficient to make a judgement on which is more pleasurable, and aside from the ultra-rare cases of men who have artificial foreskins added in adulthood, the number of men who go from circumcized to uncircumcized is obviously non-existent." So in the cases of people who have restored their foreskins... you are saying that their testimonies are not valid cause they are a rare case of people who decided to go through this process?& That doesn't make much sense to me.& Just because this is a rareity doesn't mean you can throw this information to the wind.& How many men are brave enough to go through the process of restoring themselves?& How many men question circumcision to the point that they would bother trying? & If you could provide evidence of people who have gone through this process and then was dissapointed with the results I would then question my opinion that having a foreskin is more pleasurable than not.& Untill then your claims of the foreskin not providing more pleasure is moot, as it isn't backed up by anything other than opinion.& Also, I would like to point out that I am making a debate out of this, and nothing I have said is out of malice.& I don't want you to think that I am flaming you for your opinion. Another added bonus about not being circumsized.& I had always wondered why guys needed lubricant in order to masterbate.& With a foreskin it's entirely uneeded for masterbation.& You are ready to go whenever/wherever. | 2006-09-30 23:50:00 |
| 387 | 3990 | From what I've heard, it seems most circumcisions are done because of religion or tradition. There's a recent report about circumcision lowers the risk of getting HIV/AIDS by 30%, but my view is one should not have sex outside of marriage or use condoms at least, so circumcision will not really help. In fact,& using& circumcision as a way of preventing HIV/AIDS may lead people to commit more risky behavior thinking they will not get HIV. | 2007-04-06 23:26:58 |
| 387 | 4647 | I was circumcised and wish I hadn't. I have had problems achieving orgasm during vaginal intercourse, though I'm not sure if that is because of the circumcision or not. I have a daughter, but my wife and I had discussed it and had we had or if we have a son, we will not circumcise him. There are arguments for and against, and I understand Brad's point of keeping this discussion civil as there are some very strong opinions on both sides of the argument. If I should have a son I want him to decide if that is something he wants. Once it's removed it can't be returned. | 2007-08-12 13:24:17 |
| 387 | 4667 | As a woman, I feel it is always best to let the boy grow up into an adult and then make the decision for himself being able to fully understand the pros and cons etc... It's always sad when you get them grow up wishing they hadn't been snipped and knowing there is now nothing they can do to change it. | 2007-08-12 17:21:25 |
| 387 | 4672 | [user=315]Canis Lupess[/user] wrote: "As a woman, I feel it is always best to let the boy grow up into an adult and then make the decision for himself being able to fully understand the pros and cons etc... It's always sad when you get them grow up wishing they hadn't been snipped and knowing there is now nothing they can do to change it. " Painful too. Physically painful removing the foreskin, as an adult this would be more of a reason not too be circumsized. Interestingly Australia Government has opted out of payng ofr circumcision saying there is no evidence to support it on 'health' reasons and if the parents want thier son circumcised they should pay for it themselves. A saving to the Government of 2$million | 2007-08-13 03:19:53 |
| 387 | 4675 | Good. I mean, if the foreskin was so detrimental to health, mother nature wouldn't have boys be born with them. It's an excuse if you ask me. Here in the UK, circumcision isn't routine like in other countries such as the US. I think certain religions are the most likely to do it here. Otherwise, it is only done on medical grounds. There are plenty of uncircumsized men in the UK and they don't have problems because they weren't circumsized. | 2007-08-13 08:05:10 |
| 387 | 4683 | [user=315]Canis Lupess[/user] wrote: "Good. I mean, if the foreskin was so detrimental to health, mother nature wouldn't have boys be born with them. It's an excuse if you ask me. Here in the UK, circumcision isn't routine like in other countries such as the US. I think certain religions are the most likely to do it here. Otherwise, it is only done on medical grounds. There are plenty of uncircumsized men in the UK and they don't have problems because they weren't circumsized. " Mother nature can't keep up with us.& We weren't meant to do a lot of the things we do that pose a risk to us, and our bodies haven't always adapted to deal with it.& Likewise, not all of our useless body parts have been eliminated via evolution (i.e. the appendix). The foreskin itself isn't a health hazard, it just provides an environment more prone to infection than the circumcized penis.& Does that mean a foreskin can't be kept healthy? No, of course not, it just means it's a higher risk.& Even though proper hygiene can reliably prevent basic infection, the foreskin still provides a more infection-prone environment for STIs, and you only need to be exposed one time for some of these diseases to impact your life forever. I understand that most circumcision has been done for religious and cultural reasons, but the recent studies investigating circumcision and HIV transmission rates have been pretty stunning.& I could personally care less about those traditions, but hearing about the health benefits makes me happy to be circumcized. | 2007-08-14 18:14:29 |
| 387 | 4698 | Written by a doctor in the UK. It doesn't support the idea that Circumcision has enough health benefits to be warranted. Of course, if you are personally happy to be circumsized then thats all that matters as far as you're concerned. "Circumcision to prevent future disease Prevention of disease is the second most commonly given reason for circumcision after religious reasons, although the evidence that it has any beneficial effect on future health is very poor. The practice is, more likely, rooted in cultural traditions, although western societies may find this an uncomfortable conclusion. Penile cancer Cancer of the penis is an extremely rare disease and, in the early part of the last century, was almost unheard of in circumcised men. However, there is some evidence that circumcision may only offer protection from penile cancer if done in childhood, and adult surgery may not offer any protection. Poor personal hygiene, smoking and exposure to wart virus (human papilloma virus) increase the risk of developing penile cancer at least as much as being uncircumcised. Circumcised men are more at risk from penile warts than uncircumcised men, and the risk of developing penile cancer is now almost equal in the two groups. Therefore, routine circumcision cannot be recommended to prevent penile cancer. Sexually transmitted diseases Sexually transmitted infections that cause ulcers on the genitals (syphilis, chancroid, herpes simplex) are more common in uncircumcised men. However, urethritis or inflammation of the tube that carries urine through the penis (caused by gonorrhoea and non-gonococcal urethritis) is more common in circumcised men, as are penile warts. Yeast infection (caused by candida or thrush) is equally common in circumcised and uncircumcised men, although circumcised men are less likely to have symptoms with this infection so they are more likely to unknowingly pass on thrush to their sexual partners. Far more effective and reliable methods than circumcision exist to reduce the risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases, such as the use of condoms and adoption of safer sexual practices. Thus circumcision cannot be recommended to prevent these infections. Human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) infection Views conflict on whether circumcision can prevent [url=www.netdoctor.co.uk/menshealth/sexlife/hiv_aids.htm] HIV infection . A recent review in the British Journal of Urology concluded that there is no link between having an intact foreskin and HIV infection, whereas another paper in the British Medical Journal takes exactly the opposite view. Circumcision may be appropriate as a routine preventive measure only in regions that have a high rate of HIV infection, such as sub-Saharan Africa. The existing evidence is inadequate to recommend circumcision as an HIV-preventive measure in the UK. Cervical cancer A study in 1947 reported that Jewish women rarely developed cervical cancer and the author attributed this finding to the fact that their sexual partners were circumcised. Further studies over the past 50 years have had contradictory conclusions, with experts enthusiastically championing the case for and against circumcision. The evidence is inadequate to recommend it as a preventive measure against cervical cancer. Urinary tract infection (UTI) Since 1987, several studies have suggested that uncircumcised male infants are up to 10 times more likely to contract a [url=www.netdoctor.co.uk/menshealth/facts/urinaryinfection.htm] urinary tract infection (UTI) . One in 100 uncircumcised infants will develop a UTI, compared with 1 in 1000 circumcised infants. A UTI is not usually a great risk to health, so it does not seem reasonable to perform a surgical procedure on 100 infants to reduce the risk of one developing UTI. " | 2007-08-15 15:10:42 |
| 387 | 4700 | No, clearly circumcision by itself does not prevent the transmission of disease.& It merely removes a disease-friendly environment that serves no crucial purpose that reduces the occurance of transmission.& The reason women are more at risk for contracting disease than men is because the vagina provides an ideal breeding environment for these diseases.& It is moist, wet, and dark, and it retains deposited fluids rather well.& That is exactly what a foreskin does.& It creates a pocket where fluids bearing infectious material can remain in direct contact with the skin for prolonged periods. The WHO (i believe) recently released the results of a large study in Africa on the impact of circumcision on HIV transmission rates.& I may be remembering the wrong study, but I believe the effects were so noticeable that the study was cut short because they felt they didn't need to continue.& There have been several studies run in Africa in recent years on ways to reduce HIV transmission, and this has come up as one of the most effective ways aside from condoms.& Obviously you should always use a condom, but even if you do, condoms are unreliable, and not everyone is wise enough to use them (and some people refuse them for religious reasons). If the question is whether or not it should be done to a child?& That, I suppose, is a difficult question to answer.& But I trust the studies that show the health benefits of circumcision.& The only other complaint I've read opposing circumcision is a supposed loss of sensation, but I, for one, have never experienced that problem. | 2007-08-15 15:30:24 |
| 387 | 4702 | Still, a guy who was circumcised at birth would not know any difference regarding sensation. After all, if he doesn't know what the sensation would be like with a foreskin, he has nothing to compare to. Only those who were circumcised in adulthood have complained about reduced sensation afterwards. This could mean that& a guy who was snipped at birth& could have experienced more intense sensation had he been left intact....but he is unable to know any difference. Of course, you trust the health benefits but I still& don't think that anything really warrants it as routine in infants& and as most guys in the UK are intact these days and circumcision is not routine and guys here cope fine with their intact todgers.:P The same doc that wrote the previous quote I posted also says this: "Should we avoid circumcision? The foreskin is not simply a useless piece of skin, to be disposed of without careful thought. It forms the covering of the head (glans) of the penis in men and the clitoris in women. It is very rich in nerves responsible for touch and the movement of the foreskin backwards and forwards over the glans provides some of the pleasurable sensation experienced during sex. Adult males that were circumcised as infants do not usually report sexual problems linked with their circumcision, perhaps because they have never experienced sexual sensation with a foreskin. However, men circumcised as sexually active adults quite frequently complain of sexual problems arising from either reduced or altered penile sensation." Obviously, he doesn't agree that the foreskin is a useless piece of skin that evolution hasn't managed to get rid of yet. He also says this: "Conclusions Circumcision remains a controversial procedure, as it has been for thousands of years. Male circumcision is vitally important to some religious and cultural groups. Hopefully, the use of general anaesthesia for infant circumcision will increase. Medical and religious authorities should work together to promote this change. Very few absolute medical reasons exist for circumcision, and no reasons exist to justify routine circumcision of infants outside areas with a high rate of HIV infection. Far too many circumcisions are performed without good reason in Europe and the USA. The best advice is 'if it isn't absolutely necessary, don't circumcise'." LOL, he's correct about the contraversial bit. I don't suppose everyone is ever going to agree about certain aspects of circumcision. I just don't agree with circumcising infants for the sake of it and several grown men in this thread alone& having wished they'd not had it done is the only& reason for that so the health issues etc...don't really matter as much to me. It's just the fact that the guys feel deprived of choice about their own antomy that bothers me and nothing else. Of course, if you don't feel that way, great, but routine cisumcision on infants will always produce plenty of men who wished they'd not had it done and been allowed to make the choice for themselves.:( | 2007-08-15 16:47:44 |
| 387 | 4703 | What I mean by not experiencing sensation issues is that I've never had trouble receiving enough stimulation at the glans to the point of being unable to enjoy myself.& Frankly, I think there is such a thing as TOO sensitive.& Some women report being unable to touch their clitorises directly due to hypersensitivity.& For a guy, where premature ejaculation can ruin a sexual experience, a small degree of desensitization ought to theoretically increase staying power in an erection, which many men would view as a benefit. | 2007-08-15 17:05:27 |
| 387 | 4706 | Still, it depends on whether a guy views it in the same light as yourself which he might not. It doesn't affect me personally but I know I wouldn't want to be tampered with as an infant without my consent. I just feel that boys should be offered this choice, not have it made for them by others when they can't do anything to prevent it. There could be health benefits, benefits with regards to sensation and all the rest but any bloke still should have the right to make these choices for himself regarding his own body. If he chooses to go ahead and things go wrong, he only has himself to blame, he can't resent anyone else or it would be unfair if he did. | 2007-08-15 17:51:06 |
| 387 | 4707 | Certainly I would not recommend childhood circumcision based on future sexual results.& I'm not religious, so I would never circumcize a child for tradition either.& It would depend on how much I believe it is a health benefit given the time.& As we know, STDs are becoming more and more prevalent. If the trend continues growing, that would be an influential factor in the decision for me. | 2007-08-15 18:11:08 |
| 387 | 4709 | Still, this could cause complacency with regards to taking precautions. It isn't uncircumsized penis's that have caused a rise in STDs and being circumsized wouldn't prevent it or stop them from& rising. I doubt that it would make much difference really, especially after reading that circumsized men are less likely to have symptoms of certain STDs and so it is easier for them to unknowingly spread it around to women they sleep with. If boys are given the impression that being circumsized can protect them against STDs and such, they might be naive enough to believe that they don't need protection as a result. It might sound daft to you but not all guys are as knowledgeable and I've heard of people believing even more stupid things...lots of people. This in itself could lead to an even bigger rise in the occurence of STDs and so could result in a total backfire.. & | 2007-08-15 18:19:13 |
| 387 | 4710 | [user=315]Canis Lupess[/user] wrote: "Still, this could cause complacency with regards to taking precautions. It isn't uncircumsized penis's that have caused a rise in STDs and being circumsized wouldn't prevent it or stop them from& rising. I doubt that it would make much difference really, especially after reading that circumsized men are less likely to have symptoms of certain STDs and so it is easier for them to unknowingly spread it around to women they sleep with. If boys are given the impression that being circumsized can protect them against STDs and such, they might be naive enough to believe that they don't need protection as a result. It might sound daft to you but not all guys are as knowledgeable and I've heard of people believing even more stupid things...lots of people. This in itself could lead to an even bigger rise in the occurence of STDs and so could result in a total backfire.. & " Well, I'd argue that complacency is already a problem or we wouldn't have the STD epidemic that we currently face.& That and ignorance.& I also dislike the word "protect" because it implies an elimination of the problem wheras it actually just reduces the risk.& The lack of education that would lead to boys thinking that circumcision alone would be total protection is the same form of education that currently leads boys to believe all the other myths about protection and contraception that are widely held today. | 2007-08-15 18:31:56 |
| 387 | 4723 | Well, yes, people are not careful enough by any means which is why there is such a problem going on. Still, circumcision will not stop guys getting STDs or prevent them from passing them on to partners so I don't think it is warranted as routine to try and cut down on the STD problem. That problem would be much better tackled via other means....easier said than done, I know. | 2007-08-16 07:39:35 |
| 387 | 4730 | [user=315]Canis Lupess[/user] wrote: "Well, yes, people are not careful enough by any means which is why there is such a problem going on. Still, circumcision will not stop guys getting STDs or prevent them from passing them on to partners so I don't think it is warranted as routine to try and cut down on the STD problem. That problem would be much better tackled via other means....easier said than done, I know."We all have our own opinions. I would like to say that circumcision should never be given as an 'excuse' to control STD's. That is an issue of education that would take a minimum of 2 generations to cause any improvoment in our world. Education is so important I value this forum for the education it offers by knowledgable and experienced people. I have been circumcised at birth and so I can only wonder at the effect it would have on the feeling or sensation around the glans. As for infections, I have always been very particular where I placed my penis and following any intercourse I had had with a not so regular partner I would wash my genitals, penis, testicles and skin surrounding with disinfectant. I can only add I have never, thankfully, had any STD or infection of any kind and I have had intercourse with several partners over the years and still do and still enjoy every one I am able to participate in. I'm looking to stopping having intercourse when I die and not before. I do know that now while my penis is in a flacid state the skin covers the glans and resembles uncircumcised penis. This has only occured in recent years, I don't know if this is common with other men or caused through 'ageing'(I'd apprediate any response). What I do notice though that if and when I do masturbate by rubbing the skin over the glans whilst in a semi flacid state, it gives another very pleasant experience. A pleasurable 'tingle' goes through the glans up the shaft, I wonder if this feeling is similiar to females with hoods covering their clitorus while masturbating and leading to orgasm. The other thing I have noticed that while my penis is flacid most of the time the glans is covered and kept 'moist'. This leads to a more comfortable glans as the skin when 'dry' tends to become slightly tender and 'scaley'. I would like to have known what an uncircumcised penis& felt like and knowing what I now know I doubt very much if Iwould have become circumcised. | 2007-08-17 04:15:37 |
| 387 | 4743 | Hi, I haven't had time to read through all the recent posts, so forgive me if others have already stated the following: You can't give yourself a STI, which means you have to get it from another person. Women also have a foreskin and produce sebum, which becomes smegma, which should be equally as harmful to them as the male foreskin is to them. In the African societies in question, which I know little about, their believes result in them having multiple sexual partners and they refuse to use condoms. In the short term, circumcision may reduce the spread of HIV, but what about over a five year period? If the men feel they are protected from HIV they may have increased numbers of sexual partners. I don't believe these studies looked at the infection rates for the women. Can a man pass the HIV virus on to his female partner's without contracting the disease himself, especially if he has sex with more than one woman a day and has poor hygiene practices? It seems just about everything causes cancer, and it is possible that it does. It is like with my recent post about HPV and throat cancer. You can lock yourself in a sealed home and produce your own natural food and you will still eventually die. Yes, we need to protect ourself as much as possible from disease, but we must still go on living in the process. Just my thoughts, Brad | 2007-08-18 12:43:46 |
| 387 | 5026 | BJU International Volume 99 Issue 4 Page 864-869, April 2007 Fine-touch pressure thresholds in the adult penis OBJECTIVE& To map the fine-touch pressure thresholds of the adult penis in circumcised and uncircumcised men, and to compare the two populations. SUBJECTS AND METHODS Adult male volunteers with no history of penile pathology or diabetes were evaluated with a Semmes-Weinstein monofilament touch-test to map the fine-touch pressure thresholds of the penis. Circumcised and uncircumcised men were compared using mixed models for repeated data, controlling for age, type of underwear worn, time since last ejaculation, ethnicity, country of birth, and level of education. RESULTS The glans of the uncircumcised men had significantly lower mean (sem) pressure thresholds than that of the circumcised men, at 0.161 (0.078)& g (P& =& 0.040) when controlled for age, location of measurement, type of underwear worn, and ethnicity. There were significant differences in pressure thresholds by location on the penis (P& <& 0.001). The most sensitive location on the circumcised penis was the circumcision scar on the ventral surface. Five locations on the uncircumcised penis that are routinely removed at circumcision had lower pressure thresholds than the ventral scar of the circumcised penis. CONCLUSIONS The glans of the circumcised penis is less sensitive to fine touch than the glans of the uncircumcised penis. The transitional region from the external to the internal prepuce is the most sensitive region of the uncircumcised penis and more sensitive than the most sensitive region of the circumcised penis. Circumcision ablates the most sensitive parts of the penis. | 2007-10-28 09:44:42 |
| 387 | 6589 | Nearly all European men who are neither Jewish nor Moslem have foreskins. A large majority of American and Canadian adult men are circumcised. North America has a big time STD problem. The USA has by far the highest rate of HIV positivity of any medically advanced nation. There are European countries where cancer of the penis is rarer than in the USA. About the only thing that routine circumcision "cures" is a variety of problems arising from a foreskin that won't retract or does so only with difficulty. These problems are easily treated given a little urological TLC. Most health problems seemingly correlated with the foreskin arise from misuse of the penis. A trashy sex life. No condoms. Indifference to washing every day with the skin pulled back. Scoffing at washing before and after sex. It is difficult for Americans to understand how the foreskin engages with sexual pleasure. Straight porn does not highlight the foreskin. American books on sex ed and how to please a woman almost never talk about the sexual role and function of the foreskin. Most clinical sex research is American, carried out by circumcised men and women married to circumcised men. When it comes to the intact penis, they simply are clueless. The foreskin is the analog of the clitoral hood, and masturbation and foreplay with that hood is an essential part of the sex lives of many women. Likewise, fingering the foreskin, and gently massaging the glans covered with foreskin are similarly sexually thrilling for men. Women with sex lives that would have made their foremothers blush are going to have to come forward, and describe their experiences with intact men in detail. And fill a short book. Until then, I fear that Yanks will remain in denial about this glorious bit of male flesh. | 2009-04-13 16:09:38 |
| 387 | 6688 | All baby boys should be circumcised. When I was a baby my parents wanted me to be circumcised. The silly doctor convinced them that I did not need it and he stretched my foreskin. When I was 3 - 6 years old& I noticed that my father's penis& was different from mine. I thought that mine would be like his when I grew up - until I was 6 and my baby brother was circumcised. When I was 7 - 8 I discovered that most of my best friends had been cut. Boys of that age compare penises and I discovered that the penises of my friends who had been cut looked and felt much nicer than mine or uncircumcised friends. & About that time my sister said that she thought our brother's penis looked nicer than mine. I then began to hate my foreskin. Every time I had to go to the doctor I wanted to ask him to circumcise me, but I never had the courage. In my teens, from talking to friends, I discovered that circumcised friends were given oral sex by girls much more often than me or uncircumcised friends. Still I had not the courage to ask my doctor to get rid of my foreskin. & When I was in my early 20s and married to a pretty& German blonde, we discovered that when we made love it felt much better for both of us if she held my foreskin tightly back with her hand (that way my penis caused more friction with her sensitive parts - she said a loose foreskin was no better than a thick condom). Obviously that was not ideal, so at last I asked my doctor to circumcise me. He agreed to do it free, but insisted that I would have to stay in hospital overnight. Being a shy young man I was embarrassed about what the nurses would think, so one lunch hour& I went to a private doctor in Harley Street, London, and had it done with local anaesthetic. It took no longer than a visit to the dentist, and I went right back to my office. When I got home my wife couldn't wait to have a look, but of& course she couldn't see much because of a bandage. But within& two weeks we were having greatly improved sex! And since then my second wife (Chinese) and all my lovers in between marriages and since& my second wife& left me, have told me that they were glad I had been circumcised. & My most recent lover, a Chinese student, now sadly back in China, had never seen a circumcised penis before mine and she couldn't get enough of it! She said that if her future fiance is not circumcised she will insist that he is before she marries him. & When between marriages I was close friends with a beautiful girl. I fancied her tremendously but she made it clear that she wanted only to be friends until one day she suddenly asked "Are you circumcised?" I said "Yes" and she blushed and asked "May I have a look?" Of course I said "Yes, if you want to." She unzipped me, gazed at my penis, stroked him, giving me the best erection ever, and then sucked him. You can guess what happened after that. It was wonderful for a few weeks but& sadly it& couldn't last. & For me I suppose the two& best things since being circumcised& have been giving increased pleasure to my lovers and& being given spontaneous& oral sex in the most unlikely places! Who would give oral sex to an uncircumcised man unless his penis had just been washed ? ?& Stopping foreplay to go and wash& is such a turn off ! ! & So that is why I am now very pleased that I was at last& circumcised - my only regret is that it was not done as a baby. I suppose it is interesting to have made love and masturbated with and without a foreskin - but I know which I prefer. & As for my size - not large, just average I think (6.5 inches), but no lover ever complained. I think the main thing has been that I have always been able to keep an erection for a long time, and to start again fairly soon after an orgasm. But also, I never get tired of using my fingers and tongue, for as long as my lovers want. & I'll be very interested to know what you think about my story, and to have any comments you may have. & Rik & ) | 2009-07-05 07:46:07 |
| 387 | 6692 | The moment of truth will arrive after your 50th birthday, after your tender male pink bits have been in close contact with your drawers for a few decades. Being cut does indeed render the quickie BJ less unappetizing. So? Being intact facilitates the quickie HJ. In any event, I do not see facilitating quickie BJs as something important, when cleaning up a ripe intact penis takes all of 20 seconds at a sink. In particular, it is not a sufficient reason to alter permanently an infant's sexual anatomy. Irreversible cosmetic surgery for sexual purposes should not be done until the subject is 21 or 25. In Europe, China, and much of the world, cut is exotic and as such can be quite erogenous for some ladies. I don't care to alter myself to cater to that fetish. Likewise, there are adventurous North American women for whom intact is similarly erogenous. There are still millions of quiet women for whom the person behind the penis is far far far more important than how his penis looks. | 2009-07-05 14:53:00 |
| 387 | 6693 | As for infections, I have always been very particular where I placed my penis and following any intercourse I had had with a not so regular partner I would wash my genitals, penis, testicles and skin surrounding with disinfectant. ME. Good on ya, mate!!!! I do know that now while my penis is in a flacid state the skin covers the glans and resembles uncircumcised penis. ME. Very very curious. How much experience do you have with John Thomas in a long sleeve, though? I am no urologist, sexologist, or whatever. That said, my hunch is that not very much was snipped off. Before 1970 or so, doctors felt that they had to stamp out every millimeter of the evil foreskin. The result was that some men were uncomfortable when erect in adult life. Residents in ob-gyn were warned about this, and so less has been cut off in recent decades. Now the result is that some cut men look uncut, especially if you understand that quite a few intact men have less than complete coverage. An American woman at a nude beach in Russia blogged a few years ago that the men revealed all possible degrees of coverage, from long overhang to indistinguishable from full circumcision. & This has only occured in recent years, I don't know if this is common with other men or caused through 'ageing'(I'd apprediate any response). What I do notice though that if and when I do masturbate by rubbing the skin over the glans whilst in a semi flacid state, it gives another very pleasant experience. A pleasurable 'tingle' goes through the glans up the shaft, I wonder if this feeling is similiar to females with hoods covering their clitorus while masturbating and leading to orgasm. ME. The ridge of the glans, the foreskin, the tip of the foreskin, and the frenulum all form a rich and complicated system of varied sexual sensations. Some aspects of this system come to the fore during masturbation and HJ, others during penetrative sex, yet others during oral. The foreskin captures and spreads precum in ways that nobody writes about. This system is perhaps more complex than its feminine counterpart, because most women cannot unhood their clits. & The other thing I have noticed that while my penis is flacid most of the time the glans is covered and kept 'moist'. This leads to a more comfortable glans as the skin when 'dry' tends to become slightly tender and 'scaley'. ME. You've just described yet another reason why intact is good! | 2009-07-05 15:18:48 |
| 387 | 6709 | Interesting article: men.webmd.com/news/20090721/male-circumcision-improves-sex-life-for-women Male Circumcision Improves Sex for Women Survey Results Are Part of Study That Showed Circumcision Reduces a Man's HIV Risk By Charlene Laino WebMD Health News Reviewed by Louise Chang, MD July 21, 2009 (Cape Town, South Africa) -- Women whose male sexual partners were circumcised report an improvement in their sex life, a survey shows. Researchers studied 455 partners of men in Uganda who were recently circumcised. Nearly 40% said sex was more satisfying afterward. About 57% reported no change in sexual satisfaction, and only 3% said sex was less satisfying after their partner was circumcised. Also, some women said their partner had less or no difficulty maintaining or getting an erection. Among the 3% of women who reported reduced sexual satisfaction, the top two reasons were lower levels of desire on the part of either partner. Top reasons cited by women for their better sex life: improved hygiene, longer time for their partner to achieve orgasm, and their partner wanting more frequent sex, says Godfrey Kigozi, MD, of the Rakai Health Sciences Program in Kalisizo, Uganda. The article continues - see link. | 2009-07-24 07:09:16 |
| 387 | 6710 | Unlike many intactivists, I am not averse to trying mass circumcision in an effort to blunt the AIDS epidemic in east and south Africa. But I also believe that the recent clinical trials have evident flaws, and have been very easy to misinterpret. This includes the survey discussed in the preceding post. Even if we take that survey at face value, all we can conclude is that there is no evidence that mass circumcision in east Africa to blunt AIDS will lead to any decline in sexual satisfaction by the women partners. One should keep in mind that African women do not feel free to refuse sex, or to insist on a condom. African men feel entitled to sex on demand. Given such human realities, African women are elated that getting their husbands cut may have a positive payoff. Women who believe that their husbands have undergone something that materially lowers their risk of early death may be extremely reluctant to report any decline in sexual satisfaction stemming from that something. I too would much prefer fewer thrills between my legs to a slow and horrible death. The African clinical trials, and this follow-up survey, tell us NOTHING about whether American routine infant circumcision is desirable or not for health or sexual reasons. BTW, good luck getting a clinical trial of this nature past an ethics committee in the USA! I think there is a good chance that over the next 10-20 years, it will become the norm, around the North Atlantic and in Japan/Korea/Taiwan, for men to wash their penises before and after casual sex without a condom. This may result in intact men keeping as healthy as cut men. I suspect that Africa is not ready for this norm; hence the need to explore circumcision instead. | 2009-07-25 17:45:02 |
| 387 | 6712 | [user=15167]chantal[/user] wrote: " One should keep in mind that African women do not feel free to refuse sex, or to insist on a condom. " This is hardly limited to Africa. South American and Eastern Europe come to mind as similar in this way and it isn't that uncommon in the west, either. Still, it's a side argument related to circumcision. I am circumcised, myself, and don't believe I'd like it any other way. Other than a cultural habit, I think of it much like a tattoo or a body piercing except that someone decides on it for you - you usually don't have a choice. But I also don't think it does any harm. (Yes, there are true stories of botched circumcisions as with any surgical procedure.) I can't see there every being broad agreement on this issue. Each "side" has valid arguments and personal prejudices. | 2009-07-30 00:48:05 |
| 387 | 6714 | A major problem with researching the effects of circumcision in Africa, or any sexual behaviour at all in that continent, is a host of unspoken assumptions that Africans are reluctant in the extreme to discuss with anyone except a few trusted people of their own gender and skin colour. White scientists from the North Atlantic are not welcome to initiate such discussions. African men often believe that the AIDS-sex nexus was invented by whites who wanted to deprive blacks of customary pleasures. There is the "dry sex" business, whereby African men hate the natural lubrication of their women, making intercourse more abrasive. There is the rampant infidelity of African village life, which is heatedly denied when Western investigators ask questions. There is a belief that clean genitals make for less pleasure. And more to be sure. The upshot is that clinical trials in Africa teach us nothing about the benefits or drawbacks of circumcision in our way of life. | 2009-07-30 01:35:45 |
| 387 | 6716 | [user=15167]chantal[/user] wrote: " The upshot is that clinical trials in Africa teach us nothing about the benefits or drawbacks of circumcision in our way of life. " I think the World Health Organization disagrees with you on this. | 2009-07-31 03:19:24 |
| 387 | 6719 | If that is true, I happily and proudly disagree with the WHO, which is under strong pressure from Americans who assume that circumcision has many health benefits and no sexual drawbacks. They assume that because that's what USA medical schools taught until 15 years ago. | 2009-07-31 18:06:45 |
| 388 | 2377 | dear sir,... hi, i am 34 yrs old, married with one daughter. i would like to ask about your opinion of my penis (picture attached), what is your opinion about the circumcision? my penis length approx 10 cm, with 4 cm diameter in erection. i suffer premature ejaculation ( i only can hold less than a minutes), and after reviewing the-penis.com and other homepage i got the infomation about removing my frenulum. is removing my frenulum can prolong my ejaculation? what did your advice about that? is there any possibilities to lenghten my penis at my age now? is that true that foreskin restoration make women more satisfied on intercourse? Thanks a lot before and hope to hearing from you . | 2006-08-13 20:40:09 |
| 388 | 5514 | you don't have to remove the foreskin. There are many enlargement devices that are CE approved like the device on FastSize.com I gained a bit with it and it helped alot with improving stamina and the site does say in many cases does cure some cases of premature ejaculations. Take a look and make an educated guess | 2008-02-22 20:51:42 |
| 388 | 6588 | As for premature, use artificial lube liberally. Masturbate 12-24 hours before snuggling up to your lady. I too find that the frenulum is where the most intense sensations are, and it may be in the driver's seat insofar as ejaculation is concerned. But as an intactivist (since 1983) I deplore pruning the pink bits. Your frenulum may be a bit too much of a live wire now. But after 45-50 years of age, you may value every bit of sensation your frenulum will afford you. American infant circumcision is usually not a sexual disaster for younger men. But I suspect that it may detract from pleasure in older men. | 2009-04-13 15:56:02 |
| 395 | 2406 | Hi all, MOD'S feel free to delete this post if neccessary!! ;) Has anyone here, man or women, know a guy who tried the *all* natural pills that are being offered?& For the sake of arguement I am 7 and 1/4 inches, and it's not that I am not satisfied, I would just like more girth, coming in at 2 inches.....& But from all the sites I've visited you cannot get girth without length.. Basically I guess what I am looking for are the horror stories really, the websites have all their testimonials, and doctor approvals...& Medical, psychologists, and holistic healers on some sites.... Sure they might be payed to do so, but they could not be at the same time.....& I just don't know what to do about this, and would appreciate any feedback anyone else might have...... Thanx all for your time!!=* | 2006-08-19 08:32:28 |
| 395 | 2412 | Why do people always feel the need to change themselves?& Pills are a load of crap, they don't really do anything! Especially when they promise you that it will give you more girth, length, or firmness in your regions you want bigger.& I'm sorry, it's just not going to happen. | 2006-08-19 23:42:41 |
| 395 | 2429 | the only way to change the length or girth of your penis is with surgery.& all of these pills are scams.& the size of your penis is determined by genetics, as with pretty much everything else about your body.& until someone discovers post-birth genetic alteration, you are stuck with what you've got. | 2006-08-21 13:40:08 |
| 395 | 2435 | Be very happy with 'what you've got' It is very usable and should create pleasure for you if you 'want it' to. | 2006-08-21 20:06:13 |
| 395 | 2443 | ^ That's a great way to look at it. | 2006-08-22 16:46:58 |
| 395 | 2527 | Yeah, while ever guys keep going out and wanting to make themselves bigger, the more this obsession with big penis's will carry on and it's just stupid. It's the same with women's boobs with women not feeling womanly enough if they are flat chested and resorting to stupid implants. You'll never be pleased with yourself unless you accept yourself for what you are. Also, a woman like myself with vaginismus would be much happier with a narrower penis than a big fat one...lol. | 2006-08-30 17:22:35 |
| 395 | 2531 | When love is involved One Size Fits All And I agree narrow penises fit narrow vaginas makes comfortable vagina. Likewise large penis in small vagina makes penis sore too. | 2006-08-30 22:11:18 |
| 395 | 2541 | [user=640]Enjoy[/user] wrote: "When love is involved One Size Fits All And I agree narrow penises fit narrow vaginas makes comfortable vagina. Likewise large penis in small vagina makes penis sore too. "It does? I didn't know that? I thought men liked a "tight" vagina. | 2006-09-01 16:36:44 |
| 395 | 2542 | yeah, generally a small vagina just makes a large penis come faster.& its dryness than really bothers the penis. | 2006-09-01 16:59:41 |
| 395 | 2544 | well, yeah.& That's why it's so important to use LUBE! | 2006-09-01 21:17:25 |
| 395 | 2553 | Hi all, Thanx to everyone for the replies!!& & The only real sure fire way to know if I should, is to ask my next girlfriend!& I figure if she wants to know what a bigger me may feel like then we can play with xstentions, and go from there.......hehe | 2006-09-03 05:20:35 |
| 403 | 2459 | I have read on so many sites and a couple of books about uncircumsized penis' and I really am curious about the foreskin.& I have read that when the male does get an erection, the foreskin usually pulls back on it's own exposing the glans.& But if it doesn't, usually the person does?& Or doesn't?& I thought the skin was supposed to go completely back and it was to look like a circumsized penis when erect. Or am& I wrong? | 2006-08-26 21:05:35 |
| 403 | 2493 | Hi Ladybug, As with vagina’s all penises are different. Uncircumcised penis can have ‘normal’ foreskin, covering the glans adequately or can be long, stretching far in front of the glans. The foreskin can also be attached closely to the neck and be difficult to retract. Below is a more thorough description. Structures of the Penis •& & & The outer foreskin layer is a continuation of the skin of the shaft of the penis. •& & & The inner foreskin layer is not properly 'skin', but mucocutaneous tissue of a unique type found nowhere else on the body. •& & & The frenulum, or frenum, is a connecting membrane on the underside of the penis, similar to that beneath the tongue. When the penis is not erect, it tightens to narrow the foreskin opening. •& & & During erection, the frenulum, forms a ridge that goes all the way around, about halfway down the shaft. •& & & The reddish or purplish glans or glans penis (head of the penis) is smooth, shiny, moist and extremely sensitive. The foreskin has twelve known functions, they are: •& & & To cover the mucosal surface of the glans and inner foreskin. •& & & To protect the infant's glans from feces and ammonia in diapers. •& & & To protect the glans penis from friction and abrasion throughout life. •& & & To keep the glans moisturized and soft. •& & & To lubricate the glans. •& & & To provide an aid to masturbation and foreplay. •& & & To serve as an aid to penetration. •& & & To reduce friction during intercourse. •& & & To serve as erogenous tissue because of its rich supply of erogenous I was successfully circumcised at birth, some penises do not have the foreskins removed properly& and/or the frenulum is damaged, my glans and frenulum are intact and the foreskin is free to move. At my height of development I remember, it is good I remember, having very strong erections when my penis was very long and the skin around my shaft was very tight. So tight that I could not move it and the pain of tension was very strong on my glans. Of course it made even more intense urge to be erect and erections were very strong for 30, 40 mins up to 1 hr, I really enjoyed them even with the pain. Now when flaccid my foreskin covers my glans, which it never did until the last couple of years. I still get strong erections which last 30, 40 min to 1 hr every night but never as long or as tight. I read earlier where a members comment was ‘I love my pussy’ so why can’t I say I love my dick. Enjoy | 2006-08-28 06:01:01 |
| 403 | 5836 | Ladybug,& Please do yourself a big favor.& Go to [url=www.sexasnatureintendedit.com] www.sexasnatureintendedit.com .& I would love to then hear your reaction.& Take your time on the site, it has a ton of information and is all about women's pleasure.& I think that you will be excited by your new knowledge and will recommend it to friends. | 2008-06-06 22:32:48 |
| 403 | 5843 | Interesting and a bit over-the-top. Somehow I think many women would disagree with the site's statement "that the key to a woman's sexual ecstasy is the foreskin of the penis." Thanks for sharing, though! | 2008-06-07 22:41:44 |
| 403 | 5861 | As circumcision is not so commom in Europe as it is in the US, i had several uncut lovers, and now i have a guy who is circumcised for medical reasons - and for me it makes no difference concerning my pleasure. The main differences between penisses are length and girth. Since there are no nerve endings in the vaginal mucosa, the woman can't feel the foreskin anyway. I've heard that men wih foreskin can last longer, but i can't believe that since the forskin is pulled back when the penis enters the vagina. To answer Ladybugs question: in some men the foreskins does pull back during an erection, in some it does it only an bit, so the man - or the woman - can play with it... | 2008-06-15 11:29:53 |
| 403 | 5862 | I have no problem with Miss Doolittle's expression that she has just as much pleasure from a circumsized penis as an uncut one.& I& am not convinced that this is universally true because the views in the web site that I referred to earlier come at the situation from another angle.& Whatever, I wish every woman pleasure and contentment. | 2008-06-15 12:19:55 |
| 403 | 6592 | This proud foreskin owner agrees that sexasnatureintendedit is indeed over the top. Let me add that the videos on the site are 1980s porn. Foreskin really facilitates masturbation and HJ. If he washes first, BJ is fine. But it's not evident it matters for vaginal. We need more women to come forward and discuss their experiences, with an unbiased investigator. | 2009-04-16 05:50:54 |
| 403 | 6593 | I have read on so many sites and a couple of books about uncircumsized penis' and I really am curious about the foreskin. ME. You're not the first American woman intrigued by it. Because the USA has suppressed the foreskin for so long, I predict that USA women are set to become the world's leading foreskin fetishists! I have read that when the male does get an erection, the foreskin usually pulls back on it's own exposing the glans.& But if it doesn't, usually the person does? ME. Erection usually makes the foreskin vanish (except to the very experienced eye). If it doesn't vanish, it takes very little manual encouragement to make it vanish. I thought the skin was supposed to go completely back and it was to look like a circumsized penis when erect. ME. Cut and uncut look very similar when both are erect. Similar, but not identical to the experienced eye. There are a few more ridges and folds behind the head of an uncut penis than there are when its cut. With uncut, the frenulum in the underside is intact. But the main way the foreskin gives itself away in an uncut is if you pump and stroke the penis. If he's uncut, the penis skin will "give" in a nice way. The uncut glans is redder and moister than the rather dry cut glans. This fact excites some of you ladies visually. Before puberty, all bets are off concerning the above. In particular, the foreskin looks long and pointed. It is impossible to retract until an age that varies across boys, and remain difficult to retract until some time in the teens. All this if completely normal. | 2009-04-16 06:00:27 |
| 417 | 2584 | I was a really late bloomer, I didn't find out you could actually do something with a hardon till i was 17 yrs old, snuck into a nude bar, and got a lapdance.& My loss through all those prior years!! :( & & I think a "no man left behind" policy should be implemented. [img] www.pbfcomics.com/archive/PBF191-Boy_Scouts.jpg[/img] [url=www.pbfcomics.com/] www.pbfcomics.com/ | 2006-09-07 23:03:10 |
| 417 | 2759 | I feel yah, 15 (about 2 or 3 months from 16) was when I figured it out, I never realy had an interest in it before then, it's like when you go a week or more without masturbating and you just don't have the urge to except with 15 years of your life. I do remember though after my first time saying to myself "so this was the what everyone was talking about.....damn...." | 2006-09-19 06:47:51 |
| 417 | 2767 | I know that this is on the guys but I'm going to write when I learned.& I came on this site and read the things because I didn't understand why I was feeling excited whenever I watched movies and the characters were kissing. I was in 7th grade, never really kissed a guy, and I wanted to know how to make myself happy since all my friends had "boyfriends." | 2006-09-19 22:03:36 |
| 417 | 2770 | um, I know I was no older than 10 when I started, but I was probably younger.& I honestly don't remember. | 2006-09-19 23:34:02 |
| 417 | 2771 | I know I started to touch myself when I was in third grade, but that's because I was curious about my genitals.& I wasn't really getting that much pleasure from it, but I often stuck my fingers in me just to feel around.& [img]/sexforum/images/emoticons/08.gif[/img] | 2006-09-20 10:39:09 |
| 417 | 2773 | Yeah, I know I did that little kid type of "masturbating" that a lot of kids do where they have no idea what is going on.& I had my first inklings of sexuality when I was 5 or 6 when I found my dad's playboys, and I know I was becoming sexually aware before I had my first sex ed in 4th grade, but I don't think I actually deliberately masturbated while knowing exactly what it was that I was doing until I was 9 or 10. | 2006-09-20 14:05:24 |
| 417 | 2781 | i was asked "did a lap dance include your penis entering her vagina? just curious....if not, did she get you excited by wiggling, so you pleasured yourself to get off? " no, I had my jeans on, and actually I didn't even get off on that occasion, I just realized that it felt GOOD.... So afterward, i went home and started playing with my dick, and I didn't even go through the typical "handjob" masturbation motions before I orgasmed (didn't get the standard handjob& method down until& at least a few days and several orgasms later)& and was faced with the vile task of dealing with all this white crap...& In mid/highschool& sex-ed& classes prior, I assumed semen was the clear precum that came out of& the dick when& its hard.& | 2006-09-21 06:50:37 |
| 417 | 2784 | I'm so glad to be a worry, I don't have to worry much about clean-up. :P | 2006-09-21 07:50:54 |
| 417 | 2896 | Some time during grade school phy ed class when we were learning to climb the rope. Our PE teacher must have liked to see us get aroused because she kept making us climb the rope and learn to slide down slow with our legs wrapped around it. Boy did we walk funny after getting to the floor we all knew that we all had an erection from the slide down and the girls would giggle when they would see the precum wet spot in the gray sweat pants we wore. | 2006-10-01 22:37:35 |
| 417 | 2901 | I never had to climb the rope.& I don't think I would have been able to get up there to far.& I know that health class in middle school is what sparked the idea of searching the web about masturbating, since whenever my teacher would talk about it, I'd get excited. | 2006-10-02 10:24:52 |
| 417 | 4650 | I remember from as early as five or six years of age, having nocturnal erections and just grinding against the mattress. When I was 10 I discovered my dad's porn tapes and saw intercourse for the first time. It was fascinating and although I masturbated, (I didn't realize that you could just use your hand until then) I didn't have an orgasm for about a year until I was 11 going on 12. Once I discovered that, there was no keeping me from the bathroom for more than a couple of hours. I still masturbate today regularly (40 years old) and also have a healthy sex life with my wife. | 2007-08-12 13:34:53 |
| 417 | 4674 | [user=2644]Drew[/user] wrote: "I remember from as early as five or six years of age, having nocturnal erections and just grinding against the mattress. When I was 10 I discovered my dad's porn tapes and saw intercourse for the first time. It was fascinating and although I masturbated, (I didn't realize that you could just use your hand until then) I didn't have an orgasm for about a year until I was 11 going on 12. Once I discovered that, there was no keeping me from the bathroom for more than a couple of hours. I still masturbate today regularly (40 years old) and also have a healthy sex life with my wife. " I'm glad that I'm not the only one. I was 'taught' to masturbate when I was still in nappies. I didn;t like it untill I was 9 or 10 and then I started to like it. I was scared stiff if girls knew I would be called a 'poofter'. I first orgasmed when I was about 11, a small amount of 'wet stuff' came out, although when I was in bed when I was only about 6 or 7 if it rained I would lay on my belly and rub my dick in my pyjamas (sometimes their was small wet spots) and wear holes in them. Mum never asked me how I got holes in my PJ's. Now I'm middle aged I also masturbate regularly, my regulalry is every night, I have like intercourse too. Maybe I'm greedy!:D | 2007-08-13 06:03:44 |
| 417 | 4825 | I had my first orgasm at age 4, and have masturbated ever since. | 2007-09-18 09:47:16 |
| 417 | 4888 | When my younger brother and& were 6 and 5, a couple of girl cousins came to live with& & us on the farm. When Mum and Dad were having their nap we would play Mothers and Fathers in the dairy. We boys were hard. When we were 9,10,11, we would go to the cousins' place near a beach, go to the rocks under the headland, strip off, stroke ourselves and talk about girls. One day, an older& cousin came down with a girl who stroked him off. It was the first time my brother and I had seen an ejaculation, could not wait, but had to until I was 4 months short of my 13th birthday.& | 2007-09-28 19:21:37 |
| 417 | 5661 | My 1st orgasm was from climbing a country school flagpole when I was 7.& & The teacher had lost the connector for the flag up to the top of the pole during morning assembly, and, knowing that I was good at slithering up poles on play equipment, she sent me up in front of the whole school.& & It was a privilege to be chosen, and I tried to impress everyone by going straight to the top at great pace.& & About 1/2 way up, however, I felt a strange but wonderful glow in my loins, which increased in intensity as I climbed further.& & In fact this exquisite feeling gave me lots of extra energy and stamina, and the climbing became easier and faster the higher I went. When I reached the top it was sad that it all had to finish, and then sliding back down again wasn't as good for some reason.& & Over the next few weeks I climbed to the top of that pole many, many times, until eventually the teacher banned it.& I've often wondered since whether she realised why I loved it so much. & Probably did.& & The following year the school was closed and we were all moved to a larger one in the town. & The very first thing I noticed there was a MUCH taller flagpole!& Couldn't believe my luck.& & I never ejaculated in those days, so the orgasmic feeling would go on and on.& & Now, decades later, when my wife enjoys her multiples, I secretly reminisce& -& ahhh, those were the days.... | 2008-03-31 14:12:55 |
| 417 | 5670 | my first experience was when i went to about 5th or 6th grade primary school, and i was lying at home in bed and i started rubbing myself against pillows. It felt really good, then i got pissy cuz after a while it stopped feeling so good *smiles*. | 2008-04-03 05:58:33 |
| 417 | 5684 | I was 11 or so, and I used to like sitting on the heat register in our old house in the bathroom. & One day, I reached down and started playing with it and stroked faster and faster until it seemed like I was going to explode (or something ;) ) | 2008-04-07 17:12:01 |
| 417 | 5769 | As a boy living in a suburb there were a lot of trees in our neighborhood. I learned that climbing them in my jeans and sliding down resulted in a wonderful feeling. I learned to cum that way and, later, learned to use my hand to create the same feeling. I've always masturbated since then no matter how often I was sexually intimate with a partner. It is wonderful when my partner masturbates me (of course I reciprocate) and I enjoy it as an addition to intercourse and oral sex. | 2008-05-25 20:37:06 |
| 417 | 6298 | I began masturbating when I was very, very, young, though I had no idea what I was doing.& When I was a young child, I used to love to lay on the floor while playing, or watching TV and rock back and forth.& It felt good to me at the time and what I realized later is that I had an erection and was stimulating myself.& I did this for many years before I discovered the direct pleasure of my hand around age 12.& I have had a torrid love-affair with my left hand ever since! | 2008-12-19 10:40:07 |
| 417 | 6392 | I'm female and it just seems like I've always done it. | 2009-01-14 23:31:42 |
| 417 | 6637 | I think i really got into it after having met the very same girlfriend i still adore today. We were 6 years old. It was she who made me discover myself fully. I felt arousal in her presence. So i was fantasizing about us both engaging in intercourse. No joke. I very well knew what i wanted and what this meant even at that young age. Didn't know the proper words for it like today, but it made no difference. It was the missionary position, didn't know any better then. I discovered this site at age 23, you see. While fantasizing i would grind to the left and right until i reached the one true point. Ok, i know. With me grinding to the sides, intercourse doesn't work but i got what i wanted. Upon reaching the point of climax i suddenly noticed i just couldn't go on. I was just too sensitive after an orgasm. But it hasn't been her i have had intercourse with. It was my bed. I climax 1-2 times each day. A friend of mine couldn't believe me when i told him i could come since age 6 or so. Boy, if he knew... But we know, some lucky girls start while inside of their mothers womb. I didn't. :X Has anybody else noticed the heightened sensitivity after orgasm? | 2009-05-18 17:10:29 |
| 426 | 2645 | My boyfriend and I somehow got on this conversation last night.& He was saying how he wished he still had his foreskin, and he feels that when he has children that he's not going to want to get the boy circumsized.& Well, I do. I told him that I would want them to be because that's what I have learned (that boys get circumsized).& He said he wants it to be their choice whether they want to or not when they are old enough to understand.& I said, "what about when you bathe?& Your son is going to ask you, 'Daddy, why am I different?'"& I know I have a few years ahead of me before I am interested in starting a family.& But if we can't seem to come to terms, it's gonna be a toughy. I just wanted to know what you all felt about this situation.& | 2006-09-14 11:13:29 |
| 426 | 2647 | Hi, You would want your son circumcised because that is what you are accustomed to and are comfortable with, it is what you like. We tend to resist change. You don't want your son to be different from every one else, all the other boys. You want him to be normal. You have also been raised to believe being circumcised is cleaner and healthier; without evidence to support this believe. You likely like your boyfriend's penis the way it is and would want your son's to be the same. Of course that brings up the paradox of why are mother's so concerned about the appearance of their son's penis? They reportedly want to make their son attractive to a woman they approve of, which is a woman& just like her. If you were raised outside the United States you would likely be more comfortable with uncircumcised penises. What if the shoe was on the other foot? Consider it if you were raised in a society where it was normal to remove the clitoral hood from your daughter and this had been done to you but your& boyfriend was from the US. I am not talking about removal of the clitoris, but what some women are electively having done in the US today, as a form of cosmetic and sexual enhancement. In other countries the same procedure is defined by us in the US as Female Genital Mutilation even though the physical result is the same; the social and psychological are not. People usually bring up the lack of consent as their reason for disfavoring FGM, but why isn't consent required for male circumcision?. Why is one okay but not the other? There no medical evidence to support either practice. How is FGM ever going to end if mothers who experienced it are afraid to explain why they are different from their daughter? Part of the problem with FGM is that it has become a deep rooted tradition, the same as male circumcision, but FGM has been around for thousands of years but& male circumcision has been common in the US for less than 200. I apologize if I have gotten to far off topic. Remember, it is okay to challenge ideas here but not people! Brad | 2006-09-14 21:59:45 |
| 426 | 2648 | It's interesting that you mentioned FGM because my boyfriend compared circumsizing to "lopping off the clitoris."& I have put my mind in his position but I keep thinking of the experience I had with a uncircumsized penis before, and it wasn't pretty.& The boy didn't even know about his own penis.& And I really don't know anything about uncircumsized penis' because like you stated, I'm unfamiliar with it.& I wouldn't know how to teach him how to take good care of it, and how to and when to clean it.& Which is why I am so concerned. My boyfriend doesn't want his sons to get it because he wants them to have more "pleasure," I guess I can put it that way, when he has sexual encounters when he's older.& I sometimes just don't know what to say to him when it comes to this conversation. I think the main reason why he feels this way is because he is very curious what it would be like if he were to have his foreskin.& | 2006-09-15 10:03:31 |
| 426 | 2836 | I think it would be much more fair to any sons you have to leave them and then let them make the decision for themselves when they are old enough. After all, it is their penis and they might wish they hadn't had it done to them when they become an adult as many men do. Leaving the choice to them is the best thing to do in my opinion. I can certainly understand where your BF is coming from on this one. If you have son/s and you leave them intact, they may choose to have it done when they become old enough and thats ok because it's their choice about their penis and it's only them that it is really going at affect. They might also choose to keep their foreskin...again, this should be ok. Again, it is only their lives it will affect in any significant way. They can still be taught about how to look after their penis and about hygiene etc... whether they have their foreskin or not. It doesn't have to be removed in order to keep the penis clean and I'm sure you can acquire information about maintaining an uncircumsized penis somewhere. From the limited stuff that I have read in the past about cleaning a penis with a foreskin is to retract the foreskin and clean underneath as per usual. In the end, when it comes to the anatomy of another individual, it isn't about what& others want, it should be about what& the owner of that anatomy& wants. I suppose I get my view from the fact that my mother never had any of us christened as babies because she wanted us to grow up and make our own decision as to what faith we followed or whether we even want to follow one at all...which I don't and I am so glad she allowed us to make the decision for ourselves instead of forcing it upon us as babies too young to understand anyway. There is no point in christening a young baby only for them to grow older and decide they want to pursue a different faith or whatever.& I think many people have babies christened here just for the sake of it. They don't even believe in it themselves so it's a complete waste of time. I think I also get my view because, here in the UK, penis's are generally left intact but you don't get hoards of people complaining about how badly kept penis's are or how they are a problem in anyway. I suppose it's all down to what you are used to. Try googling something like, cleaning, looking after an uncircumsized penis...etc.. and see what you can find on the subject. I wouldn't let one unhygienic ex turn you off uncircumsized penis's for life. I bet there are as many dirty guys out there who are circumsized too. Learning a bit about uncircumsized penis's would be well worth it for the sake of any sons you might have in the future. In the end, it would be down to you and your BF but this is just my own opinion. | 2006-09-25 12:19:38 |
| 426 | 2837 | Hey,& I found some info about caring for an intact penis. There is the care needed for a younger penis who's foreskin doesn't yet retract and then info on keeping clean an older penis once the foreskin can be retracted. According to the site, keeping an intact penis clean is easy, nothing to worry about should you leave any sons you have intact. " Foreskin Hygiene: The foreskin is easy to care for. The infant should be bathed or sponged frequently, and all parts should be washed including the genitals. The uncircumcised penis is easy to keep clean. No special care is required! No attempt should be made to forcibly retract the foreskin. No manipulation is necessary. There is no need for special cleansing with Q-tips, irrigation, or antiseptics; soap and water externally will suffice. Foreskin Retraction: As noted, the foreskin and glans develop as one tissue. Separation will evolve over time. It should not be forced. When will separation occur? Each child is different. Separation may occur before birth; this is rare. It may take a few days, weeks, months, or even years. This is normal. Although many foreskins will retract by age 5, there is no need for concern even after a longer period. [1984 version only: No harm will come in leaving the foreskin alone.] Some boys do not attain full retractability of the foreskin until adolescence. Hygiene of the Fully Retracted Foreskin: For the first few years, an occasional retraction with cleansing beneath is sufficient. Penile hygiene will later become a part of a child's total body hygiene, including hair shampooing, cleansing the folds of the ear, and brushing teeth. At puberty, the male should be taught the importance of retracting the foreskin and cleaning beneath during his daily bath. Summary: Care of the uncircumcised boy is quite easy. ``Leave it alone'' is good advice. External washing and rinsing on a daily basis is all that is required. Do not retract the foreskin in an infant, as it is almost always attached to the glans. Forcing the foreskin back may harm the penis, causing pain, bleeding, and possibly adhesions. The natural separation of the foreskin from the glans may take many years. After puberty, the adult male learns to retract the foreskin and cleanse under it on a daily basis. & | 2006-09-25 12:29:57 |
| 426 | 2842 | Thanks, Canis.& I might take it into consideration.& | 2006-09-25 22:48:49 |
| 426 | 2845 | I think this is similiar to the post Circumcised? Once again check out the video that gives an uderstanding that male circumcision is more painfull and deliberating than female circumcision. Once again the video is asp.noterik.com/video/michael/CIRCUMCISION.mov and Brad has given the Quicktime intaller www.apple.com/quicktime/download/ It is slow to load and view, however very informative making it usefull information. I agree with Canis Lupess opinion, we older males weren't given the choice and decisions were made on misinformed knowledge, I now would like to have a foreskin and on reading how some males stretch the skin from the shaft over the glans to have a 'new' foreskin, I wonder whether that skin would be as effective as genuine foreskin. My only comment is that now when I become flacid my 'skin' stretches over my glans(without any assistance from me) and when I feel I would like massage or masturbate my penis I can feel the glans through the skin and it is very nicely sensitive. The only other way to feel the glans on my circumcised penis is with copius amounts of oil for lubrication, and that becomes messy. & I am grateful my circumcision was successful as on reading many circumcisions were not. We have been told about the terrible effects female circumcision has in relation to lack of true sexual feeling for the female. On what& I have read and what I have been told I am also missing out on the full sexual experience during intercourse. The only thing that is a benifit of being circumcised at birth is that the male is too young to remember the pain. That is a very strong reason why circumcision should be avoided. | 2006-09-26 07:47:38 |
| 426 | 2846 | I did watch it. It was very interesting. | 2006-09-26 13:18:29 |
| 426 | 2887 | A thing to keep in mind.& If you have circumcision on your child, you can't go back.& He could restore it through various methods but it's not the same.& Why make this decision for him?& A circumcision can be made at any point of his life, and if he wants it done why not give him a choice in the matter? | 2006-09-30 23:57:03 |
| 426 | 2889 | True.& But it worries me though.& My friends the other day told me that her boyfriend isn't circumsized.& She said that she told him that if they are going to get married he needs to get circumsized beforehand.& He agreed to it.& But just thinking about it makes me squirm. You'll remember the pain of it. See what I worry about the most about my son(s) having their foreskin is that it'll be too tight.& I have heard of cases where the boys foreskin was so tight that it hurt them. | 2006-10-01 10:35:41 |
| 426 | 2890 | Hmm, I don't agree with her expecting him to get circumsized before marrying him. How would she feel if he told her she had to get circumsized before he'd married her? If your sons were to face the same predicament,& I would say that it was because the woman wasn't right for them anyway. If she was, she wouldn't care whether they had a foreskin or not, she'd be happy with them the way they are. I think that if your friend requires things like this from her BF before marrying him, the marriage won't last too long because this just reflects problems and incompatibility in other aspects of their relationship. | 2006-10-01 12:38:09 |
| 426 | 2892 | Yeah, I was actually shocked that she told me that he has to get it done before they get married.& It's horrible. It would be like my boyfriend telling me he doesn't like something about me and that I must change that in order for us to get married.& I think I would feel quite insulted. I guess I should not worry so much about the future, because what happens happens. | 2006-10-01 14:29:55 |
| 426 | 2895 | [user=116]Ladybug[/user] wrote:"See what I worry about the most about my son(s) having their foreskin is that it'll be too tight.& I have heard of cases where the boys foreskin was so tight that it hurt them. " I remember when I was in late teens to early adult how when I got an erection, usually in bed in the morning, how it would be so strong that there was not any loose skin and the glans would become so tight that it was painful. The glans would 'push' so far that it would stretch the frenilun and the shaft would be at its maximum capacity. I used to think if I had a foreskin that there would be some elasticity in my penis and the pain would not be so great. I think we need to dismiss what might happen to future generations and consider what is natural in our makeup. The number of cases of tight foreskins is negligable. We always hear of people with difficulties however when taken overall the difficulties are a small minority. Even if circumcised boys with tight foreskins would probably still have problems with their penis. | 2006-10-01 20:41:14 |
| 426 | 3012 | close to 2 years ago I had to deal with this disicion. Circumsize my son or leave him intact. If you would of asked me that question 3 years ago, I would of said cut him, but thankfuly between what I learned in a birthing class and what I had heard on a medical radio show(Dr.Dean Edell [url=www.kgoam810.com/goout.asp?u=www.healthcentral.com/drdean/drdean.cfm] www.kgoam810.com/goout.asp?u=www.healthcentral.com/drdean/drdean.cfm), it made me look into it myself. There is no medical reason to circumcize. Regular circumcizion wasn't an acceptable practice until after W.W.1. here in the states. It came about because many of our boys, due to the inability to clean themselves in the trench warfare enviroment came down with uniary tract infections. So from that momment on, it was always recommended that little boys get circumzied. It has only been recently(last 15 years) discussed more in medical journels Look at facts: Why in European countries, circumsicion not done....Because there is no medical reason too 1 out 4 procedures get botched, some requiring later in life medical procedures to correct. hey, it's surgery. infection is greater. As a parent we are suppose to look out after our kids, not mame them just so they won't look different. I also take this confort, in my neck of the woods, more and more boys are not being circumsized. Let the child make his dicisions after being informed. John | 2006-10-17 20:04:00 |
| 426 | 3989 | Besides religious reasons and possibly medical, I find no reason for circumcision. To keep it clean, one just have to fold back the foreskin and dowse it with water when showering - it's that simple. Also remember to fold back when peeing. I heard the foreskin helps with experiencing pleasure during intercourse as it provides a source of friction. Circumcised people do not get the same pleasure since their's are less sensitive without protective foreskin and the source of extra friction. | 2007-04-06 23:22:06 |
| 426 | 5863 | The UN Programme on HIV Aids says... www.unaids.org:80/en/PolicyAndPractice/Prevention/MaleCircumcision/default.asp | 2008-06-15 19:27:40 |
| 473 | 3086 | ok so my boyfriend has a little problem with premature ejaculation, which really doesn't bother me because there are so many other options for us to use. However, every single time we are together, whenever he finishes he gets really upset and kind of sad because he thinks he's not satisfying me. I've tried to tell him so many times that its not an issue for me, but he just won't believe me. Does anyone know of anything I can do or say so he doesn't get upset by this all the time? I really don't like how he's not happy after we have sex.... | 2006-10-29 01:04:52 |
| 473 | 3089 | Like you said he is upset that he is not pleasuring you through simple intercourse, but one thing that might be useful for him to learn is that most women don't have an orgasm from intercourse regardless of how long a man can keep going. I think he might need reassurance that you can keep working at it and somehow get beyond the premature ejactulation ( I do not know much about whats going on with the body during it, or if its psychological.) In the meantime I think the more pressing issue is he might be thinking either directly or subconciously that you might leave him because he cannot pleasure you through intercourse or may grow tired of him. | 2006-10-29 22:48:09 |
| 473 | 3094 | Try masturbating him. That will slow down his premature ejaculation in you. | 2006-10-31 05:21:40 |
| 473 | 3096 | Hi, It may help if you have him read the following article: www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/q_orgasm.htm Brad | 2006-10-31 10:15:54 |
| 473 | 3097 | My boyfriend and I are working on him being able to not ejaculate so quickly.& So far we have had great progress. What we usually do would include, stop all penetration, and the squeeze technique.& When he feels like he's close to splooging, he'll stop thrusting, and then he'll take his hand at the base of his penis and squeeze it.& That will prolong him a bit longer.& Sometimes what also might help you along is to play with yourself while you both are engaging in sexual intercourse.& I do this at times when I feel that I'm going to need a bit more help from myself. | 2006-10-31 13:56:54 |
| 473 | 3100 | Assuming he's a young guy, a fast ending is totally normal and you might just as well make it part of your routine. Chances are he's going to be ready for a second time around quickly, so the first orgasam can be pretty much part of foreplay--can be by hand, mouth or vagina, as you choose--and then you get an interlude where you might ask him to do something for you, again by hand or mouth, and then a longer session with another orgasm for him (not so predictable how many the lady will get, but "enough" we hope). It's very stimulating for a man to lie beside a woman who's having an orgasm while holding his penis in her hand, at least some people say so. Just reassure him that it's OK that it's over quickly "but that was only the first one". | 2006-10-31 16:31:27 |
| 473 | 3105 | There are the times where my boyfriend does splooge a little too quickly, and usually he verbally expresses it with a usual "oh shit!"... so then he will proceed to perform oral sex on me.& | 2006-11-01 09:50:41 |
| 473 | 3108 | I have had a tendency to ejaculate quickly alot of my adult life.& I have learned a few things along the way that now makes it more pleasurable. - Its better if I can come a few times a week so the urgency is taken away.& As such I usually will masturbate once or twice a week as my partner and I make love usually once a week.& - My mind is important as well.& If I have anxiety or anger in my body this will well up and move me to orgasam quickly as a sort of outlet for the feelings. - I am a sensitive type of guy!!!(lol) and if I pick up that my partner is fearful or does not want to be there or has some adverse feeling about sex then I will pick this up and it will create anxiety in me.& & -If I feel any anxiety or& anger and usually the clue for me is tightness in and around my Prostate& then I will do something to clear it out.& What works best for me is to scream into a pillow a few times and release the tension from my body or else start to make jokes with my partner so we both relax and enjoy each others company.& Other times I have to check in with my partner as to how she is feeling so I can get a reality check on whether its me or her.& & If she says she is feeling anxious or fearful for whatever reason then hearing her say it helps me with the tension i am picking up.& While encouraging words help from the partner the reality for me is I have to be aware of what is going on for me and communicate this with my partner. And yes being young helps as you can usually get going again pretty quick.& While this all sounds quite big over time I have realised that its a blessing as its made me more aware and led me to uncover all different things about myself and my partner.& & I used to drive myself crazy with worry about not being good enough.& The not good enough devil still raises its head but for me its less and less over time. | 2006-11-01 15:15:40 |
| 473 | 6586 | If you live together, start a sex session with HJ or BJ and let him come as quickly as Nature wants. Then hang loose for a while. Resume foreplay and go for vaginal. He'll be a lot less likely to be premature. If you live apart, have him masturbate 12-24 hours before you get together. Again, I bet he won't be premature. Artificial lube may help here. Dry fucking is painful for both. Nature's response is for him to come quicky because semen is the ultimate lubricant. I tended to the premature until my late 40s, even with a condom. I have a lot of sensitivity in my pink bits, because I am uncut. | 2009-04-13 15:43:59 |
| 473 | 6731 | bit of a late reply, sorry what my suggestion is just 2 of you do what ever you please, and ask him to stop the& activity or ask you to stop it (if you are the active partner) when he feels that he might cum soon. in this way when you completely stop the activity he may ejaculate a little bit and then remain errect after that. so when you start the second session do not go fast from where you stopped but rather start slowly and then develop, and again follow the above procedure for the second one as well and he will eject. a bit and remain semi errect. take your time and let him learn the technique which will be unique to him :-) | 2009-08-04 06:56:36 |
| 489 | 3224 | Ever since I started masturbating I've had a realy hard time doing it with my bare hand like many people do, I always think to myself that skin on skin contact would feel better than using a soft cloth like I do; however, my hands on my member just feel like sandpaper. I was wondering if this is normal, or if the skin is too sensitive, or could it be my hands are just too rough, I work outdoors with my hands a lot, and I guess the audience participation part here is, do any of you guys with rough working hands have this problem too or is just my Penis =/. I'm gonna stop you before you can suggest using lotion or gel, I usualy feel the need to masturbate every day if not multiple times each day, and it ends up being too much of a hastle with the cleanup, so I just have a soft piece of cloth I use a few times then wash and repeat. Is there anything that works for fixing my hands or my penis? Still don't know which is the problem. | 2006-11-22 18:26:52 |
| 489 | 3243 | Well, if your partner gets you off with her hand, than you can probably rule out penis being too sensitive...Do have this problem in intercourse, or& does the vaginal wetness prevent this problem? | 2006-11-24 18:25:52 |
| 489 | 3247 | [user=130]melissa malena[/user] wrote: "Well, if your partner gets you off with her hand, than you can probably rule out penis being too sensitive...Do have this problem in intercourse, or& does the vaginal wetness prevent this problem?" Been Single for quite some time now, but yeah I'm guessing that it is my hands, curse these gnarled monkey paws. | 2006-11-24 21:47:33 |
| 489 | 3248 | To help asist you with ideas do you mind answering these questions? What type of outside work do you do? Does it cause calous hands and blisters? When did you start masturbating? Is it recently? or is this a new masturbaing method to you? When masturbaing do you slide you hands loosely or tightly over your penis? Do you masturbate fast to ejaculate often? Is ejaculation essential each time? This would help in my answer to you. | 2006-11-24 22:30:30 |
| 489 | 3249 | [user=640]Enjoy[/user] wrote: "To help asist you with ideas do you mind answering these questions? What type of outside work do you do? Does it cause calous hands and blisters? When did you start masturbating? Is it recently? or is this a new masturbaing method to you? When masturbaing do you slide you hands loosely or tightly over your penis? Do you masturbate fast to ejaculate often? Is ejaculation essential each time? This would help in my answer to you. " -Yardwork, I'm cleaning the house up outside so my dad can sell it eventualy, I'm responsible personaly for around 5,000 in property value increase so far. So that means a lot of tree trimming, landscaping, painting, carpentry, my hand end up rather rough at the end of the day, that combined with the dry weather realy makes my hands rough. -Around 5 years ago, I never realy did it with my bare hand much, tried it a few times and I would stop before Orgasming because of the pain. So i would just use a shirt or sometimes lotion. -I do a little bit of everything, mainly massaging the first inch or two with a flexible grip, I focus on the glans. I usualy just go directly for Orgasm as fast as possible, not much leadup since I don't have any down time after ejaculating at this point in my life. I'm starting to think this might have the same effect on female partners in the future, I'm sure if I don't like my rough hands they will not either, maybe I just need to just use work gloves more and start an intensive treatment of hand lotion. | 2006-11-24 22:47:32 |
| 489 | 3257 | Hi, If you are circumcised then you don't have the natural skin that could protect your glans from irritation from your hands, and other irritants. Women certainly don't like rough hands on their soft parts so you may want to start using hand lotion, especially at night. For now, to masturbate, I guess you could aquire some soft fabric, like silky women's undies. [img]/sexforum/images/emoticons/16.gif[/img] Brad | 2006-11-25 09:52:27 |
| 489 | 3262 | [user=1]bradf30[/user] wrote: "Hi, If you are circumcised then you don't have the natural skin that could protect your glans from irritation from your hands, and other irritants. Women certainly don't like rough hands on their soft parts so you may want to start using hand lotion, especially at night. For now, to masturbate, I guess you could aquire some soft fabric, like silky women's undies. [img]/sexforum/images/emoticons/16.gif[/img] Brad " Yeah I am circumcised, I guess I'll just stick to the cloth, but I must say it is AMAZING how much damage 6 months of hard labor can do to your hands. Official End of Thread. | 2006-11-25 20:52:21 |
| 489 | 3267 | [user=825]Male[/user] wrote: "maybe I just need to just use work gloves more and start an intensive treatment of hand lotion. " From a woman's perspetive I'd have to say, ABSOLUTELY buy the work gloves and the lotion. I wouldn't enjoy a guy with hands& you describe touching my shoulders let alone anything south of my navel. You'll enjoy yourself more now and your next girlfriend will enjoy you more too! | 2006-11-26 11:07:17 |
| 489 | 3269 | [user=825]Male[/user] wrote: "Official End of Thread. " Sorry, I didn't notice your note here. Probably ended up putting my two cents in where it wasn't wanted. I think you can have Brad close this topic to further posts if you want. | 2006-11-26 11:29:05 |
| 492 | 3263 | I'm not sure if this is the proper place to ask this, but... Recently, I had a very wierd dream about me and my girlfriend.& In the dream we were engaging in foreplay, obviously about to have sex, when suddenly I catch a glimpse of her genitals.& Now, she is usually beautiful in that area and everywhere else, but this time there were teeth inside of her... I remember hearing somewhere that Freud detailed this event as Vagina Dentata (Toothed Vagina), but no where I look describes what it can stand for.& Since the dream (two days ago), I still feel really odd in general.& My girlfriend thinks it might mean that I'm subconsciously afraid of intercourse, but I highly doubt that.& I'm 16 and male (obviously) if that is important at all.& If anyone needs more details to help, I can try and remember more if you ask. I thought maybe some people here could help me interpret this dream. | 2006-11-25 21:26:38 |
| 492 | 3265 | Well the myth of Vagina Dentata which has occured in many ancient stories is supposed to have developed out of fear of castration from raping said vagina, even today people are castrated (chemicly) for rape. However, Freud never brought up Vagina Dentata in any of his studies, instead he links the vagina and fear of castration as more of a viewing of the result than the cause. An example being a boy seeing a vulva and thinking that there used to be a penis there, but it was removed. However in my humble opinion I think your girlfriend might have been right, you must consider what you think about mouths with pointy teeth, would you expect to stick your hand into an Aligators mouth and pull it out just fine? or into the mouth of a Shark or a Lion? But in order to be sure I must know more about your dream if you can remember, were the teeth posing a threat to you? Were they menacing? Did you feel fear and uneasiness in the teeths presence? | 2006-11-26 02:51:11 |
| 492 | 3266 | The teeth weren't really posing a threat, persay.& They were simply there, and I woke up before anything else happened. I should probably clarify exactly what I saw in the dream.& I say "teeth" because that was the closest word I could think of to describe it at the time, but they were more like metal.& Metal "teeth" like in one of those machines that moves dirt and such around... I can't remember what they're called, I pretty much just woke up. I wasn't afraid of them, but I certainly wasn't at ease with them there.& I also remember that there was a very pungent smell, like very strong (bad) perfume.& It appeared as if, in the dream, my girlfriend and I were on a bed in a warehouse with blank red paint all over the walls. | 2006-11-26 09:14:43 |
| 492 | 3268 | I'm not a psychoanalyst, but that dream certainly sounds like it could stem from a repressed fear or guilt complex. However, the fact that you remember it may actually be a good thing, disturbing though it is to you. I remember a psych professor saying that the reason we forget dreams is because the ego supresses them. They contain things too fearful or guilt producing for the mind to accept and the ego represses them. Since you do remember it, perhaps your mind is saying you're ready to deal with that fear or guilt and start enjoying your current sexual relationship fully. Your unconscious mind might be the only "person" who knows what that fear or feeling of guilt is, where it comes from. If you try to use a positive& approach, though, such as seeing it as a sign that you're ready to free yourself from it, you might be better able to release it. TOTALLY UNPROFESSIONAL opinion here. | 2006-11-26 11:16:40 |
| 492 | 3300 | That's okay, unprofessional is what I'm looking for here. ;) All I'm really doing right now is trying to pool a bunch of ideas together and finding which one sounds the most reasonable and accurate.& It is most likely based on a fear, but that fear I'm not quite sure of. The only real fear I have in any way about sex is purely pregnancy right now.& It is ridiculous a fear, though, and I'm fairly sure I've convinced myself of that.& "Freed myself" so to speak. You see, she is on birth control pills, we use a condom, and I am Tantric on top of all that.& That essentially means I never ejaculate (at least inside her, and even then rare), so the only real risk would be posed from pre-ejaculate, which I've heard from reputable sources contains no spermatozoids. I know you said it would most likely be a subconscious fear that I am not fully aware of, but I should be able to at least place it into a vague category or event that caused it.& That fear is the only one I could think of. Thanks for the interpretation so far guys, you're a big help. Any others? | 2006-11-27 18:14:19 |
| 507 | 3381 | ok like my girl friend went to giv me a handjob and like qwhen she touched me down there i like went limp:( what coul be a possible cuase:-/ | 2006-12-11 21:41:44 |
| 507 | 3382 | Sounds like nervousness. Take it easy, don't take everything seriously if that's the case.& Or, perhaps you are having second thoughts about becoming sexual in the first place? | 2006-12-11 21:45:06 |
| 507 | 3384 | Yes what are your thoughts? Did you ask for it? or did your girlfriend volunteer? It can seem intimidating& :-/& when you try something’ new'. Relax and don't worry if you lose your erection, even encourage foreplay with your limp penis that will boost your confidence& :cool: Does your girlfriend like playing with your penis? or is she doing because she thinks she 'has to'? 0:-) | 2006-12-12 05:46:02 |
| 507 | 3385 | Not to fret!& My boyfriend once lost erection when I started to play with him I believe the first time.& Reason was he had already masturbated earlier to coming over so he wouldn't get a hard-on when kissing.& That didn't really help much, but when I started to play with him with my hands he started to get soft, and he got a little embarrassed.& I told him there was no need for him to get embarrassed and that I didn't think he liked me less because he lost his erection.& I continued to play with it and eventually his penis got it's act together. :)& Just relax.& Don't think so much about it.& It might also be important to talk to you girlfriend about it. | 2006-12-12 08:59:12 |
| 507 | 3397 | its only happened a couple times i havnt let her down again since cuase iwas so embarassed and afraid of it happenin again. she keeps tryin to convince me to let her but i dont want to go limp again so im not sure if i wanna | 2006-12-14 19:50:37 |
| 507 | 3400 | Try it again. I think you may enjoy it. I know I do. I have even gone limp too but that wasn't a disappointment it inspired her to try something else | 2006-12-15 06:22:03 |
| 507 | 3408 | I understand that it's easier said than done. But you just need to relax, and not let this whole "limp" thing be on your mind completely.& It's nothing to get paranoid about at your age.& & Relax and allow her to show you how she feels. If you truly don't feel comfortable with doing sexual things, may you're not ready? Then don't do them.& Only do sexual things with your girlfriend if you feel that you're absolutely ready to share yourself with her.& | 2006-12-15 19:53:34 |
| 507 | 3409 | ok& I finaly dicided to try it again and let her and i didn't go limp :) so i was pretty happy and relieved | 2006-12-16 06:21:22 |
| 507 | 3413 | That's great! :D YAY! There's absolutely nothing to worry about.& Things happen! Best of luck to you with everything else! | 2006-12-17 15:17:29 |
| 507 | 3472 | ok like i let her like give me a handjob and like one thing lead to another and like we ended up llike havin sex and it was kinda akward @ 1st cuase it was my 1st time but we got in the hang of it and it turned out pretty great | 2007-01-02 11:23:33 |
| 507 | 5513 | dude you need to take the experience as fun no matter what happens (even if it involves a trip to the hospital >.<) lol & Seriously it's the least bad thing that could happen and she might actually think it's cute that you got nervous if not then she just might think she has to try harder (which benefits you in many ways) I have lost an erection a few times and all I did was tell her she needs to get me hard again two or so minutes later we're back in business and ready to plow the streets. & Lay back and enjoy it even if you go limp again just enjoy the fact she wants to grab ahold of your penis and play with it. Life's too short to worry about the small stuff | 2008-02-22 20:46:31 |
| 511 | 3392 | The National Institutes of Health just concluded a study on the relationship between circumcision and HIV transmission. news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20061213/ap_on_he_me/hiv_circumcision | 2006-12-13 19:13:06 |
| 511 | 3393 | Hi, They overlooking some obvious flaws in their theory, in that some one has to have HIV for another person to get it. The guys must be getting it from their female partners. As long as the men don't get it there is no problem?& How many different sexual partners have they had? Why aren't they using condoms? So are they going to believe they don't need to use condoms now? Is circumcision a valid substitution for condom use? The article says they still need to use a condom. If they are using condoms why do they need to be circumcised? What about the rate of transmission in their female partners? Was that considered? The original NIH article is here: www.nih.gov/news/pr/dec2006/niaid-13.htm Brad | 2006-12-13 21:16:28 |
| 511 | 3394 | Of course its not a substitute for condoms.& Even if circumcision completely prevented HIV transmission, it wouldn't necessarily prevent other diseases and certainly wouldn't prevent pregnancy.& The study never suggested that it was a replacement for condoms.& However, condoms do fail, and many people prefer not to or refuse to wear condoms.& Just because they should doesn't mean they do.& When you are discussing birth control, even though the pill or a condom may work well individually, combining both methods of contraception is always preferable.& The same clearly applies for disease prevention.& Although a condom works well, it's no reason not to take other measures as well.& The study points this out quite clearly.& You ask if men will think they no longer need condoms.& The study did not overlook this.& In fact, the study directly addresses that concern.& It points out that while circumcision can dramatically help reduce risk of contracting HIV, it will only work best in conjunction with their ABC plan (Abstinence, Be Faithful, Condoms).& Again, multiple protections are better than just one. The study clearly does NOT imply that as long as men don't get HIV there is no problem.& However, it takes two to tango.& In terms of sexual transmission of HIV, not only do women transmit the virus to men, but men also transmit it back to women.& The study makes note of this, pointing out that circumcision would only prevent transmission to men in the short term.& However, the study also points out that if less men are contracting HIV from women, there will be fewer infected men to transmit the virus back to other uninfected women.& This is the long term benefit. This is really important since the rate of transmission from men to women is higher than the reverse.& If men are more likely to transmit the virus, it makes sense to focus efforts towards not only stopping infected men from transmitting the virus to women, but to preventing men from becoming infected in the first place. I didn't read every single word on their site, but I read enough to be satisfied with the reliability of their results.& In addition to that, their findings coincide with common sense.& As I mentioned before, women are more likely to contract HIV from coitus than men.& The reason being, the vagina has thinner membranes, more easily contains foreign fluids, and provides a safer environment for the virus than the thicker exterior of a penis.& However, the area between the foreskin and the glans also provides a barrier that can retain foreign fluids and an environment safer for the virus than in the open air.& Also, the interior skin of the foreskin and the glans of uncircumsized men are thinner than the exterior skin and more easily allow the passage of a virus.& The foreskin is also known to tear during sex for some men which makes an ideal point of infection.& This is a kind of injury circumsized men don't have to deal with. | 2006-12-13 23:14:24 |
| 511 | 3395 | The Atkins Diet never suggests that Carbohydrates are bad for you, just shouldn't be consumed to make it work, but people seemed to think they were in the latest Atkins craze I think it was a year or two ago. I think the way people respond to studies and proclomations needs to be taken as a factor before spreading it everywhere. Now people are going to think "HOLY CRAP! If I lop off my foreskin I'll be impervious to AIDS" even though it only says 50%, and I can garuntee somewhere in the world there will be a guy who says to his partner before sex on the topic of a condom "No its okay baby, I'm circumsized." Maybe I should put out a study that if you are happy you're less likely to die jumping off of a building, so people would try to fly, "No its okay baby, I'm happy." | 2006-12-14 07:24:28 |
| 511 | 3401 | I don’t think circumcision should be encouraged to avoid aids as I know of people who have aids and they have all been circumcised previously. Safe sex would be a much better subject to encourage and talk about as talking can even cause problems to the people who don’t understand | 2006-12-15 06:28:06 |
| 511 | 6562 | Clinical trials conducted in East Africa, where there are no flush toilets, no daily showers, and no clean tap water, village stores don't sell condoms, and where people do not have our notion of fidelity in marriage. tell us nothing about whether an American kid should be snipped at birth. The circed USA has the highest HIV infection rate of any advanced country. Cervical cancer ain't rare either. Herpes is rampant. | 2009-04-06 00:20:10 |
| 514 | 3417 | I've had SOME problems with Premature Ejaculation, it happens mostly when I haven't had sex for a long time and then I start having sex frequently I can control my self a little bit better. I've started to take 40mg of Prozac/day for anxiety and depression.& I haven't had sex since.& But when I masturbate I realiazed that it took me longer to cum, so I went online and researched and it says that Prozac helps you with Premature Ejaculation, so it has helped me in a sense. My questions are: How do SSRI's work with helping you overcome Premature Ejaculation?& Because SSRI's (for Anxiety/Depression) take 2-6 weeks to start having effects on your body I was wondering if it was the same for Premature Ejaculation.& Or is the effect immediate?& Can I take a couple of extra Prozac pills a few days before the sexual encounter so I can last longer? What is the regular amount of time a man should be able to have sex without cuming? Thanks, and I appreciate your help. | 2006-12-18 22:11:31 |
| 514 | 3426 | I think it would be in your best interest to talk to your doctor about popping extra pills.& I personally think it would be a bad idea. Taking extra of any kind of pill isn't actually a healthy thing to do. The amount of time depends on how much time is needed for the female partner.& It all varies.& Every couple is different in how long a good sack session is for them.& I for one need a lot of prep time and also during time whereas my boyfriend doesn't really need that. I think most guys though if they haven't had sex in a long time tend to orgasm faster.& I know it happens with my boyfriend and me all the time.& If it has been a long time due to me being at school the session tends to be on the short side.& That my friend should not be considered as a problem, premature ejaculation because it doesn't happen all the time. If the ejaculation happens to appear after a few minutes every time, then it would be considered premature ejaction. | 2006-12-20 18:09:59 |
| 522 | 3500 | Hi all, I'm 21 and I have a smaller size penis (~3.5 inches long and ~1.5 inches diameter when erect). My girlfriend and I want to start having vaginal and oral& sex but "regular" condoms have never fit me.& I'm afraid that if we try to have sex with& one& it will tear or spill.& I've looked online and found that Lifestyles manufactures "snugger" condoms that can be bought& online ([url=www.1stopcondomshop.com/lifsnugfitco.html] www.1stopcondomshop.com/lifsnugfitco.html). Will I always have to& have these ordered beforehand?& Is it ever& safe for us to use a regular size condom? Thanks! | 2007-01-05 02:31:13 |
| 522 | 3505 | Hi, The diameter of your penis is average in size, so you will simply have a little extra still rolled up at the base of your penis. You may have to trim your pubic hair to prevent it from being tugged on. You might masturbate with a condom on to see if it will stay in place. If it does, not need for the special ones. Girl on top and rear entry positions will allow for the deepest penetration. Brad | 2007-01-05 09:42:27 |
| 522 | 3506 | Thanks for the& tips& bradf30.& Yeah,& I tried masturbating wtih a condom on a couple of times& and found it slipping around. I'll amend what I said earlier though about diameter because I overestimated.& It's actually like 1.25 inches diameter. | 2007-01-05 11:13:37 |
| 522 | 3515 | there are alternatives.& with your length, it may be more beneficial to use a female condom instead. also, depending on how long you have been together, the level of trust you have with her, and whether you have both been cleared for STDs, you may not need condoms.& If she is on the pill that is one step in the right direction, but you can also add spermicidal jelly and a diaphragm to the mix for two more layers of pregnancy protection. | 2007-01-06 03:42:37 |
| 530 | 3543 | im ticklish on the head of my penis wether ive come or not i dontknow why but ive always been that way its like my worste tickle spot but it feels great when im gettin tickled there by my gf or when masturbatin i cant keep it up on when im the one doin it cuase it gets to be such a overwhelmin good tickling sensation. | 2007-01-14 08:21:17 |
| 535 | 3591 | hi there, quick question about male orgasm. when my boyfriend and i have sex, it is always easier for me to orgasm and enjoy the act the second time round. He knows this, and our usual routine is to have a long session of intercourse while facing each other, and after he cums to take a break and then& to change positions& where he focuses on bringing me to a better climax. while& I appreciate this immensely, sometimes i do worry for the sake of his pleasure, as it is rare for him to orgasm if he has already. I feel like this is unfair, as I enjoy myself both times and I would like the same for him. I have asked if there is anything wrong or if there is anything i can do to change this, but he always replies that there is absolutely nothing to worry about, and that he is just tired from all the work. While i don't doubt that this is at least partially true, knowing him, there is a possibility that he is just being diplomatic for my sake. so here's the question, is it always this difficult for guys to "cum" a second time round? Is there anything I could do to help in making it as enjoyable as possible for him? & -bird | 2007-01-22 20:46:01 |
| 535 | 3603 | It is often difficult to orgasm twice in a row for most men. I find it difficult to raise an erection twice in a row now.;) & For me ejaculation isn’t the be all and end all. I really enjoy lengthy periods of sex, which is easier to perform on a regular basis, several times a week. I don’t ejaculate so often if I have regular intercourse.:) & My greatest thrill is to see my g/f Cumming regularly. Multiple orgasms are a sensation for her and I have longer, more enjoyable orgasms if I don’t ejaculate. The sensation of orgasm is long and enjoyable. The sensation of ejaculation is ecstatic lasting 1 second.:cool: & I know what I prefer.:-)) | 2007-01-26 05:12:27 |
| 535 | 3605 | :P& silly me. I didn't realise that the two were not mutualy exclusive& or inclusive. Can you tell I'm a bit of a newbie to this? thanks a lot Enjoy. I feel much better now! | 2007-01-26 09:24:32 |
| 535 | 3608 | Hi Bird, Don't ever sell yourself short. We all have so much to learn that is why I am reading this forum. I have decided that I need to know my own body first and how it functions and all my like and dislikes. Then I need to know, this is of similiar importance, how other peoples body works and their likes and dislikes. We can all live much more happily when we choose to understand each other. | 2007-01-27 05:16:22 |
| 535 | 3610 | couldn't agree more Enjoy, which is why i posted the question. I wanted to make sure my partner wasn't just being the sweetheart i know he is. because, while it is remarkably nice of him, i& need to know that & there is nothing going unsaid in a department that i believe should be completely mutual. I am most certainly not interested in making our sex life one-sided, his pleasure is very much important to me! I think it is especially difficult for me because he is older than I am, and I admit to feeling a little unexperienced at times. anyways, once again thanks so much for the input. I greatly appreciate it! -bird | 2007-01-28 01:53:54 |
| 535 | 3662 | Hi bird, Enjoy gave you good advice, and you seem to be heading in the right direction generally. Get to know your bodies and your likes and dislikes. But I would lke to comment on something that most men and women don't seem to know. Men and women bodies interact counterwise. It takes more time for a man to come after each time that he cums and a womans body acts opposite. A woman cums faster after each orgasm, if you know how to use this, you could open a whole new dimension.[img]/sexforum/images/emoticons/16.gif[/img];) | 2007-02-09 05:04:09 |
| 535 | 3668 | [user=1200]bird[/user] wrote: "hi there, quick question about male orgasm. when my boyfriend and i have sex, it is always easier for me to orgasm and enjoy the act the second time round. He knows this, and our usual routine is to have a long session of intercourse while facing each other, and after he cums to take a break and then& to change positions& where he focuses on bringing me to a better climax. while& I appreciate this immensely, sometimes i do worry for the sake of his pleasure, as it is rare for him to orgasm if he has already. I feel like this is unfair, as I enjoy myself both times and I would like the same for him. I have asked if there is anything wrong or if there is anything i can do to change this, but he always replies that there is absolutely nothing to worry about, and that he is just tired from all the work. While i don't doubt that this is at least partially true, knowing him, there is a possibility that he is just being diplomatic for my sake. so here's the question, is it always this difficult for guys to "cum" a second time round? Is there anything I could do to help in making it as enjoyable as possible for him? & -bird & Bird, if my experence is counted, you have nothing to worry about. Personally I love the next time better than the previous one in that the next one is more long drawn out and pleasurable. I just love the feel of sliding in and out without having to worry about floppin off after cum. " | 2007-02-10 02:21:33 |
| 535 | 3685 | Personally I love the next time better than the previous one in that the next one is more long drawn out and pleasurable. I just love the feel of sliding in and out without having to worry about floppin off after cum. Yes that is very true for me too. When the female orgasms the 'correct' lubricant is active, enveloping the penis and making the penis 'draw' into the opening of the vagina. I can visualise the wonderful 'slapping' sound as the penis 'slides' effortlessly in and out. I can 'smell' the wonderful aroma coming from the scource of the lubricant. I can 'feel' the wet, sticky lubricant around the connected bodies. :D More orgasms only enhance and lengthen the experience. I notice the friction disappears with more lubrication allowing for a longer, more pleasurable intercourse. The only time I've noticed shorter intercourse sessions is when I haven't been practicing regularly enough. The sensation of warm, sensuouse lubricant flowing over and around the penis can have the effect of 'drawing' the penis into the vaginal canal and I ejaculate uncontrollaby. It seem to give a 'sucking' effect. The longer I can last without ejaculating the more I enjoy the lengthy pleasure. I can maintain an erection for a much longer time if I keep my thoughts away from ejaculating. I also believe the more regularly I practise, either intercourse or masturbate, the more responsive my penis is. & I do note though, that good, wet regular intercourse sesions actualy 'expand' my penis. This is a much more acceptable and successful penis enlargement practice. I don't wish to be 'one-sided' however& [img]/sexforum/images/emoticons/16.gif[/img] I must be satisfied if I am to be able to satsfy my partner succesfully to the best of my ability | 2007-02-12 05:01:42 |
| 535 | 3728 | I'm sorry folks, i wasn't getting emails telling me that this topic was getting responses. We have made progress on this topic....a lot of progress actually. I tried my best to explain to him what had been discussed in this thread and we have in response developed some new techniques most efficient in providing us both with multiple moments of pleasure. He is an absolute sweetheart in that he simply wasn't expecting me to be so& devoted to& making sex as enjoyable as possible for him. It takes a lot of explaining to articulate that in many ways, giving someone else pleasure can be a thousand times more enjoyable and rewarding than receiving it yourself, and now that we are both comfortable in that understanding; well things have been going extremely well. thank you very much for your responses! -bird | 2007-02-22 01:33:22 |
| 537 | 3593 | Okay, well I and my girlfriend, had sex for the first time about two weeks ago, and before that I would put my penis in, and i would pull the skin back off of my penis (since I'm uncirumcised) and I take it out and it hurt touch obviously since the skin was all the way off the head. I like to put it in without condom to tease, but not to actually do it, but its still irriating for the skin to come down and it makes my penis hurt while its inside of her, when it goes in about 2 inches. Is there anyway to put it in without a condom so the skin wont get pulled back? has anyone heard of this before? | 2007-01-23 16:42:06 |
| 537 | 3595 | Ah, my uncircumsized brother! ;) There are two things I would consider here to help you... Usually if your girlfriend is sufficiently turned on, the natural lubrication would make sure that you feel good (great, rather...), and it would allow your skin to not be pulled so tightly back.& The problem here may not be with you in that case.& If there is not enough lubrcation, then try some of your own!& I don't personally use much with my girlfriend, but I hear KY jelly works like a charm. If that is irrelevant and you know it, then my next piece of advice is a different way to enter.& Instead of pulling back the foreskin entirely before entering her, let it cover the head (or as much of it as possible, considering that you're most likely turned on...).& This way, when you enter, the skin will pull back on its own... this seems like it would work.& I don't understand why people always say you need to pull back the foreskin before starting, really. If neither of these are an answer for you, just use the condom.& I mean, really, birth control is always nice to relieve worrysome thoughts.& I understand though... me and my girlfriend prefer no condom sometimes too... A guilty crime I suppose. ;) Can I ask for your age, as well?& Or at least, how long ago did the foreskin detach from the head of your penis?& Yeah, this is probably a stupid thought here, but if it just recently (maybe within half a year ago) detached fully, the head may still be a little too sensitive.& Hope that made a bit of sense... it does as I'm typing it at least. | 2007-01-23 17:11:49 |
| 537 | 3597 | I don't pull the skin back it does by itself, and it hurts like hell | 2007-01-23 17:14:54 |
| 537 | 3604 | So when you get an erection the skin pulls back over the heas does it?:? That's good and could mean that it is still stretching, which is why it hurts. Gentle masturbation regularly will help. ;) When i was 17 to 18 years old. My penis used to get so erect that I couldn't move any of the skin and the head was pure pain.:-& I complained that I was circumcised and didn't have a foreskin. It was worth the pain though to get such an erection ;) even if I couldn't masturbate or with difficulty. Try lubrication and it will gently peel back and be more comfortable. Does your g/f enjoy sex too? | 2007-01-26 05:26:32 |
| 537 | 3671 | A[user=1238]oceanviewer2009[/user] wrote: "Okay, well I and my girlfriend, had sex for the first time about two weeks ago, and before that I would put my penis in, and i would pull the skin back off of my penis (since I'm uncirumcised) and I take it out and it hurt touch obviously since the skin was all the way off the head. I like to put it in without condom to tease, but not to actually do it, but its still irriating for the skin to come down and it makes my penis hurt while its inside of her, when it goes in about 2 inches. Is there anyway to put it in without a condom so the skin wont get pulled back? has anyone heard of this before? "Am not circumsised either. But I have never had the problem of hurt while penetrating or whatever. What could perhaps hurt is when you are fking with both of you not fully aroused and relatively dry. More foreplay might help.& Perhaps you need to check it out by a doctor too. | 2007-02-10 03:15:07 |
| 537 | 3675 | Well, I don't know, she get's pretty damn wet, Somtimes Im not always hard at first, but sometimes I am... | 2007-02-10 10:14:56 |
| 539 | 3606 | I'm interested in shaving my private area. I'm looking for any tips you're willing to give. I'm specifically looking for tips on shaving the scrotum. It seems a bit to delicate and thin. | 2007-01-26 13:11:44 |
| 539 | 3607 | I used to try shaving in the shower so that the area was moist, but I noticed that I could never get all of the hair off, just the ends this way. Something that works well for me now is to put hot water on a rag and hold that to the area for a little while, just to moisten it.& After that, I just use a razor from bottom to top with no shaving cream or anything.& If it seems agitated afterwards I'll put on a little lotion. I haven't ever cut my scrotum so far, after a year of shaving it, so I don't think it's as delicate as some make it out to be.& I've cut my shaft far more than my scrotum. :? Maybe my skin is just very tough? Just remember to shave in the direction that the hair is growing and you should be fine. Also, I recommend not shaving anywhere between your cheeks... for the love of God, that hair is certainly there for a reason. | 2007-01-26 14:46:43 |
| 539 | 3987 | why would you want to shave there? I don't see the point. | 2007-04-06 23:14:51 |
| 539 | 3993 | To put it simply, windryder, because some places do look better without hair. I'm all fine with leaving the rest natural (I usually do, just trim occasionally) but the hair on the scrotum is both annoying (the little hairs prick my thighs...) and, in my opinion, ugly. To put it in the words of an immortal soul: "There really is nothing like a shorn scrotum... it's breathtaking- I suggest you try it." And yes, that is Dr. Evil from Austin Powers... but hey, those movies are immortal. Right? & ...Right? :? I guess in the end, I just like smooth things.& I get the feeling my girlfriend does too. ;) | 2007-04-07 00:21:53 |
| 539 | 4638 | When I have shaved, I too have done it in the shower. First I use a bear trimmer (carefully) and then I put baby oil n the area and lather, then I shave. It takes a while and sometimes after going over an area a lot, it starts to get irritated. I stop, wait a few days and then get the little areas I missed. Also, for the scrotum, I have cut myself, and it burns. Just pull the skin smooth and keep going over it. If there's a simpler way, I don't know about it. As for Wyndryder's question, it's a personal decision. I think it looks better, neater; the penis looks longer; plus my wife loves it like that. | 2007-08-12 06:06:12 |
| 539 | 4673 | [user=2644]Drew[/user] wrote: "When I have shaved, I too have done it in the shower. First I use a bear trimmer (carefully) and then I put baby oil n the area and lather, then I shave. It takes a while and sometimes after going over an area a lot, it starts to get irritated. I stop, wait a few days and then get the little areas I missed. Also, for the scrotum, I have cut myself, and it burns. Just pull the skin smooth and keep going over it. If there's a simpler way, I don't know about it. As for Wyndryder's question, it's a personal decision. I think it looks better, neater; the penis looks longer; plus my wife loves it like that. " I too shave in the shower, after experience I do not 'cut' myself - the same as shaving my face after experience I do not 'cut' myself. Personal decision - giggle I can't see the 'point' if I don't shave as their is too much hair:D | 2007-08-13 05:44:37 |
| 542 | 3617 | Alright, maybe some of you know this, or maybe not, but I am a relatively young 16 year old guy.& As most of you who have read my posts would figure out, I have a girlfriend (also 16) and we are intimate as much as possible. I just wanted to run a thought by all of you, because I've seen quite a few good topics on these boards, and I wanted to read some of your thoughts on this as well. Now, by nature humans are sexual, correct?& From the earliest age recorded (a female in the womb) to the oldest of the old, we behave and think sexual thoughts.& We are driven by sexuality, despite what some people may deny, but it is an essential part of our makeup.& I don't mean to say that sex is all that matters to people, but it is an undeniable aspect of being human. Teenagers are human (despite what we may act like sometimes..) correct?& We are approaching adulthood and some of us are actually quite mature.& I personally believe I behave more maturely than many other "adults" I know.& I'm also not quite as generic as the stereotypes suggest... By this logic, shouldn't it be thought that teenagers are every bit as sexual (perhaps more) than everyone else?& I ask this, because it seems like my parents wish to deny the sexual aspect of our lives.& I'm not going to imply or say in any way that sex is all that matters in ours or any relationship, but intimacy is a very important tie between two people in love.& Sexuality and love are inexplicably tied, in my opinion.& We can try to deny sexual impulses, but all it leads to is frustration and general depression, as I've seen and heard.& Expression of intimacy is a very loving thing to have with someone. My parents (whom I still live with for approximately another year and a half) are constantly telling me not to be intimate with the girl I love, and I am sick of it.& They have two excuses for this: 1) Pregnancy.& They seem to think that the moment two people have sex, immediately there is a baby in their arms, and they have no control over any of it.& They think I sound naive when I say that we have all of the bases covered, but hear me out here... We use three forms of birth control.& Condoms (used correctly, every time), birth control pills (she takes them exactly the same time, every night), and we are Tantric.& Yes, you heard me right, I practice the method of no-ejaculation.& I never, ever ejaculate inside of her, or anywhere near her vulva.& I usually never ejaculate at all, anyway!& If I ever orgasm, I withhold the sperm, as well.& They said that pre-ejaculate can contain sperm, which is partly true.& The problem with that logic is that pre-ejaculate only contains sperm if you haven't urinated since your last ejaculation.& Of which I don't have. So, through all of that, wouldn't you think pregnancy shouldn't even be an issue in their minds?& Tell me what you think of all of that, please... 2) Uncomfortability.& My parents seem very, very uncomfortable and awkward with the idea of sex.& I actually wonder if they still are intimate with each other.& We usually wait for them to leave before we act sexually, but they still use this excuse.& In the end, though, I really don't think that their inability to understand a basic human act should deter me and my girlfriend from being intimate. I know that it is their house, and that is really their only good argument against me right now.& It's not like we interfere with their lives, though... and I really don't think it'd be healthy to just cut sex out of our relationship cold-turkey for a year and a half. Anyone care to share some insight for this confused and somewhat frustrated little boy?& All ideas welcome, though I'd prefer not to hear any replies of "You're just a stupid, angsty hormone-ridden teenager who needs to grow up...!" EDIT: Also, I should add that we only get the opportunity to be alone maybe four times a month.& Usually one day a weekend... It drives me insane.& I only get to see her privately (in any sense of the word) maybe once a week.& Usually, things don't work out that way, though, because her parents are insufferable.& They are deeply narcissistic and hate both their own children (including my girlfriend) and myself.& We have to work around their "schedules", my parents "schedules", and general school related events and homework. We usually get to be sexual around two or three days a MONTH, really.& It's insane... we can't wait to live together in a year and a half.& Until then, though... you know my story. | 2007-01-30 16:58:30 |
| 542 | 3619 | I had no idea you were 16, for someone of that age you write really well. You say by nature us humans are sexual, which is true, but we mostly derive off of pleasure, not all of that pleasure has to be sexual.& Like quenching ones thirst or hunger, feels good, as well as going to the bathroom.& Those things for example are pleasure. I believe the reason why teenagers seem to be more sexual nowadays is because of our society.& Many people are just having sex and performing sexual acts because it's "the thing to do."& The rate of what teenagers do today is a lot more than what teenagers did back 10 years ago.& Many teenagers feel they need to have sex to be cool, or it makes them feel accepted.& Some of the reasons, in my opinion, aren't good enough. To express your love to someone, you don't have to have sex.& I have a few friends that are waiting until their are married to have any sexual contact (kissing is exempt).& My friend has been with her boyfriend for a year now, and they have only kissed each other.& She said that the thought of waiting to lose it together with him makes it exciting and that her boyfriend is worth it.& There's so many ways one can express themselves to another person, you can write them letters, poems, kiss them, hug them.& Those are only a few ideas.& I think my friend is right though.& If I would have waited, I think I would have been excited too.& In high school, people would always brag about who they had sex with, like it was a game.& I think it's a shame that some people just will give their body to someone just for fun.& Like there isn't any meaning in the whole act. I know you're not saying that your gf and you just do it for that fact, but I think that's why your parents care. You may practice Tantric, but that doesn't mean your parents can't worry.& My boyfriend and I are always using some kind of birth control.& And that's definitely not stopping his parents as well as my mom from worrying about us.& His mom has dreams about me having a baby! Which is really something I would prefer her to stop doing.& You're 16, you still have a whole life ahead of you, they just care about your life, once you have a child, it gets tough, and it makes it harder for you to enjoy things and also to take college classes. My dad is still in denial about his Pumpkin having sex with her boyfriend.& My mom knows and so does my boyfriend's parents.& My mom got really uncomfortable with me at first when she saw condom wrappers in my trashcan.& She wasn't snooping, she was emptying the trash.& It's normal for parents to be uncomfortable with this.& Whether your parents are intimate with each other or not, they are going to feel a little weird that their son has a intimate sexual relationship with his gf.& I understand what it's like to not have sex very often since I'm here at school and my boyfriend is 2 hours = 119 miles away back at home.& We don't see each other as often as we like.& It's something you just have to learn how to cope and deal with.& I really can't wait until I am done with college and can get a job, move in an apartment with my love, and get married shortly after.& Once you can be on your own and explore the real world, you'll have more time to engage in the more intimate activities, and really get to know each other even better.& It's just something to look forward to. | 2007-01-31 13:33:51 |
| 542 | 3621 | Thank you for your thoughts Ladybug! I only have a few things I want to point out with what you said, not to be taken insultingly! :) [user=116]Ladybug[/user] wrote: ""I had no idea you were 16, for someone of that age you write really well. You say by nature us humans are sexual, which is true, but we mostly derive off of pleasure, not all of that pleasure has to be sexual. Like quenching ones thirst or hunger, feels good, as well as going to the bathroom. Those things for example are pleasure." The hedonistic view of humans is true as far as I've seen, yes, but this isn't an act for pure physical pleasure.& The reason the act is enjoyable to us is because of the emotional impact it has on us and our relationship, not the physical pleasure it brings.& Comparing a physical need such as eating and going to the bathroom with an intimate need through sexuality is apples and oranges. This is all in my opinion, of course. "I believe the reason why teenagers seem to be more sexual nowadays is because of our society. Many people are just having sex and performing sexual acts because it's "the thing to do." The rate of what teenagers do today is a lot more than what teenagers did back 10 years ago. Many teenagers feel they need to have sex to be cool, or it makes them feel accepted. Some of the reasons, in my opinion, aren't good enough. " I suppose society can be blamed for sexual deviance for the general population of teenagers and the like, but we aren't engaging in the act to be cool.& Hell, we are each others best friends, and no one knows about our intimate lives together at all.& We don't need to do this to be accepted in anyones eyes, including each others, but it is definitely another level of being close to one another that we would hate to be forced to give up for a long length of time. "To express your love to someone, you don't have to have sex. I have a few friends that are waiting until their are married to have any sexual contact (kissing is exempt). My friend has been with her boyfriend for a year now, and they have only kissed each other. She said that the thought of waiting to lose it together with him makes it exciting and that her boyfriend is worth it. There's so many ways one can express themselves to another person, you can write them letters, poems, kiss them, hug them. Those are only a few ideas. I think my friend is right though. If I would have waited, I think I would have been excited too. In high school, people would always brag about who they had sex with, like it was a game. I think it's a shame that some people just will give their body to someone just for fun. Like there isn't any meaning in the whole act. " We have done everything you listed for each other, and my girlfriend always tells me I'm a romantic. :P& I always make her gifts for holidays and the like (a music CD I recorded, a calendar with all of our memories listed with dates...) and recently I gave here seven notes a day telling her reasons why I love her.& I think I reached 107 or so before I decided to end it for awhile. So, of course you don't need sex to express yourself, but it is another level of expression that cannot be replaced, because it is on an entirely different level from other expression.& That doesn't make it better or worse than any other kinds of expression, but it does place it in a category all it's own. And, just to bring in a quote here, because I love Voltaire... "It is one of the superstitions of the human mind to have imagined that virginity could be a virtue." -Voltaire " I know you're not saying that your gf and you just do it for that fact, but I think that's why your parents care. You may practice Tantric, but that doesn't mean your parents can't worry. My boyfriend and I are always using some kind of birth control. And that's definitely not stopping his parents as well as my mom from worrying about us. His mom has dreams about me having a baby! Which is really something I would prefer her to stop doing. You're 16, you still have a whole life ahead of you, they just care about your life, once you have a child, it gets tough, and it makes it harder for you to enjoy things and also to take college classes." The only thing I always feel I need to stress when someone points out having a baby is a simple fact everyones learned in Sex-Ed:& It takes both a sperm and an egg to create an embryo, if either are gone, fertilization will not occur. I know that is extremely basic, but the point I'm making is that there is no sperm during our sexual times!& I would understand if the birth control being used is not fool-proof, even if there was a very, very slight chance of failure... then I would understand them for being concerned.& But, there is no chance without ejaculation.& None, zip, nada. And don't start telling me I'll inevitably screw up one time or another.& In all of the two years I've practiced it, I've messed up once.& Now, that one mess up has to go through a condom and birth control pills effects.& I just don't understand how people don't get this concept; I'd suppose it's because Tantra isn't basic Western knowledge.& Foreign concepts always scare Western folk I know... "I understand what it's like to not have sex very often since I'm here at school and my boyfriend is 2 hours = 119 miles away back at home. We don't see each other as often as we like. It's something you just have to learn how to cope and deal with. I really can't wait until I am done with college and can get a job, move in an apartment with my love, and get married shortly after. Once you can be on your own and explore the real world, you'll have more time to engage in the more intimate activities, and really get to know each other even better. It's just something to look forward to." I'm sorry that you have to go through a hardship like this, too. :( But yeah, the thought of having an apartment with the person you love and being free with them certainly gives a person hope! " Sometimes I've been told I sound too argumentative or insulting when I discuss subjects with people, but know that all I'm trying to do is compare opinions and share facts.& The best way to learn is in a discussion; not in just simply accepting what someone tells you. Anyway, thanks for your thoughts again! ;) | 2007-01-31 17:10:20 |
| 542 | 3622 | Kundalini, I am most impressed that you have started this topic and am joining in because I believe I am in a situation very similar to yours. I am seventeen (just turned so yesterday!) and my boyfriend and i have been together for just over 7 months. He is slightly older than I, only considering our current ages now, it appears to others as a more considerable gap than it would if we were both in our twenties or thirties. He had, prior to meeting me, lost his virginity to and had sex with one girl at an age probably considered fairly late on by the going rate of teenage sexuality. I have always been fairly confident in my own opinions on virginity.& There was in my mind the exact idea of the man I wanted to make love to for the first time& and should this person not be my first boyfriend, I was beyond prepared to wait until I was in the care of "him". In the end, I was lucky. My current boyfriend was my first boyfriend of any kind, and the man I chose to have sex with. I knew the moment I laid& eyes on him that this was it (i know that sounds beyond moronic, but bare with me) and i was not afraid to tell him early on that he, nobody else, was the one I wanted to have my first time with. There were a number of reasons for this decision that I don't have to get into here, but& trust me when i say& he is/was exactly what I was& prepared to wait a long long time for.& Despite the fact that we& established this very early on, it took three months before we did engage in intercourse, there was no jumping of the gun, and i have never been so sure and/or confident in a choice as I am in that one. So how does this all fit in to your topic? Excuse my digression please, but I hope it served as an example of both my point and yours. Teenage sex is an issue no different in my mind than that of middle aged, or senior intercourse. There are in all age groups those who are aware and responsible for their decisions, and those who are not. A thirty year old woman is just as likely to have reckless meaningless sex as a fourteen year old, the only thing that differentiates the two is age. Both may be educated or not, both may be capable of responsibility or not. In my opinion, responsibility is the real key in this argument. If you are incapable of being responsible for your actions, ignorant of responsibility, or unwilling to admit that there IS a certain amount of responsibility involved, then you have no right to be engaging in sex, no matter what age you are. This does not put borders around what kind of sex you are having, how frequent it may be, or any other variable. It is more in my mind a question of awareness. Whew, I feel like I might be verging off topic. What I’m trying to get at here is that parents or adults view teenage sex as differently because of reasons that really, are just as pertinent in the lives of people over 18. The feeling here it seems to me is that people are unwilling to recognize or are incapable of seeing that being a teenager does not immediately include sexual ignorance, nor does being an adult exclude it.& Being confident in your choices, as I am, is essential, as is a unique sense of role and responsibility, such as yours Kundalini. These are attributes that transcend beyond physical maturity and are much more relevant to emotional growth and development. A parents feelings towards their son/daughter engaging in sex is a bit of a special matter that doesn’t quite fit into this argument. I see it as inevitable that one would feel uncomfortable in the thought of ones offspring taking their first steps of sexuality and expression because in our societies standards this is a testing of the waters of adulthood. Not to mention the fact that there are risks involved, and that goes for ANYONE. My mom accepts the fact that I most likely am sexually active (we have never had a direct “yes†or “no†conversation on this but I am 99% certain she has figured it out) and yes, I know it worries her, but for specific reasons. She knows that my partner will and is taking care of me, she knows we are two healthy and safe people, and she knows that I am happy and confident in our relationship. Again, all this leaves in unwanted pregnancy, but she has enough common sense to realise that that will be an inevitable risk no matter what age I am and that in regards to everything else, I am as safe as I ever will be in a sexual relationship. This doesn’t mean she is happy about it, but she does except it. And that means a lot to me. As for my own personal feelings, they are much like yours Kundalini. The intimacy I have between myself and my partner is something that I cherish deeply, just as anyone in a relationship would, and our moments together sexually are ones that are very important to me. We too see very little of each other during the week (he has a full time job, I go to school, and work etc) and I vehemently wish that we had more time alone together, but we have learned to appreciate what we can get, and in a way it makes those times all the more exciting and dare I say, passionate. It is frustrating to be stifled by age, but in the end I have to find comfort in the fact that we have approached this relationship in a mature manner, one that has just as much emotional relevance as it does physical. Yes, we are all sexually driven beings and therefore our interest in sexuality is unavoidable, but the spiritual attachment to that is separate and deserving of it’s own acknowledgement, and your age is not part of that equation. Wow. Forgive this run-on of a post. Sorry if that came off as pushy or strongly single minded. I wasn’t expecting to go on for so long. my apologies! -bird & | 2007-01-31 23:24:27 |
| 542 | 3623 | I wasn't totally erasing what you had said about having no sperm at all.& I wasn't accusing you of mal-practive of Tantra.& I was just simply stating, it's normal for parents to worry about such things.& At their age, thinking about having a grandchild is the last thing they want.& & And when did I "start telling [you that you'll] inevitably screw up one time or another." You won't find it because I didn't. I guess I won't understand the importance of sex in the younger teenagers.& I was almost 20 when I started to engage in the act with my boyfriend.& I didn't date at all when I was in high school, my boyfriend now is my first and only boyfriend.& I just see it a little differently.& I never understood how the youngins thought they really loved the person they were going out with.& They always claimed they would get married after high school, but then all of the people that claimed that, now have gone their seperate ways. | 2007-02-01 13:55:08 |
| 542 | 3626 | [user=116]Ladybug[/user] wrote: ""I wasn't totally erasing what you had said about having no sperm at all. I wasn't accusing you of mal-practive of Tantra. I was just simply stating, it's normal for parents to worry about such things. At their age, thinking about having a grandchild is the last thing they want. And when did I "start telling [you that you'll] inevitably screw up one time or another." You won't find it because I didn't. " You didn't, and I didn't imply that you ever did.& I just said that because I expected someone to start telling me that soon, everyone who knows about it at all has told me so.& I worded it incorrectly, my mistake. "I didn't date at all when I was in high school, my boyfriend now is my first and only boyfriend. I just see it a little differently. I never understood how the youngins thought they really loved the person they were going out with. They always claimed they would get married after high school, but then all of the people that claimed that, now have gone their seperate ways. " My current girlfriend is also my first and only girlfriend.& Some people think differently of love, but I'm not the type to imitate love to be happy.& I'm happy because I know that what I have is love, and my girlfriend thinks the same way. I doubt all of the people who said they'd get married after High School separated, I have heard many stories of High School sweethearts working out.& Even if they never occurred, I'd never erase the chance of us being the exception. " | 2007-02-01 16:14:24 |
| 542 | 3627 | [user=1200]bird[/user] wrote: " "In the end, I was lucky. My current boyfriend was my first boyfriend of any kind, and the man I chose to have sex with. I knew the moment I laid eyes on him that this was it (i know that sounds beyond moronic, but bare with me) and i was not afraid to tell him early on that he, nobody else, was the one I wanted to have my first time with. There were a number of reasons for this decision that I don't have to get into here, but trust me when i say he is/was exactly what I was prepared to wait a long long time for. Despite the fact that we established this very early on, it took three months before we did engage in intercourse, there was no jumping of the gun, and i have never been so sure and/or confident in a choice as I am in that one. " My current girlfriend is the girl that I gave my virginity to, as well.& She technically wasn't a virgin anymore (physically), but the way she lost it was not anywhere near what was deserving of her (rape...).& She says that I was the guy she gave her virginity to emotionally, and I think that matters more than the physical aspect, really. I think we began around three or four months into our relationshop as well.& The entire act is really a healing process for her, too, so she enjoyed the fact that she could actually have a good time sexually for once in her life.& It raised her self-esteem a great deal and sautered quite a few wounds left over from her traumatic experiences.& There are so many good things that can come from being intimate, and I believe it's ridiculous to cut out the entire idea simply over a thousandth decimal percentage of becoming pregnant. "So how does this all fit in to your topic? Excuse my digression please, but I hope it served as an example of both my point and yours. Teenage sex is an issue no different in my mind than that of middle aged, or senior intercourse. There are in all age groups those who are aware and responsible for their decisions, and those who are not. A thirty year old woman is just as likely to have reckless meaningless sex as a fourteen year old, the only thing that differentiates the two is age. Both may be educated or not, both may be capable of responsibility or not. In my opinion, responsibility is the real key in this argument. If you are incapable of being responsible for your actions, ignorant of responsibility, or unwilling to admit that there IS a certain amount of responsibility involved, then you have no right to be engaging in sex, no matter what age you are. This does not put borders around what kind of sex you are having, how frequent it may be, or any other variable. It is more in my mind a question of awareness. " Beautifully well said!& We think quite a lot alike, coincidence that we are of similar age?& Who knows... ;) We understand the responsibilites we both take in being sexual, and we are willing to cope with them.& Considering the positive sides of the act, and the dangers associated with it (with their chances), we are more than willing to take the risk. Even if pregnancy did occur, we have plans for that situation, and I believe we would do fine.& "Whew, I feel like I might be verging off topic. What I’m trying to get at here is that parents or adults view teenage sex as differently because of reasons that really, are just as pertinent in the lives of people over 18. The feeling here it seems to me is that people are unwilling to recognize or are incapable of seeing that being a teenager does not immediately include sexual ignorance, nor does being an adult exclude it. Being confident in your choices, as I am, is essential, as is a unique sense of role and responsibility, such as yours Kundalini. These are attributes that transcend beyond physical maturity and are much more relevant to emotional growth and development." Y'know, I think we'd get along great. :D "A parents feelings towards their son/daughter engaging in sex is a bit of a special matter that doesn’t quite fit into this argument. I see it as inevitable that one would feel uncomfortable in the thought of ones offspring taking their first steps of sexuality and expression because in our societies standards this is a testing of the waters of adulthood. Not to mention the fact that there are risks involved, and that goes for ANYONE. My mom accepts the fact that I most likely am sexually active (we have never had a direct “yes†or “no†conversation on this but I am 99% certain she has figured it out) and yes, I know it worries her, but for specific reasons. She knows that my partner will and is taking care of me, she knows we are two healthy and safe people, and she knows that I am happy and confident in our relationship. Again, all this leaves in unwanted pregnancy, but she has enough common sense to realise that that will be an inevitable risk no matter what age I am and that in regards to everything else, I am as safe as I ever will be in a sexual relationship. This doesn’t mean she is happy about it, but she does except it. And that means a lot to me. " I would reccommend you actually talk about it without assumptions, because in my experience parents will go into extreme denial rather than accept something like their children being sexual. My parents refuse to accept that if we had a unwanted pregnancy, we could take care of it.& They seem to think that I would run to them to take care of it, which is entirely untrue... bah. "As for my own personal feelings, they are much like yours Kundalini. The intimacy I have between myself and my partner is something that I cherish deeply, just as anyone in a relationship would, and our moments together sexually are ones that are very important to me. We too see very little of each other during the week (he has a full time job, I go to school, and work etc) and I vehemently wish that we had more time alone together, but we have learned to appreciate what we can get, and in a way it makes those times all the more exciting and dare I say, passionate. It is frustrating to be stifled by age, but in the end I have to find comfort in the fact that we have approached this relationship in a mature manner, one that has just as much emotional relevance as it does physical. " I concur. You're lucky that you are with someone older, really, who has a full time job.& It allows you to say that you could support a child financially.& I only work during summers, and have most of that saved money reserved for college right now.& Just more ammo for my parents... but it just messes with me that they are so vehemently opposed to sex.& The chances are so ridiculously low in our case is drives me nuts. "Yes, we are all sexually driven beings and therefore our interest in sexuality is unavoidable, but the spiritual attachment to that is separate and deserving of it’s own acknowledgement, and your age is not part of that equation." Amen. " Wow. Forgive this run-on of a post. Sorry if that came off as pushy or strongly single minded. I wasn’t expecting to go on for so long. my apologies! -bird " Don't apologize!& Thanks for voicing your thoughts! & " | 2007-02-01 16:43:46 |
| 542 | 3628 | "My current girlfriend is the girl that I gave my virginity to, as well.& She technically wasn't a virgin anymore (physically), but the way she lost it was not anywhere near what was deserving of her (rape...).& She says that I was the guy she gave her virginity to emotionally, and I think that matters more than the physical aspect, really. " & I wasn't going to bring this up, but in a way it is very refreshing. I was not a victim of rape, but I was a victim of sexual abuse which is part of my extreme sincerity in my choice of partner. The fact that I could trust him so entirely and feel that I was beyond a doubt "safe" is the most overwhelming turnover of emotions I have ever gone through. My ability to express my sexuality was such a surprise for me, and one that if nothing else, I will always be grateful to him for. I extend great kudos and respect to you for doing the same for your partner! Really,& I think we would get along very well! As for speaking to my parents, you are probably right Kundalini, and it would be a good idea. However, as a typical teenager (:P) I may be able to admit to my mistake, but& that doesn't mean I have the gall to act upon it. I would never deny the fact should it be asked of me, but in many ways I don't believe my mom would be advantageous enough to do so, if for no other reason then for my previous abuse. (A situation she never really knew how to deal with.) We also disagree among lines of birth control. she has repeatedly told me that if nothing else, she NEVER wants me on the pill (she has her Greenpeace loving, ripening hippie reasons) and I have been using it for the past two months. (i know, not very respectful of her wishes, but it is a choice I am comfortable with and one I have thought through many times.) really, I have a lot of respect for you! Thank you very much for the thread and your responses. Nice to know I am not alone out here in my field of peers. | 2007-02-01 23:52:21 |
| 542 | 4400 | In my experience& I find people's views on teen sexuality hypocritical. It seems like a lot people tell them don't sex until they are married or adults but once they come across a 20+ virgin they are shocked and surprised, believing that they should have more experience, etc. I've also noticed we are a society that are starting to tell even healthy 20 somethings to wait and I just think that's unrealistic:X | 2007-07-14 17:06:42 |
| 542 | 4422 | [user=2255]PrincessKLS[/user] wrote: "In my experience& I find people's views on teen sexuality hypocritical. It seems like a lot people tell them don't sex until they are married or adults but once they come across a 20+ virgin they are shocked and surprised, believing that they should have more experience, etc. I've also noticed we are a society that are starting to tell even healthy 20 somethings to wait and I just think that's unrealistic:X" Well, I happen to disagree with you. Not on the matter of people's views of teenagers with sex. I am a teenager, but you make your choices and you shouldn't be following what others say. I've been insulted, called a lesbian, a whore for my not having sex yet. I could care less, if you feel the need to say that, be able to back it up. I'm 18, still a teenager, and like I said. You make your choices, don't care what others think. Be your own person and deal with your problems, your way but the right way. | 2007-07-15 16:52:24 |
| 542 | 4423 | [user=2247]DeutschesMaedchen[/user] wrote: "[user=2255]PrincessKLS[/user] wrote: "In my experience& I find people's views on teen sexuality hypocritical. It seems like a lot people tell them don't sex until they are married or adults but once they come across a 20+ virgin they are shocked and surprised, believing that they should have more experience, etc. I've also noticed we are a society that are starting to tell even healthy 20 somethings to wait and I just think that's unrealistic:X" Well, I happen to disagree with you. Not on the matter of people's views of teenagers with sex. I am a teenager, but you make your choices and you shouldn't be following what others say. I've been insulted, called a lesbian, a whore for my not having sex yet. I could care less, if you feel the need to say that, be able to back it up. I'm 18, still a teenager, and like I said. You make your choices, don't care what others think. Be your own person and deal with your problems, your way but the right way. " Well yes, you do make your own decisions but I think with certain things such as sexuality, we are taught from pretty ages to wait or to tame our sexuality somehow in the Christianized western countries (especially the US) and I believe if we really did make our own choice, we all wouldn't be virgins by age 20 if you know what I mean :D | 2007-07-15 17:04:27 |
| 542 | 4425 | [user=2255]PrincessKLS[/user] wrote: "[user=2255]PrincessKLS[/user] wrote: "[user=2247]DeutschesMaedchen[/user] wrote: "[user=2255]PrincessKLS[/user] wrote: "In my experience& I find people's views on teen sexuality hypocritical. It seems like a lot people tell them don't sex until they are married or adults but once they come across a 20+ virgin they are shocked and surprised, believing that they should have more experience, etc. I've also noticed we are a society that are starting to tell even healthy 20 somethings to wait and I just think that's unrealistic:X" Well, I happen to disagree with you. Not on the matter of people's views of teenagers with sex. I am a teenager, but you make your choices and you shouldn't be following what others say. I've been insulted, called a lesbian, a whore for my not having sex yet. I could care less, if you feel the need to say that, be able to back it up. I'm 18, still a teenager, and like I said. You make your choices, don't care what others think. Be your own person and deal with your problems, your way but the right way. " Well yes, you do make your own decisions but I think with certain things such as sexuality, we are taught from pretty young& ages to wait or to tame our sexuality somehow in the Christianized western countries (especially the US) and I believe if we really did make our own choice, we all wouldn't be virgins by age 20 if you know what I mean :D" " True, lol, somewhat. I broke up with a boyfriend over sex before, he pressured me too much, but in that i made my own choice. Then again he was a guy if you met him again, lol, let's just say, i'd eat him for breakfast. So to speak, lol. But see, most people made the choice of being a virgin. That is their own choice, and the other ones made the choice of losing their virginity at 12 behind a school portable. lol. | 2007-07-15 17:12:01 |
| 542 | 4426 | I don't know if we will agree with this or not. Yes, some people didn't get a choice about losing their physical virginity due to rape, molestation, and things of that nature. But let's just say if you grow up in a really religious, overprotective home you don't exactly get to choose, especially if you're told you can't even date until 16. And yes, even then that doesn't stop most people in that situation from retaining virginity or not going buck wild, but I had rebellious sisters who practiced paganism and were hypocritical as well. & I'm sorry, I know this doesn't sense but I live an almost ultra protective existence (very shelterd as far as all types of experiences) (not just sexual) and I didn't go out much& and I had trouble relating to a lot of the students in my grade. In a way I've had a hard life. | 2007-07-15 17:18:09 |
| 542 | 4427 | [user=2255]PrincessKLS[/user] wrote: "I don't know if we will agree with this or not. Yes, some people didn't get a choice about losing their physical virginity due to rape, molestation, and things of that nature. But let's just say if you grow up in a really religious, overprotective home you don't exactly get to choose, especially if you're told you can't even date until 16. And yes, even then that doesn't stop most people in that situation from retaining virginity or not going buck wild, but I had rebellious sisters who practiced paganism and were hypocritical as well. & I'm sorry, I know this doesn't sense but I live an almost ultra protective existence (very shelterd as far as all types of experiences) (not just sexual) and I didn't go out much& and I had trouble relating to a lot of the students in my grade. In a way I've had a hard life. " Well, I think everyone has, some way or another. I never dealt with a protective home, well, okay let's rephrase that. A TOO protective home, lol. My father has stated before, Isabelle, if a guy tries to be funny to you..just tell him, we are catholic and your dad has a gun armoire and he cleans his guns every day. lol. I can't go out after 8 o'clock, etc.. I've had a rough life, mainly in dealing with a lot of shit. Not from family, but from racist people. I've been insulted since I've lived in the States, but everyone has dealt with pain some way or another. We all have things in our past we'd rather just have the door stay shut on, doesn't always work that way. I'm sorry if you've dealt with that, but look at it in a positive way, you're parents care about you. Some kids/people don't have that. | 2007-07-15 17:56:51 |
| 542 | 4428 | [user=2247]DeutschesMaedchen[/user] wrote: "[user=2255]PrincessKLS[/user] wrote: "I don't know if we will agree with this or not. Yes, some people didn't get a choice about losing their physical virginity due to rape, molestation, and things of that nature. But let's just say if you grow up in a really religious, overprotective home you don't exactly get to choose, especially if you're told you can't even date until 16. And yes, even then that doesn't stop most people in that situation from retaining virginity or not going buck wild, but I had rebellious sisters who practiced paganism and were hypocritical as well. & I'm sorry, I know this doesn't sense but I live an almost ultra protective existence (very shelterd as far as all types of experiences) (not just sexual) and I didn't go out much& and I had trouble relating to a lot of the students in my grade. In a way I've had a hard life. " Well, I think everyone has, some way or another. I never dealt with a protective home, well, okay let's rephrase that. A TOO protective home, lol. My father has stated before, Isabelle, if a guy tries to be funny to you..just tell him, we are catholic and your dad has a gun armoire and he cleans his guns every day. lol. I can't go out after 8 o'clock, etc.. I've had a rough life, mainly in dealing with a lot of shit. Not from family, but from racist people. I've been insulted since I've lived in the States, but everyone has dealt with pain some way or another. We all have things in our past we'd rather just have the door stay shut on, doesn't always work that way. I'm sorry if you've dealt with that, but look at it in a positive way, you're parents care about you. Some kids/people don't have that. " Well it wasn't just parents, actually as a teen my sisters were actually more protective than my parents. I know it sounds all squishy and mushy but there came a lot of cruelty and negative assumptions that came with the overprotectiveness. And something my sister told me recently about something I apparently did as a child of the reason of the overprotective-ness really bothers me. You know both my sisters (who aren't exactly beautiful, who are quite overweight, etc (don't give me crap about looks don't matter, because that's not what I've seen) actually did lose their virginity by the time they were in their early 20s and as a 12-17 year old, I heard them talk about it a lot. My mom stayed consistent about her idea of staying virgin until marriage, but my oldest sister (who isn't exactly mentally and emotionally healthy) basically had to teach me about sex because my mother can't discuss things like that or relationships really. & I know I sound like I need a therapist and maybe I do but when my mom forced me to go to one as a teen, he sucked, he kept saying basically you don't have a say about your life until you were 18.& And you know when I did turn 18 I didn't have much of a say either. When I was 15, my oldest sister freaked or something and told wait until you are 18 or I'm not going to talk to you or harrass you about it:(& & And even now, she's like if you can't afford a kid don't have sex and for some reason she didn't even mention a free clinic to me until after I was 18. & It's been very confusing for me and I gotten to the point I can't talk to anyone in my family about sex or anything. I've been given way too many mixed messages and emotions from all different types of people in my life who seemed to be set in their ways or sure that my way was wrong and there's was right. & Thankfully I've gotten in touch with a couple of psychics who told me about not so great past lives with my sisters and the reasons they and my family react to me the way they do. & My whole life I never really had anyone to talk to, it seems like everyone goes back on their promises and change their minds abotu their beliefs. & & I don't feel like they really care, they just want to push their hypocritical and closed minded ness. | 2007-07-15 21:18:46 |
| 542 | 4429 | Well, I happen to disagree with ya. You always have a person to talk to, regardless if its family or not. It's your choice that makes you do that. Either you need to get closer friends, or I don't know, lol. I don't believe in therapists, why pay money for something you can solve out yourself if you try. First step to get something solved, is try solving it yourself, if you need help you ask. Also, some kids/people DONT HAVE ANYONE who cares about them. Remember that too, and cherish what you have in life. Don't look at it negativitly but positive based. | 2007-07-15 23:29:27 |
| 542 | 4687 | [user=2247]DeutschesMaedchen[/user] wrote: "Well, I happen to disagree with ya. You always have a person to talk to, regardless if its family or not. It's your choice that makes you do that. Either you need to get closer friends, or I don't know, lol. I don't believe in therapists, why pay money for something you can solve out yourself if you try. First step to get something solved, is try solving it yourself, if you need help you ask. Also, some kids/people DONT HAVE ANYONE who cares about them. Remember that too, and cherish what you have in life. Don't look at it negativitly but positive based. " Yes, thank you so much for your help. You know& I was told at a young age not to date until I was 16 and recently when I got into a fight with one of my sisters over this she said something really hurtful. Either out of impulse or what, she said they were joking. & How cruel, the thought of all that supposed preaching and strict rules that affected me so was a joke:X& Haha:-& | 2007-08-14 22:59:06 |
| 542 | 4711 | Hm. Well, you are your own person. You decide the choices in your life, the way it affects you. What's the saying, "Only the strongest survive?". I'm sure others have dealt with this issue, but then again, every person deals with things differently. Best of luck to you, and you know. You could always talk to them about it! & | 2007-08-15 20:21:33 |
| 542 | 4712 | [user=2247]DeutschesMaedchen[/user] wrote: "Hm. Well, you are your own person. You decide the choices in your life, the way it affects you. What's the saying, "Only the strongest survive?". I'm sure others have dealt with this issue, but then again, every person deals with things differently. Best of luck to you, and you know. You could always talk to them about it! & " I've tried and it makes the situations worse. I hate it when they say it's your decision or you made the decision. First off when I do make my own decisions they will basically force me to change it, and it's hard to understand. I've truly been highly berated by my family. My sister told me during the fight that I've alienated them (my family) but let's be real, I'm the youngest, and I was alienated first:( & I swear the way I was raised was almost cult like. | 2007-08-15 20:27:19 |
| 542 | 4713 | Um, I'm sorry, but that just sounds like your going for the "no one loves me syndrome". Sure, every family has its wrong parts in it, but it's a matter of standing up for yourself. I have a sister who almost "scares" my family members, they won't go into a disagreement with her. lol. I do, sure she has her stabbing moments where she hits the bone with what she states, but you keep your feet down. Be respectful to your parent's, don't go yelling at them. There is a difference when sisters or brothers fight, but respect stays with your parents. Short to say, TALK TO THEM MORE ABOUT IT. Tell them that you feel like you are being left out and try to BE WITH THEM MORE. Maybe, you need to take the first baby steps. & | 2007-08-15 20:35:21 |
| 542 | 4714 | [user=2247]DeutschesMaedchen[/user] wrote: "Um, I'm sorry, but that just sounds like your going for the "no one loves me syndrome". Sure, every family has its wrong parts in it, but it's a matter of standing up for yourself. I have a sister who almost "scares" my family members, they won't go into a disagreement with her. lol. I do, sure she has her stabbing moments where she hits the bone with what she states, but you keep your feet down. Be respectful to your parent's, don't go yelling at them. There is a difference when sisters or brothers fight, but respect stays with your parents. Short to say, TALK TO THEM MORE ABOUT IT. Tell them that you feel like you are being left out and try to BE WITH THEM MORE. Maybe, you need to take the first baby steps. & " We're just a fighting, stubborn family, I'm really to the point where I have decided to move out and I'm really going to try to move as far away as possible. | 2007-08-15 20:38:47 |
| 542 | 4715 | Don't ever say that about your family. Family is all you really have. Family is the closest thing to you, and they'll likely back up BEFORE friends. Just because something is rougher, doesn't mean you state that. We all have our family issues, I know I got my own. But, I deal with them, perhaps you should try the baby steps first. | 2007-08-15 20:44:47 |
| 542 | 4716 | [user=2247]DeutschesMaedchen[/user] wrote: "Don't ever say that about your family. Family is all you really have. Family is the closest thing to you, and they'll likely back up BEFORE friends. Just because something is rougher, doesn't mean you state that. We all have our family issues, I know I got my own. But, I deal with them, perhaps you should try the baby steps first. " :?& You just don't understand my situation, I'm closer to people online than my own family. I can't be myself around them and from some past life readings I've had, I have reason to believe that these people weren't really my family in another life and bad things happened to the point from the time I was born it was hell. | 2007-08-15 20:48:39 |
| 542 | 4717 | [user=2706]PrincessKLS1983[/user] wrote: "[user=2247]DeutschesMaedchen[/user] wrote: "Don't ever say that about your family. Family is all you really have. Family is the closest thing to you, and they'll likely back up BEFORE friends. Just because something is rougher, doesn't mean you state that. We all have our family issues, I know I got my own. But, I deal with them, perhaps you should try the baby steps first. " :?& You just don't understand my situation, I'm closer to people online than my own family. I can't be myself around them and from some past life readings I've had, I have reason to believe that these people weren't really my family in another life and bad things happened to the point from the time I was born it was hell." How old are you? May I ask. I'm sorry, but you sound younger than myself. Don't ever state that, your the one at fault as well. Try harder! | 2007-08-15 20:52:04 |
| 542 | 4718 | I'm actually 23, I don't know how old you are but I'm 23. | 2007-08-15 21:01:17 |
| 542 | 4719 | [user=2706]PrincessKLS1983[/user] wrote: "I'm actually 23, I don't know how old you are but I'm 23." That's surprising. I would've assumed you were in the mid-teens because you sounded..younger..Not trying to be insulting.& Again, talk to your family, voice your opinion. Family is for that, to be open about things, as long as they aren't hurtful to others. Good luck on that. And, I'm 18. | 2007-08-15 21:49:06 |
| 542 | 4720 | [user=2247]DeutschesMaedchen[/user] wrote: "Don't ever say that about your family. Family is all you really have. Family is the closest thing to you, and they'll likely back up BEFORE friends. Just because something is rougher, doesn't mean you state that. We all have our family issues, I know I got my own. But, I deal with them, perhaps you should try the baby steps first. " Sorry, but family is what the members of the family make it.& Not all families are healthy or worth trying to preserve.& I don't know how bad princess really has it, but there is always a point past which you have to put your own well being above the happiness of your family. There is a person that posted here once whose mother extorted and stole money from that person& A mother like that has forfeited respect, especially when you are a legal adult.. | 2007-08-15 22:07:03 |
| 542 | 4721 | [user=374]dfs3[/user] wrote: "[user=2247]DeutschesMaedchen[/user] wrote: "Don't ever say that about your family. Family is all you really have. Family is the closest thing to you, and they'll likely back up BEFORE friends. Just because something is rougher, doesn't mean you state that. We all have our family issues, I know I got my own. But, I deal with them, perhaps you should try the baby steps first. " Sorry, but family is what the members of the family make it.& Not all families are healthy or worth trying to preserve.& I don't know how bad princess really has it, but there is always a point past which you have to put your own well being above the happiness of your family. There is a person that posted here once whose mother extorted and stole money from that person& A mother like that has forfeited respect, especially when you are a legal adult.. " Thanks for the defense dfs3, honestly I do have times when the relationship with my "close" family members are good but other times it's real bad, there's like no middle ground and for years I've been trying to sort things out. | 2007-08-15 22:21:17 |
| 542 | 4731 | It is so easy to 'pass judgment' on any one other than ourselves. I find it disturbing for people to critisize us for confiding in our families and to critisize us for not exploring our family relationships more. Which leads me to remember 2 old sayings 'You'll be damned if you do and you'll be damned if you don't'. Think about it. This leads on to this saying 'You can choose your friends but you can't choose your family'. The more I read and the more experience I gather it always amazes me that the 2 things that are never taught properly to us are, not nessasrily in this order, how to develop financial independance and how to have a true sexual relationship which will lead on to a strong, happy family. Many sex related issues are drawn out through our culture which is primarily driven from religion. Many younger people are so self concious that even if they have a family willing to discuss sexual matters with them cannot bring themselves to asking the actual question, I was one super shy youth. I think it is a great shame that with technology available that controls birth control and disease control, that we are all practising a 'belief' or lack of understanding that keeps us human beings living a life that has been practiced for centuries and still 'breeds' conflict. If we would allow ourselves to 'be' and act as thoughtful, respectful human beings I don't think we would live with all the conflict we experience. My point of view | 2007-08-17 04:44:50 |
| 542 | 4732 | Thanks Enjoy great post. The damned if you, damned if you don't. So funny because I think it applies to losing your virginity in our America society. On one hand we teach young girls 10-18 to hold on to their virginity until they are married or older. But we seem to also chastise them if they are still virgins in their 20s, 30s, etc. & Imagine if one of the girls took the wait for marriage advice but didn't marry til she was 30 or older (funny how a lot of those girls get married in their early 20s or younger). In our current society she would be kind of looked down on for waiting so long. Some would congratulate her but others would find her extremely strange. | 2007-08-17 09:15:56 |
| 542 | 4733 | [user=2706]PrincessKLS1983[/user] wrote:& "Imagine if one of the girls took the wait for marriage advice but didn't marry til she was 30 or older (funny how a lot of those girls get married in their early 20s or younger). In our current society she would be kind of looked down on for waiting so long. Some would congratulate her but others would find her extremely strange. " It's not very surprising.& The people who expect women to wait until marriage are the same people that expect women to be docile housewives that just pop out babies for their husbands.& They prefer their wives young, dumb, and dependant. | 2007-08-17 13:31:15 |
| 542 | 4734 | [user=374]dfs3[/user] wrote: "[user=2706]PrincessKLS1983[/user] wrote:& "Imagine if one of the girls took the wait for marriage advice but didn't marry til she was 30 or older (funny how a lot of those girls get married in their early 20s or younger). In our current society she would be kind of looked down on for waiting so long. Some would congratulate her but others would find her extremely strange. " It's not very surprising.& The people who expect women to wait until marriage are the same people that expect women to be docile housewives that just pop out babies for their husbands.& They prefer their wives young, dumb, and dependant. " Agree with you, or they believe the whole bull on..Husbands are the "dominant" ones in a relationship (or males as well), females as the "sub". I recall, I spoke with one male on that, the response I got for that was, "You're going to make your husband run, because he won't want anything to do with you." Sure, I don't know KLS situation, but there's also a point of the words one uses when explaining something. I'm one to speak my mind, and I have yet been able to stop that. Sure, it's true several people can't speak to their parents. I'm one of them, but that's just because my mom confides in my older sister. I can't change that, and I've accepted things I cannot change. Yes, it is true KLS, but you can't always change the ones who have that view point. I don't need to lose my virginity to fit in with the rest of the kids my age, why should I? I'm not here insulting you on the matter of sex, so what makes it okay to insult one for being a virgin? You either get called a whore, a slut, or a lesbian for being a virgin. At least, that's in my experience. I tend to stay away from these people, lol, we just don't work well together. | 2007-08-17 21:23:07 |
| 553 | 3695 | this may not apply for every guy. but i'm going to ask anyway. recently, i met this guy's mother. now this guy and i arent really dating yet...i know he likes me. but his mom is in love with. she tells me she thinks im the most beautiful girl on the planet and blah blah blah. he and his mom have a close relationship, so i was wondering if his mother's approval increases his attraction to me, or even matters? also, we're really young too. i just barley turned 18, and he is 19. does what a man's mother think of his girlfriends change over the years, or is it something that always matters? i just want to know what guys think, or anyone that has something to say. | 2007-02-14 20:25:08 |
| 553 | 3705 | It really depends on the guy, not one is the same. I didn't meet my boyfriend's parents until after a couple weeks of our relationship.& His parents seemed to like me, but weren't oogling over me. My boyfriend on the other hand, was. | 2007-02-16 23:01:10 |
| 553 | 3836 | My boyfriend's mother really likes me alot, and when we visit his parents, I always do stuff with her... cooking, shopping.& She's fun and easy going. But like Ladybug said, every guy is different.& In my case, I know for a fact that my boyfriend wouldn't have cared abit if they didn't like me, even though& he's on good terms with his parents. The only thing that slightly annoys me about his mom is that she's very open about sex.& I know it's a good thing but I come from a very conservative family and it took a while not to feel as if I want to melt into the ground.& She makes comments now and then about having hot sex :).& She even drew us a scented-oil bath once and said we can walk between the bedroom and bathroom naked because everyone will be downstairs :shock:& sorry... side tracked If you say the guy you're dating is very close to his mother then she liking you will probably make you more attractive so to speak.& But I suppose this is not a bad thing? And even if you're very young, I don't think her liking you means she's thinking things should be serious.& Maybe she just really liked you :)& | 2007-03-05 15:28:05 |
| 553 | 3837 | [user=153]Kay[/user] wrote: "She even drew us a scented-oil bath once and said we can walk between the bedroom and bathroom naked because everyone will be downstairs :shock:& " You are the luckiest person alive. Cherish it, for the Love of God, cherish it! If not for you, FOR ME! | 2007-03-05 18:28:33 |
| 553 | 3858 | [user=962]Kundalini[/user] wrote: "[user=153]Kay[/user] wrote: "She even drew us a scented-oil bath once and said we can walk between the bedroom and bathroom naked because everyone will be downstairs :shock:& " You are the luckiest person alive. Cherish it, for the Love of God, cherish it! If not for you, FOR ME! " Oh Kundalini! :D She indeed is lucky.& My mom is more open about sex than my dad but he's coming around.& My boyfriend's parents however are more open about it.& But in my dreams would our parents draw us a bath! hahahaha | 2007-03-07 18:29:40 |
| 562 | 3744 | When i do sex with my friend. She suddenly raises her buttocks and expel a lot of clear fliud from her vagina. from where exactely this comes out. | 2007-02-25 05:24:22 |
| 562 | 3747 | It is called female ejaculation. www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/ejacula.htm Brad | 2007-02-25 11:53:08 |
| 583 | 3909 | does anybody know how long sperm lives after u ejaculate and it come in contact with the air? | 2007-03-20 17:40:13 |
| 583 | 3910 | Hi, Please see the information linked to below: www.sexetc.org/faq/pregnancy/819 www.early-pregnancy-tests.com/studies.html wiki.answers.com/Q/How_long_can_sperm_live_in_open_air www.askpat.colostate.edu/viewquest.cfm?qid=676 Brad | 2007-03-20 18:57:08 |
| 583 | 3912 | Thanks brad. | 2007-03-21 19:06:59 |
| 618 | 4069 | Dear all, I think my bf is suffering premature ejaculation. And me need a long time to reach the orgasm. But i love him so much, i dont mind with that. but i feel a pitty for him, cos he feels that he's a loser. Cant make me reaching my orgasm.& How to handle this ? What should i say to him ? And do you have any tips to heal from the premature ejaculation. Dear all, I think my bf is suffering premature ejaculation. And me need a long time to reach the orgasm. But i love him so much, i dont mind with that. but i feel a pitty for him, cos he feels that he's a loser. Cant make me reaching my orgasm.& How to handle this ? What should i say to him ? And do you have any tips to heal from the premature ejaculation. FYI, we always do it with condom, so the condom have helped him to delay his ejaculation. But still it cant help. And he use to have sex in ONE NIGHT STAND ( of course before we met) and he dont have problem to satisfy any women. He said that me is different with any women that he have ever met. all women that have ever slept with him is not a virgin anymore, and their "V" is not tight at all.& But mine is still tight even maybe we have done it hmm about 30 times, he said that my "v" is still tight. He suspect that it's one of the problem. He feels too good when he is inside me, that's why, he is suffering premature ejaculation. I just wanna help him, so he feels that He's The Man after the battle. Hmm i want also feel the O when i am with him, so i dont need to masturbate just to get the O. Please help. Thanks. | 2007-04-14 06:31:11 |
| 618 | 4071 | This discussion exists in the Female Sexuality section of the forum too, so I am closing it. Please see the other discussion if you want to post a reply. Brad | 2007-04-14 09:18:37 |
| 676 | 4359 | I was wondering according to [url=www.the-clitoris.com] www.the-clitoris.com the average man's penis is 6" but I thought I read somewhere that the average man is 3 1/2"-4 1/2" ? Is it only that short when it's not erect and maybe 6" or more when it is? & And I've heard of stereotypes about certain races of men having shorter than average like the Asians, and bigger than average like the black men. Is this true? When they say bigger do they also mean girth and not just lenghth. & If anyone is wondering, yes I'm a virgin so I haven't seen any guy's penis up close :X | 2007-07-11 23:09:39 |
| 676 | 4363 | the figures are probably for a flacid penis, yes.& and the stereotypes are true, but not to the degree most people think.& The average asian penis is only about a half inch shorter than the average caucasian penis, and the average black penis is something less than a half inch longer than the average caucasian penis.& the fact that those statistics have a range of error of at least half an inch means that the differences are essentially negligible. | 2007-07-12 00:52:45 |
| 676 | 4620 | Hi Princess, Yes, they come in many different sizes.& But girth is usually more preferable to woman then length.& That being said, it really is not that big of a deal.& My husband has a huge erection, to the point it is a problem.& When fully errect he is 8.5" long with a girth of more then 7.5":shock:.& I love his girth motre then length, but everything has advantages and disadvantages.& I love to perform oral sex on my old boyfriend, but he is more then my can handle with ease.& I also am intrested in anal sex, but I will never allow him to poke me there, he is way to big:X.& But it is more then made up for by the vaginal sex.:D Marie lovelifenmore at yahoo.com | 2007-08-03 09:05:19 |
| 676 | 4729 | Why does this site promote the idea that breast size doesn't make an impact on sex and femaninity but goes on to tell us how penis size matters and has an effect on how masculine a man is?& The two of them are equally important to their respective genders and this site should reflect that. | 2007-08-16 23:27:16 |
| 676 | 5222 | Yes they mean both and yes on average asians are smaller than caucasins and africans are larger than caucasins.Asian women on average have smaller vaginas than caucasin women and african women have larger vaginas than caucasin women. Indivual differnces are greater than racial differnces.Racial differnces are minor overall.Proably 5, 5.5, 6 in length more importantly 4.5, 4.9, 5.1 in circumfernce.There are many different sizes on the web ,but this is what I came up with from checking out various sites. | 2007-12-25 10:16:02 |
| 676 | 5251 | John, the ideas presented here are just the opinions of the discussion board members. Anyone who says that breast and penis size do/don't really matter is just expressing his or her own opinion... which cannot and should not be made to reflect anything. As for the discussion subject of penis size, as a female virgin I have nothing to add here, so every one else please excuse my interruption to the topic :) Rose | 2008-01-03 01:58:38 |
| 676 | 5256 | penis and breast size are different.& breast size has no direct correlation with potential pleasure OR discomfort when it comes to multi-person interaction. | 2008-01-03 21:41:56 |
| 676 | 5395 | As a male, I'm surprised by how much penis size seems to be an issue for many men (though prior to visiting this board I didn't know that it was also an issue for women). I laugh at people, books or websites that say "everyone measures their penis". As of now, I'm 22 years old and I have yet to take a ruler to my penis. When I first got into watching porn, my subconscious sort-of went "those look the same as mine", which was all I really needed to know. And those girth numbers were pretty confusing until I realized we were talking circumference here, not diameter. My imagination kept blowing a fuse trying to picture the kind of baloon penises those measurements would produce... :P And John, I didn't notice anywhere on the main site where it says that penis size is of vital importance. Actually, I had gotten the impression that the-clitoris.com espouses the view that intercourse is just one of many different sexual activities on which no particular special emphasis should be placed, which makes penis size rather secondary for the most part, doesn't it? Quizer | 2008-02-02 07:10:56 |
| 676 | 5751 | Penis size will always be an issue to men out there because if they are lacking in length& or girth or even both, they might end up on the "short" end of the stick, meaning: their better half might just do some wondering if he isn't pleasing her in the bedroom. I know what all the stats are on penis' (5-6' being average) but there are many websites out there dedicated to home voyour. This to me is what some men need to base their own size off of. While most sites say a guy shouldn't judge yourself from a lockerroom,and porn was the only time you saw and erect cock, now ppl post their own selves doin it & they aren't all pornstars. Some are home movies and hidden cams.....Thnx | 2008-05-12 11:45:54 |
| 676 | 5794 | I second Marie on this one... I care more for girth than length, at least for me it makes a difference during intercourse, but oral sex (which i also love) girth it is a disadvantage, it hurts my jaw and gets very uncomfortable. A less wider penis is then a pleasure :) I'd say size matters, but there's no universal rule... it depends on what you're gonna do with it | 2008-05-30 13:50:25 |
| 676 | 5837 | PrincessKLS,& Size doesn't much matter.& Does it feel good inside of you.& You are the Princess and need to feel caressed by the penis.& Look at the web site [url=www.sexasnatureintendedit.com] www.sexasnatureintendedit.com Look closely, read women's comments, let yourself fully understand the material.& I'd love to hear your reactions. | 2008-06-06 22:39:12 |
| 676 | 5840 | [user=9770]charlieremark[/user] wrote: "PrincessKLS, Size doesn't much matter. Does it feel good inside of you. You are the Princess and need to feel caressed by the penis. Look at the web site [url=www.sexasnatureintendedit.com] www.sexasnatureintendedit.com Look closely, read women's comments, let yourself fully understand the material. I'd love to hear your reactions." It's about the strangest website I've ever seen! Here's a very odd quote "that the key to a woman's sexual ecstasy is the foreskin of the penis." I don't think you'll find much agreement here on that comment! | 2008-06-07 08:46:10 |
| 676 | 5865 | I am a woman and i find penis size dose mater in some situations i love giving guys with smaller a penis blow jobs becuase i can work more elaboratly but for sex i like them big on the other hand breast size in turn for sex is just a visual pleasure and morst men have a specific likeing to either big or small but in the heat of the moment wont argure if they take of her top and find she wore a padded bra yet if a women undose a mans pants and finds a huge penis she might get turned off becuase that can cuase pain and problems the fact is breasts dont have anything to do with the actual Sex yet a penis dose so yes size dose matter in that perspective. *disclaimer* just becuase a man had a smaller penis dose not mean he is less than a man nor the fact of having i big penis make him more of a man in that way size dose not matter. | 2008-06-16 13:04:05 |
| 676 | 5974 | The impression I got from the site was that it is ok for women to be psychologically stimulated by penis size but it is not ok for men to be psychologically stimulated by breast size.& It's a double standard. | 2008-08-06 07:10:53 |
| 676 | 5975 | to john & & i understand your concern but i really dont feel like looking around and see what you mean but i will say this which is a broad statment. everywhere you look society gives guys the message about it being ok to judge women by there breast and this is only one site that contradicts that to empower women with there sexuality. for women who arent as strong and need that empowering view of them self . for as on that note it think if would not be and issue to be a bit& double standard. when society is doubled standared left and right about women | 2008-08-06 13:58:03 |
| 676 | 5979 | There is no one "society" to have double-standards. There is a variety of views expressed by different groups - conservatives versus liberals, religious versus secular, different religious views, etc. The website "sex as nature intended" is, indeed, very odd and not a reflection of general views of any significant population. I wouldn't make any statements about "double standards" regarding women from that site. It is probably correct that men are attracted to larger breasts but there are certainly many men who enjoy smaller breasts and even a minority who like flat chests on women. However, I would also say that most men just like breasts - and almost any breast will do. I also recently read a survey about differences between men and women in responses to visual stimulation. Men are aroused when viewing photographs of naked women while women are stimulated by photographs of clothed men and women together and, for example, naked women exercising but NOT by photographs of naked men. In short, all of this seems so personalized (and determined by our individual socialization and experience) that is difficult to make generalizations about large or small breasts or penises and our attitudes. | 2008-08-07 23:42:40 |
| 676 | 5980 | [user=10091]tiedup[/user] wrote: "to john & & i understand your concern but i really dont feel like looking around and see what you mean but i will say this which is a broad statment. everywhere you look society gives guys the message about it being ok to judge women by there breast and this is only one site that contradicts that to empower women with there sexuality. for women who arent as strong and need that empowering view of them self . for as on that note it think if would not be and issue to be a bit& double standard. when society is doubled standared left and right about women" This site contradicts the notion that it is ok to judge a woman's femininity by her breast size. But it doesn't contradict the notion that it is ok to judge a man's masculinity by his dick size.& Hence the double standard. | 2008-08-08 12:29:16 |
| 676 | 5981 | My wife and I have had similar discussions in the past and have come to some understandings of our own ideas and feelings that may be of interest in this discussion. First of all, we believe that a persons physical appearance has nothing to do with their worth as a person, to society, as a masculine man or a feminine woman.& Look as Stephan Hawking.& Few people would consider him an ideal physical specimen, but the man is brilliant, has certainly contributed to society and has been married.& As the saying goes, one should not "judge a book by it's cover". This being agreed upon, it's also quite acceptable to us to have, and express, preferences.& For example, I like chocolate ice cream.& I also like many other flavors, but I generally prefer chocolate.& Along these same lines, I generally find medium to large (relative terms!) breasted women more visually appealing.& This isn't a hard and fast rule.& My wife is on the small side of medium.& I'm much more interested in the person, than the body.& Remember, this is a preference, and has nothing to do with my feelings towards the individual.& One of our friends was bordering on very large before her pregnancy, and petite afterwards.& I find her just as feminine and attractive now as before. So far as penis size goes, my discussions with my wife and other women indicates that it's a bit more complicated.& For example, in certain positions, I can hit very sensitive areas in my wife's vagina.& This can be uncomfortable bordering on painful and we have to be somewhat careful.& Other men she's been with have been shorter and didn't have this particular trouble.& In this regard, she prefers shorter men.& She and I can also enjoy positions that she couldn't with her other lovers due to their shorter length.& However, I'm also narrower than her other lovers and in honest discussion, she's stated that she enjoyed the larger girth in some situations.& That was kind of hard to hear, but we're a stronger couple and I'm a better man for having heard and accepted it.& Where breast size is generally a visual (and tactile) attribute, and has little to do with the physical build of the womans partner, penis size isn't.& I've read on these boards and other places of women who don't enjoy intercourse because it's painful.& Perhaps they would perfer a shorter and/or narrower lover.& I've discussed this issue with a woman who stated that most men just don't fill her up as she'd like.& For her large men were the preference.& Again, let me stress that what we're talking about is preference, not prejudice.& It's VERY important these days to remind ouselves and our loved ones that a person's value isn't what's on the outside, but what's in their mind and heart.& | 2008-08-08 13:44:59 |
| 676 | 5982 | i have been through this site. and i havet seen anything to give that conclusion. now i didt go through the site throughly but i belive well enough if you can show my the proof i can further understand what you are saying. | 2008-08-08 16:54:04 |
| 676 | 5983 | "Some women prefer a large penis for psychological reasons. Since a man with a large penis is often seen as more manly, the woman who attracts his attention is often seen as more womanly and desirable. A woman may perceive her position in society is better if her partner is well endowed. She may feel she has bested her peers. A woman may find the sight of a large penis visually stimulating as well." And it says nothing to contradict this idea. | 2008-08-09 02:30:12 |
| 676 | 5985 | "Why does this site promote the idea that breast size doesn't make an impact on sex and femaninity but goes on to tell us how penis size matters and has an effect on how masculine a man is?& The two of them are equally important to their respective genders and this site should reflect that. "- - john55 "The impression I got from the site was that it is ok for women to be psychologically stimulated by penis size but it is not ok for men to be psychologically stimulated by breast size.& It's a double standard." --john5555 Is& John5555 identical to john55? "Some women prefer a large penis for psychological reasons. Since a man with a large penis is often seen as more manly, the woman who attracts his attention is often seen as more womanly and desirable. A woman may perceive her position in society is better if her partner is well endowed. She may feel she has bested her peers. A woman may find the sight of a large penis visually stimulating as well." From this& quotation I don't see "it is not ok for men to be psychologically stimulated by breast size". I also don't see "it is ok for women to...." It only says& some women like sonething because the society believes that thing is superior. & | 2008-08-09 06:04:09 |
| 676 | 6005 | Hi, after reading all of this, it seems so. But does size matter? The longer the more ejaculating is possible? Is it fake or real? For my opinion its real: new ball in the discussion.. | 2008-08-23 09:00:27 |
| 676 | 6044 | I don't agree. First of all, it's a web site for women. It isn't here primarily to help men feel okay about themselves. But, basically, the question is about penis size and I haven't read anything on this site that suggests men with larger penises are less masculine. | 2008-08-24 05:56:17 |
| 676 | 6084 | do men not imply that notion themselfs a boost it about how "i have a bigger penis than you i am BETTER than you". comparing& and walking with a swagger with the mind set he can get any lady of his choosing becuase of his endowments. i could ho into more detail but im sure you get the picture of how men themselfs contribute to that standard. & | 2008-09-06 16:04:10 |
| 676 | 6085 | [user=12084]sita[/user] wrote: "Hi, after reading all of this, it seems so. But does size matter? The longer the more ejaculating is possible? Is it fake or real? For my opinion its real: new ball in the discussion.. " Perhaps the moderators can get rid of this spam posting??? | 2008-09-08 05:24:33 |
| 676 | 6278 | I'd just like to say this,we here are a forum,there are forums all over the net.And since I've been browsing amateur sites of just regular ppl posting themselves having sex,There seems to be just more than average out there anymore....thats all thank-you | 2008-11-25 13:11:07 |
| 683 | 4446 | Okay, I'm a female, and I had a question regarding if female ejaculation is a turn off for guys? Or a female who squirts? I believe thats the phrase used. I'd appreciate it, thanks. | 2007-07-18 18:54:59 |
| 683 | 4447 | God no!& It is a very erotic thing, and I love it when it happens. | 2007-07-18 19:13:49 |
| 683 | 4448 | I'm sorry, but I don't seem to understand how. That's just me. How is a female squirting and leaving behind a puddle, erotic?? | 2007-07-18 19:17:35 |
| 683 | 4449 | because it is a sign of female pleasure.& most men want their women to enjoy sex as much as they do, and the squirting is a sign that they are.& for a lot of men, they feel inadequate if they believe their woman isn't enjoying sex.& squirting and orgasm are like a validation of sorts. it's basically the same reason that women are turned on when a man orgasms.& it's a combination of pride and adoration. | 2007-07-18 19:41:17 |
| 683 | 4450 | [user=374]dfs3[/user] wrote: "because it is a sign of female pleasure.& most men want their women to enjoy sex as much as they do, and the squirting is a sign that they are.& for a lot of men, they feel inadequate if they believe their woman isn't enjoying sex.& squirting and orgasm are like a validation of sorts. it's basically the same reason that women are turned on when a man orgasms.& it's a combination of pride and adoration. " Well, does every female have it or just the potential? And besides, I just cannot imagine how a guy can be turned on if say the female was on top, he bottom..how he can be turned on if a female squirts him and leaves a puddle under him. | 2007-07-18 21:06:57 |
| 683 | 4451 | because he's attracted to her and he's giving her an orgasm, and if he cares about her or loves her, then her pleasure gives him pleasure.& I can't think of a guy that would care about something like that when a woman is having an orgasm on top of him. | 2007-07-18 21:47:20 |
| 683 | 4452 | I don't know. I still can't agree with you, not the amount of quantities that you release and I would just take it as a turn off from a guy. | 2007-07-18 22:36:02 |
| 683 | 4453 | when you get with a guy for the first time, you will understand.& we love everything about a woman's orgasm almost to the point of worship.& even guys who are ignorant about female ejaculation stare at it with wonder when they see it, and the guys who know what it means appreciate the beauty of it even more. | 2007-07-18 23:10:47 |
| 683 | 4454 | I really don't see how, because again quanity. No guy will have oral sex with a female, let alone try and have sex with the woman on top. I just cannot see it. | 2007-07-19 00:40:45 |
| 683 | 4455 | If guys don't like it then why are there so many adult videos featuring women when they squirt? In a survey about masturbation only 9% of women say they haven't experienced female ejaculation and would not want to, and 37% haven't but want to. Even if a woman doesn't ejaculate things still tend to get wet during sex, hence the resulting wet spot. Men like seeing a visual indication of their partner's pleasure, and releasing liquid during orgasm allows them to know she has experienced orgasm; though female ejaculation can be faked to by urinating. 55% of women have faked orgasm, and about 1 out of 10 orgasms is faked. Yes, there are guy out there who don't like, just as with any sexual activity/ experience. Brad | 2007-07-19 06:57:16 |
| 683 | 4458 | [user=1]bradf30[/user] wrote: "If guys don't like it then why are there so many adult videos featuring women when they squirt? In a survey about masturbation only 9% of women say they haven't experienced female ejaculation and would not want to, and 37% haven't but want to. Even if a woman doesn't ejaculate things still tend to get wet during sex, hence the resulting wet spot. Men like seeing a visual indication of their partner's pleasure, and releasing liquid during orgasm allows them to know she has experienced orgasm; though female ejaculation can be faked to by urinating. 55% of women have faked orgasm, and about 1 out of 10 orgasms is faked. Yes, there are guy out there who don't like, just as with any sexual activity/ experience. Brad " I've never seen em, and I really don't know how many there are out there. That 9% is pretty smart with not wanting it, lol, I want to be in the other percentile that wants to get rid of it. I just haven't figured out how. Still researching that. I already figured sex would get messy, but I figured it was more from the guys end. I've been told I'm wrong in that though, lol. I'm surprised women would fake it, if your going to have sex, be open in all aspects and urinating? That's pretty gross, lol. That's pushing the level of grossness. Yesterday was the first time, the 5th time I tried masturbating because i finally..let..go.. and then I freaked out because it wouldnt stop, and I just can't see how thats attractive. What guy wants a girl squirting on him when he's the one on bottom? Or have a puddle under him, on his thighs, etc..I sure as hell can't see it, my opinion on it. Plus, what if it wasnt sex in the bed, take a towel with you wherever you go? lol. Not just one, two at least, seeing as when i had my first..orgasm..i soaked 5 things through. | 2007-07-19 14:29:12 |
| 683 | 4459 | I think Brad meant that a lot of porn actresses pee in videos because it looks like squirting and the viewer can't tell the difference most of the time.& although, there is a whole group of people with a pee fetish (different topic). when you have some experience with men, you will see for yourself that semen isn't all that appealing either.& by itself, nobody would want to touch it or deal with it; it's sticky and pungent, and if you're talking about oral sex, it doesn't always taste great either.& but for a lot of women, when the man ejaculates, the semen is a product of the orgasm she caused and it turns them on that he is coming.& but if it was just on the bed or something and she came back letter, it would be a mess that needed to be cleaned up.& for guys it is the same way.& obviously the liquid itself is just liquid.& we wouldn't be turned on by it if we saw a cup full of it, but when you're having your orgasm, it is all part of that experience and it is a turn on then. | 2007-07-19 14:42:21 |
| 683 | 4461 | I see, well, I'm sure its something that has to be brought up before one has sex with the guy. So he knows what he's dealing with, in a sense. | 2007-07-19 17:14:05 |
| 683 | 4462 | well, yes and no.& a guy might be surprised, so telling him would let him expect it, but only a guy that is totally ignorant about what it means would be turned off.& but telling a guy before hand would also increase anticipation for a lot of guys.& so yes, telling a guy you get really wet before-hand would be a good idea for many reasons. | 2007-07-19 19:24:16 |
| 683 | 4463 | What reasons? Besides, i still believe the guy is usually the "messiest" in sex. lol. | 2007-07-19 19:52:55 |
| 683 | 4467 | I meant the two reasons I gave there.& To save the guy a surprise and increase anticipation.& Even guys who like it would be surprised if they didn't expect it.& You'd have to explain it either way, before it happened or after, so better to save someone a surprise.& The second is that most guys would be excited to see it.& A lot of guys know about it, and while a good number of women do squirt, not every one does.& So a guy who enjoys it would look forward to it, or a guy who had never seen it might be excited to see it for the first time. And yes, there are guys who are either ignorant about the way the female body works or who just wouldn't want to see a woman squirt.& I may be biased, but in my experience those people would tend to be the conservative repressed types who don't view sex as an appropriate source of any pleasure, but rather as a sin, and in that case you would have much bigger issues than their view of female ejaculation. | 2007-07-19 20:26:50 |
| 683 | 4469 | I guess so, well, there are people who have preferences for everything. I still can't seem to figure out how it's attractive, but I ain't a guy. lol. Shouldn't one be open when starting sexual intercourse so? At least so the guy knows what he's getting into, lol, maybe he'd figure it out with "We can't have sex yet, need at least 2 towels under me"..lol | 2007-07-20 00:38:44 |
| 683 | 4471 | you should be open about sex before hand so both partners' needs are met. | 2007-07-20 00:50:57 |
| 683 | 4472 | Yes, the "giving and taking"..lol..thats how it should be. | 2007-07-20 00:54:25 |
| 683 | 4473 | I prefer the term giving and getting, personally, but basically the idea is the same. | 2007-07-20 01:26:09 |
| 683 | 4479 | What exactly is a turn off then for guys in sex? | 2007-07-20 19:26:43 |
| 683 | 4480 | Do you really think guys are more messier in sex than women? G spot orgams I think& are ALOT more quantity than when a guy ejaculates... if you have soaked through 5 towels, why would you think guys are more? | 2007-07-20 19:46:23 |
| 683 | 4484 | [user=130]melissa malena[/user] wrote: "Do you really think guys are more messier in sex than women? G spot orgams I think& are ALOT more quantity than when a guy ejaculates... if you have soaked through 5 towels, why would you think guys are more? " Because she believes women don't normally produce a lot of fluid.& I sent her some numbers the other day about the number of women that forcefully ejaculate (about 10%) and women who emit extra lubrication on orgasm (around 50%). Considering that males only emit a few teaspoons of fluid at orgasm, compared simply to the natural lubrication women produce during periods of arousal plus the two examples I mentioned above, a great deal of women are messier than men to some degree. | 2007-07-20 22:06:03 |
| 683 | 4485 | [user=2247]DeutschesMaedchen[/user] wrote: "What exactly is a turn off then for guys in sex?" foul odors, non-sexual body functions, etc.& some guys find dirty talk arousing, while others find it a turn off.& the same with screaming or otherwise vocal orgasm (because a lot of us believe that to be a sign of faking). certain sexual acts turn certain guys off, but you would know that before hand | 2007-07-20 22:14:13 |
| 683 | 4487 | [user=130]melissa malena[/user] wrote: "Do you really think guys are more messier in sex than women? G spot orgams I think& are ALOT more quantity than when a guy ejaculates... if you have soaked through 5 towels, why would you think guys are more? " I don't know, I didn't know until a couple days ago, women could ejaculate. I'm still learning things about the female body, lol. I just always figured guys made the biggest mess. | 2007-07-20 22:38:13 |
| 683 | 4488 | are you ejaculating or lubricating? | 2007-07-20 22:40:09 |
| 683 | 4491 | [user=130]melissa malena[/user] wrote: "are you ejaculating or lubricating?" Well, my 5th time trying to masturbate,& I..ejaculated..a great deal for that matter. | 2007-07-20 22:56:44 |
| 683 | 4582 | I've dated two women who ejaculated... Neither one told me they did that before they did it with me. It was a bit of a turn on but when I was with the first one, I'd never heard of it so it was a bit of a shock as well. She came in my mouth and I realized there was no taste or smell so I guessed it wasn't urine (I would have been offended if it had been urine). As time progressed, it was more of a turn on but a word of warning would have been thoughtful on my partner's part. I'm sure it was something difficult to bring up with a new partner but slowly bringing it up in a conversation during foreplay would have sure reduced the suprise the first time it happened. The last time it occurred with me, there was a LOT of fluid and I still wasn't sure if she had ejaculated or urinated on me (until I realized there was no smell once again). I think she seem to have more problems dealing with it than I did... With my second partner who ejaculated, once I realized she was able to do that, it was much easier for me to guage how well I was doing stimulating her by the number of times she came and the amount of fluid expelled. Let's say the learning curve was kinda steep until I figured out how things worked. I still think it was a turn on but a warning would have been appreciated. Once I realized my partner ejaculated, it wasn't a big deal to grab a towel to put under her bottom to 'control things' and she seemed to appreciate me getting the towel for her benefit. My two cents worth... | 2007-07-28 20:38:06 |
| 683 | 4584 | Well, I appreciate it. I'll try and remember that, lol, I've had more than one guy now tell me it isn't a turn off, my friends as well. So, I hope it's true! lol. | 2007-07-28 22:26:53 |
| 683 | 4758 | Okay, here's a question to males. lol. If you could. How do you guys stop yourself from not ejaculating without touch? lol. Tips, please, lol. Isn't exactly delicately put, I know, lol but I'd appreciate it. | 2007-08-21 20:23:23 |
| 683 | 4759 | I would say either distract yourself to lower the excitment level or try a position that doesn't cause as much excitment. It neither partner is touching the guy in a provocotive way, he should find some distraction. I know, harder said than done! | 2007-08-21 21:09:10 |
| 683 | 4760 | [user=1136]desertboy[/user] wrote: "I would say either distract yourself to lower the excitment level or try a position that doesn't cause as much excitment. It neither partner is touching the guy in a provocotive way, he should find some distraction. I know, harder said than done!" Well, I appreciate it. lol. Distraction isn't always the easiest. When you wish to distract, it just makes it worse. lol. & | 2007-08-21 21:56:00 |
| 683 | 5314 | [user=2247]DeutschesMaedchen[/user] wrote: "Okay, I'm a female, and I had a question regarding if female ejaculation is a turn off for guys? Or a female who squirts? I believe thats the phrase used. I'd appreciate it, thanks." I'm a guy, and I'd definitely be turned on if that happened to a girl I was making love to. I think it'd even be interesting to get a faceful of that stuff during oral sex... Quizer | 2008-01-22 06:29:56 |
| 683 | 5321 | Well, my boyfriend says he's afraid of female ejaculation...but that's just him, and he's a bit strange (I love him for it, though). : ) I know that most guys think it's hot, especially, as someone else mentioned much earlier in this thread, because there are so many videos online showing it. But for some guys it is a turn off (although I don't think my boy even has experience with it, so he might not be sure himself). And that's my story...hope it helped! : ) | 2008-01-22 16:27:50 |
| 683 | 5406 | [user=419]avenuesthroughgreenmountains[/user] wrote: "Well, my boyfriend says he's afraid of female ejaculation...but that's just him, and he's a bit strange (I love him for it, though). : ) I know that most guys think it's hot, especially, as someone else mentioned much earlier in this thread, because there are so many videos online showing it. But for some guys it is a turn off (although I don't think my boy even has experience with it, so he might not be sure himself). And that's my story...hope it helped! : ) " Assumed so. I don't know, lol, i've been trying to figure out how to get rid of it. I don't think it's possible. It's frustrating dealing with the whole mess and trying to make sure you don't get caught in the process. Appreciate it, Quizer, it helps hearing that guys like it more than don't. | 2008-02-02 19:19:58 |
| 683 | 5407 | what happens if you play with yourself under your panties or under a dress when you are not wearing panties? & Melissa | 2008-02-02 19:45:10 |
| 683 | 5408 | Maybe Brad should do a survey about boys vs girls and ejaculation... How many women are turned on by watching a guy come (either in person or in a video if you don't have the real thing) vs how many guys are turned on by a woman ejaculating? Granted, a woman ejaculating is less common than a guy ejaculating but how many women are turned on by guys 'squirting', even though it's expected of a guy to do that... & Any thoughts from other folks who post here or does Brad have any interest in doing some sort of survey from both sexes who visit here? | 2008-02-02 19:55:15 |
| 683 | 5416 | [user=130]melissa malena[/user] wrote: "what happens if you play with yourself under your panties or under a dress when you are not wearing panties? Â Melissa " well, my legs dont hold at all. i couldnt do it while standing, and ive only done it once standing. short to say, i fell on the floor and i had a puddle. | 2008-02-03 00:14:28 |
| 683 | 5510 | It may be a turn off for bacteria fearing males but that's because they have that preset OCD for men who are intrigued by all parts and functions of the female body during sexual activity it is a validation of one doing it so to speak "the right way" and yes unless the man is a sociopathic sexual being every normal man will be turned on by it and will get a volcanic sense of confidence boost during such an occurance. So, if you think he is normal and seems to enjoy sex any man your with will not turn in horror if you discharge vaginal fluid on him or in his presence and I think that you'll find he will be quite a bit more attracted to you. | 2008-02-22 20:01:58 |
| 683 | 5532 | [user=7092]Galione[/user] wrote: "It may be a turn off for bacteria fearing males but that's because they have that preset OCD for men who are intrigued by all parts and functions of the female body during sexual activity it is a validation of one doing it so to speak "the right way" and yes unless the man is a sociopathic sexual being every normal man will be turned on by it and will get a volcanic sense of confidence boost during such an occurance. So, if you think he is normal and seems to enjoy sex any man your with will not turn in horror if you discharge vaginal fluid on him or in his presence and I think that you'll find he will be quite a bit more attracted to you." Well, I appreciate it. lol. It's good to hear that there are guys who don't mind it, granted, I'm sure most haven't seen it truly? | 2008-02-27 21:38:48 |
| 683 | 5535 | I agree....lol | 2008-02-28 20:38:23 |
| 683 | 5540 | actually my ex had a female ejaculate but my current spouse does not have the ability from what I have seen | 2008-02-28 21:04:09 |
| 683 | 5542 | what is a guy to think when he sees stuff shoot out of a girl's vagina? lol | 2008-02-28 21:06:47 |
| 683 | 5543 | It doesn't come out of the vagina. From what I've understood from it, is that EVERY woman can do female ejaculation?? lol. I'm still new at this game, lol, still figuring out body parts that new. If a guy stated, wheres that..lol i could do it, but not names by myself, although i know some. LOL | 2008-02-28 22:28:44 |
| 683 | 5544 | where does it come when you cum? | 2008-02-28 22:35:24 |
| 683 | 5545 | Uretha.. | 2008-02-28 23:11:19 |
| 683 | 5583 | The guy is messiest in ejaculation, but it's still all going to be wet or lubricated down there.& Think about it: he cums in you, but your vaginal lube is ALL OVER him, your thighs, his thighs, probably his his scrotum, too.& I doubt that female ejaculation is going to make it any "worse." And if your guy cares about you, he should be interested in your satisfaction.& Oral and/or manual stimulation are very important, from what I've read, and less than a third of women can orgasm from vaginal sex alone.& Ergo, if you both want to let you orgasm, then you're going to need to work on other areas, too. | 2008-03-14 10:21:33 |
| 683 | 5586 | men are NOT the messiest in sex with ejaculation. Women are. When I had sex exclusively with men, I noticed that after sex, there would be a huge cold wet spot on the bed often as wide as eighteen inches. I naturally believed that it& was all from the man, but that was before I knew how little many men actually ejaculate....I've had what I consider very dramatic squiring episodes where the fluid hit my toes. Once...it hit the sheet, which I was holding up with my left hand and fkluid splashed back down on me. Christie, page 106, The Clitoral Truth by Rebecca Chalker It can be a quarter of a cup, Mikki, page 105, The Clitoral Truth by Rebecca Chalker & I used to take a towl to bed, but the ejaculate would soak through four thick folds and then I could literally ring the towel out& Jenna, page 100, The Clitoral Thruthby Rebecca Chalker As noted on page 94, we know that the amount of male ejaculate ranges quite a bit, from one half ounce to two ounces...It is clear, however, that many women produce much much more. page 101 The Clitoral Truth by Rebecca Chalker Now I don't squirt nearly that much, but I believe these accounts. | 2008-03-14 13:53:16 |
| 683 | 5685 | Only ever had one partner do that. It was a bit strange the first time but was more exciting in the times that followed | 2008-04-07 17:13:20 |
| 685 | 4475 | I've just read that womens stockings are on the way out, this is not surprising as more women are wearing jeans and trousers. whilst as and older man I find the attractive on young women with good figures, as if they fit well& they can emphasize their crutch and arse. I regret the possible passing of stocking and suspender belts for as a younger man I found these very erotic. I found it a turn- on that when I eventually got my hands up a womens skirt to feel that bear flesh between the top of her stocking and her knickers this was a turn-on for me and I'm sure excited her to allow me to go further inside her knickers and eventually to her clitoris Also when she began to undress black underwear, black frilly suspender belt and black silk or nylon stockings& WOW!! | 2007-07-20 04:27:00 |
| 685 | 4478 | It is normal that you find pantyhose and stockings a big turn-on, as they represent feminity to our minds. A girl wearing trousaers is not a turn-on at all. | 2007-07-20 11:30:13 |
| 718 | 4779 | Hi All, I have been asked several times for a website that addresses male sexuality in the way that The-Clitoris.com and TheSexualGoddess.com address female sexuality. At least one that is less commercial. The problem has always been that I simply don't have the time for another project. The advent of Wiki software, in this case TikiWiki, allows us a way around this restriction. This is because visitors to the website can contribute to it, after first registering. You don't have to rely on me to create the material. I have only been using this software for less than a week, so I have a lot to learn. This new website is in its infancy. I have created a separate forum area for this website, it is listed lower down on your screen when you enter this forum. Thank you for your support, and I hope you will help this project get off to a fabulous start. [url=www.thesexualgod.com] www.thesexualgod.com Brad & | 2007-09-05 11:06:29 |
| 741 | 4908 | I know this it is fairly common to be asked about size, but I think my case is a little different. I suspect that I might be close to sleeping with a woman who means a lot to me. She is rather tall, around 5'11.& I am 5" in length and about 7.5" in girth which is& quite unusual from what I've read.& I don't know what her vagina size is and -& according to research -& it shouldn't be correlated with her height. But I feel quite anxious because of my length, despite the fact that I know my girth will probably be more than enough. Supposing that she is adequately aroused through a lot of caressing, kissing and oral sex, before and after intercourse, is it feasible& my girth and our foreplay will make up for my slight shortness? Also, there is a slight bend in my penis. When I take it into account and measure it using string, along the longer side, I get a slightly& bigger measurement. This would be my length if the& bend was removed. Is this a legitimate way to measure such a penis? The extra length& still counts as volume after all. | 2007-10-04 03:13:56 |
| 741 | 4909 | You will receive replies from people much more knowledgeable than I in this matter but may I assure you that 5 inches is more than& enough and your girth is many a woman's dream! The bend could be handy, too. As you write, foreplay is so important , as are sfter-cuddles. It is all very well for me to offer advice but may I encourage you to enter at the angle which has your fraenulum rubbing against& the back wall of her vagina& and her Spot, and your shaft across the clit.?& Be confident. Be gently male. Much plessure to both. & And next time will be even& better! | 2007-10-04 04:52:10 |
| 741 | 4929 | Guys often worry about length and want to be longer but long penis's often cause problems of their own when they hit the cervix during IC and can cause pain to the woman. Girth is probably more important although not always in the same way. With having vaginismus, a larger girth would mean more difficulty for me but women without this problem usually like more girth. | 2007-10-09 07:14:12 |
| 741 | 4943 | you could rephrase and say that girth has more impact than length on the pleasure of a woman during penetration, but that does not imply that MORE girth is necessarily better, but the RIGHT girth. | 2007-10-10 22:13:46 |
| 741 | 5509 | you'll be just fine dude don't get nervous and enjoy it cause if you show a lack of confidence while in bed it ruins the whole feel for a woman, she wants to know without you saying a word that you are just there to be in that situation with her, to make love to her and for godsakes have fun. | 2008-02-22 19:56:24 |
| 748 | 5036 | I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 yeas now and never had problems with sex until recently. He has been losing his erection during sex. He has never experienced this problem. During intercourse after some time he begins to lose his erection and we have to stop because he can't continue any longer. I'm not sure if this is related to it but he will get extremely overheated during sex. He becomes very hot and begins to sweat intensly then he loses his erection. He's only 25 years old and has no health problems. He wonders if weight gain could be the problem. He's not overweight but he has gained 20lbs during the year and is not as active as he was before.& Does anyone have any thoughts or advice? | 2007-11-04 20:26:19 |
| 748 | 5038 | Does he lose his erection during fellatio or hand-jobs? Perhaps intercourse isn't as mentally and physically stimulating as it once was. Perhaps you need to get on top and take some of the pressure off him to perform, and stimulate yourself so you reach orgasm sooner. Brad | 2007-11-05 08:55:50 |
| 752 | 5062 | i'm 61 years old and in pretty good health. not overweight. wife is 4 years younger. for the last few years or so, my wife of 30 plus years has cut way back on our sex life. i think if she had her way, it would be once a year and don't even think about her initiating anything. some of the things i've heard is 'we've done long it long enough' or 'thiry years is enough. let's take the next 30 years off'. a year or so ago, when i approached her about it, her answer was (you're going to like this one) 'either take care of it yourself or find someone who will'. the thought of finding someone is something i've considered, but don't think i could do that to her and the taking care of it myself is getting old quick. her latest is 'i love you. just don't touch me'. i guess my question is, is this the way it's supposed to be after 60 ( i don't feel 60) or is this the exception? i still find my wife very appealing, even though she has put on considerable weigh over the last 15 to 20 years. i believe some of the problem may a self esteem issue on her part, even though i assure her it isn't a problem for me. just looking for some views on this. | 2007-11-11 00:22:16 |
| 752 | 5068 | It sounds like she either doesn't enjoy sex or never enjoyed sex, or hasn't enjoyed it in many moons. You need to find out which is true. Women of older generations are less likely to admit to not liking "sex," when in fact many women don't like sex, that is they don't like experiencing only vaginal penetration or only 30 seconds of foreplay. In many cases their upbringing prevents them from enjoying sex, sex was for reproduction only. There are too many possible reasons for her not to want sex for us to begin to guess at her reason. If you don't know why she doesn't like sex after years of marriage then obviously lack of sexual communication is an issue that needs to be addressed if you are to enjoy sex together again. Brad | 2007-11-11 19:33:45 |
| 752 | 5069 | bradf30- some more background info may be called for. i didn't want to wander on and on in the first post. i truly believe for a long time, our marriage was very intimate and loving. over time the sex became more routine and possibly (hate to use the word) boring (a bit strong). when we met years ago, she was the more sexually experienced and we really had some good times. yes, i know we're not in our 20's or 30's, but i guess i would appreciate some affection time to time. as far as the '30 second wham bam, thank you maam', i don't ever remember that being the case. love was not rushed, but one thing i might mention is that it always had to be her orgasuming first. communication is passible, but not what it should be. communication is what brought out the remarks mentioned in the last post. what i guess i'm trying to figure out here is how common this is. i kind of get the impression that this is the norm and i will have to adjust. i feel that i love her more now than i ever have and would like to show it. i'm not talking sex only, but maybe some holding, cuddling, etc., but with the 'i love you, but don't touch me', it's tough. | 2007-11-11 22:22:35 |
| 752 | 5070 | Could it be that your wife has some physical problems?& Did you talk about that? Maybe she feels no sexual desire or& pain during intercourse due to lack of some& hormones. Has she seen a doctor? | 2007-11-13 12:35:20 |
| 752 | 5071 | no phys problems other than weight.& seems to be more of not interested problem. i believe the weight issue is also& a self esteem issue.& we have talked and i have tried to reassure her that the weight is not a big issue. (not a pun). main issue here seems to be just not interested anymore.& has kind of left me high and dry when i'm trying to not give up on this marriage or the relationship or the affection between us. i might mention that she has two girlfriends that are either widowed or divorced. they are happy living alone and i think she sees thier lifestyle and just doesn't want to be 'bothered' by me. being 60 isn't easy.& | 2007-11-13 14:19:58 |
| 752 | 5355 | Age is just a number. I'm 47 & the older I get, the younger 61 sounds. How you feel is how old you really are. Life is short & way too short for you not to be enjoying the simple pleasures of sex, passion & that expression between 2 people you so desire to experience. Its time to get down to the nitty gritty with your Wife & have a no holds barred talk. You may not be prepared for what she will say & you may not like what she has to say. But it will be very clear to you at least, her vision of how she sees your future together, sexual or otherwise. And from that vantage point, you can make choices. To me being the passionate woman I am, I see/feel no slower death than to have a partner & desire & crave the sexual sensations & then be denied, pushed aside & ignored over & over agian. I was in one of those "no sex" thingys for far longer than I should have stayed. I paided for it dearly with my own chipping away of my selfesteem/worth. My own genital sensation had shut down as a result of the trama I experienced with him & 3 years later I am still finding my way back to my own pleasure. I have a new boyfriend for 3 months now. We have everything I have always wanted in a relationship but the sexual aspects are not there. He was unable to get & keep his erections. We thought it was becouse of anti-anxiety medications he was on. He has weened himself off them completely & as of 2 weeks ago his ability to have strong lasting erections have not retutned. I also found erection aside he did not (seem) to have the desire or skills to perform otherwise sexually. In my mind there is lots of mutual fun to be had without an erection. These aspects where starting to turn me off to him completely. I wasn't getting the impression that he wanted to get down & dirty like I do or as often. And my eyes & thoughts were starting to wander. Encouraged & prompted by your letter & what I was asking you to do, I called him, and we just had a 2 hour conversation about what was really going on. I gotta tell you it wasn't easy & parts of it definatly were not fun. Previously up to now, he was real good at talking me up & telling me all the things he wanted to do to me & they all sounded good/great! Then when we were together we would be more like good friends hanging out. Or he would start things up & then stop abruptly. It all came out that he is angry, fustrated, disapointed, all the things you can imagin that his penis not working makes him feel. He wants all the things I want sexually, but has not had willing partners to explore this with. Feels some feelings of not knowing what to do & now is disouraged & embaressed about his failure to perform. Kinda a 2 fold thingy going on here. I needed to hear all this & it wasn't easy or fun for him to lay it all out either. What he also said was he (was) willing to go see a Doctor about his plumbing, or a sex therapist if needed & bottom line, keep the topic on the table for both of us to discuss as we fumble towards fulfilment together. Its seems as tho we have been devinely brought together to heal this broken part within each of us. I have learned that we each get what we settle for & no one else is to blame. I gotta speak up! I have also learned to love myself & I love myself enough, not to allow others not to. I gotta speak up! I encourage you to get honest, really gut wrenchingly honest and talk with your wife. How she views your current relationship? Is she hopeful or wanting it to evolve to mutual happiness? Is she willing to work on it with you, with outside help? There is a saying "If nothing changes, nothing changes". Today I went outside my comfort zone & became emotionaly available to myself by asking for what I want & need & to get to the bottom of why it wasn't happening. Without my partners willingness to be open & share. And then to be open & willing to seek answers together, I couldn't have gotten here, to this better place of understanding about "us" by myself. I had to be willing to face, maybe I had to let this whole relationship go. I had always settled in the past for less than I desired. Today I see how far I have come. My own happiness is a priority. I am so grateful to have found this forum a few days ago. To have a safe & comfortable place to share, discuss & vent. Ask for & try to offer help to others. Anyhoo thats my 2 cents & a way lot more. Keep sharing its time to feel better & heal for all of us... | 2008-01-27 15:19:50 |
| 752 | 5357 | that's two cents worth alright. might even be 4 cents. lol. a couple of differences i see are that you're still at least ten years younger and i think you will see that it will be ten big years. second thing is we are married and i don't have the option of just going and finding another girlfriend. please don't take that the wrong way, but marriage is a bit different than bf/gf. | 2008-01-27 18:41:14 |
| 752 | 5365 | Take what you like & leave the rest, from anything I may offer. I dunno you & visa versa. We're just all just throwin ideas out & brain stormin here. I understand the ten year thingy, really I do, but I hope & imagin now that I have developed my own self-esteem/love back bone that I will never be involved with a partner, what ever our status, that would say to me "subject closed, take care of yourself". And I would accept it & learn to just live with it. I was in a marriage with a really nice guy for 10 years about 15 years ago. I had lost about 50 pounds. I was feeling frisky & good about myself. He told me at one point, "yes I'm attracted to you, but sex isn't a priority & he thought it should just taper off at some point. We were both in our early 30's. As you can imagin, that slammed door was pretty hurtful. Sex with him started to feel like a steel rod going In & out of me as I found myself emotionally detaching from him. I felt a slow death coming on, until I started to catch the eye & attentions of many willing to please & be pleased men. We divorced... And it would be another decade & 1/2 and a few more not so fun relationships, including that last one with Mr. withholding sex dreamboat until I found myself at this point of not settling for less than I deserve or desire. Your post was of great inspiration to me as it inspired me to get out of my comfort zone & talking to my bf about our floundering sexual relationship. A subject I'm not so comfortable talking about. Turns out my comunication skills need a little tweeking. I was ready to walk & not talk becouse of my own insecuritys. The vibe between us has totally changed from that one conversation. I feel more compassion & less judgement. He became more playful & I became...Well, turned on by him & drawn to him. Funny how that works... So your beliefs, morals & values don't include divorce, good for you, really! But does that really prevent you from having that honest talk with your Wife? The one where you ask her "whats really going on here"? "do you think we can improve our realtionship for mutual happiness"? "do you want to"? "are you willing to try"? To see where the 2 of you stand. Rodney Dangerfield used to have a funny bit about how he would do foreplay with his wife. He would simply say "Brace Yourself". Now I am going to generalize...Most men would like to have their hands wrapped around a set of tits or ass & most Women would like to told just how good that feels to you while your doing it. Your visual we're mental. And inbetween we're all a little/lot of both. I don't know your style, but I do know something has turned her off. Could be her, could be something you've done. Could be a combination. You may wanna try something totally different if so heres an idea. Watch the movie "The Secret". In it you will learn how appreciating all the good qualities about your Wife & focusing on all those good qualities only, will vibrationally change the dinamics of your current relationship without her doing aything different. I would start with making a list of 100 things you like/love/appreciate about her. If the thought alone seems imposible or you can only muster 10 or so things. You may wanna ask yourself "Why am I asking a woman I don't even like to have sex with me"? And if the pen flows on the paper I would say you have a pretty good chance of getting all this flowing in the right direction. She feels your focus as you do hers without anything ever being spoken between the 2 of you. Like I said "if nothing changes, nothing changes". How much are you willing to go outside your comfort zone to try something new. What have you got to lose? You have everything to gain. I plan to be very sexually active at your age & I can only hope to have a man like you that is still very interested in getting it on... Please don't hear me as Miss know it all, or telling you what you should do. I only know whats working or not working for me. I hear your angist, your loneliness & your dispare. Nothing in my opinion cannot be healed... | 2008-01-28 14:31:59 |
| 752 | 5367 | to lovergirl- starting from the bottom, i had planned on being very sexually active now when i was 10 years younger, too. hard to do though, when your partner gives up. the subject came up maybe a week or so ago again and this time her excuse was 'find me some female viagra and maybe i would try it again'. the urge is just gone on her part. she sees it as an age thing and people our age just don't do that kind of stuff at this point in their life. sex is supposed to be over with and now we just go on with our lives in a nonsexual way. the other issue here is a weight issue on her part. she feels that she is not able to lose the weight and it has a big effect on her self esteem. i haven't seen her naked in years and if she has her way, i never will. the weight is not as big an issue for me as it is for her. like you, she also lost 50 pounds a few years back and then put it back on plus more. everyone, including me told her how good she looked. now she thinks the only answer is lapband surgery. someone else told me to watch the movie 'the secret'. if anything has turned her off to sex, it might be my asking her to loosen up a bit and the answer i get is 'again? we just did it last month' we are now at point of the very occasional oral or h/j sex. NO penetration. she has the impression that all i'm after is the ejaculation, when the build up, the feeling and touching means much more. as long as i get her off by hand, thats all she cares or wants. 'i'm tired. let's get this over with.' that'll do wonders for your ego. i hope that some of this makes some sense. i'm not the best at getting across what is going on. it's inside me, but i just have trouble getting it to paper. | 2008-01-28 17:48:47 |
| 752 | 5370 | Rather than give you anymore useless feedback on the details of your relationship, becouse feedback isn't going to bring you anymore clarity or create changes for you & your Wife that you desire . I am recomending the following. That you, the leader of this pack, go get the movie "The Secret" (Got mine from Barnes & Noble) Sit down with your Wife, tell her you love her, your not happy the way your relationship is going now, you know you have contribited in some ways & you want to close the gaps between the 2 of you. But you need & want her to particiapate. Tell her it has been recomended that you watch this movie together & to practice it's contents as well together for at least 30 days. Ask her to watch the movie with you, then the 2 of you can decide together if that is a path you can to take together. This may sound like a wacky idea, the concepts presented in the movie new to both of you. But this is what I tell friends who doubt that "The law of attraction" is a real force in the world. Ok what if its not real...But what if it is real??? And we all really can change our lives & create what we desire with a change of thoughts. And double the good by you both of you learning & applying this Universal Law together. I can't teach you anything by telling you stories of how much my life has changed in 3 years. Only you & your wife can teach yourselves by appling the laws & proving it to yourselves. The 2 of you are not going to have to do one other thing but change your thoughts. I wish you well... | 2008-01-30 07:34:15 |
| 752 | 5371 | And another thing... I am taking on my own challenge that I sugjested you try. I have spent 40+ years thinking & doing my life some other way, until I found this Information. My beliefs were a well worn path in my mind. It was very easy to access a certain kind of negative thinking that did not serve me well at all. Three years into it I still backslide & get caught up in old patterns of thinking. I have attracted a wonderful man into my life 3 months ago. My only disapointment is our sex life. He is experiencing ED & as a result he had pulled back from most sexual exploration all together. Which made me think he had no interest or no labido. Our talk we had the other day very much improved our understanding of each other. He had taken a head in the sand stance becouse of embaressment & I had done the same, for very much the same reasons. But I realized after I pushed send on my last note to you that my focus & most likely his was still going to be on his ED, not the passion & the pleasure we both want to experience with each other & that clearly we don't need a rock hard penis to enjoy that. So this weekend when we are together, we will watch the movie again & commit to 30 days or more of thinking about what we want to experience not what we don't want to, till we can get our boat turned around. I would imagin it would be a bit of a challenging to understand fully what I am wanting you & others to understand. But I thank you for the inspiration to get me to refocus & get my attention back where wonderful outcomes can happens... | 2008-01-30 08:49:42 |
| 752 | 5372 | thanks so much for your input.& i'm planning on getting the movie yet today and will keep you updated on the progress.& for some reason, i believe this will work. | 2008-01-30 09:39:10 |
| 752 | 5374 | A big wave of goose bumps & tears welled up in me, as I read your last post...I'ma sensitive girly! I feel such hope for both of us as we tip toe toward our bliss! Go get um champ!;) | 2008-01-30 10:16:03 |
| 752 | 5435 | I am so very happy to report that my BF's erections have returned in all their glory 3 1/2 weeks after stopping anxiety meds. I thought we would spend a wonderful weekend taking actual IC off the table & instead explore other options for pleasure. Seems the lil' guy or in this case the "big" guy had other plans... | 2008-02-09 12:39:53 |
| 754 | 5075 | What does it mean when a man has one part of the scrotum that is hard? Is it normal or should he have it checked out by a doctor? | 2007-11-14 01:10:56 |
| 754 | 5079 | if the scrotum itself is hard?& i dont know what that could be, but it never hurts to ask a dr if you aren't sure | 2007-11-14 16:26:30 |
| 754 | 5081 | If anything does not seem to be totally normal, it's always a good idea to see a doctor. After all, everybody should take a little care of his or her body, and from my point of view this should be extra important when those parts are involved you can have the most fun with ... :D And in case you do not mean the scrotum itself, but one of the testicles that seems to be harder or maybe even a little bigger than the other, please make an appointment immediately! Especially if it does not hurt, this might be testicle cancer. If it is treated in the early stages it is curable in almost 100% of the cases, but you have to be quick. And even if it is "just" an infection of some kind, there is the possibility that it will hurt quite a lot later on ... | 2007-11-15 09:50:18 |
| 773 | 5220 | Does anyone have a wife or girl friend that likes to& use a dildo or strapon to take their man in his ass. | 2007-12-25 09:54:38 |
| 773 | 5778 | I've not had the nerve to ask my spouse, but very interested. anyone have any suggestions? & | 2008-05-27 08:50:55 |
| 773 | 5779 | Get her several adult toys and let her choose which to play with. | 2008-05-27 12:32:16 |
| 773 | 5788 | When my wife is willing to experiment with anal sex - her on the receiving end - I'll talk about the other.& I think it is called "pegging."& & But she isn't receptive to the idea.& Unfortunately, she feels pain in her vagina and isn't "receptive" there, either.& Sigh! | 2008-05-29 06:43:14 |
| 773 | 5841 | Check en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pegging_%28sexual_practice%29 | 2008-06-07 08:48:00 |
| 773 | 5854 | "Bend Over Boyfriend: A couple's guide to male anal pleasure" by Carol Queen | 2008-06-13 22:29:37 |
| 784 | 5285 | My boyfriend has had pain in his testicle for about a year now, and the doctor hasn't been able to find anything wrong. However, a couple days ago he found a lump/abnormality on it. He also informed me that the pain is so bad that, although he desires sexual activity, he can't go through with it. In addition, he has erectile dysfunction (and has had this his entire life, I'm pretty sure, but I'm still putting it into the equation). I've been researching on the Internet over the weekend, but I can't pinpoint a possible diagnosis. He's going to see the doctor this week, of course, but if anyone has any insight into the problem, we're all ears over here. : ) Thanks! | 2008-01-13 21:33:55 |
| 784 | 5286 | Hi, I read your post about the pain your boyfriend is having, and although I am not a doctor, I& just had surgery on my scrotum and therefore have had what might be a similar experience.& I have also experienced ED. First& , I strongly recommend that he visits a good Urologist. There are many possible reasons why he is having& pain in his testicles.& My experience was as follows.& I had prostate cancer and therefore surgery to remove my prostate, and& I see a urologist every 4 months.& About& 9-10 months ago, she (the urologist is a woman) detected a very small lump in my scrotum& while she was examining my testicles for testicular cancer. She did a biopsy (fairly painful), and fortunately it came back negative.& However, she told me if it increases in size she would remove it.& She told me it could be a cyst, but more likely a hydrocele which is a collection of fluid& in the tube that connects to the testicles.& Both are relatively harmless, but could become painful or uncomfortable.& She was right.& The very small lump grew and I jokingly called it my third testicle.& However, it stopped being funny when it got to be about the size of my testicles and began to hurt.& At first it was just uncomfortable.& & However, about three months ago, it began to be more than uncomfortable and started to hurt.& I saw her toward the end of November and when she felt the size and that it was hurting me she recommended surgery.& She removed the lump on December 13th, and it turned out to be a hydrocele and it was benign.& The scar is about one inch long and is now totally healed.& & She told me no sexual activity until I see her in February, as& an erection& could pull on the scar and cause pain and possibly& pull out the stitches.& & A much more serious problem would be testicular cancer.& However, if detected early it is very cureable.& Usually happens in men who are between 15 and 35.& Finally the pain could be caused by an inflimation of the lining in the scrotum, I think it is called the Epididymis.& However, if he detected a lump it is more likely to be a cyst, a hydrocele or cancer.& Good luck. ED is a different story.& After my prostate surgery, I was totally impotent.& Totally unable to get an erection.& My urologist gave me Viagra and several other medicines with absolutely no& effect and for almost five years I remained impotent and celibate. Finally she told me about an injection directly into& my penis with a medicine called Caverject.& Initially I was not about to inject anything into my penis, but she finally convinced me and I have never looked back.& If nothing else works, this does.& For almost 10 years I have been using the injection and it works every time, and the erection lasts about one hour.& No ED anymore. If you want to know more about either concern, please do not hesitate to write to me.& to the best of my ability I will tell you what I know.& However, it is very important that your boyfriend visits a good urologist and do not delay.& If it is cancer, time is of the essence. Joe & & & | 2008-01-14 12:21:16 |
| 784 | 5287 | I found all those things on the Internet and in the Merck Manual, and thank you for bringing them up. But there's no symptom listed of pure pain for a year---with no other symptoms---for a specific condition. And now there's a lump. I'm not really sure what to make of it. We work around the ED, by the way. : ) I let him know he doesn't have to feel embarrassed about it around me. Our biggest problem with that is him feeling like he's letting me down, but I try to make sure that it doesn't bother me---I know he can't help it, and I accept and love every part of him, including this...but I digress. : ) I just can't figure out what it is, and it bothers me. He told me not to worry about it, because the doctor will figure it out, but I REALLY like knowing what's going on. I'm rambling. But the bottom line is that I can't find anything on the Internet that matches up, even in all the personal experiences I've read...and the doctors are starting to disregard what my boyfriend says, because they haven't been able to find anything wrong. Hopefully now they'll take him seriously, but if anyone has any experience with this situation, or any other suggestions (as Joe kindly gave), then I would be very grateful. | 2008-01-14 15:57:04 |
| 784 | 5313 | that sucks man good luck | 2008-01-22 01:57:31 |
| 786 | 5295 | Hey, everyone! First, I want to thank the author of this site for his efforts. This site is about female sexuality, but I've learned a lot about my own male sexuality in the process of reading it. I not only feel properly prepared for future relationships (at least the physical aspects thereof), but I'm also much more comfortable with my own self and body. I had a fairly healthy attitude to sex and masturbation even before I found this site, but it was still a healing experience for me. I managed to convince myself some time ago that I didn't need to feel ashamed of myself and my sexuality, but only after reading that site a few days ago have I really been able to view myself with the same kind of tenderness and affection and acceptance I want to shower my future partner with. I've masturbated all my life since puberty and enjoyed it, but now I can make love to myself. I've had only one short relationship where we had intercourse a couple of times, and while it was enjoyable, it taught me nothing compared to a day or two browsing this website. Now I'm looking forward to finding a partner who I can share a fulfilling sex life with. Thank you, and everyone who contributed! What about other guys? What was your clitoris.com experience like? Quizer | 2008-01-17 07:15:28 |
| 786 | 5325 | Hi Quizzer, It is great to get those comments. I have found that life is s a continuous learning affair. Before I found this site I thought I new a lot about sex, both male and female arousals, and now after I read the contributions all those other very experienced people can offer I find myself in the much sought after learning phase. I, like you being a male, thought I knew about all there was to know about male sexuality and prided myself with experience in self masturbation and even prided myself in sexual relations with very capable, experienced women. Now after I have read the experiences of others, I use this term to include and welcome women’s comments, I am able to enjoy my sexual life much more now than before (even though my sexual enjoyment is more of a self contribution role now a days) and always look forward to comments I can learn from and in many cases apply the techniques for my own benefit. | 2008-01-22 22:54:38 |
| 786 | 5424 | I'm starting to wonder if my knowledge of female sexuality makes me less than desirable as a sex& partner. It's good to know that I'm not the only guy here who isn't in a serious relationship, although in my case I really never was. I found this website back when I was in high school, and it pretty much gave me the sex education I should have gotten in school... Anyway, now I'm out of college, and despite what I learned about sex, I never even dated when I was in college. So I guess that while learning all of the stuff on this website is preferable to learning it through trial and error, I can't help but wonder if I will find any of this information useful at all. | 2008-02-04 20:17:36 |
| 786 | 5425 | Thanks for your comments, Enjoy! I agree, the site is a great resource, something any person, male or female, can benefit from reading. I'm certainly looking forward to learning more about sex, because, as you say, many of the things you learn can be adapted for your own pleasure! Paviel, I'm not sure I see the relation between you knowing a lot about sex and you not dating/not finding dates(?). I've never really dated either. My one relationship was long-distance, so we didn't get to see each other a lot before she broke it off. Some people just find it difficult to find opportunities for dating. I wouldn't be worried about you knowing a lot about female sexuality making you undesirable. I'm sure most girls would rather you know what you were doing. Why do you think it would make you less desirable? Quizer | 2008-02-05 04:08:13 |
| 786 | 5426 | Thanks for your comments and feedback. I cannot believe it is the 10th anniversary for this website, created in 1998. :cool: Brad | 2008-02-05 08:24:07 |
| 786 | 5427 | I don't know... Just the fact that I know quite a bit and that I haven't dated, and apparently I'm not the only one. Maybe these three points have nothing to do with each other. As I think about this, I guess it's more likely that not dating caused me to seek out this information than vice versa, if there's a cause-and-effect relationship at all. | 2008-02-05 08:26:16 |
| 786 | 5428 | Well, my knowledge of women is the result of not dating too, being shy and somewhat of an introvert. I'm not good at starting up conversations without some known common interest. "Nice weather?" It is hard and frustrating, that is for sure. :? Brad | 2008-02-05 08:29:41 |
| 786 | 5429 | Actually, I have the same problem. It's hard to find people with shared interests. Once a conversation gets going, I have little problems opening up, but I'm not the kind of person who is able to just walk up to someone and start a conversation. The fact that I don't drink, can't stand the smell of cigarette smoke and feel uncomfortable in typical settings like that doesn't help. Knowing more about female sexuality and physiology certainly boosts my confidence, though. Being well-educated about this aspect of relationships leaves me free to worry about other things. :) Quizer | 2008-02-05 09:24:39 |
| 786 | 5432 | I discovered this website after being with a lady who ejaculated and I had no idea what was going on. Looking at this forum and some of the specific topics has greatly broadened my horizons. Thank you 'The-Clitoris'! | 2008-02-07 20:57:22 |
| 798 | 5342 | Now this could be just a matter of comfort and if so I am totally willing to let sleeping dogs...Sit! But Im still wondering for those of you men who sit while peeing & those of you who don't, your thoughts on this. Why some men sit down while peeing? I never knew I liked the sound of a strong stream of pee hitting the water or that I equated it wih manlyness in anyway. But my new boyfriend of 3 months sits while peeing & something doesn't seem right with it. He says he pees standing up in public bathrooms & can't remember when he started that way. And no I haven't made any negative comments, nor will I about it. I'm just curious...Any thoughts? | 2008-01-26 14:19:59 |
| 798 | 5344 | There's nothing wrong with it.& I've been told by some guys that they will pee in a urinal standing up before going into a stall for a bowel movement, so caught up in the concept of male gender roles that they feel to sit on the toilet while doing both makes them a woman.& I think it's a silly idea.& I dont sit just to pee since it's so brief of an action, but at home with reading materials, the bathroom can be a place for relaxation otherwise. | 2008-01-26 16:50:53 |
| 798 | 5346 | Thank you...This is just the kind of feed back I'm looking for. | 2008-01-26 18:00:53 |
| 798 | 5347 | I tend to sit because my urine stream tends to have a mind of its own. :D The bathroom in one house I lived in as a child was carpeted, prior to us moving in, so that is likely when I learned to sit. I use urinals in public, but have noted when wearing shorts there is a lot a splash or spray back. :shock: Brad | 2008-01-26 19:28:33 |
| 798 | 5385 | I sit peeing when wearing shorts, only as I have to slide them down and it is much easier to sit and pee instead of splashing my shorts. It is also easier at night when i wake up needing a pee I sometimes sit as this allows me to keep sleeping, I can't see with glasses off and when its dark so sitting is preferential. | 2008-02-01 23:21:40 |
| 798 | 5393 | I'm a guy, and I always sit on the toilet. This is one thing where I've never allowed myself to be led astray by our society. Why pee standing up when you can do it sitting down? It's more comfortable and eliminates the need to aim properly. In public bathrooms that I feel are not sanitary enough for me to be comfortable sitting down, I tend to hover over the surface of the seat while I pee. But it doesn't happen often, and most of the time just wiping off the seat with toilet paper is enough for me to be okay with sitting there for a few seconds. In my parent's house, peeing while standing up is a big no-no, as that is one potential for messiness that can be easily avoided. I don't think there's anything wrong with guys peeing while sitting, but I do think there's something wrong with the attitude of people who feel they have to pee standing up solely because they are guys. Quizer | 2008-02-02 06:37:00 |
| 798 | 5433 | I generally wake up both erect and micturient, and peeing while erect is... um, hard... when standing. That's why I generally sit down to do it. Nowadays, even when I'm not erect, I still find it easier to pee sitting down, unless I'm at a urinal (of course). It puzzles me that anybody would see anything wrong with a man sitting down to pee. It's not like it's anybody else's business... | 2008-02-08 10:02:35 |
| 798 | 5434 | Well Sir & all you Sirs that have responded first of all thank you. Being a Girl/Woman all of my life, I have what I consider a healthy curiosity & fondness for that man tool between mens legs. Having what I call a mild case of penis envy, especially when I have to pee in one of those gastly outhouses or how handy it must be to have such big thing to hold onto when masterbating. Ya all make it look so darn fun! Anyhoo there seems to be a slight tensness in (some) of the responces as to whats the big deal about sitting down when peeing or "whos buisness is it anyway? And all I can tell you is... 1st. of all, I've come from a long line of a Father, Brother and a kavlecade of Partners who have "all" been stander uppers. And altho I had heard of it, witnessing it was a first for me. Second thing, I was trying to get to the bottom of my new bf's ED & doing my own behind the scenes investigation work & not knowing if he required ED before or after taking anxiety drugs, becouse 3 weeks after stopping meds, still no erections. I had some ideas & some were a bit askewed, becouse I was grasping for answers & solutions. And to be very honest I wanted to get it on with him. So as far as whos buisness is it, in this case, a very caring girlfriend who wondered if his overbearing criticle Father & perhapes the same kind of Mother hampered his veiws on sex & gave him shame about it. I linked up, (incorrectly) that his sitting while peeing becouse he combined it with turning the water on in the sink was some kind of shame based behavior. I can now shout out a big yippy!!!! Cuz his erections have returned in all their beautiful rock hard glory 3 1/2 weeks after getting off the anxiety meds. I now understand, at least for this man that he sits for comfort & turning the water on is just for inspiration. For the men, please don't get fustrated when us Women or anyone for that matter ask seemingly dumb questions. Just take a few moments & offer your opinons. We're all just here to learn... | 2008-02-09 12:32:47 |
| 798 | 5439 | Actually, girls and women can stand to urinate, they simply aren't taught or permitted too. I was helping a young girl change out of her swimsuit at a lake when she had to pee. I figured she would squat, nope, she just stood there and the stream came out in front of her, as if she had a penis. She didn't hesitate so she must have done it like that prior. They make devices you can use, or with practice you can simple arch your hips, spread your labia, and go for it. Practice in the shower first, then rinse. www.youtube.com/watch?v=RfL8-AgWBf0 nbtsc.org/~ganimede/stp.html Brad | 2008-02-09 14:07:58 |
| 798 | 5440 | Don't worry, I didn't think your question was dumb. I'm sorry if my comment made that impression. My testiness was more aimed at men who think sitting down is for wusses, which I do believe is a fairly widespread view, and society in general. So keep asking away, no matter how stupid it sounds! We're all here to learn! Quizer | 2008-02-09 16:41:56 |
| 798 | 5441 | I used to go camping with a lady who wore a short skirt and no underwear so that when she had to pee, she would just lift her skirt, spread her legs and pee standing up (we usually went camping in the desert southwest so there weren't many people around)... She thought that was a lot better than squatting and finding thorns with her bottom. She didn't use a device... | 2008-02-09 19:39:19 |
| 798 | 5472 | As others have said, it's cleaner. Aiming is not as easy as it may seem, specially at the beginning and the end of the stream, and there's much more spray than you would think. | 2008-02-13 06:14:44 |
| 800 | 5366 | My bf is still having trouble getting & maintaining an erection several weeks after weening himself off Paxil & Xanex. Altho I have read many studies that say to the contray that there is no after preventing of erections effects after meds. are stopped. Some studies indicate use of these drugs may cause tempoary or long term disfunction when medications are discontinued. I read somewhere that all men have erections everytime they go into a dream state. And that is a normal effect for all men. The artical also sugjested wrapping & sticking the top shaft of the penis with a band of postage stamps (I'm thinking not the self-stick kind) If he has an erection the stamps would break apart, proving that the plumbing was working correctly. And ED was more of an emotional nature. If the stamps did not break, therefore proveing no erection had taken place. That would prove perhapes there was a problem with the plumbing & a trip to a uroligist would then be recomended. We plan to try this next time we are together, I'll keep you posted. until then, I have many questions... Have any of you guys/gals tried this? Do you know of other tests we could try on our own? What does a trip to the Uroligists entail? How can I best support & inspire my bf with his ED? Any good books out there for us to read about ED? Thanks... | 2008-01-28 15:04:16 |
| 800 | 5369 | Hi, The stamp test is one way of testing for nocturnal erections. One reference mentioned that even men without ED may not experience nocturnal erections. I would presume you may not know if the stamps were separated by an erection or movement while sleeping. The presence or absence of morning erections may also be an indicator. If you wake in the middle of the night or before he does in the morning you can simply check for yourself.& You should ask his permission beforehand, just in case he wakes up while you are doing so. I didn't see mention of other at home tests when I just did a quick search. The other tests appear to use medical equipment. I would recommend discussing with him his feelings about this. How does it make him feel? Does he feel he needs to experience erections to demonstrate his manhood? Does he believe he cannot sexually satisfy your needs without an erection? If he doesn't want to talk don't try to force him too. Without knowing his believes and feelings it is hard to know how you can be supportive of him. If he is totally down about it there may be nothing you can do. If he believes he can't satisfy you without an erection you may or may not be able to educate him to believe otherwise. If he believes you look down at him because of this, you probably cannot change this. If he chooses not to believe your statements there is probably nothing you can do to change this. If he was experiencing depression or another psychological illness prior to taking these medications the problem may reoccur now, and be the new cause of the ED. This may strain the relationship, if he is always depressed, or if further depressed by the ED. If he is open to it then you should explore ways of giving each other pleasure, sexual and otherwise. Perhaps he would enjoy it if you manually and orally stimulated his penis, to give him pleasure, not as a means of producing an erection and ejaculation; just for the fun of it. You still need to have a physically intimate relationship even when ED occurs. Explore full body massage and the like. Reading through my website may help him to understand that while he can use an erect penis to give you pleasure, there are also many other ways to do the same that may actually work better. If he sees your pleasure as more important than his own, or gets pleasure from giving you pleasure then he may be open to using a dildo or even a dildo in a harness, if you both want to explore this. He also can simply use his mouth and fingers. It all depends on how important he sees erections as being to his personal identity. If you believe he isn't getting erections because you aren't attractive to him, etc, etc, he may pickup on this. Many women see their partner's erections as an indication of their own attractiveness and desirability, or the absence of erections means they aren't considered attractive, etc. You have to consider the possibility he will never experience an erection again, and how this would make you feel and affect your relationship. You both should consider what if... Communication is essential when male or female sexual dysfunction occurs, as you both must be able to to express your feelings, wants, and needs. Your frustrations must be expressed in some way, rather than being bottled up or expressed inappropriately. Can you both constructively handle your disappointments? If the relationship isn't healthy the dysfunction will likely make things worse, and things can get pretty ugly; shift blame, misdirected fights. If this is a new relationship you may need time for it to become strong enough for you to address the ED, at least as a couple. It is unlikely that you can "fix" him, as he likely needs to find the solution for himself, as is the case with pre-orgasmic women. You can be supportive, but the solution probably doesn't lie within you. You may need to distance yourself from the issue, while being supportive of him, and developing the relationship. He should not feel the moment he experiences an erection that he must then perform, i.e. engage in intercourse and/or ejaculate. The erection in of itself should be seen as an achievement. You might agree that you will wait some extended period of time after his first full erection before you will try oral sex or intercourse. Until he can achieve full erections with relative ease perhaps nothing should be expected of them. In the mean time simply learn to play with his penis, literally be playful with it. There are a lot of references on line you can read through together. The following in a Google search. [url=www.google.com/search?q=erectile+dysfunction] www.google.com/search?q=erectile+dysfunction Brad | 2008-01-28 22:36:32 |
| 800 | 5373 | Hiya Brad, Thanks so much for taking the time to express your knowlege and ideas. I/We have decided to take tests & Doctors off of the table for a while. To do just what your sugjesting, relax, explore & play without an errection or IC being part of the equation. And if it does "pop up" well...to just go with the flow. That talk he & I had the other day really opened up the windows of comunication for us both. We both had put our heads in the sand for much the same reason, embaresment. Once the comunication started both words & thoughts flowed freely. He is very open to exploring all avenues & mentioned sex therapists & the like. He has taken a really big step & shown his commitment to improving this situation by weening himself off the medications. That was big for him & us. I had not really given him kudos for that. The meds were originally started for anxiety, not depression, when he witnessed his dog being killed in front of him then attact himself by a pitbull. He started sufferering panic attacts a few years after the fact. He has worked thru the grief & has educated himself about anxiety & his own triggers that lead to his attacts. Perhapes he just needs a little time completely off the meds to get them out of his system. And or perhapes never having experienced the problem of ED & never having been with a sex kitten like me has produced some performance anxiety in its self. We have both taken a chill pill for this one & have set our sites on exploring our passion, pleasure, sexuality & having fun...Thank you agian! | 2008-01-30 10:04:07 |
| 800 | 5386 | That is good that you have talked well about this as many erection difficulties are a sign of other things wrong in a person. Grief can play an enormous role in sexual inactivity. Our diet and fitness also have a lot to do with what happens when we're asleep. I find the daily vitamins I take help a lot with me having erections, I always wake during my nights sleep to an erection, as well as improving my overall health. | 2008-02-01 23:31:36 |
| 800 | 5419 | I wanted to mention a couple additional things. First, some men are able to ejaculate without an erection, as least I have on a couple occasions. This seems more likely when there is a lot of mental stimulation and manual stimulation of the penis when it isn't erect. So you might experiment with oral sex or penile massage with baby oil. Perhaps if you are in the 69 position your arousal will arouse him enough that he too can cum. Perhaps you can orally or manually stimulate him while he watches some erotica. Second, prostate massage. If the prostate is massaged then ejaculation is possible. They do this to collect sperm from men with spinal cord injuries who want to father a child. If he is comfortable with receiving anal stimulation you might give this a try. [url=en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prostate_massage]en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prostate_massage [url=www.chronicprostatitis.com/massage.html] www.chronicprostatitis.com/massage.html [url=www.nine3.com/Magic.html] www.nine3.com/Magic.html [url=www.prostate-massage-and-health.com/] www.prostate-massage-and-health.com/ [url=www.whitelotuseast.com/SacredSpotMassage.htm] www.whitelotuseast.com/SacredSpotMassage.htm [url=www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/2246.html] www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/2246.html Third, anal intercourse for him. Goes along with above. I have seen videos of guys having anal intercourse where they aren't erect but receiving a lot of pleasure from the activity and stimulation. You can use your fingers, a dildo, or even a strap-on. You can certainly stick to more conventional forms of sex play, or explore if you are both interested in doing so. Have fun. [img]/sexforum/images/emoticons/16.gif[/img] Brad | 2008-02-03 16:48:20 |
| 800 | 5442 | I am happy to report my bf of 4 months, ability to get, maintain & use his erections have returned almost 4 weeks after getting completely off anxiety meds. There might have been a little performance anxiety in there somewhere, as he was becoming extreemly fustrated & keeping it to himself about not being able to perform. Our long talk did us both a load of good...literally!!! We both took a more relaxed attitude about it. Took IC out of the picture & vowed to just have fun & explore mutual pleasure. And well, the lil' guy...excuse me the "big guy" had other plans. Thank you to all that responded & to Brad for all your wonderful sugjestions & articles... | 2008-02-10 11:58:06 |
| 800 | 5446 | Lovergirl, That is great news. :D Communication is the key, and perhaps the hardest issue to tackle, as most of us have no experience with discussing sexual issues, and no one wants to admit to their anxieties and fears. If you can't talk about it then obviously you can't address and resolve the issue, specifically the true issue. Brad | 2008-02-10 16:12:34 |
| 800 | 5447 | I dunno is it just me, or is that Shrek image starting to turn anyone else on? No, I'm not trying to be Teachers pet! As I recall, I also had a crush on Chewbaka from Star Wars. Please forgive my outburst...Must be cuz I'm wildly happy about finally gettin sum! :P | 2008-02-10 16:36:11 |
| 800 | 5450 | I don't know about Shrek, but if it was possible to have sex with an animation, Princess Fiona in her human form was damn hot, and not so bad as an ogre either. [img]/sexforum/images/emoticons/16.gif[/img] | 2008-02-10 16:53:06 |
| 812 | 5445 | Commonly used pesticides and chemicals might be to blame for rising rates of impotence, falling sperm counts and quality, and a host of other reproductive issues in men, according to a new report by Colorado State University researchers. The report reviews 15 years of research and spans multiple species, from humans to frogs and horses. In one study, some male rabbits showed no interest in females after being exposed to a common agricultural fungicide, Vinclozolin. The researchers suggest that apparently increasing impotence rates in men could be connected to that and possibly other chemicals. The incidence of testicular cancer in young men 15 to 35 years old has increased three- to four-fold during the past 50 years, particularly in the Western world. And researchers said sperm counts have been dropping 1.15 percent annually since the use of many of the suspect chemicals became widespread in 1940. "Exposure to these chemicals, particularly during certain windows of time during fetal development, in newborns or as adolescents, can do permanent damage," said Rao Veeramachaneni, a professor at CSU's Animal Reproduction and Biotechnology Laboratory. Among the culprits, according to the study: insecticides, pesticides, common groundwater pollutants and chemicals in plastics, makeup and nail polish. A different study released recently by East Coast researchers showed a connection between heavy cell phone use and lowered sperm counts but did not conclude that cell phones are directly causing the problem. Veeramachaneni said it's too early to tell what the long-term ramifications are for his research. He said 15 years isn't a long enough time to draw firm conclusions, given the average human lifespan. But he said the results indicate the need for more research. "This whole thing depends on what one is exposed to," he said. "All of these are just indicators. The big question is whether an individual, if exposed to all of these, even in small amounts, will have long-term effects." | 2008-02-10 16:07:37 |
| 813 | 5451 | Not sure to post this in Womens or Mens but here gos. I bought a package of condoms that had a separate strechy ring with a small 1/2 inch vibrator attached to it. The vibrating ring is separate not attached to the condom as most are led to believe. And is placed over a condom or worn alone down at the bace of the penis. Instructions said good for one 20 minute use & batteries were not replaceable. My bf & I were having so much fun on our own last weekend that we never got around to useing it...Imagin that! I will do the research & get back to you all. Such drugery, someone has to do it. But if there is anyone who has prior experience with one of these lil' dealy bobs, do tell!!! | 2008-02-10 16:58:01 |
| 813 | 5453 | I sell them but haven't used them. This was a product customers wanted so I started stocking them. It seems to me for it to work effectively it would have to remain in contact with the woman's vulva/clitoris, which would be difficult when the penis is going in and out. With very shallow thrusting or simply rocking they may work very well, if a woman can experience orgasm in 20 minutes or less, and wants too. | 2008-02-10 17:10:38 |
| 813 | 5475 | Yes I'm thinking too that unless a Woman were to position her self in place over & on top of it, having direct contact with her clitoris, for at least a while anyway. That would be the only way the vibrating ring could cause an orgasm in itself. But I think its use is more solely for vibrations to flow thru penis causing both partners pleasure sensations. I have in the past put my vibrator at the bace of my partners shaft while giving head or a handjob and recieved wonderful reviews... I have every intention of whipping ours out & trying for the first time in the next few days. I will keep ya posted! | 2008-02-13 09:41:12 |
| 817 | 5474 | Over the years I have had a fondness for my pubic hair. It makes me feel Womanly. Black, course, shiney & curly as a young Woman. Now at 47 its still black & shiney but the hair is way longer, softer & straight with a little bend to it. I have always dreamed & longed for a man who would tell me how much he loves my hairy bush & how much it turns him on. But up until my new dream come true BF, that has not been the case. I don't consider myself a canidate for one of those freak of nature hairy girl porn videos. Just your regular run of the mill mound, with a little hair peeking out of my undies kinda gal. Seemed to be one of the first questions that pops up in preferences when discussing sexuality. With most all males I've been with they like it shaved or a landing strip at most. Not one that I can remember, liked the anaturel look that I am sporting now. I understand and relate to how not fun it is to try & cough up a hair out of your throat. But there seems to be more of a shame factor that I am odd or somehow out of the pubic hair fashion loop. One guy even layed me down, put a towel under me, got a bowl of warm water, latherd me up with some shaving cream & shaved me smooth. Everything about that was erotic, except for when the after glow was over & the hairs began to poke. And I felt, well...naked! So now my guy loves my hairy beast down there. Likes petting it & feeling it. And his telling me how sexy it is, well thats foreplay in itself for me. I know a hairy bush is not everyones cup of tea & I'm not looking for a debate per say. To each their own. Just looking to see where other Men & Women weigh into this topic... | 2008-02-13 09:27:01 |
| 817 | 5476 | I like it both ways, sometimes hairy, sometimes shaved.& My beautiful wife is agreeable to that.& It's kind of like getting some strange with the same woman.& Right now she is clean on the lips with a hairy mound. She likes me hairy.& I like the feel of being smooth so we do that occasionally. & | 2008-02-13 12:03:44 |
| 817 | 5477 | used to like it both ways but with gray hair starting i decided to have laser hair& removal. on 3rd treatment soon. | 2008-02-14 01:05:09 |
| 817 | 5478 | I liked shaved, but I don't mind hair as long as its groomed. The only time I would insist on a shave or close trim would be for oral sex.& Totally natural looks sloppy and makes the woman look reserved or sexually naive to me, but I dont like funky shapes either.& A trim, a basic strip, or shaved... just keep it simple and clean. | 2008-02-14 01:24:46 |
| 817 | 5480 | I don't dislike pubic hair on women but to me it seems shaving allows women to say, "Look everyone, I have a vulva!" In comparison to simply having a bush. It allows women to have a little more individual personality than hair permits, because vulvas come in so many different shapes and sizes. Certainly as a teen seeing "bush" was a big deal, now you also get to see pussy. :P I realize that all women can't or don't want to trim or shave which is perfectly ok too, not that they need my permission. The anal me though prefers some degree of order, but stray pubs sticking out can be sexy at times. Lots of hair makes me wonder what they are hiding, from themselves and others. In some parts of the world men and women have been removing their body hair for centuries, and it was in vogue in Europe in the past too. Men seem to be trimming and shaving more often too, as it makes them look bigger. :D Just my two cents. Brad | 2008-02-14 04:23:54 |
| 817 | 5494 | I prefer pubic hair, on both boys and girls... I guess the feeling it gives me when I see someone shaved is that I'm looking at kid porn, it almost makes me uncomfortable seeing that. To answer Brad's comment, having a bush on a woman gives you something to explore to see what's there... That's my 2 cents worth. | 2008-02-15 22:18:47 |
| 817 | 5505 | I agree with some of the comments its too common these days to shave but i miss touching pubic hair and find it an added turn on when woman have it. | 2008-02-22 07:48:13 |
| 817 | 5818 | When I was younger this wasn't even a question. Now that I'm married the bald look seems to be popular (outside of my own home, that is.) My wife did allow me to trim her a bit. I wanted better access to her clitoris and this was very effective! So we did this a bit. The trimming and washing was part of foreplay - which she liked. And having the opportunity for better access was good for her as well. So it isn't "the look" that matters to me but more the interference of the hair. | 2008-06-05 05:10:33 |
| 817 | 5819 | I like to shave the hair down there, lest bacteria breed. | 2008-06-05 06:14:35 |
| 817 | 5820 | The whole shaving of Female pubic hair, solely or in part, for hindering bacteria from breeding is a whole other topic away from "do you like hair down there". But equally important as I believe this myth causes many a Woman to feel, different degrees of shame, dirtyness or less appropriate then the masses for having pubic hair. Our creator created us perfectly. It's why we have hair in our nose & ears. Why we have eyebrows. Why we have finger & toenails. Its our natural protection. Same is true for pubic hair. Pubic hair is important becouse it shields the genitalia from direct contact from bacteria & other unhealthy microorganisms. Thats the natural function of pubic hair. (quote from online source) When hair gets dirty on any other part of the body what do you do? You simply wash it. For several years now, I keep baby whipes in the bathroom & in my purse & use them each time I use the toilet, at home or otherwise.. When I am with my lover & I never know when he will "take' me. I keep a large cup of water that I use to freshen myself each time. As I feel the whipes may leave some of kind of flavor not pleasurable for him to taste. I feel so much fresher since i've started this practice & i've never had any problems. Another whole topic could be our natural scents. Our natural perfume both male & female is just that, natural. I love my BF's fragrance under his pits & the scent of his hairy...yes hairy ball sack. He's been a little shy about me sniffin around. As he has bought into societies shame based ideas about such things. But the more I keep sniffin around he's relaxing & finding my acceptance & arousal about his natural scent a turn on for him as well. I too have issues when I don't feel as fresh as I would like too & he tells me "stop worrying, you smell wonderful". When I was younger & experimenting with a neighbor kid, she would always insist we wash our hands after to get the "smell" off. I have always liked my own natural fragrance but feel those first sexual experiences colored my perception, created feelings of dirtyness & shame about how others "all" would percieve my scent as bad. Something to cover up & wash away. This relationship is giving me/us a wonderful opportunity to heal some misperceptions & beliefs we've gathered along the way about just how "not" ok we naturally are. I would sugjest if the only reason or main reason you are shaving is becouse of your beliefs about the bacteria factor, that you read a vast & varied collection of articles. Sometimes we don't know where our beliefs come from. And sometimes when we become better informed we find some of our beliefs no longer serve us. If shaving bare or some creative design makes you feel sexier or cleaner for that matter, to any degree, then by all means "go for it". If your motives are shamed based or the uncomfortable demands & opinions of others that make you feel inferior or odd for your prefrence then take sometime to look at that & free yourself up... | 2008-06-05 08:37:37 |
| 817 | 5821 | I like it shaved, but well groomed is okay too.& The main thing to me is keep hair clear of the area that I target ;) Being a male, I like being shaved too.& I'm married so I could care less if it supposed to make me look bigger LOL, but what I do like is that it makes the testicles way more sensitive to fondling by the wife.& When we are both shaved, I think she enjoys it better too.& Just my 2 cents. That said, it's all beautiful though...unless it gets lost in the forest. :P | 2008-06-05 09:11:22 |
| 817 | 5823 | [user=6370]Lovergirl[/user] wrote: "Pubic hair is important becouse it shields the genitalia from direct contact from bacteria & other unhealthy microorganisms. Thats the natural function of pubic hair. (quote from online source)" So does clothing and soap.& Hair exists because it served a biological function, but civilization and technology have improved us faster than evolution can.& Body hair is primarily for warmth, but it serves no practical purpose now that we wear clothes, which do a better job.& It's unnatural to cut or shave any hair on the human body, but there is no real controversy over men shaving their faces or women shaving their legs.& The controversy over pubic grooming is often couched in terms of genetic function, but the real reservations stem from sexual repression instilled by society to teach us (especially women but also men) that our genitals are dirty and should not be touched or even thought about. If other body hair can be groomed, shaved, cut, styled, died, combed, etc. for aesthetic reasons then I see no reason that pubic hair should be treated any differently. | 2008-06-05 11:47:29 |
| 817 | 5829 | Definitely shaved, for both. I find hair to have a "neglected" look and it turns me off. Furthermore, it reduces sensations and hides the genitals, which I love to see as clearly as possible. But that's only my own preferences ;). | 2008-06-06 07:22:08 |
| 817 | 5835 | Love of female pubes of oneself is& different from "Male Sexuality" too. I said "lest bacteria breed", I didn't say the bacteria is definitely harmful. Humans ware layer-over-layer clothing on pubes, underwears, trousers and so on, which& tightly bar pubes from fresh air. The original function of protecting from bacteria has become protecting bacteria from being cleaned naturally. I just dont like the bacteria.& & Shaving it seems more comfortable to me. To others not shaving is OK too. I just express my personal habit, not asking others to do it .& And, ohh, none of my posts said I'm female. | 2008-06-06 20:07:23 |
| 817 | 5847 | I love the look, feel, and smell of female pubic hair.& It's natural and beautifully feminine.& How inappropriate to not feel a little tickle on one's nose at that loveliest of intimate times. | 2008-06-09 16:24:11 |
| 817 | 5849 | I prefer to keep myself clean and shaven down there.& I find pubic hair to be uncomfortable, and I prefer to be able to see myself.& However, I do like it when men have pubic hair, I find it as a sign of masculinity, and acceptence of their manhood.& I find pubic hair on myself to be less hygenic.& However, it is just personal preference. | 2008-06-09 17:41:07 |
| 817 | 5868 | well i love your veiw of how your hair makes you feel and i honestly hope someday you find your prince who loves all of you for who you are me personaly i like my guys trimmed and me trimed or shaven it just depends on how i feel.& i am sure there is a right lenght if you would like to trim it keeping it a bit neater for your boyfriend that still makes you feel womanly and meeting him half way on the issue might push some lines that he would realsze he himself loves your hair | 2008-06-16 14:48:14 |
| 817 | 5886 | I have to say I prefer shaved. Of course, I don't find unshaved unattractive at all, there's some sense of a... mature beauty about it I guess. However, I think the vulva is far more beautiful than any piece of anatomy on either gender, and it makes saddens me to think about covering it up. And of course, it makes for more enjoyable cunnilingus. | 2008-06-21 12:24:06 |
| 817 | 5904 | I'd very much like to experience a shaved pubis. My wife has allowed a trim - which she likes - but won't go as far as to go bare. Even though I promise much cunnilingus as a bonus! It isn't the "little girl" look but just the opportunity to actually see her body there and to touch her without anything else in the way. | 2008-06-30 19:51:43 |
| 817 | 6089 | & He said: "The most important thing in attracting a mate is how they smell, because it is best indicator that a person is genetically different from you. & you are being honest, then you should not shave your armpits as this allows your smell to form. If you are being dishonest, use deodorant and perfume if this is true why do American and British women do it. the European women is less likely to shave her armpits | 2008-09-11 12:04:46 |
| 817 | 6116 | I am also one who loves the natural fragrance of a woman. It really turns me on when I press my nose into their pubic hair, the more bushy the better. I've found older women seem to to realise this and don't attempt to hide their womanly fragrance. Once I've gone down on& her, her natural smell sets my tongue to work. | 2008-09-22 10:52:41 |
| 817 | 6134 | I find that "giving head" to a woman is much easier and more pleasurable for both of us if she is trimmed around the clitoris. | 2008-10-02 05:16:37 |
| 817 | 6296 | I think pubic hair on a woman is sexy & has an appeal at a level theta strikes me as instinctual.& When I see the shock of hair against the soft feminine skin & curves, it instantly fills me with desire.& As a man who really enjoys performing oral sex on a woman, I find that a nice bush of hair adds to the overall sensuality of the experience for me. | 2008-12-19 10:33:34 |
| 824 | 5539 | Is it common if& guys& get& horny during the day looking at women's bodies, that& when you have sex with them, it gets them to come fast? Like if you've been at the beach and he has been checking out other women's hips and boobs, that when he gets into you at night it is like Melissa I've been so horny all day watching these other women wiggle, that when I get in your pussy, I get so excited and come...is it an insult? | 2008-02-28 20:54:49 |
| 824 | 5541 | actually it's not uncommon for that to occur. Men are very visual in sexual arousal and look at it this way it's& asign that if it happens they aren't acting on their visual arousal outside of the relationship | 2008-02-28 21:05:59 |
| 824 | 5546 | if you feel insulted by it, then i guess its an insult | 2008-02-28 23:44:20 |
| 824 | 5547 | I do not think you should feel 'insulted'. Just as you moisten frequently during the day, if you are healthy and not too stressed, men come to hardness many times. We are old now but for many years my wife would milk me during the morning shower. Tnen, especially when we were out and about amongst women or I had been reading something sexy, my wife would milk me again in mid-afternoon so that, in the evening& in bed, I could pleasure her and ride her during a number of cums for her before I had mine. I am a tit man, have been since age 10, so I like my wife to be on all fours, her tits hanging heavily. She likes having her tits, udders now really, being milked with warmed oils. Think well of yourself. Your bf does. Think sexy frequently. Nurse your moistenings. Enjoy the night pleasuring. | 2008-02-29 16:08:49 |
| 828 | 5556 | Hey, Never really asked this before but this forum seems as good a place as any to bring it up. I've been seeing a really wonderful girl for almost a month now, and we're walking the line of both having sex for the first time. We almost did, a couple of weeks ago. Everything seemed perfect. We even spoke about it first, and i prepped by a brief tour to the pharmacy for condoms. Long story short, when we "got to it", the little bugger desided to go AWOL and refused to get stiff. Or rather, it had been stiff during the whole foreplay (which lasts quite a whie ^_^) & but once we got to *that* point, it just didnt work out. All i know is that i love her, and i (we) do want to have sex. I spoke to her about it, and we sort of & agreed that we'd just wait for a while. Maybe i'm just not ready... maybe. Thankfully, there are hands and tounges too ;) Anyone have any words of wisdom or encouragement on this? I always thought it was semi-funny when others had this issue, as i hadnt experienced just how friggin humiliating it really can be, even if she's "ok" with it. //Rashiid | 2008-03-05 13:31:27 |
| 828 | 5559 | Hi, While not often spoken of publicly, in a survey on this website 13% of women, more than 1 out 10, said their partner lost their erection during their first attempts at intercourse. It is a fact of life caused by performance anxiety; i.e. high expectations of both partners. The solution is not to think about it too much or place too much importance in it. Have sex for fun and pleasure and if you get an erection then consider having intercourse, but don't expect too much. If you lose your erection, your hands and mouth still work. If you are concerned about hurting her then see the article about having intercourse for the first time, as it provides advise on avoiding this. www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/virgin2.htm#prepare The following discussion may also be of help. www.the-clitoris.com/sexforum/view_topic.php?id=800&forum_id=16 Brad | 2008-03-06 08:15:10 |
| 828 | 5618 | Brad, thanks for your reply :) Sorry it took so long to post one of my own. Yeah it does feel a bit reassuring its just a temporary thing, and my gf is pretty cool about it though we're both impatient ;) The frustrating thing is that this seems to happen the moment the rubber comes on. )= | 2008-03-20 12:31:53 |
| 828 | 5619 | Then put a condom on when there is no intent on having intercourse that day, and engage in manual and/or oral sex. When you can do this repeatedly and successfully then you might try outercourse, where your penis rests between her labia and stimulates her clitoris, and the bottom side of your penis, while using additional lubricant. When this works successfully try inserting your penis into her, or have her get on top, and once inside don't try thrusting, just hug and kiss and leave it at that. You are a beginner don't try to run a marathon. ;) If you engage in oral sex in the 69 position, head to toe, you might have her slip the condom on during the activity. Hopefully your mind will be focused more on what you are doing to her than she is doing to you. To get beyond the mental barrier you may have to agree to postpone having intercourse for a month or more, so you can practice at achieving an erection without the pressure to perform. If you get the condom on and still have an erection, in the beginning, probably the worse thing you could do would to decide and try to have intercourse. You need several successful test runs. If you get an erection while making out or snuggling that should demonstrate to her that you find her attractive, and want to have intercourse, even if you can't for some time. Brad | 2008-03-20 17:34:19 |
| 832 | 5573 | I think if a woman's guy is very hornee and she is not very hornee, that she should satisfy him anyways...I think it is OK to just spread your legs if your guy is very hornee and wants to get off, just let him in that pussy so he can thrust and come inside of you....any thoughts about this? | 2008-03-12 20:38:17 |
| 832 | 5574 | Isn't that the point of masturbation?& I have zero interest in having sex with someone who doesn't want to be having sex with me.& Masturbation is easy and quick and achieves the same end result in physical terms.& The emotional elements that differentiate sex from masturbation would not be present if my partner was unwilling, so why bother? | 2008-03-12 20:46:58 |
| 832 | 5575 | but what if he tells you he wants a wet tight pussy to sink into? Usually it is just a minute or two before he comes....but then the guy feels so much pleased...he says awww Melissa, I needed that..... | 2008-03-12 21:05:30 |
| 832 | 5577 | well if you dont care and he doesnt want to masturbate, then its fine.& personally its not how I work though. | 2008-03-12 22:47:13 |
| 832 | 5582 | I guess if you're okay with it, it's okay for you, but I don't think a woman should feel obligated if she's not interested.& It's not like it's her duty to give it up whenever he feels like he wants it.& He can masturbate, or warm up a banana peel and rub himself in there, or maybe she could give him oral or hand stimulation instead, if she feels that's more comfortable for her.& A dry vagina generally isn't a happy one during sex or personal masturbation, to my knowledge. | 2008-03-14 10:15:06 |
| 832 | 5842 | If a woman wants to have a conversation with a man and he doesn't much feel like it should he do it anyway? I think the answer is the same for both questions albeit a bit gender-stereotyped. Sometimes you do and sometimes you don't. But there is nothing wrong with doing it (conversation or sex) for the sake of the other party. And sometimes you find yourself enjoying it more than you anticipated. | 2008-06-07 22:38:05 |
| 832 | 5846 | The difference I see is that if your partner wants to have a conversation (or go take a walk, or play tennis, or anything besides sex) and you don't, she can call someone else and do it with someone else. For sex, the cultural beliefs make it so that you (mostly) can only have sex with your partner, so if the partner don't want it, you're stuck without any partner sex. I don't say that the partner must do the "sea star" ("faire l'étoile" / "do the star" that's how we say in french when someone does nothing in bed other than stay there hands and feet apart while having sex) only to please the partner, because it's not really fun when things go that way. I'm only bringing the problem about the fact that there is no replacement for partner sex when the partner doesn't want to... | 2008-06-09 07:32:10 |
| 832 | 5850 | You are right. And I think it emphasizes the importance of a partner's willingness to meet the sexual needs of the other even whey they aren't "into it." Hopefully it would not feel that way often but we each do things for the other out of obligation or love and this is one of those. | 2008-06-09 20:19:51 |
| 832 | 5867 | [user=9152]scarbowl[/user] wrote: "If a woman wants to have a conversation with a man and he doesn't much feel like it should he do it anyway? " & i belive this is very true and yes you can have a conversetion with just anyone but to have it with your spouse is a emotional bond that can be similar as a women who never climaxs during sex she feels unfulfilled... & i also think if a guy is very horney he can do other things i guess it is a free choice for a woman to just open her legs and lay there but persoanaly i beilve that is a bit crude sex is about intamcy and such not just ejaculation. women are amazingly horney during there periods and climax releases tention that causes cramps so masterbation is helpful (women to also can feel that tention sexualy) and relivet it by masterbating men can masterbate to relases that tention of being horny... but have they every tryed to get the woman in the mood too i mean it taboo that women never want sex or anything but its not just a physical stimulous that men have& that makes them horny its mental also like certian numbers to a combination to open up a very sexual animal. my personal opionon is that you should have sex if you dont want to if your not horny becuase then in your mind sex ist somthing for the both of you and it not special its a chore fo him to feel better and it loses it value& to you if your just being used to please him if he is that horny and all else fails to provoke you to be in the mood and get somthing out of it to as if you two were equals then he should just masterbate there is nothing wrong with that and it is very helathy & | 2008-06-16 14:42:59 |
| 832 | 5872 | I don't think I would if I wasn't horny because I need to be excited for sex or else it really hurts. If I can't have sex I can give a blowjob or handjob. | 2008-06-16 20:23:33 |
| 840 | 5623 | well, i was wondering what people's BEST masturbation experience was. if u dont feel comfortable telling it on the board, feel free the private message me. Love, LEXI :D | 2008-03-21 17:34:16 |
| 840 | 5768 | My best emotional experiences have occurred when my wife masturbates me. Otherwise, the Fleshlight is a great physical experience. | 2008-05-25 20:17:27 |
| 842 | 5625 | what do u think of cyber masturbation. i've never done it and i was wondering how to do it and how is it better than regular masturbation? Love, LEXI :D | 2008-03-21 17:38:03 |
| 857 | 5694 | There is a not-so-rare phenomenon that some man love to see woman wearing wet clothing.& I say "not-so-rare" because I have found a lot of websites dedicated to this inclination.& I also know one of this kind of men. The article& on wikipedia labels this as "sexual fetish".& I don't know whether this label is accurate,& I hope this is not a tyranny of majority in the mantle of science. As long as they don't & violate anyone's rights, they have & the right to follow their own nature. What I& do now is& dispassionately requesting some information about this topic from possible experts here.& The guy is a normal heterosexual& and can only be excited by women.& His& difference (I guess) from other men is that he doesn't find a naked woman particularly erotic. He feels that& naked women are as sexy as woman in dry, normal& clothing. Therefore he never collects "normal" porn pictures or dvds.& What he finds most erotic is the woman whose clothes are all wet.& Especially woman who is in soaking white blouse or white dress which stick to her body and become transparent. And the sexiest revealed body parts are not breasts as many men like to see, but shoulders and upper back (when woman is& in wet white blouse) and legs (when she is in wet white dress).& But when the woman strip her wet clothing and becomes naked, his& intense & impulsion vanishes. Besides, when wet clothing is off (not worn by women's body), he doesn't find it acctactive; i.e., he would not stare into a washing machine. He always glad that many porn restriction and movie gradation& do not frustrate him so much because some "legal" scenes in movies and TV series& is really porn in his eyes. & Though he like wetlooked women best, he is also attractive to "dry" women and can reach orgasm in this situation. But in the case of "dry", what is most attractive to him is woman's face, not breasts, as many men like to see. Here I have given a detailed description of the "symptoms" of a "wetlook" loving man. I have read several articles, non of them give any detail. What I can know from those articles is that more men than women like wetlook, therefore models of wetlook sites are almost women.& Is there experts here who have interest in this virgin soil? I think it will be fruitful. | 2008-04-14 02:10:07 |
| 857 | 6376 | This is my first post on this site. The "old" Clitorisians didn't want to give some insights on this interesting phenomenon of male sexuality.& In 2009,& & is& there nay "new"& & Clitorisians who want to comment on it? | 2009-01-09 07:40:00 |
| 857 | 6378 | What is your question? Sexuality is very diverse, and what turns people on is also, very diverse, and dependant on the individual. Its perfectly normal for a guy to perfer, for example, legs to breasts. As for the look of& a womens wet clothing clinging to her body, thats a pretty common erotic image. Theres nothing abnormal about a guy being into that. Yes, its a fetish, but as I said in another thread -- theres nothing wrong with having a fetish. | 2009-01-09 19:56:20 |
| 857 | 6380 | I'm still laughing. This is hilarious! He only likes wet women not dry ones. LMAO!!!!!! :D | 2009-01-09 23:25:14 |
| 857 | 6381 | I'm sorry, that wasn't very constructive. | 2009-01-09 23:25:56 |
| 857 | 6451 | I realize my last two posts were unhelpful but I recently had a discovery that may aid your research. I was watching a Steve Railsback movie, Stunt Man, and well, I always thought he was hot, but I never saw him wet before. And when I saw him fall into the water there was this moment of anticipation, my heart kinda skipped a beat, you know, that feeling because I KNEW I was going to see him sopping wet and I was really looking forward to it. There was this one shot of him in the movie, soaking wet climbing out of a river that just made me weak in the knees. I am a female, and never considered myself "into wetlook" but tonight I realized something about myself. People get cuter when wet somehow. Your post helped me think about it and come to this discovery. Thanks. Wet Steve Railsback..... ummmm..... | 2009-01-22 02:15:50 |
| 857 | 6455 | Lolita Lynn, did you turn on by the revealed body as a result of wetlook, or did you turn on by the integrated image of the whole wetlook ? There is a difference. The first post of the thread has said that he likes the integrated image of wetlook, ie, female body parts& seen through wet clothing;& he doesn't find& the direct sight of& body parts (naked ones) erotic. I don't know which causes of the two is responsible for your special feeling. If it's the former, I think it's not a wetlook. I have noticed some difference between the two. In the wetlook case, there are stripes of& gauffers& located& among the revealed body parts because clothes always have gauffers no matter wet or dry. & This phenomenon should be erotic in wetlooker's eyes. & This is& an illustration of stripes of& gauffers& of wetlook. | 2009-01-23 06:50:21 |
| 857 | 6456 | Well, unfortunately for me, I can't say too much was revealed through the clothes, but something about the hair all stringy and dripping and the kind of vulnerable look of being wet... I guess you could say it was the overall image. I certainly wouldn't have minded parts being revealed as you say. No gauffers, but I have nothing against gauffers. You're right, they are sexy, but none here. Yeah, light colored clothing would have helped that scene out a lot. ;) But like I said, this was just a recent discovery for me so I'm not sure I'm even able to answer your question accurately. I am turned on by all sorts of things some that may not even seem sexual, so it shouldn't be much of a surprise if wet people arouse me too. (Steve Railsback, wet or dry... it's all good) Though I gotta say, seeing him crawling out of a river was a real treat. ':P' LL | 2009-01-23 14:45:35 |
| 860 | 5711 | [suP]Because I found out that& my bf& might not be fully erected even when he is hard. I wanna know...how do you know when an& erected penis has reached its& maximum size? [/suP] [suP] [/suP]& [suP](I hope Im not asking a stupid question...)[/suP] [suP]Thanks.[/suP] | 2008-04-21 10:26:46 |
| 860 | 5712 | If his penis is ridged, i.e hard, then it is at full size, though there is frequently increased rigidity just prior to orgasm. If you gently try to push his erect penis into his body by pushing on the head, in line with his penis, and it doesn't bend, he is fully erect. A fully erect penis tends to be almost rock hard, though this degree of rigidity isn't always required of intercourse, depending on the resistance presented by a woman's pelvic and vaginal muscles. Brad | 2008-04-22 08:37:27 |
| 860 | 5760 | How do you know he might not be fully erect when he is hard? That's a confusing idea to me. Maybe his penis is curved? | 2008-05-23 12:53:35 |
| 861 | 5715 | Is this abnormal? I know as a male, masturbating once a day is 'enough' as described by my friends, and pretty much impossible or out of the ordinary for a guy to be able to masturbate twice or more times per day. But that's the thing... on average, I masturbate 2-3 times a day, and that's a strict average. On some days, I can masturbate 4-6 times in just a few hours. Rarely do I ever go a day without doing it once. In the five years, I probably went masturbation free for a day LOL. I think my record is eight times in one day. And I wasn't even going for a record. If I DO go for a record, I can easily go over ten. Is this normal or is something wrong with my system? Note: My sex drive isn't insane, nobody even knows I can masturbate this much. I do have a very big imagination though, I rarely use porn to do it. Perhaps that's why, the brain is the most powerful sex organ. | 2008-04-28 09:51:33 |
| 861 | 5720 | When you are in the refractory period, is your penis flaccid or erect? | 2008-04-30 04:49:57 |
| 861 | 5723 | [user=8277]plurabelle[/user] wrote: "When you are in the refractory period, is your penis flaccid or erect?" It remains pretty much erect for about a few minutes after orgasm, then goes flaccid, but when I masturbate again (whether it's in forty minutes or a couple of hours), it's not difficult at all to get it back to erection. The ejaculation volume though, becomes smaller and smaller with each time, which makes sense. And the intensity of the orgasm is not as high as the first time. One thing I do notice though is that my erection actually gets harder the second or third time. One thing to note, it's not an addiction. I would feel like something is missing if I go a day without masturbating but I can disregard it without a problem. | 2008-04-30 08:12:49 |
| 861 | 5726 | Vik,& getting back to your original question,& 2-3 times per day is common, 6-8 uncommon, at least in& a man over 40. Too, I would have thought many boys, even, would have one day in, say, six on which once would be sufficient, then pick up the rhythm again!& Enjoy it whilst you can. When you have a woman she will be very pleased! | 2008-05-01 02:42:37 |
| 861 | 5727 | [user=3559]Farmer[/user] wrote: "Vik,& getting back to your original question,& 2-3 times per day is common, 6-8 uncommon, at least in& a man over 40. Too, I would have thought many boys, even, would have one day in, say, six on which once would be sufficient, then pick up the rhythm again!& Enjoy it whilst you can. When you have a woman she will be very pleased! " Hehe yeah, I'm 18, almost 19, so it could be that which explains why. | 2008-05-01 03:45:24 |
| 861 | 5728 | Yes, Vik, your age explains it all. It is great to be young, so enjoy it all. No doubt you have learned to use lube, soap and water if nothing else, if you are cut in order to prevent a very sore ridge! You will know that you will need to be patient when with a woman. It is not the same feeling, is it, but being deeply in love helps much and it is& better as the love grows even deeper. Good luck to you. | 2008-05-01 17:13:03 |
| 861 | 5730 | Erect penis during refractory period indicates that you have the potential to enjoy orgasm more frequently. Many books& suggest that penis must lose erection during refractory period, and further suggest that men be less sexual as women. They also suggest that after orgasm man or woman must feel tired and want to sleep. There are not true and& they& misinform us; I& don't& feel tired at all after an orgasm.& & My case is not abnormal, neither yours. | 2008-05-02 04:12:49 |
| 861 | 5731 | [user=8277]plurabelle[/user] wrote: "Erect penis during refractory period indicates that you have the potential to enjoy orgasm more frequently. Many books& suggest that penis must lose erection during refractory period, and further suggest that men be less sexual as women. They also suggest that after orgasm man or woman must feel tired and want to sleep. There are not true and& they& misinform us; I& don't& feel tired at all after an orgasm.& & My case is not abnormal, neither yours." Yeah that's what I think as well. I don't get tired, instead I feel more active. Sometimes it's a stress reliever. Nowadays I just do it because I'm bored or have nothing else to do. It may be dependent on the male, or the metabolism of the person. I have an insanely fast metabolism and pretty active, so it could play a factor. Btw Farmer, I never used soap, lotion, or anything else o_0 I just had lots of 'practice' over the years to the point where I can't hurt myself. If I go past three times a day, I do get slightly sore though lol, but it's temporary. I did realize ultimately, that I can have multiple orgasms, and I can last longer after each subsequent orgasm, until I... 'run out.' | 2008-05-02 08:34:15 |
| 861 | 5734 | You are a very fortunate young man, Vik, and good luck to you.& When you find the right woman she will treasure you but if you are outlasting her, you will know you are not readying her and riding her properly. Women are made to last much longer than are we. Very unfortunately, most men either do not know enough or do not care enough or do not think enough to truly satisfy their women, and leave them wanting. You have a gift. May I encourage you to benefit your woman with it. Thanks for sharing. | 2008-05-02 19:40:07 |
| 861 | 5746 | [user=1216]Vik[/user] wrote: " [user=8277]plurabelle[/user] wrote: "Erect penis during refractory period indicates that you have the potential to enjoy orgasm more frequently. Many books& suggest that penis must lose erection during refractory period, and further suggest that men be less sexual as women. They also suggest that after orgasm man or woman must feel tired and want to sleep. There are not true and& they& misinform us; I& don't& feel tired at all after an orgasm.& & My case is not abnormal, neither yours." Yeah that's what I think as well. I don't get tired, instead I feel more active. Sometimes it's a stress reliever. Nowadays I just do it because I'm bored or have nothing else to do. It may be dependent on the male, or the metabolism of the person. I have an insanely fast metabolism and pretty active, so it could play a factor. Btw Farmer, I never used soap, lotion, or anything else o_0 I just had lots of 'practice' over the years to the point where I can't hurt myself. If I go past three times a day, I do get slightly sore though lol, but it's temporary. I did realize ultimately, that I can have multiple orgasms, and I can last longer after each subsequent orgasm, until I... 'run out.' WOW Good on ya Vic. As Farmer has said enjoy as much as you can, it is possible to have multlple orgasms/ejaculations and I've found my penis stays firmer after ejaculation an dleading up to more orgasms. I have also, over the years, masturbated frequently, also without lube. I agree with you that once you become 'experienced' in 'how your body works' you can masturbate as often as you like and never have to use lube. I still mastubate daily and prefer the orgasm feeling more than intercourse, although I do agree that making 'love' to a woman is a completley different sensation. Never the less I feel that once a man has properly explored and understands his body he can then get more 'pleasure' from masturbation and be able to give more 'pleasure' to his lady partner. I think that females also enjoy masturbation more than intercourse although I'm sure some would agree that the man make their intercourse experience more enjoyable when their is mutual love involved. " | 2008-05-10 05:54:13 |
| 861 | 5748 | Also, I got so experienced over the years that I can get myself to orgasm within a range of 45 seconds flat to hours (I can choose whichever based on my mood). It all depends on when I want to release. The brain is insane, giving you a conscious choice on when you want to let go. The longer I wait, the more intense the orgasm is (similar to women I think). Anyone else can relate to this? | 2008-05-10 12:59:25 |
| 861 | 5750 | I prefer the longer time frames, anything from 20 mins to 1 hour is more aqcceptable to me. I usually wake during my sleep with a firm erection and have the belief of 'use it or you'll lose it' and I am always impressed with the way it 'feels', this lasts approx 15 to 20 minutes. This often happens 2 to 3 times per night. I prefer not to ejaculate now, orgasm instead. Orgasm to me is intense 'feelings' for a sustained period of time with at the most a small amount of precum, leaving no mess and a stronger urge to continue. These are always intensified by 'dreams'/'visualization' and as quoted the brain is the most powerful sex organ. It gives me stronger pleasure than being with another person. | 2008-05-11 05:04:49 |
| 861 | 5761 | I'm 50 and masturbate twice per day on average. | 2008-05-23 12:54:40 |
| 861 | 5772 | May I see a show of hands of how many would not just love to be asking this question & be pondering it themselves? I think sexual pleasure, whether alone or shared is one the greatest gifts our creator has wired us with. How absolutly amazing & wonderful is it that we can rub, push, pull, twist and manipulate a small area of our being & cause an explostion of nerve endings to stand up and say "yowza" & woooo hooooo! All at the same time! And then to be able to do it over & over again. You young man are blessed, as are we all, who are able to partake in self-pleasure... As for is this normal/abnormal? This is "your" normal. The only reason I think any of these sexual issues ( mastebation, porn, fedishes etc.) should be of a negative concern, is if they cause harm to ones self or another emotionally or other wise. Do you miss work, have tunnel carple, does this cause you not to live a otherwise happy, healthy, productive life? (Being silly here!) :2thumbs | 2008-05-26 11:28:54 |
| 861 | 5773 | Following Lovergirl's interesting post above, masturbation for many brings the ability to concentrate on work;& & & improves our mood;& & & for women helps with menstrual cramp;& & for men, we are told now, may reduces the incidence of prostate cancer forming;& & and, so important for women, helps them learn about their bodies and their pleasuring. I am wondering the readers' opinion of those mothers of teenage boys who are in the habit of masturbating their sons so that the boys will concentrate on their schoolwork? | 2008-05-26 19:17:19 |
| 861 | 5774 | "I am wondering the readers' opinion of those mothers of teenage boys who are in the habit of masturbating their sons so that the boys will concentrate on their schoolwork? " I don't think it is realistic. If he is aroused by his mother, the son will feel unconfortable. We have known that many young boys who have wet dreams in which their mothers turn them on feel sorry when they wake up. | 2008-05-26 21:19:44 |
| 861 | 5775 | You are correct, plurabelle, about many boys& feeling guilty after cumming from thoughts of their mothers, & but there are many others& who accept their mothers masturbating them. | 2008-05-27 01:27:04 |
| 861 | 5792 | Hi Farmer, Just curious here. What do you mean by saying my post was interesting? Do you mean interesting in a positive, you can relate way? Or "interesting" in an odd, off the wall, you don't relate way? Or none of the above? :-/ Words lay flat & motionless on my screen till my imagination gives them meaning...No meaning is jumping out at me except a vauge one ...Thanks! | 2008-05-30 10:08:20 |
| 861 | 5793 | BF masturbates also at least once a day, sometimes 2-3 times and that's not counting sex. I'd say it's very normal | 2008-05-30 13:42:18 |
| 861 | 5795 | Lovergirl,& please be assured my meaning was positive. One of the great values of this Board is that women can write honestly, anonymously. & You will know that, in the past,& the Survey results& of women's frequency of & masturbating have been questionable because of women's reluctance to admit to self-pleasuring but here you show your delight in it, as have other women. I believe this new openness is a blessing. For two centuries in our Western culture women have supposed to be asexual when, in fact, they are every bit as sexual as men, more so when free of inhibitions. We have seen women maintain arousal for some hours interspersed with intense cums. Please continue to give us your thoughts, and every best wish to you. | 2008-05-30 17:16:21 |
| 861 | 5801 | [user=6370]Lovergirl[/user] wrote: "May I see a show of hands of how many would not just love to be asking this question & be pondering it themselves? I think sexual pleasure, whether alone or shared is one the greatest gifts our creator has wired us with. How absolutly amazing & wonderful is it that we can rub, push, pull, twist and manipulate a small area of our being & cause an explostion of nerve endings to stand up and say "yowza" & woooo hooooo! All at the same time! And then to be able to do it over & over again. You young man are blessed, as are we all, who are able to partake in self-pleasure... As for is this normal/abnormal? This is "your" normal. The only reason I think any of these sexual issues ( mastebation, porn, fedishes etc.) should be of a negative concern, is if they cause harm to ones self or another emotionally or other wise. Do you miss work, have tunnel carple, does this cause you not to live a otherwise happy, healthy, productive life? (Being silly here!) :2thumbs" You can see my hands :thupI agree with what you say Lovergirl, I also think that sexual stimulation/pleasure is a great gift. Possibly not everyone agrees however I find and have experienced other people having reached sexual stimulation/pleasure gaining an enormous amount of mind and well-being satisfaction. I personally think the "we can rub, push, pull, twist and manipulate a small area of our being & cause an explosion of nerve endings" is the most awe inspiring emotion of all time. Many of us become aware of our complete bodies during our adolescence and some of us are able to continue the experience as we mature. I don't quite agree that it is a cultural response we make about our sexuality, or that women have been led to believe that 'their' role was to 'pleasurably, satisfy' men. I believe it is to do with our body chemistry as to how we, in our own minds, respond to 'our' sexual behavior. Many of us pass through phases in our monthly cycle, not only females have the menstruation 'blues', when our appetite for sex is stronger. Some of us have the belief that a partnered relationship is the correct way to satisfy 'our' sexual desires and others of us also believe that self-stimulation is also very rewarding. My belief has probably strengthened over time that a partnered relationship is the strongest way of sharing love and devotion which in turn can and should lead to the greatest understanding and 'feeling' for your partner. Sexual intimacy should be practiced and enjoyed. However I find and believe the strongest sexual stimulation that a person could ever have is through self- masturbation, I think also, and this could vary with individuals, that private self-masturbation is the best encounter one could have.(I find it the most satisfying for me anyway) Our desires can become 'mixed up' depending on what is happening in our life, both physically and emotionally, different medications can alter our sexual desires and appeal, often this is something we have little control over unlike us 'willingly' taking drugs, smoking cigarettes or drinking alcohol. Our outlook and desires can alter who we become. Anyway I still think it has a lot to do with what is in our genes, or maybe what we desire to be in our jeans :P | 2008-05-31 04:15:04 |
| 871 | 5763 | Hi,I am 24 years of virgin male!I am in habit if masturbating since I was 11 years old.My problem is that my penis's foreskin do not retrace back at all when sexually aroused.If retraced forcefully,I loose the sexual arouseness out of pain.The reoson behind this is that the foreskin is attached to the tip of the glans (cock).I have normal erections and do not experience any pain during masturbation. *Is it normal and common? *Will it create any problem in sexual intercource?& Hope there are lot of experienced here to answer this question. | 2008-05-23 22:28:40 |
| 871 | 5765 | en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phimosis en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Foreskin | 2008-05-24 10:03:12 |
| 872 | 5767 | I was thrilled outta my mind when I met my new Boyfriend of almost 8 months now. He has all the qualities I so desire in a Partner. I was so looking forward to a one on one commited relationship with someone who wanted the same thing. And he does. Someone who I genuinly liked & enjoyed being with, who felt the same for me. And he does... I thought I was headed with him to the land of of no more bootie calls, friends with benifits, & other intanglements with emotionally un-available men who wanted sex & none of the relationship stuff I so enjoy. Like sleepin in on Sat. mornings & pancakes. And of course an abundance of foreplay & seeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeex & sensual exploration. And don't get me wrong, nothing wrong with booty calls & the like. I adored my lovers. I'm just wanting something different at this time in my life. Early in our realtionship he weened himself off anxiety medications that we thought were the cause of his Ed. I was proud of him for taking this step & patient as the months have now turned into several months still experiencing ED. "Our" problem is he can get an erection but cannot maintain it once intercourse starts. Now I am sure there are many symtoms & types of ED as I have read about them. But spacificly is there a reason why it go's limp after being inserted. This also happens during blowjobs. Is it always about blood flow? Or more often is it emotional? As I type my question I know the answer is, it can be both. But the articles & I've read a heep of them don't clearly define, for me anyways, these 2 separate issues. Is there a way to tell if its bloodflow related? Or emotional, ie. performance anxiety or sexual hangups? I might be able to relate more to ED if it never got hard. But it does, it just gos limp when I pay attention to it. Hes 43, healthy, no smoking or drinking, in good shape, exercises daily, eats well & seems happy, except for this. He often wakes up with a hard erection, but loses it once things get started. Are there any good books on healing sexual issues for men? I don't think he was molested. He does tho come from a very strick Morman upbringing & was in a sexless marriage for 6 years. He doesn't seem that interested in engaging in sex (making the first move) And once he gets hard (aroused) then soft, doesn't seem to want to continue. He will pleasure me at my request. But I want to be taken & ravaged. Not send out ingraved inviations. Heres a question that seems silly, but here go's. We're out by the pool the other day. I start to give him head, he gets hard, then soft, then hard again, then soft. Why wouldn't he want to continue? We often start to get sexual, I see/feel he's aroused. He just stops, doesn't go any further. Says he's happy with that, that I totally turn him on. I get turned on, I want to keep going. He gets turned on, doesn't seem to have to go any further... So men with ED Please answer me this. Are you turned on and experiencing pleasure SENSATIONS with no erection & completion by cumming? Do you still feel pleasure sensations in your soft penis or anywhere? Please help me to understand your point of view. What questions can I ask him. What actions can I take, or sugjestions to offer to him. Yes I have asked him these questions. I believe he is not fully being honest with me, about how much pleasure he is experiencing. I know it's gotta be embarsing & challenging to be all the way honest about this. Maybe by asking complete strangers I can have a better understanding & have more compassion. I am at my wits end with being the patient girlfriend, that he always thanks me for. We have had several talks, he's open to it. But it seems to me it would compound the problem & issue as I try & tip toe around my disadisfaction & try to give him the feeling that its all ok. I have stayed home this weekend & this has become more frequent. I don't want to spend another sexless weekend with him. Hanging out & feeling like buddies, drinking one more icedcoffee, making out with his dog more than him & pretending I'm the happiest of campers. Please Men, jump in anywhere you feel you can offer words of encouragement & or offer ideas. I would most apprectiate that. Thanks! | 2008-05-24 14:05:32 |
| 872 | 5770 | Several days ago I made a post here. I was trulely wanting some feed back, some little idea or direction to go towards. From Men & perhapes Women who had experience with ED. I had tried everything in my current bag of tricks. Fustrated I turned here for answers... I can see this morning that 20 have read my post, but none have replied. I am happy to respond to my own post & report that the answers were within me...And I was the last to know. After several days of being verbally & emotionally distant with my Guy, the dam broke & we had us one hell of a talk. I got to see & feel once again, just how much of a challenge it was for "Me" to talk about sex with him. I spoke about how important it was to me to have an active sex life with him, how fustrating it was for me to hang back & wait for things to work themselves out, how untrue I felt I was being to myself, the damage to the overall view I was starting to have about this relationship & my fears that if we kept letting this sex issue slide, the whole thing would just slide away. I was surprized how forth comming he was. If I could just get my concerns & questions out, he was willing to discuss it & in a peaceful manner. It was me, to a large degree, that was dealing with my own hang ups sexual & otherwise. Of speaking up & getting my needs met with open discussion. I was acting & reacting as if he were like my some of my past Boyfriends, the ones I had allowed to shut me down, with their aggresive personalities. Where most topic not to their liking would be met with "I don't wanna talk about it" & in many cases anger or hours of being ignored. I spent 3 years mostly single & healing my emotional wounds from the last not so nice guy, I had a long term thingy with, before meeting him. And all tho I had heard tales of a Male beast who could have discussions on sensitive topics & not go balistic, I myself had not had the pleasure or the experience with just such a beast. I am the very sexual one. The one who started having sex when I was 14. The one who has more experience. The one who has led with my sexuallity, because thats what I felt most comfortable with. And now it's time for me to learn about this thing call intimacy. We left our talk on 3 very positive notes. #1 At 48 I am still passionate about sex, I still want & crave it. I still get wet as hell. #2 I do get turned on by him. I do like the sexual things he has done with & to me thus far and all I want is more, more, more. #3 I do turn him on, he has strong desire to have the kind of sexual relationship I do & the willingness to do something very challenging for both of us & seek outside help. He brought up & has agreed to go to a Sex Therapist. I have no idea what they say or do. But I have a feeling, a positive, hopeful feeling it will push both of us outside our comfort zones on this topic. And that will be a very good thing indeed. I also got the idea to get a blank notebook and write down 10 things so far, in little paragraphs of things I like that he does to me & other things I would like him to add or elaborate on. Here is the one that gave me the most challenge saying outloud to him. "Talk nasty to me ", "it turns me on". "It makes me wet, it makes me want you", "You really do it good". Again some stuff came up for me. Alone all by myself, Miss Sex Pot that I think I am, had trouble writing those things down. Then I had some feelings of embaressment reading them to him. All this told me is, I have some emotional work to do & perhapes more than I know. I also asked him to tell me spacificly, not his pat answer of "everything" what I did that he most liked. I enjoyed hearing his answers & even more the further discussion that led to. I write this post with what seems to me to be a most private issue & uncomfortable to talk about topic in my life at the moment. To help rid myself of the shame I feel for this most natural act of pleasure. To help others pehapes open up themselves. Today I'm in charge of finding just such a Therapist in our area Of Palm Springs California. Any refurrals, ideas, comments? Bring um on! :P | 2008-05-26 09:16:12 |
| 872 | 5776 | If your man does have an erection, he does not have ED . I think& his problem is a psychological one. According to your posts, you are 48 and he is 43. There are many people who, either because of the deviation & from the& "standard" characters which is a usual biological phenomenon, or & the & deprecation of& stereotypes;& they don't insist on marrying younger& females or older males. However there are still ones who maybe is drived by the so-called "evolutionary factors" or stereotypes& and intrinsically like younger females. I think you should advert to his very inclination and see whether he is of the latter kind. ----------------------------------------------------- PS. We should notice that any evolutionary character is& just the character of the majority, not the character of all individuals of a species. Otherwise there would be no evolution at all. Even if "evolutionary psychology" is right, it only says majority of human males or females do what things, it cannot "prove" that all members of the kind do the same thing, or else it becomes normativity rahter than science | 2008-05-27 07:01:48 |
| 872 | 5777 | "If your man does have an erection, he does not have ED" Is this statement true? If so that is such great news to me. First time I'm dealing with this issue with a Partner in my romantic history. I thought (any sort) of (frequent, ongoing) inability or difficulty to get an erection, sustain an erection & or reach orgasm with somewhat ease was classified as some form of ED. And that ED could happen from wide range of factors including mental, physical or any combination of both. Second, I'm kinda a simple gal & your example of a possible reasons for his Ed was so fancy smanshy with all those big words & terms that I myself could barely follow. Please elaborate... Just how exactly would one go about "averting to his very inclination and see whether he is of the latter type"? | 2008-05-27 08:31:50 |
| 872 | 5786 | I can't ensure my correctness because I'm not an expert in physiology or sexology. You can consult the article "erectile dysfunction" in wikipedia. According to that article, your man's condition may be counted as a kind of ED. But anyway it is not the "substantial ED", but the "broader" or "extended " ED, I deem. & I didn't say "avert to his very inclination"; I said "advert", i.e., pay attention, to his possible inclination of loving younger woman. Since I'm much younger and "simpler" than you , I'm afraid I can't give you much better advices. What I can best come up with is that you directly ask him about this topic.& I myself don't care whether my spouse is older or younger, and I think it is old-fashioned to exclusively love younger women. But these old-fashioned men do exist. If he is not of that kind, I'm glad. The problem must lie in other places. You have found a therapist, I think you can get help. Another advice is that you must make sure the therapist has a real qualification of being a therapist, such as MD or something, lest be cheated by pseudo-therapists, who in my country are rampant. & PS. I think men without erection can still undergo emotional affection of women, which feels warm and safe. In refractory period, many men lose erection, but they still want to be embraced and caressed by women. & | 2008-05-29 00:04:57 |
| 872 | 5787 | I think you haven't received many responses because it is a difficult question.& The emotions and psychology at play are very tricky.& Since you don't know the "cause" I would suggest that he seek counseling - alone or in couples counseling or both. He may want sexual intimacy and enjoy the blowjobs but when he goes soft it is confusing to him and he can't decide what he wants.& He isn't going to approach you (much less ravage you) when his errection is unpredictable.& Or perhaps it is predictably variable. This is a tough situation.& A few questions, though.& You fellate him, he gets hard, then soft.& This is the normal cycle only it usually ends in ejaculation.& In this case it does not.& But why consider it unfinished?& Once this happens then ask him to return the favor (preferably to orgasm).& & The more you press him or feel/express frustration the less often he will have an errection. There are sexual aids such as devices that go over the penis that he can use for intercourse.& It won't bring him to release but he can stay with you physically and emotionally while you get to that point (presumably with clitoral stimulation).& I don't think the problem is widespread so most of us don't know how to deal with it.& Those who experience it as probably just as lost as you are. Counseling, enjoying what you do have together physically and emotionally, and sustaining your efforts to stay connected are critical.& I wish you both success in this.& It is telling, though, that YOU are writing here and not him. | 2008-05-29 06:41:21 |
| 872 | 5790 | Hi plurabell, I asked him point blank about the younger woman thingy. Feeling I knew the answer, becouse at 8 months, I have a feel for his intentions & how he has carried himself thus far in the relationship about such things. He confirmed it... Good new! I'm what he is looking for. As I have gotten older & skinned my knees/heart a few times by just dreamin it all in. I had at one time (a long time) A dreamy eyed notion that everything could always be worked out, if you had 2 willing Partners. And theres the rub...You must (first off) have "2" willing Partners to work thru things together. I ask alot more questions of a potential mate now. He & I talked alot about how important an active sexual life was to both of us. We had put that part of our relationship off for the first 6 weeks to get to know each other better. It was & has been been much of a disapointment to (both) of us, that we cannot fully carry out this expression of our union to completion. And we both didn't see this aspect of the relationship comming or not cumming as the case may be. I think we have both become a little/lot gun shy about approching sex now. Me wanting to be patient & understanding that the mind & body work together. So I have to act like it's no big deal each time so I won't disturb his Manhood that I'm very aware of. And him feeling "why get started when I'll just let us both down. And yes we are very aware of all the fun we can have away from intercourse itself. We do all that stuff. But at a certain point, as I'm sure most all who deal with ED in one form or another will admit. You want things to be different. All the compassion, understanding, patience & "LOVE" can only take you so far. We have had many discusstions both in and away from the sexual act. And "WE" both have had enough with talking about it. We have taken a relaxed additude about it. And we have also been in a proactive mode about it. Its time in both our minds, to seek outside help & we are, the appointment has been made. Yippy! :} It was good for me tho to ask him anyway about the younger Woman question, just to get a discussion going. He said he had in mind someone his age or older. For him emotional maturity is important. Altho age is not always a sure thing for emotional maturity, it was his place to start & he placed his bets with me. I guess I found the focus of your sugjestion just a bit silly, since we're only talkin bout a 5 year age difference. May be a big deal when your 15 dateing a 20 year old, but shortly after that in my mind, age is just a #. I have met many a mature 28 year olds and a whole heep of lil' boy 50 somethings, as well as everthing inbetween. I was looking for those to respond who had experience with Ed either in themselves or with a Partner, how their dealing or not dealing with it. Heresay & article quotes are not especially helpful to me at this time, as I have access to all those myself. I appreciate your intent, thank you...Anyone in the trenches with this? Add a post or write me personally. Thanks :} | 2008-05-30 09:03:21 |
| 872 | 5791 | Hi Scarbowl, And I quote your last line in your post "It is telling though, that YOU are writing here and not him"... Did what ever tell you I was writing a post on this forum and not him, also tell you that he does not have a computer? Who cares who wrote first? Why would it possibly matter? And what better benifit would accur in him addressing this 1st. here rather than me. We're a couple & far as I know, couples help & support each other best they can, no? Put up ur dukes X-(. Guess I'm a lil' testy at not getting pounded real good... Can you relate? What I think is most "telling" Is #1 He was/is open & willing to discuss at length this issue with me. I'm the one who felt a major discomfort in addressing this issue with him fully. Thats about me not him. #2 He is willing to go talk to a complete stranger with me about our sexual relationship. How many guys think that sounds like a groovy way to spend a Monday afternoon? I tried to do that very thing, off to the side of our relationship with you all. That says more about me than him. He's acting like a real champ! #3 He is willing if need be to have his penis & balls prodded & maybe poked if he needs physical tests of that nature. I on the other hand, keep putting off a visit to the Dentist. Again more good stuff being shown to me about him. I'm feeling pretty good about my man right about now... So your "flip" comment hit a nerve. I'm not in the best case (the one I dreamed of) senario, but I am with the best case guy, to go thru this senario with. Thank you for your intention to offer help, I appreciate it... | 2008-05-30 09:45:11 |
| 872 | 5800 | Sorry if I offended you, Lovergirl. I interpreted the content of your message to suggest you weren't talking with one another about it. Myself, I'm married to a woman who has regular vaginal pain so that even oral sex can cause discomfort either during or afterwards. We've spent years in counseling, seeking doctors, alternative therapy, etc and making our own efforts in different ways and times to have this intimacy. At this point we've not been sexually intimate in any way for the last 6 months. Still, for this or ED there is either a medical cause (in males there are specific basis for this) or psychological. If prostate problems, etc are not the issue then it can only be psychological. Hence my comments about counseling. | 2008-05-30 23:42:25 |
| 872 | 5802 | Thanks Lovergirl for being so open and honest when writing& this post. I think that you are in the right direction when seeking outside help. Your partners inability to maintain an erection can be a symptom of many different disorders, some of which are physical eg diabetes, prostrate disorder etc and emotional which is even a longer list, anxiety of impotence, anxiety of him cumming while you give him head etc. & As was quoted by plurabelle, may be after he has had an erection and you are beginning to enjoy it, he becomes satisfied or stimulated and then becomes flaccid. He doesn't seem that interested in engaging in sex (making the first move) And once he gets hard (aroused) then soft, doesn't seem to want to continue. He will pleasure me at my request. But I want to be taken & ravaged. Not send out ingraved inviations. I am wondering, out loud, if this is his emotions speaking. A therapist should be able to get to this answer. We're out by the pool the other day. I start to give him head, he gets hard, then soft, then hard again, then soft. Why wouldn't he want to continue? We often start to get sexual, I see/feel he's aroused. He just stops, doesn't go any further. Says he's happy with that, that I totally turn him on. I get turned on, I want to keep going. He gets turned on, doesn't seem to have to go any further... This is another indication of him being a little shy with you. Some men, including myself, would feel a little bit nervous of ejaculating into a partners mouth early in our relationship. Nervous perhaps because he may feel he is becoming aggressive towards you, you said he was very laid back. & Good luck with your encounter with the therapist, don’t feel it is the only answer though. | 2008-05-31 04:54:21 |
| 872 | 5803 | Hi Scarbowl, Not offended, just aggravated at the whole thing. I really didn't mean to chew your head off. (bad choice of words) Here I've met this really great guy & we have this issue. An issue that either of us can fix by ourselves. The appointment has been made, 2 weeks from now for a sex therapist. I am proud of both of us for taking this step. And have a knowing only good can come from it, to help build our intimacy together. I am enjoying the yummy coffee he just brought me this morning & about to enjoy the breakfast he just made for both of us. I think my dear man has had a lifetime of sexual & otherwise repression. a long marriage with a Woman who consistently batted his hands away until he just stopped trying. I get afraid at times my body will shut down & avoid his efforts all together. I felt that way this morning as his touch felt irritating at first. He knows I like it in the morning & hes giving it his all. He pushed it & that effort turned me on in itself. And wadda ya know I started to perk up & desire him. We had a very nice session, he got hard twice. I've had lots of sexual encounters, but this ones about a deeper kind of intimacy. We both have sexual things to heal. Thank you & please keep sharing with me & others. And please forgive my sassy nature!=* | 2008-05-31 11:01:52 |
| 872 | 5806 | Hi Lovergirl I read your post a couple of days ago & have given it some thought.& I'm 49 and when I was married the first time (almost 25 years ago) we had help from a sex therapist.& My wife had vaginusmus and I had really bad premature ejaculation.& I remember our initial discussion with the therapist...she thought (until I corrected her) that I was losing my erection.& When I say I had& bad PE, I mean I came the instant my glans touched wet labia.& The cause went back to my first all the way sexual experience (with the same woman).& After a couple of minutes of intercourse I remember feeling a bit tense and wanted to please her.& The sense of occasion was a bit too much for me & I came there & then.& To my shock, my girlfriend went ballistic at me.& Not surprisingly, the next time we tried I ejaculated immediately I started to enter her....and she went mad at me again.& The pattern was set and continued into our subsequent marriage and beyond.& I could masturbate & stop & restart for 20 minutes, but intercourse was hopeless.& The marriage ended with me convinced I was unable to sustain a normal sexual relationship.& 10 years later and starting a new relationship, I explained to my new lady what had happened & she told me the problem belonged in the old relationship and it would not happen again.& I wanted to believe her, but sense of occasion & all that was too much, so about 3 seconds was all I could manage.& Her reaction was so different...she wasn't mad at me, just very patient & understanding.& The same thing happened the second time, but the 3rd (WOW!) The psychological damage was repaired and provided we paced ourselves, I could hold on until we were both ready. The cause was entirely emotional/psychological and traced back to one bad experience which started a bad pattern. The fact that your man gets hard, leads my thinking away from a physical problem preventing an erection from happening.& My suspicion is, like me he may have a situation in his past which is getting in the way for him.& I feel sure your therapist& will explore this with you both. A final thought....I've never been able to truly relax & enjoy receiving oral sex.& It's great as part of foreplay, but I can rarely orgasm with it.& I become too aware of some aspect of the surroundings (Eg feeling cold perhaps) and eventually I get sore& before cumming.& That's clearly in my mind!& Perhaps it's in his too? Enough of my ramblings.& I do hope you both find the answers you seek, and most of all, enjoy the journey.:) | 2008-06-01 17:23:18 |
| 872 | 5808 | I forgot to mention something important:& When I explained to the therapist that I was premature ejaculating NOT losing my erection, she said it was virtually the same thing psychologically.& The cause was fear of failure.& Hope this clarifies why I think my experience just might be relevant. | 2008-06-02 07:30:12 |
| 872 | 5924 | hey i've been reading in and outof this post and im kinda shy to say. But im 18 years old and my girl is just about 30.. (yeah big age gap) and its happened to me before... im not very sexual with girls ive had 3 blow jobs. 1 from the current girl and 2 from the past relationship. My first one i was unable to com. and the second one i did cum. It is very hard for me to keep an erection with a blow job. i dont know why. whats wrong with me? when my girl went down on me. she pulled my skin back (i have foreskin) it hurt like hell. (i never really pull it back) and i could not cum and had to concentrate to keep up my erection. but when i began to masturbate myself i felt i was going to cum and can keep an erection. how is this? please help. | 2008-07-17 10:54:28 |
| 872 | 5927 | Everyones built just a little differently. And rather than think your odd or different from anyone else or the norm, what ever that is, just realize none of that really matters in the long run. Show your Girlfriend and any other Partners/Lovers you may ever have how to masterbate you, the way you enjoy being masterbated. There isn't one way to do any of this sexual stuff. Some guys like there balls sucked & played with firmly & some wince at the very thought. Some like their ass played with, some are like "don't even go there. You are young & just starting out & exploring. Be honest, be open, have fun & enjoy. Above all else talk to your Partner. We Women are not mind readers, just like you Guys. Give us just a bit of guidance & most of us catch on rather quickly. If you don't speak up, you are in essence telling us you like & are happy with what ever we are doing. It can be embaressing & uncomfortable at first talking about the subject of sex & your wants & needs. This builds intimacy, closeness & trust thru out the whole relationship. Just because your new GF is older don't assume she knows everything & you would be putting her down for not knowing this about you. Slow down & enjoy yourself. | 2008-07-17 15:13:11 |
| 872 | 6167 | I want to ask the same question. I am 34 years married male. i am married for the last 4 (four) years, i have good relationship with my wife. but i am not able to have proper sex with my wife till date. i mean i am not able to insert my penis in her vagina yet. even the tip doesnot go in. i met few doctors, took medicines prescribed by them and still under treatment of a homeopath but yet i did not find any positive result. i do get erection, but not able to penetrate, i am also confused that how to know that the what amount of stiffness / hardness is sufficient for penetration, or do i get the required one. is there any easu method to know this? a good help from all of you are welcome? | 2008-10-13 03:15:09 |
| 876 | 5813 | My boyfriend and I have been happily dating for 4 months, and we have just begun to explore our sexuality together.& However, when i try to stimulate his penis with my hand (hand job)& im afrade i am not doing it correcty, because it usually takes him a while to reach orgasm, dispite the many times he has told me that it feels great.& He coaches me along, but I feel as if I am not satisfying him.& Sometimes my hand gets tired, and he finishes himself.& I really want to be able to share a moment with him without it having to take so long.& Is there any suggestions that you might have? | 2008-06-03 19:21:48 |
| 876 | 5815 | It's really hard to say exactly.& The reason a male can do it to themselves fairly easy is because they know what they want at that moment.& Sometimes it's preferred to concentrate on the head with slow gentle strokes and sometimes it's the push-pull feeling of the whole thing.& I would encourage more communication as to what he wants.& Remember, the head of the penis is the most sensitive and that's a good place to start.& My bet is if you concentrate on that, he'll let you know when to do full strokes. Hope that helps! ;) RB | 2008-06-04 13:12:29 |
| 876 | 5817 | The penis and the clitoris are quite similar. I imagine it may take him longer to bring you to climax by stimulating/manipulating your clitoris than it takes when you do it yourself. If your hand is tired perhaps you are using an uncomfortable position? Also, the hand and mouth together are a very effective combination:)! From my own experience, I orgasm more easily through hand/mouth contact or intercourse than through hand alone. Rubbing your breasts against him might provide additional stimulation. But this is all part of learning about making love and providing pleasure for your partner. Keep practicing! There are also guides available for these activities. | 2008-06-05 05:02:19 |
| 876 | 5834 | You are an angel to be so concerned for you boyfriend's feelings!& Here is the best advice you could get.& Both of you are probably tense and feeling rushed.& Instead of grasping the penis of your love have him lie back so that you may lightly, almost teasingly run you fingers over the top of the inside of his thighs right up to the top where you might fleetingly touch his scrotum.& Likewise run your fingers over the very bottom of his belly perhaps just brushing the head of his penis occasionlly.& You can touch his scrotum between caressing his legs and tummy. Now the fun part:& Observe his penis as you do the steps above and I think that you will see it become even larger and more erect.& If so, try to resist the natural tendency to start "milking" it.& See if you can get him to the point where his organ seems to be crying out to be touched and may start to spasm.& I have had situations where my penis felt like exploding before it was even directly touched and ejaculated with just one or two little jerks.& I hope this is helpful and look forward to your reply. | 2008-06-06 14:14:28 |
| 876 | 6255 | ... the world is full of wonders ... I always thought you boys would be so much easier and faster to "get off" -& does it depend on individual difference& or on different situation? Think it´s rather cool not to have someone who& is ready& with everything after just a few minutes (as I for myself always need so much more time) -& are you faster with your reaction than he is with his one, cd???& :D | 2008-11-10 00:38:47 |
| 876 | 6256 | Speaking in generalities, men do orgasm much quicker than women.& However, there are always cases where the woman who orgasms atypically fast is paired with the man that takes atypically long to orgasm.& You can't ever say anything for sure when you get down to an individual basis, but talking about men and women as a large population allows you to talk about commonalities and trends. | 2008-11-10 03:03:23 |
| 876 | 6260 | I find it much easier to orgasm through intercourse than with oral sex or masturbation by my partner.& However, we have found that we both enjoy it immensely when we lie on our backs head to foot, draw up our legs, and stimulate one another (using lubrication).& Perhaps it is the mutual-ness of it that is more exciting. When she is giving me a "hand job" alone it takes me much longer to cum.& Sometimes a combination of her hand and mouth is faster.& A little bit of anal stimulation can make a difference though, if you haven't done this before, be slow and cautious.& This makes some men anxious even though they find it pleasurable.& Also, rubbing the spot between the scrotum (ball sack) and the anus can also be pleasurable.& Use lube, in any case. Also, when you have a penis in your mouth or you are using your hand time may seem to pass slowly.& 5 minutes seems like 15.& So it might not be taking as long as you think.& & Again, though, it may take him a while to orgasm not because you are doing something wrong but just because it does. If it took the same amount of time to orgasm during intercourse you might be quite happy about that.& So why expect or want him to come sooner? | 2008-11-15 02:47:23 |
| 876 | 6280 | Hi & & Okay from a man's point of view I just want to say.. the fact that he is not reaching an orgasm quickly is a 'good thing'. If your hand gets tired you can always try switching hands or taking a break. & & I would much prefer pro-longing the pleasure then having a 'slam-bam-thank-you-mam' experience. It's just like cunningless or felatio.. yes a times quick is good but so is a nice long time exploring and allowing it to last. & & I know you posted this in June and is November but if you are still having this issue, don't let it bug you. Rog 'Brute' | 2008-11-26 20:17:02 |
| 882 | 5856 | I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months. We are in the process of working as a team to address his ED from all angles. As it seems to both of us that the cause may be varied. It's all out on the table now as we have both gotten thru all the uncomfortableness of this topic & we're both working together for solutions. Not the funnest thing to be going thru, but with his openness & willingness to search for solutions outside ourselves I feel hopeful & much more at ease. He's had a childhood filled with strict religious guilt about sex in general. A very overbareing Father who from what I understand restricted any expressions of individuality. (may be why he's covered in tatoos) A long marriage to a Woman who slapped his hands away so much that he just stopped trying. That had to funk things up, in his mind! A tramatic accident, watching his dog get killed in front of him put him on anxiety medications for several years, just before he met me. Which totally killed his sex drive & abilities. So he has gone thru as I see it, alot of supression of his natural desires, guilt, rejection, trama. Enough I would think to all add to his ED. He is open to all sexuality I present to him & partisapates very nicely. But he is not very forth coming. I believe it's in there, He's told me about it, we talk about it. He just can't seem to tap into it & get it flowing. He's weened himself off the medications several months ago & ED is still very present. We see the sex theripist on Monday, I will keep you posted on that. I had heard of "Horney Goat Weed" from many sources, so we went to the local health food store to check it out. Got the best seller & by that afternoon my dear man had some substatial lead in his pencil. Not rock hard, but enough to engage in intecourse for a good long time, several times. And substantial boners in the morning. He still cannot come to orgasm thru intercourse or oral. I'm thinking thats a mental thing. But we're both digging the firmness factor. He has come to orgasm thru (very) long sessions of hand jobs given by me or me watching him. He has told me he does not masterbate by himself. I think masterbation is good, heathy and keeps everything flowing. I dunno if this aspect of him not masterbating & pleasureing himself whille alone should be seen as part of the problem or a problem at all. Personally (most) all the men I have been with masterbate regularly, no matter what the age. And I am sure this ebbs & flows as it has with me. I am just trying to get down to the nitty gritty of him & I. Is it primarily a mental thing or phycical as to his lack of interest & ability? And I know thats something you all can't tell me & we will be figuring out together, with or without this new Therapist. So anyone else here used this or other herbal suppliments. My own knowledge of such things is that Vitamins can take a while to work, like several weeks & Herbs work soon after taken. Is this correct thinking? The brand is Action Labs. 2 tabs have 500mg. of HG weed, 400mgs l-Arginine, 175mg.Yohimbe & a few other things. Any ideas or thioughts? | 2008-06-14 12:40:01 |
| 882 | 5858 | I forgot to mention I too took a couple of tabs that first day and felt several of what seemed like random without sexual thoughts or any outside stumulation from him, a tingle & mild throbbing of my clit for a brief moment. Since all I've read about these herbs & other ingredients sugjest they increased blood flow to those areas I am guessing this stuff did work to promote blood flow or maybe I was having a good day. I'm planning on more personal research! :-D | 2008-06-14 13:59:17 |
| 882 | 5859 | Two capsules supply the following ingredients: & Zinc - 15mg, 100% & Copper - 0.2mg, 10% & Horny Goat Weed (Epimedium Grandiflorum)(Root) - 500mg & L-Arginine HCL - 400mg & Yohimbe Bark (Pausinystalia Yohimba) - 175mg & Tribulus Fruit Extract (Tribulus Terrestris) - 50mg & Bean Extract (Mucuna Pruriens)(Supplying 5mg, 10% Of L-Dopa) - 50mg & Other Ingredients: & Gelatin (Capsule) & Cellulose & Magnesium Stearate & Maltodextrin & Silica I can only speak about a couple of these ingredients, but unfortunately not the main ingredient (Epimedium Grandiflorum). The L-Arginine (does best taken on an empty stomach).& This is a common supplement for weight lifters, but as this items states, take with a meal will ultimately cancel out at least some of the L-Arginine's potential effects.& L-arginine does not help the desire, but can help with blood flow and mild ED.& I don't recommend taking this Goat Weed supplement on an empty stomach though. It may have other things in it that might upset his stomach.& If you can find straight L-Arginine, this should be taken on an empty stomach. The Tribulus Terrestris - is a natural test booster.& It has no immediate effects, but will slowly build as you take this daily.& This can help in the desire department. I wish I new more about the main ingredient, but I thought I could at least help you on what I know. On another note.& Ask him to be completely open an honest about what turns him on the most.& Maybe it could unleash the freak if you were to cater to his possible newly revealed desires.& ;) | 2008-06-14 15:03:02 |
| 883 | 5864 | first and for most i love that there is a site basicly catering to a womans questions needs and concerns.& I& find my sexual desires are linked to my lovers. if they are extremly turned on then i get set on fire. This Forum seems like the perfect place to get a well rounded non-bias opions on what turns a man on when he gets a blow job. Resently i have been giving my boyfriend blow jobs i love to do so (oral fixation much i think about them all the time ) he says they are the best he ever had and are undiscribeable and such i can see that i am pleasing him but& i am curious to how ? I mean i am curious to what exactly turns on a guy when he gets a blow job...@};- | 2008-06-16 12:42:16 |
| 883 | 5873 | The fact that you love to do so probably plays a big part in him loving it. The fun of any sex activity is not only about technique and physical stimulation, but also much about attitude and emotional feelings... When you like what you do, you tend to try things and you tend to do your best. Knowing that you enjoy yourself is probably a big turn on for him. I know my answer doesn't make it more "descriptible", but really, it's much more than a question of mechanical technique. | 2008-06-17 07:37:12 |
| 883 | 5875 | I know that since I love my wife and she loves me plays a huge part in this.& I want to please her and she me.& You have to communicate that.& But when in the middle of any sexual activity, I know when I'm doing it right and it makes me want to do more. I'm sure she feels the same.& But when& a man is fully aroused any place on the glans and around the frenulum feels great and there is nothing like a warm mouth/tongue on that to send the feeling into orbit. | 2008-06-17 12:15:00 |
| 883 | 5877 | tiedup, you asked, "I mean i am curious to what exactly turns on a guy when he gets a blow job......" I agree with what Tomtom and ChessieCat have written and, for me, the pleasure of being blown is increased by the seeming submissiveness of the woman. In this regard, the feelings she gives me are greatest if& I am standing and she is kneeling. The feelings are different when we are in other positions. Because of the submissiveness business I much prefer a woman other than my wife to blow me. Too, when I was an young man and was blown by other men the pleasure was not as intense as when a young woman did it for me. & & | 2008-06-18 11:19:33 |
| 883 | 5878 | I don't think submissiveness has anything to do with it. Is a man being submissive when he performs cunnilingus? The pleasure of each has to do with the desire to please another and the ability of the mouth and tongue to provide sensations that intercourse does not offer. | 2008-06-19 08:50:06 |
| 883 | 5879 | I'm going to address the details of what I like ;) I like when the lady truly looks like she's enjoying doing it, takes her time, let's me see her and makes occasional eye contact.& I love to see the entry into her mouth.& I like my testicles fondled and caressed with her tongue and with her hands if her mouth is elsewhere.& Also I like when her lips and tongue slide up and down the entire length a few times and then goes back to the head.& And don't forget there's more sensitivity on the top side of the head than there is on the bottom side. But really, it's mostly all good if your mate enjoys it. :D | 2008-06-19 14:29:20 |
| 883 | 5905 | If "submissiveness" plays a part in sexuality, the only& words I can come up with are "sadism" --- deriving sexuality from violence and insult,& and "fetishism" ---& sexual arousal incurred by a thing, a fetish.& It is& a sexuality of a minority& anyway. | 2008-07-02 04:45:16 |
| 883 | 5906 | [user=9152]scarbowl[/user] wrote: "I don't think submissiveness has anything to do with it. Is a man being submissive when he performs cunnilingus? The pleasure of each has to do with the desire to please another and the ability of the mouth and tongue to provide sensations that intercourse does not offer." That depends entirely on the man and woman and how they view cunnilingus.& It can be submissive in the respect that she is being given physical pleasure while he is being denied it. | 2008-07-09 13:33:03 |
| 883 | 5907 | Besides, the man and women might also want to experience the dynamics of consensual domination and submission. The only problem I see is if the domination/submission occurs without consent of all the involved people in the act. | 2008-07-10 07:44:22 |
| 883 | 5917 | [user=8277]plurabelle[/user] wrote: "If "submissiveness" plays a part in sexuality, the only& words I can come up with are "sadism" --- deriving sexuality from violence and insult,& and "fetishism" ---& sexual arousal incurred by a thing, a fetish.& It is& a sexuality of a minority& anyway." I have to take exception to the negative implication& of your reply. Consensual dominance and submission in a relationship can be other than a manifestation of sadism or masochism, violence or insult.& One does not necessarily follow the other. Best regards, Maui | 2008-07-16 14:27:44 |
| 883 | 5918 | To address the original question... Well, there are a few guys, like me, who don't particularrly like a BJ, although I guess& we are a minority.& I can't be the only one :P for whom the sensations are way over the top of what I can handle.& Not always, but often.& Oh well... Best wishes, Maui boy | 2008-07-16 14:50:51 |
| 883 | 5921 | "I have to take exception to the negative implication& of your reply. Consensual dominance and submission in a relationship can be other than a manifestation of sadism or masochism, violence or insult.& One does not necessarily follow the other. Best regards, Maui " When we speak of "masochism", we have assumed that it is voluntary, without coercion.& & Noncoercion is the only form of masochism. & Through any perspective, "submissiveness" does not only narrate a fact, but also& connotes& a value judgment --- is it good or bad? is it virtuous or vicious?. The "submissiveness" that turns the man on has something to do with the "submissiveness" in the sense that I& insult you. Both of them mean that you are inferior in& the subject's& eyes.& It is this psychological value judgment& -- inferior -- that turns& a subject& on.& Sadism is a proper description of this inclination. & Person One& willingly becoming inferior makes a& sadist as happy as& & Person Two& unwillingly becoming inferior.& It is a question of how& excitement arises, not the sourse of the excitement is legal or moral or& not. & There are some sadists clubs in with all kinds of sadisms are voluntary, they are, however, & still sadists clubs.& my opinion plurabelle | 2008-07-17 05:53:17 |
| 883 | 5997 | There are women with the healthy attitude that fellatio gives them power over the men they are with. They can provide or deny pleasure or an orgasm. This is a far cry from submission and important to see this as self-empowerment. Isn't it powerful to give pleasure? It is only submission if she doesn't want to do it but does, anyway. | 2008-08-19 07:49:04 |
| 883 | 6071 | [user=9152]scarbowl[/user] wrote: "There are women with the healthy attitude that fellatio gives them power over the men they are with. They can provide or deny pleasure or an orgasm. This is a far cry from submission and important to see this as self-empowerment. Isn't it powerful to give pleasure? It is only submission if she doesn't want to do it but does, anyway." Besides, she's the one with the teeth. & Now, that's power! | 2008-08-27 13:03:20 |
| 883 | 6137 | Why does the topic of BJ's, have to go so quickly towards the negative of "power", "submission" & "dominance"? How about (in most cases) it feels good? It's just about as close as you can get to another. Just like getting your back scratched, it feels better (and in this case easier) when another does it! And who doesn't like a "bravo" for a job well done? Inspires one to give more & want to do more. Your Boyfriend is smart! I don't like lable's & rather than "oral fixation" how about it feels really good, to make my Partner feel good & have him acknowledge he feels good, by spewing his seed all over me & moaning in pleasure? That is kinda long isn't it? Ok we'll stay with "oral fixation" for the moment! | 2008-10-05 12:03:45 |
| 883 | 6297 | I love getting blow jobs, though it is something that has become quite rare in my marriage for some reason :(& What makes a good blow job to me has very little to do with technique or skill, and has everything to do with attitude.& If I sense that the woman genuinely enjoys what she is doing and is into my body, penis, and my reactions, then it will be a great blow job! | 2008-12-19 10:37:11 |
| 883 | 6369 | Yes! I agree 100%. And that probably goes for cunnilingus as well though I can't speak for women's experience. | 2009-01-08 05:38:47 |
| 883 | 6846 | [user=10091]tiedup[/user] wrote: "first and for most i love that there is a site basicly catering to a womans questions needs and concerns.& I& find my sexual desires are linked to my lovers. if they are extremly turned on then i get set on fire. This Forum seems like the perfect place to get a well rounded non-bias opions on what turns a man on when he gets a blow job. Resently i have been giving my boyfriend blow jobs i love to do so (oral fixation much i think about them all the time ) he says they are the best he ever had and are undiscribeable and such i can see that i am pleasing him but& i am curious to how ? I mean i am curious to what exactly turns on a guy when he gets a blow job...@};- " I think is 50/50, both physical and mental. Simply being, the sense and feeling for a guy can be quite pleasurable. I certainly like it when my girlfriend performs the act for me. The mental part is in the mind obviously. Some girls don't like to perform oral, so when a girl does do it, it may feel as if he's privileged in a way. | 2009-09-05 19:17:17 |
| 883 | 6869 | After 18 years of marriage my wife found a new position she likes when performing fellatio - that is to have me sit on the side of the bed and her to kneel between my legs. But this has nothing to do with submission - as suggested by an earlier writer. This has everything to do with what is comfortable to her. Both sexes know how uncomfortable oral sex can be. Getting the woman's hips up high enough so that the male doesn't get a sore neck and probably something similar for women when giving men a blow job. And if she's more comfortable in this position my experience is also improved. | 2009-09-26 04:00:03 |
| 892 | 5915 | Hi Im 17 years old and i have some questions regarding my foreskin. Being 17 ive yet to really pull back my foreskin all the way. and i havent had sex yet. I've tried to pull back my foreskin but it always hurts when i try to do so. so my question is do i really need to pull back my skin? i mean when my girl gives me a blow job (the first time) she pulled my skin back. and it was past the head but it hurt so much. i couldnt even concentrait on how the BJ was going. I clean my penis i have no record of infection or anything. so would i need to pull back my foreskin for sex or masturbation or anything of the such? would it pull itself back as i age? and will it always hurt when i try to pull it back? any help would be appreciated thx! | 2008-07-16 07:54:46 |
| 892 | 5922 | Hi, I remember having the same kind of problem. If the pain is related to the stretching of the foreskin, it might be because it wasent retracted often enough. Try retracting it slowly when not erect since your glans will be smaller then. Pull it back now and then and with time it will stretch a little, and not hurt. You definitely want to train that, because when engaging in intercourse, the vagina WILL retract it and if it stills hurts you by then, it won't be fun... So, go slowly but do retract it often so it stretches over time. Now, in my late 20's , it doesn't hurt anymore so yes, it will improve. | 2008-07-17 07:40:20 |
| 892 | 5923 | thank you so much. when she did pull back the skin the first time it hurt like a mother. but it was past the head. so i do have the potential but it hurts. with time will the skin pull itself back when im erect? or will i always have to manually pull it back?if i do have intercourse with my foreskin forward. will it hurt? will i get used to it? | 2008-07-17 08:28:36 |
| 892 | 5925 | Update* okay i just got outta the shower. and i was practicing pulling back the skin. im finally able to do it. It hurts to do it but i can get it back far enough to see the head. but if i let go of the skin it rolls itself back. is that normal? do i need to pull it back more? or with an erection it should stay back on its own? (i did it while soft) if i do it with an erection will it begin to hurt more? when the skin is back the bear head it extreamly sensitive. it hurts to touch. is that normal? will it go away over time? Thank you for the help. | 2008-07-17 12:03:57 |
| 892 | 5926 | I had just the same thing when I was in my teens.& Until a girl told me, I had no idea that my foreskin should retract.& Consequently it was so tight I couldn't even see the tip of my glans.& I was too shy to go to a doctor (and I was scared he might suggest an operation to cut it free) so I read some books to verify what the girl had said. Over a period of several months I began gradually trying to pull back my foreskin just a bit more each day.& After a while I could see the tip of the glans, and later as more of the glans emerged I found quite a bit of foreskin actually stuck to the glans.& None of the coronal ridge was free.& As months went by parts of it would unstick.& This part would be sore for a few days (not surprising since there was stale smegma underneath) but things were improving. As you describe, the newly exposed tissue was terribly sensitive and I had to hold my foreskin in its retracted position to prevent it rolling& forward and covering the glans again.& In time, it would stay retracted when I was erect and go forward when soft.& The extreme sensitivity subsided over time and with regular gentle handling. The good news is that it never caused any problems once I started having sexual relationships.& If only this website had been around when I was in my teens! Take care & have fun.:) | 2008-07-17 14:42:55 |
| 905 | 5967 | over the last couple of months, my penis has started to bend to the left when getting hard. now it's to the point that it almost touches my leg. it's like it's not getting as much blood on the left side. or maybe a muscle problem. something i should worry about? not something i'd like to go to the doctor about, but maybe i should? i'm left handed. any connection there? | 2008-08-03 15:11:44 |
| 905 | 5968 | One possibility is Peyronie's Disease. for starters check: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peyronie%27s_disease | 2008-08-04 22:49:08 |
| 905 | 5970 | good possibility this is the problem. went to another website with more info and sure sounds like what i have. don't seem to have any pain, but the bend is definitely there and i believe it is shrinking some. doesn't seem to be much that can be done about it. i used to have a doctor that every time i would show up with a complaint -trouble with seeing, trouble with pain in joints or muscles, tired, his response was always the same. 'you're getting older. learn to live with it'. sounds like another case of that. lol (i guess). | 2008-08-05 21:04:04 |
| 905 | 6400 | finally went to family doctor. it is peyronies. good news is that he thinks it will cure itself over the next few months. he says normally will last a year. no reason for it and no real cure other then wait and see. it's on to the urologist next week. just following the chain of command of my insurance company. | 2009-01-17 08:17:01 |
| 905 | 6516 | just an update. i went to an urologist with the peronies problem. he had absolutely no 'bedside manners'. he did write a prescription that he wouldn't sign until i called a company in texas that he said was the only place to get the ointment. he said i might not want it when i heard the price. i showed the script to a local riteaid pharmacy and they said they could fill it no problem as soon as he signed it. now i've got to make another trip across town to get signed. i don't really want to go back to him. riteaid said it should be less than 40.00. probably closer to 20.00. urologist said my insurance definitely wouldn't pay. riteaid says it should cover. as far as the problem itself, it has gotten a bit worse. | 2009-03-01 23:17:35 |
| 905 | 6727 | just another update. still have the peyronies and not getting any better. impossible to have intercourse any more. i saw an advertisement for an herbal cure that claims to have an 85% cure rate. i'm sure it's some hype, but looking for anything short of surgery at this point. | 2009-08-02 01:25:19 |
| 905 | 6729 | The Journal of Sexual Medicine has published several articles on the subject, but this is a subject I'm not familiar with myself. | 2009-08-02 06:33:28 |
| 906 | 5969 | koay a couple of weks ago i had posted to article called foreskin... well i have mostly resolved my issue. i can now pull back my skin and it doesnt really hurt that much im gettig used to it. my new issue is my actual penis head when i pull my skin back all way to the head i can see the the lineing around my penis is blue... the not the whole head just the back of it... like where the shaft ends and head begins. why in the hell is it blue? is that normal!?!? help me!! another issue is when i pull the skin back the head exposed is very sensitive... is that normal? it hurts to touch. why? im 17 and ive never really pulled my skin back... can u help? | 2008-08-05 16:40:58 |
| 906 | 5971 | *UPDATE one last question when i pull my skin back i see the the bottom skin part is skill attached to the meat of the penis? is that normal? the top i can see the full head but under the penis skin is still attached... help plz... am i normal? | 2008-08-06 00:02:16 |
| 906 | 5976 | My answers would be yes/yes/yes, or normal/normal/normal... :) You got a part of skin with zillions of nerve endings and it has never been exposed until now... You bet it will be sensitive. With time, it will be less sensitive, but it will always be. The foreskin attaching below is normal, it is called the frenulum. For the bluish tint of the base of the glans, also normal if it is a bluish/purpleish tint, and not true blue, each penis is different. | 2008-08-06 20:42:41 |
| 906 | 5977 | The blue& lining around& your penis may be smegma. It is the product of bacterial analysis the component of& urine& or sebum& collected& under your foreskin& , especially the end of the glans (or beginning of the shaft), & year after year.& & I guess your glans is too pain& to touch.& If so& the glans has an& irritation because of the bacteria.& Some said this may cause penis cancer.& You'd better rush off the smegma with a slim beam of water, and treat your glans with antibiotic, and pull back the forskin and expose& the glans& & for some days.& After& the pain& of touch disappears, you wash your glans and foreskin with & water everyday . & | 2008-08-07 02:21:45 |
| 906 | 5978 | i dont think i have like bacteria i mean it doesnt hurt when i urinate or anything like that. and not its like like blue the color its more of a blue like when u get a bruise... like that kinda blush purple. ive began to throw water on the tip head ever day.. is that enough? or do i have to do the full head? ive been practicing puling it back when pee.. then putting it back up.. is that enough to get used to it? or do i have to actually walk around with the head exposed? | 2008-08-07 12:49:49 |
| 906 | 5984 | You mean the purple& circle at the& part& of glans whose diameter is the& longest& . I think that's& normal pigment. I want to know whether it is pain (more than sensitive)& when any solid stuff, e.g., finger, underwear, etc,& touches the exposed glans. My suggestion of rushing off smegma with a beam of water lies on the supposition that the glans hurts when touch.& If this is not the case, you can clean there with soap directly and do this everyday.& And pull back the forskin when urinate. | 2008-08-09 05:45:11 |
| 906 | 5989 | ok no it doesnt hurt when i urinate... when i expose the penis i can touch it a little but if i move my finger across it it hurts a bit... well not like pain more like a weird feeling. get me? its kinda like purpleish at the beginning of the head. where the skin rolls back furthest. ive thrown water on it and it hasnt gone away. so is it segma? ive showered with the head exposed and it doesnt hurt its a really funny "kinda like a tingly" feeling. im not comforatble with. im trying to get used to the feeling so i can wash it with soap. but i cant yet so i just rinse water on it | 2008-08-10 19:02:27 |
| 906 | 5990 | "i can touch it a little but if i move my finger across it it hurts a bit……but i cant yet so i just rinse water on it" & I think it is exactly the symptom of irritation. Normal glans and inner side of foreskin can undergo friction. That part is more sensitive than other parts of skin, but not so pain that cannot be rubbed. You should keep cleaning there. The normal state is that the glans and the inner part of foreskin can be rubbed without serious discomfort. & Was there any stinky smell out of the glans when you first exposed it? & " its kinda like purpleish at the beginning of the head. where the skin rolls back furthest. ive thrown water on it and it hasnt gone away. so is it sigma "& You should make sure whether it is embedded in the organ or just on the organ. Smegma stinks. It’s not hard to distinguish. If it is embedded, and not stinky, it’s not smegma and cannot be cleaned. | 2008-08-11 07:10:53 |
| 906 | 5994 | After reading all these posts, I just think it might be a bit easier if you actually consult a doctor about all of this. Yeah, it might be a little hard to talk to him/her about it at first, but know this, it isn't something that they haven't seen or talked about before. | 2008-08-18 16:00:35 |
| 906 | 6002 | Don't get too worried by it. My penis glans is blue often too and I'm unfortunately circumcised. It depends on the flow of blood through the entire penis shaft and glans. We are all different yet we are all the same. Since it is only recently you have been 'exposing' your glans to the 'outside world' it will be very tender to touch and difficult to see. similiar to the clitorus which is 'hidden' in a hood. If for your own peace of mind certainly ask and show to professionals who will be able to give you the correct information. Even seeing pics often helps. | 2008-08-21 00:31:01 |
| 927 | 6090 | Is it incestuous and against the law for a 45 year old widowed mother to have a lesbian relationship with her 22 year old daughter. Has anyone experience of such a situation | 2008-09-12 05:14:39 |
| 927 | 6091 | It's definitely incestuous, though whether it's against the law depends on where you& are at any given moment. | 2008-09-12 23:48:58 |
| 927 | 6092 | perhaps wiki can help? en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Laws_regarding_incest | 2008-09-13 21:28:43 |
| 936 | 6150 | What would be most helpful to me is to receive response's from those who have Penis's & have experienced what I'm asking about. I adore my Boyfriend of one year today... Yippy for us! But we're still having challenges with getting & maintaining erections. I have these questions & in asking him, his answers feel more like he's wanting to save face & make me feel comfortable. Which isn't a horrible thing to do, but won't much, help the situation. Never been in a relationship with this challenge & now being in one worth working this out for, here I am , looking for some perspectives. So my questions are, for those with erection disfunction. Do you feel the sensations of being turned on, when your penis is not erect, during sexual play? How would you describe the sensations without an erection? Do you never, more times than not, sometimes or always shut down sexually towards your Partner (not wanting or desiring further sexual stimulation), when you lose your erections during sexual intimacy? Do you want her to keep going, getting her needs met, what ever way she can, with your assistance? And would you/do you REALLY enjoy this? Or would you be going thru the motions, just to (in your mind) please her? Or would you rather get up & do anything else because you've lost interest & or sensation? Do you still feel horny, turned on, tinglies in your loins or otherwise when your penis has gone from hard to soft without your permission during sexual play? Do you still feel desire to touch or be touched sexually? When you lose your erection during sex play, do you lose your desire automaticly or does something else happen? And yes I want all you complete stranger guys, to tell me what he's thinking! No... I don't really expect that, but I think some different insights may be helpful or give us a better direction to go in. On another related issue... We asked his general Doctor about getting his Testosterone level checked when we first started dating a year ago & his Doctor laughed at him & assured him, because he is covered with an abundance of body hair, that His T. levels must be high. he sent him off with a perscription for 100 Viagra. At $10 a pop we got 10 lil' blue pills. He's one of the ones, it doesn't work for & got a massive headache (not the right head tho) We let the idea of testing go & we are going to have it checked now. We want to know for sure & get "maybe it's that" off the table. Please... Just some simple answers, from your own experience. Can a man have a lot of body hair & a low level of Testosterone? What kind of Doctor should he see for T. testing & other testing for erection disfunction? What exactly are the things he should be tested for? Hormones & other wise. Thank you... | 2008-10-09 17:00:00 |
| 936 | 6158 | Hmm Lovergirl, Doesn't seem like anyones up for responding. Could it be that your asking for that "feeling" aspect of the situation & the ones your asking here, just don't want to go there? I suggest you ask your questions, to the only one's who's answer's should be of importance to you... Your Boyfriend's. Ask him directly, no matter how uncomfortable it is for the 2 of you, to start & get thru those conversations. Your discomfort to speak to him directly may be a sign, of your own insecurities about getting your needs met & mirror the difficulties you had in previous relationships. You are at the 1 year mark & are having second thoughts about the relationship in general. If this aspect of a relationship is important to you & if what you want is a healthy, thriving sexual relationship & it's what you desire with this one. Then it is you that must go for it. Life is what (you) make it! You say you dig this guy & he digs you. You say the relationships good otherwise. You say he's willing to talk. So just do it! If the relationships ends, it was ment to. If the relationship continues, this will only make the 2 of you closer & more commited to each other. It's called communication, you should try it. It really works & if it doesn't you too will have your answers. Being a Woman myself, I can only imagine the fustration your BF must feel to be in the throws of passion with you & his "man tool" gets other plans. As you say he is willing to "finish you off", give the guy some credit for not being a wounded, frustrated selfish clod each time. Ask yourself "how does it feel when you have difficulty or can't orgasm. Imagine how that would be if it happened every time. Sounds like you need just a bit more compassion, but I can surely understand your side & the helpless fustration you must feel. You know how many guys would just roll over & not respond to you at all, or worse, lay it on you, that it was your fault somehow? Sounds like he's doing the best he can & you sound a lot more assertive about getting to the bottom of things. Get his hormones tested no matter what that first Doctor said. So you can at least take that off the table. In answer to your question of "does he still feel sexual sensations, desires & wantings when he loses his erection"? I read recently, "in most men erection difficulties, do not affect sex drive". If he's telling you, he does feels turned on & is attracted to you sexually, this is a good sign. Doesn't sound like he's not interested in sex or fighting you off tooth & nail as it's happening. Like me, you may not like being in the Teacher role, you may be aggressive like me sexually, but like the Man to be equally aggressive & get things started. So if you keep waiting for this one to be more aggressive at this point with his challenge, as you see, after a year it's not happening. There is so much pleasure & fun to be had just with mutual foreplay & it sounds like you will have to be the one to encourage these playtimes & keep encouraging them. Take erections & orgasms off the table for awhile & just explore each other. I wish you all the best, this guy sounds like a keeper & you, well you sound like a living doll! | 2008-10-11 13:17:55 |
| 936 | 6159 | Thank you Lovergirl, you sound like a living doll too! Thank you for your wisdom & ideas. I feel like my Boyfriend & I have very good communication, but this issue is a very sensitive one. It's one of those topic's that the meer talking about & bringing it up, can cause further problems & anxieties. No matter how sensitive the topic is approached, it never seems to go over well. Yes, you are very insightful. I am still a little shell shocked from a previous relationship I was in for almost 4 years that ended 3 years ago. He was very aggressive to me in a bad way. And any questions could set him off in a rage. There seems to be some part of me that is waiting for the other shoe to drop in this one. I need to get over that, this ones not of the same temperment or maturity & is emotionally available to work issues out in a calm way that isn't distructive to the relationship. The very groovy thing about making my post, is by writing it all out, I got in touch with a lot of stuff my self. And we did talk that night for several hours. He shared his feelings of disappointment about his erection disfunction in a way he hadn't before I got to ask him several point blank questions, I had confusion about, I got definite clarity about. Like do you still have sexual desire & feelings after he lost his erection & he said yes. This was important for me to know, that he wasn't just going thru the motions to please me after. Altho that wouldn't have been a horrible thing for him to do or ever do, I just wasn't understanding that one little (to me big) part. We both got to hatch out a plan of action, with his getting his Hormones tested being on the top of the list. There is more to every situation then meets the eye. And if I can't talk to my Partner about the things that effect me & effect us both, I'm only living a lie. Tip toeing around, walking on eggshells, not wanting to rock the boat like I have in other relationships. This one's worth, doing things a whole lot differently. I'll keep you posted Lovergirl. | 2008-10-11 13:50:49 |
| 936 | 6173 | I have considered how to respond to this post by looking at exactly how I would deal with this So my questions are, for those with erection disfunction. Do you feel the sensations of being turned on, when your penis is not erect, during sexual How would you describe the sensations without an erection ? My feelings with my penis is still very pleasurable in a flaccid state. Do you never, more times than not, sometimes or always shut down sexually towards your Partner (not wanting or desiring further sexual stimulation), when you lose your erections during sexual ? When I lose an erection through sexual intimacy it is caused from foreplay with my partner Do you want her to keep going, getting her needs met, what ever way she can, with your assistance? And would you/do you REALLY enjoy this? Or would you be going thru the motions, just to (in your mind) please ? I would really enjoy assisting her in in meeting the needs she required Or would you rather get up & do anything else because you've lost interest & or ? I never lose interest Do you still feel horny, turned on, tinglies in your loins or otherwise when your penis has gone from hard to soft without your permission during sexual play? Do you still feel desire to touch or be touched ? I can play for hours with my penis and even have it soft for a long while yet always be enjoying it When you lose your erection during sex play, do you lose your desire automatically or does something else ? losing an erection is not from losing my desire it is more to do with emotional, testosterone levels We asked his general Doctor about getting his Testosterone level checked when we first started dating a year ago & his Doctor laughed at him & assured him, because he is covered with an abundance of body hair, that His T. levels must be high. he sent him off with a prescription for 100 . I would never take Viagra as I still can get an erection, same as your bf and side effects are too troublesome Can a man have a lot of body hair & a low level of ? I am not sure I doubt it though What kind of Doctor should he see for T. testing & other testing for erection ? phsychologist It is more about getting to know ones-self What exactly are the things he should be tested for? Hormones & other & relaxation and mental stability, knowing and believing in his own body I will give more feep thought before answering the rest of posts.. Enjoy | 2008-10-18 06:47:03 |
| 936 | 6179 | Can a man have a lot of body hair & a low level of T There are genetical factors& that influence the amount of body hair. For example,& many men of & Mongolian race have less body hair than many white women. You can't say that she has more testosterone than him. | 2008-10-22 08:42:46 |
| 936 | 6181 | [user=8277]plurabelle[/user] wrote: "Can a man have a lot of body hair & a low level of T There are genetical factors that influence the amount of body hair. For example, many men of  Mongolian race have less body hair than many white women. You can't say that she has more testosterone than him. " And I wonder if the reason anyone "can't say" this is, because in your example, you are comparing a (Man's) with a (Woman's) T levels? I could understand your point, if you were comparing a Mongolian (Man) & a White (Man) for the genetic factor. | 2008-10-23 10:44:41 |
| 936 | 6183 | & :shock:...What I meant is that: an Asian man, who has more testosterone, can have less body hair than a white woman who has less testoterone. Thus & the effect of genetics is& shown to be& conspicuous. | 2008-10-25 22:28:31 |
| 943 | 6198 | Hi, When I ejaculate after masturbation, i notice that there are yellow clots in my sperm. is this normal? thanks a lot | 2008-11-04 12:11:38 |
| 943 | 6261 | If you are young it probably doesn't mean anything.& Don't worry about it.& Just keep doing it!& It will change. | 2008-11-15 02:48:17 |
| 954 | 6293 | Story Highlights Viagra helped 25 million men with erectile dysfunction and bring awareness Blue pill considered a huge step in understanding human sexuality, cultural attitudes ED indicates other health issues and that blood vessels aren't working well Viagra isn't a cure-all, some sex problems are indicative of relationship problems (CNN) -- Before middle-aged men started singing "Viva Viagra" in TV ads, before former Sen. Bob Dole appeared in its commercials in the '90s, before the blue pill with a funny name entered the public lexicon, impotence was hush-hush. Viagra entered the market 10 years ago, bringing once taboo subjects like erectile dysfunction out in the open. Now there's no getting away from it. In-boxes are clogged daily with spam mail promising cheap and instant manliness delivered fast and in bulk. Couples exchange amorous, come-hither looks followed by a lengthy recitation of side effects on TV ads. The pill helped more than 25 million men get their groove back and blasted the topic of erectile dysfunction into the open. "It's like the nuclear explosion," said Dr. Irwin Goldstein, director of Sexual Medicine at Alvarado Hospital in San Diego, California. "It created sexual medicine. It allowed the taboo to be broken." Since the diamond-shaped blue pill debuted 10 years ago, it has become embedded in the public psyche, late-night television jokes and urologists' offices. "It is one of the revolutionary steps in sexual health," said Dr. Ira Sharlip, spokesman for the American Urological Association. "It ranks with the changes in cultural attitudes about sexuality that were started by [Sigmund] Freud, continued by [William] Masters and [Virginia] Johnson, the two researchers in the '60s, and the work that [Alfred] Kinsey did in the '40s. "These were the huge steps in the development of our understanding of human sexuality and cultural attitudes of sex." Men seldom talked about their bedroom troubles before the U.S. Food and Drug Administration approved [url=topics.cnn.com/topics/Viagra/]Viagra as the first oral medication for erectile dysfunction in 1998. "We lamented the fact that the men had so much shame about erectile dysfunction, how rarely anyone came for medical attention," said Dr. Abraham Morgentaler, an associate clinical professor of urology at Harvard Medical School. Penis injections and vacuum pumps were available, but these treatments weren't appealing. Men with medical conditions such as diabetes, prostate cancer, hyper cholesterol, endocrinological and cardiovascular problems weren't able to enjoy sex, Goldstein said. "People who couldn't enjoy intimacy before have been given a second life...." he said. "We have had a better life because of it." Viagra increases blood flow to the penis, enabling a man to have an erection. The drug does not induce desire and works when the man is sexually aroused, according to Pfizer, the makers of Viagra. Urologists heard from patients who had tried the pill that Viagra made them feel as if they were 20-year-olds again. Anti-[url=topics.cnn.com/topics/Impotence/]impotence drugs [url=topics.cnn.com/topics/Levitra/]Levitra and [url=topics.cnn.com/topics/Cialis/]Cialis have come along since. "Along with the birth control pill in the '60s, this pill really changed people, society and medicine," Goldstein said. "It changed the patient-physician relationship. You can walk in and ask about sexual functions. It was a major taboo at some point." Dr. Gerald Melchiode, a Texas psychiatrist, agreed that the pill has helped men open up about their [url=topics.cnn.com/topics/Sexual_and_Reproductive_Health/]sexual health, but finds the commercials a bit much. "I've never run across men singing about their impotency," he said. Since Viagra's appearance on the market, the dialogue about sexual dysfunctions has helped doctors identify other health problems in their patients, doctors say. "You always hear someone drops dead,"said Dr. Chris Steidle, a urologist who wrote the book "Sex and the Heart." "It's not sudden death if you couldn't get an erection. It's a symptom of a heart condition. You wouldn't ignore a stroke, but you would ignore erectile dysfunction -- it's a significant symptom." The man's penis is like "the tip of the iceberg" or "the canary in the mines," which serve as an indicator of overall health, Morgentaler said. "There's now good evidence that shows that men with ED who have no other symptoms of anything are at increased risk for heart attacks and strokes," he said. Thousands of studies have been conducted on Viagra. "The pill that thrills" is also being studied to see whether it gives athletes an edge in competition. It's been studied to see whether it helps women with their sexual health. Despite the deluge of attention, Viagra doesn't work for about 25 percent to 35 percent of men with erectile dysfunction. For others, it has revitalized and strained marriages. Experts say Viagra gave a window into the psyche of men and women. Some complain that sex should be spontaneous and that popping a pill ruins the romance. Eating food decreases the potency of Viagra, and some say the pill forces them to go on a schedule. Another complaint: Having to use Viagra makes a spouse or partner feel undesirable. "Sometimes their spouse personalizes it," said Melchiode. "Why does he have to take this pill? Aren't I attractive enough? Aren't I sexy enough for him? That's not unusual for the partner." Even when Viagra is effective, some men realize that it's not the magic bullet that solves their problems with intimacy, doctors said. Only about half refill their prescription. "One has to think beyond just giving a pill to cure sexual problems," Melchiode said. "A typical example is a couple where there's been problems over the years and they can't deal with the problems on a verbal level, so they start withdrawing from one another. They build up a resentment and anger, they have trouble being close to one another and having sex with each other. Just giving them a pill isn't going to touch on all the problems of the resentment and anger." Sex, it turns out, is part of a bigger web of relationship issues. Morgentaler, author of "The Viagra Myth," said: "It's unrealistic that there's a pill that fixes all of these things." | 2008-12-10 19:56:40 |
| 967 | 6367 | I posted this in the Female Sexuality forum but I thought this would be a good topic to bounce off the guys as well: I don't know if anyone out there has heard or read anything about the tantric and taoist teachings on sex. These have many men frantically with-holding their semen, denying themselves orgasm, practicing retrograde ejaculation (into the bladder), prostate milking and all kinds of weird things to save up their sexual fluid and the apparent energy it has. Course I've also heard of a lot of prostate damage being the result of this. I came across an interesting thing on the web called KSMO (Key Sounds for Multiple Orgasms) and you have to give them money to unlock the screts of the ages that are supposedly our birthright. Ahem. It's some kind of masturbational meditation that involves nipple stimulation and apparently making noise. (Would be strange for me, I'm deathly silent in bed) But anyway, they have a very interesting forum and their users (if they're not all the same person) seem to have found a way to not ejaculate (the males) but have multiple energy orgasms. And females are having them too, claiming they're much better than those by direct stimulation. Now part of this "practice" as they call it involves a period of orgasm abstinance in order to feel these subtle energy sensations. So I want to know what the fug is going on! I don't want to pay some shmuck for his crazy recordings. If he can figure it out, I'm sure it could be figured out. As I said on my other thread, the closest I've come to reaching anything like the states these KSMO users describe has been through intense stimulation. If you feel like checking it out on the web and letting me know if you have any insights about it, let me know. I'm not trying to sell anything, I am in fact very skeptical about this and am only bringing it up here for discussion. I read an amazing account from some guy who claims to have two 2-hour masturbation sessions each week and allows himself orgasm only every 4 months. What is it like to live like that? I try to imagine... always feel like I fall short somehow. I'd be afraid, like I'd go out of my mind and become a raving loon... or go join the ducks down and the pond thinking I've become one of them... something like that. Yet the curiosity almost makes me want to try it. What if there are much higher levels of sexual feeling that I have yet to experience? I also read something that sounded absolutely perposerous, that a "sexually continent" woman has control over her sexual and menstral fluids. HOOOOOWWWW???? So to wrap up, has anyone encountered any intense "energy" experiences either through stimulation or denial of orgasm? Any meditation tips that might help me experience hands free (I'd be happy with nipple only) orgasms? Any guidance at all would be helpful, even sharing experiences that we may study this together. I do beleive there is something to the human sexual energy and that it is powerful, but it's hard to sort through the bs about it. | 2009-01-07 19:56:56 |
| 967 | 6368 | The short answer is "no." I'm more interested in the emotional connection and the physical act. What you are describing doesn't sound interesting to me, actually, and might well be BS. They want money - that's a clue right there. Sounds to enable multiple orgasm? I'm a skeptic. | 2009-01-08 05:36:02 |
| 967 | 6370 | Me too. | 2009-01-08 14:56:02 |
| 970 | 6387 | What would be the best kind of Doctor, for my Boyfriend to visit, who is experiencing the lack of ability to get or keep an erection. His General HMO Doctor gave him a perscription for 100 Viagra & patted him on the back. He kinda laughed when he said "with all that hair on your body, Lack of Testosterone , is not your problem". I think the medical field can do us just a little bit better. I insisted his T levels be tested. And when he went in for just a simple blood test, I added an extra check in the Testosterone box. The numbers came back 529, nurse said it was right in the middle & you couldn't ask for more. Well I can only tell you folks, more, is exactly what I want!!! Sex, for me, is like oxygen... And it has only been a problem when I'm not gettin any! My fear is, yes he had the test, but maybe he didn't have the right test, since I checked the box & not his Doctor? I just want to take hormones off the list, so we can get to the bottom of this. Can ya hear me Brothers & Sisters? So for those that have actually gone thru this testing. That would really be most helpful. What do we ask for & what type of Doctor would better serve the needs of the penis & erection disfunction. I heard there was something called "free levels" & other stuff within the T. It made me feel like the number 529 was only part of the story. I don't know everything, fill me in. I would really hate to think, that all it took to reave him up & get that bad boy pumpin me ,was a friggin patch & I didn't try just a little bit harder, to get us both help. Sure it could be other things & we'll go there, when we get there. I wanna start here & know for sure about the Hormones. Viagra & others make him queesy & head achey. Fun huh. When your trying to get into it? Please help, I'm starting to peel the paint off the walls! :} | 2009-01-14 20:26:51 |
| 970 | 6389 | There are all kinds of causes of erectile dysfunction that have nothing to do with testosterone.& Also, sex doesn't always have to involve his penis.& Try looking at the bigger picture rather than just picking one point and focusing on it. | 2009-01-14 21:31:21 |
| 970 | 6391 | Hi Lovergirl, Well, I think you're on the right track in wanting to check out his health over all. Viagara is not a good solution, it's giving him the side effects you've mentioned and it also damages the vision of some men. I'd advise he not take the rest of them and put them aside. You and he need to look after his overall health, is he eating enough vegetables and a balanced diet, drinking fresh water, getting enough sunlight and exercise? Dfs is right too. While it is important to think about his health and well being, putting too much pressure on him to get erections could do far more to hinder than to help. You can still make love without an erection and one way is through oral sex. I've made a guy come without an erection from oral so it certainly can be done. Even just caressing and holding each other will have an emotional bonding and healing effect for both of you. If you can make him feel loved and safe even without the erection you're setting up a very healthy environment for him to recover in. Also keep living, loving, playing and laughing. They do wonders too. Don't concentrate too much on his problem or his possible illness. I should mention here that certain drugs such as antidepressants can cause erectile dysfunction and so can the additives put into municipal water. If he has a sensitivity to these chemicals, clean water could be all he needs. Be leery of drug treatments, this is most likely a toxicity issue or he may be under stress. So use this as an opportunity to get more creative, and closer in bed and just keep loving. Sounds like you care about him a lot and you get a pat on the back from me for not taking viagara as a final answer. | 2009-01-14 23:25:21 |
| 970 | 6393 | [user=374]dfs3[/user] wrote: "There are all kinds of causes of erectile dysfunction that have nothing to do with testosterone. Also, sex doesn't always have to involve his penis. Try looking at the bigger picture rather than just picking one point and focusing on it. " Your reply post is not helpful to me. Tell me somethings I don't know! I did not feel that I gave the impression that I didn't fully understand there could be other possible reasons for his "erectile dysfunction" As I stated, I thought clearly. "I just want to get hormones off the list". And so yeah, I dig this guy & he digs me & together we're going to pick one thing at a time on the list of possible reasons for his ED & we are going to focus on it. Not like the pussy footing around, we've both been doing this last year. And we're going to educate ourselves. We're not going to slap a Viagra on it & call it a day. Our goal is to fix this wagon! Or find out, one way or another. Just like we all do, in every other area of our lives. "What the heck, is really going on"? After a year and 3 months, of not only "trying" to look at the bigger picture as you suggest, but (both) doing so in a variety of ways. Here let me name a few... Talking about it Not talking about it Sex therapist (one visit, she said we just need to explore more) exploring, exploring, exploring, exploring, and exploring some more!!!!! Me on line for endless hours, reading everything I can, on the subject Waiting for him to make the first move Complimenting him on every good thing he does Ignoring to the best of my ability, when things go astray Taking the lead, being the aggressor Toys, oils & sexy undies Polite instruction & more direct instruction sending sexy texts & emails asking him, what excites him, he says everything I do, well thats helpful! Being uptight about it, being relaxed about it And about a ka-zillion other things, that all point to the "bigger picture". And as selfish as it may sound, the worst thing I keep doing is... Being so sensitive to his male ego on this topic, that I've had drilled into my head. That many of my own important & vital, emotional & physical needs & desires that I have, have been set aside, for now heading towards 2 years. Really how could they not help, but be. The heathy part of me, is speaking up. And I do wonder, should we go on, with such differing appetites. And you are singing to the choir with me, when you say "sex doesn't always have to involve a penis" Some of the best sex I've had, with a previous lover didn't involve a penis", because of his lower back problems. We've had this talk often. He wants it, he thinks about it. I am the last to know. My 43 year old guy is saying one thing & doing another. He and I have been doing little more than looking at the bigger picture, when it comes to this. And until you've walked a mile in "our" satin sheets, I'm looking for answer's & solutions, not judgement calls... What I need are some simple answers to my simple questions, by some "fellas' out there, who have been there, or close to it & can do that for me. Provide for me, who to go to & what to ask for. My writing style may come across as sassy to some, but I just gotta keep a sense of humor about this. Makes the trip a little easier. I know someone has some really good answers for me, to the questions I asked... This topic as far as I have seen is not discussed much. From a Woman's or Partners perspective. It's a sensitive one. You talk about it you *uck things up, you ignore it & don't talk about it, you *uck things up... And sure there's a way to do it... We're working on that. :} | 2009-01-15 00:23:47 |
| 970 | 6394 | Hi Lolitalynn, Thank you so much for taking the time & listing all your creative, loving, thoughtful ideas. This would have been the perfect reply had I not already known of all these great ideas, or had not been living them, exactly at full tilt, for the last 13 months with my guy. Your response, as was the other poster, seemed to look beyond the questions I was spacificly asking about. "What kind of Doctors & what kind of tests". And both kinda went in some other direction. I post about this & little more. I didn't want to write another epic, just short & simple, just about one aspect of it. He's a healthy, 6'2 185 Tennis playing fool. Low fat, no drink, no smoke, no drugs, lots of water, lifts weights, has a over all positive attitude. And I gotta tell you, the more you ignore this or anything else, the bigger it gets. And as I have said many times. "Sex like oxygen.. is only a problem if your not getting any"... But I do thank you. Your words validation that "we" have been doing all the right things, as we fummble along. I don't have this guy duct taped to a chair, with a spot light in his face yelling "why can't you get it up"? We are a couple, going thru this together...Trying as best we can, to create a soft place to fall, as we crash into one another. | 2009-01-15 01:17:30 |
| 970 | 6398 | Hi Lovergirl, I'm sorry I was not more helpful in my reply and I'm really sorry that I don't have a better answer for your question although it's a very important one to be asking. The thought crossed my mind that an endocrinologist may be the way to go to eliminate a hormonal imbalance as the cause of his trouble. Of course you want to know what to ask and insist upon before you go in and I really wish I knew what to tell you! javascript:emoticon(':(',%20'images/emoticons/sad.gif') I really do appreciate your concern for the well being of this man that you obviously love and you are commendable for not taking the medical industry quick fix as an answer. You're so right to not ignore it and look for the deeper cause. I wish you the very best in your efforts and him in his recovery. So does anyone out there have any answers for this? What kind of Doctors & what kind of tests should they ask for? P.S. I like your sense of humor. The bit about having him duct taped to a chair had me laughing out loud. | 2009-01-16 06:15:04 |
| 970 | 6504 | Lovergirl, I thought I would chime in as I am currently going through a similar situation. I have the same& “limp dick†(LD) symptoms you mentioned, I thought that allot of bicycle riding may have caused my problem which started 8 years ago, my urologist did a testosterone test and said everything was ok, and told me if Viagra works then don’t sweat it , but a Viagra hard on is not the same and I no longer can hang a towel on my penis. I think my wife actually liked the fact that we have less sex , I also& think the “less sex†has caused a big problem in the health of my marriage. About a year ago I told my doctor that my marriage was suffering and I needed to know what was wrong and if anything can be done, she performed another testosterone test and the result indicated that I was WAY deficient. I asked why is the results of your test was so different form my urologists tests, she said that she ordered a& different type of& than the “standard†testosterone test. She proscribed a testosterone replacement therapy called Androgel, this is a jelly like stuff that I had to rub into my stomach area every day. Unfortunately 8 weeks of this did not result in an increase of testosterone levels. Currently I am getting testosterone injections every 2 weeks, test results (and the “hard on†test) indicate that this type of treatment is working as my testosterone levels are now in the 700 level (up from less than 100) it has made a big(pun) difference, Now my problem is that my wife has no labito and I& have to satisfy my self to celebrate my capability. My doctor wants me to continue the injections for another 6 months to confirm that the levels are correct then I want to try a patch type of& testosterone replacement therapy, the shots are administrated in my butt and they do hurt for a while. I assume that the reason my levels were so low is that due to a miss diagnosis I lost my left testical about 10 years ago because it became infracted, it was about two years after that that I became depressed and started using antidepressants, this was thought to be the cause of my LD syndrome. & Hopefully this info will help you guys not wait for years as I did. :P | 2009-02-17 14:50:36 |
| 972 | 6402 | I am a sixteen-year-old boy, and I have had some trouble with these issues for some time. I am only about three months from my seventeenth birthday, and I have been masturbating since I was 13. Even then, when I first started masturbating, it was not difficult to hurt myself masturbating. The pain wouldn't occur exactly at the time I was masturbating, but instead later. Even when I masturbate gently, my penis will be sore for hours after my orgasm. Now, it should be noted that I do and have masturbated very nearly every day, and often multiple times a day. I use my own saliva for lubrication (which I think is perhaps uncommon among males, but I don't believe that this is the cause of my problems). It doesn't hurt every time. Lately, I have noticed that I am able to masturbate a lot without becoming sore. However, yesterday, I tried using a wet washcloth, which I thought would be gentler, and at the time it felt good, but it seems to have rubbed parts of the head of my penis raw. Also, I have noticed that I am often unable to become erect without touching myself. This is not constant, sometimes I can become very nearly fully erect without touching myself, but other times I absolutely require manual stimulation in order to become erect. I am unsure how common this is, it might be normal, especially considering how often I masturbate, but I am under the impression that boys and men are supposed to be able to become fully erect strictly from visual or mental stimulus regardless of how often they masturbate. I have only one male friend of which to ask questions of this nature, and he is less sexually knowledgable than me, from what I have noticed, and atop that I don't speak to him often. I am not overly concerned about the lack of erection because lately I have been able to become erect just by thinking arousing thoughts, but the whole situation is rather bothersome to me. I don't like being sore or having to put up with soreness from masturbating. In addition, the head of my penis has turned a pinkish red color, presumably because the skin is irritated from being rubbed nearly every day, and often multiple times a day. Does anyone have any advice for any of these problems? Or any idea what might cause them? I have noticed another thing that might be related: I seem to have a skin condition which applies only to my hands. They turn red and dry out if I don't put lotion on them. This started just recently (within the past three years), but I have noticed skin sensetivity long before that. All in all, I don't think I have anything overly serious to worry about, but I would like to hear some other& people's ideas on all of this. | 2009-01-18 10:12:54 |
| 972 | 6409 | It is likely that you are simply over doing it, especially since you are 16 don't get a woody if an attractive girl or boy gets within 2 feet of you. :D Your dried and chapped hands may irritate your penis. There is a chance you have a skin condition that irritates your penis, or have a oral yeast infection, that is transferred from your mouth to your hands, to your penis. So you might have your hands looked at by a doctor, and if there is a problem, relate the problem with your penis. Your saliva could be irritating your penis, so need to wash your penis after masturbating. Try using something other than saliva as a lubricant, a mild soap in the shower, vegetable oil, etc. Lotions may contain perfumes and the like that could irritate your penis. This means your current hand lotion could be the cause. If you use any type of chemical or cleaner, that gets on your hands, this could irritate your penis. You can buy latex or Nitrile surgical gloves at your local pharmacy, or a doctor or nurse by be able to give you some to try. Brad | 2009-01-19 16:55:22 |
| 972 | 6440 | Thankyou, Brad. I should be seeing a doctor relatively soon, and I will ask about my hands then. I will try some of the other things you recommended and see if they help. | 2009-01-21 08:10:16 |
| 985 | 6483 | I am a male. I've had many dreams about going down on myself. Doesnt really take place in any one spot. At a party, with a woman, or just by myself.& And it always easy to suck it. I can would wake up and remember what it felt like in my mouth and throat. And of course gett off. | 2009-02-10 14:33:11 |
| 985 | 6527 | ive had this dream many times, its wierd because i dont remember its a dream for a while and then when im horny i remember i was sucking my own dick and for some reason it was really easy and then i remember it was a dream. | 2009-03-13 05:29:40 |
| 985 | 6938 | Hi! I'm a novice in the forum... And spanish, for you to know. Well, I think I've also had that kind of dream ever. Actually I don't know you, but I believe the cause of those dreams is that you need someone else in your live, that you feel alone. What do yo think about this? | 2009-12-08 08:31:18 |
| 1020 | 6658 | have noticed watching porn on the internet that some men have much, much more semen than others. what's the trick? | 2009-06-06 16:51:20 |
| 1020 | 6818 | Maybe they practice a lot... I found I ejaculated a smaller amount after a vasectomy. I don't know why. MAybe Brad has some ideas...? | 2009-08-30 01:02:12 |
| 1020 | 6844 | The volume of semen varies due to many factors. Some include, how long since previous ejaculation. Longer time during enables semen stocks to be replenished more. Also it changes from person to person. Pornographic actors generally seem to ejaculate endless buckets, not because their trained, but because that's what they do naturally. Its a bit like penis size. Your born with it. Men who ejaculate less would usually not be picked over men that ejaculate more | 2009-09-05 19:02:32 |
| 1030 | 6685 | what does it feel like for a guy to masturbate? Do you usually do it fast to get it over with because you are horny or do you prolong it? Is it like if a girl masturbates you or does it not feel like that? & melissa | 2009-07-04 23:06:30 |
| 1030 | 6696 | what does it feel like for a guy to masturbate? Do you usually do it fast to get it over with because you are horny or do you prolong it? Is it like if a girl masturbates you or does it not feel like that? It feels good similar to a girls feeling while masturbating. Having a ‘quickie’ is only useful if you need to ‘lessen the load’ I read where some guys can ‘fire away’ in a matter of seconds. To me this is not as enjoyable or stimulating. Presently I usually masturbate when I awake during my sleep with a very hard penis. I stimulate my erection by squeezing all over my penis and have very stimulating thoughts, dreams or wishes. By prolonging my erection I can have orgasmic feeling for a very long time which lead to thought and caressing. I avoid ejaculation to make the orgasmic feeling last longer. When ejaculation occurs it is the greatest feeling of all time and nothing in the world can stop it, which is the reason males have always masturbated. When I have a girl masturbate me it is enjoyable and the different methods are very stimulating. I like to notice how the girl gets satisfaction from her stroking methods. Full sexual stimulation, for me, is really best achieved when I masturbate myself. | 2009-07-07 21:27:53 |
| 1030 | 6706 | Maybe there are two differences. Guys need& visual stimulations (real or imagined) to maintain arousal.& When orgasms are imminent, guys can obviously feel some fluid is to eject and they usually use paper napkins to enwrap glans. (This feeling& usually makes adolescent boys think that they have enuresis). | 2009-07-19 04:49:04 |
| 1030 | 6713 | [user=8277]plurabelle[/user] wrote: "Maybe there are two differences. Guys need visual stimulations (real or imagined) to maintain arousal. When orgasms are imminent, guys can obviously feel some fluid is to eject and they usually use paper napkins to enwrap glans. (This feeling usually makes adolescent boys think that they have enuresis)." Hmmm. I suspect you are correct about the visual stimulation. But the word "usually" is not particularly accurate in my experience. Some ejaculate in their pants, some use a rag or sock, some spill onto their belly or floor (and clean up), etc etc. Also, I'm curious where you heard that boys feel as though they've wet themselves. I'm guessing you are female and don't have this experience for yourself. It certainly was not my experience as a boy. Perhaps other men can comment on this? | 2009-07-30 00:54:19 |
| 1030 | 6845 | I wouldn't say I feel like Ive wet myself, ejaculating to me seems like a unique feeling. I would compare it more to a release of a pressure build up in my crotch area, rather then just wetting myself. | 2009-09-05 19:06:44 |
| 1030 | 6858 | My& wording in the number 3 post& may not be& accurate. I admit many men like to ejaculate on something other than napkin. My core idea is that, if we& want& an& intelligible & representation of men's orgasm, those discriptions such as "whole body tenses up and shivers" or& "cannot really describe what i feel " are not satisfactory. Orgasm is a unique sense, but between different phenomena a more or less comparability exists. It's a question of identifying a better comparison.& & If you want an intelligible discription of men's orgasm, "the one feels like urination but more& intense& "& is much better, because both men and women know what urination feels and they also know what that kind of intensity feels& when they want to eject urine farther. | 2009-09-22 03:23:44 |
| 1030 | 6903 | I think ejaculation is far more intense than urination. Even if you've had to hold it for hours, ejaculation is far more intense... Seems to me to be some different muscles involved as well, with a sensation of explosive release rather than a gradual release of pressure as one urinates.& | 2009-10-18 21:00:22 |
| 1030 | 6908 | "& Seems to me to be some different muscles involved as well, with a sensation of explosive release rather than a gradual release of pressure as one urinates.& " I have searched some information. Ejaculation seems like this: when your main bulk of urine has been expelled, urination naturally stops.& But there are still& some residual urine. We consciously& drain& the residual urine. Then we will contract some special muscles in order to eject the residual out; this is like ejaculation but less intense. & | 2009-10-21 05:06:19 |
| 1030 | 6940 | I'm sorry. This thread has been strayed from the topic by my initiation of talking about what orgasm feels. Back to the original question: what does it feel like for a male to masturbate. 1. Unlike women, pressure alone is not sufficient for a man to have pleasant senses. & Many women discover masturbation by accidental pressures on their genitals, this pressure alone, without any erotic thought or scene accompanied, can make women or young girls feel pleasant. But accidental pressures against men's flaccid penises alone won't make men pleasant. Men must arouse first; then pressing against the underside of the glans can be pleasant. The arousal is induced mainly by sight or imagination of some erotic scenes, not by the pressure itself. 2. During the process of masturbation, men need the erotic scenes or ideas in order to maintain the state of arousal, and thus maintain a viable state for masturbation to proceed. Therefore men usually can't masturbate with open eyes in public settings, because these scenes are not erotic and they also disturb men's mood. If men can't see erotic scene, then they have to masturbate with closed eyes for se xfantasies. If the actual environment is not agreeable, men would not want masturbation at all. & | 2009-12-12 21:34:11 |
| 1030 | 6953 | Of course man must use his hand& when masturbating, he can't squeeze his erect penis with legs, therefore man can't masturbate in public settings& free from& others' notice. | 2009-12-18 21:02:38 |
| 1032 | 6691 | Abstract: Introduction.& While vibrating products have been recommended by clinicians for the treatment of male sexual dysfunctions, knowledge is lacking with regard to the prevalence of vibrator use among men in the United States, the characteristics of men who use vibrators, and whether there are relations between vibrator use and sexual function among men. Aims.& To establish lifetime and recent prevalence rates for vibrator use by men in the United States, to document the characteristics of men who use vibrators and their reasons for using vibrators, and to explore relations between men's vibrator use and sexual function. Methods.& During April 2008, data were collected from a population-based cross-sectional survey of 1,047 men aged 18–60 years in the United States. Analyses were conducted using poststratification data weights. Main Outcome Measure.& Measures included sociodemographics, health status and health-related behaviors, sexual behaviors, vibrator use, and sexual function. Results.& For both solo and partnered sexual activities, the prevalence of men who had incorporated a vibrator into sexual activities during their lives was 44.8%, with 10.0% having done so in the past month, 14.2% in the past year, and 20.5% over 1 year ago. Men who had used vibrators, particularly those with more recent use, were more likely to report participation in sexual health promoting behaviors, such as testicular self-exam. Men who had used vibrators recently also scored higher on four of the five domains of the International Index of Erectile Function (erectile function, intercourse satisfaction, orgasmic function, and sexual desire). Conclusions.& Among men in the United States, vibrator use during solo and partnered sexual interactions is common and is associated with a wide array of positive sexual health characteristics. Future research should continue to explore ways in which men incorporate vibrators into solo sexual acts, partnered sexual play, and sexual intercourse. [url=www3.interscience.wiley.com/journal/122363570/abstract] www3.interscience.wiley.com/journal/122363570/abstract | 2009-07-05 11:40:45 |
| 1047 | 6784 | As a silver surfer of considerable age who finds women of similar age have lost interest in sex, can I say how much I appreciate the beautiful women& both young and the few mature ones& who are kind enough& to show their beautiful bodies on the net. Particularly those prepared to spread their legs wide and show the beautiful flower between them, (the orchid is a very appropriate logo for this site) I am amazed at how wonderfully different vulvas they& are just like the various orchids. I regret I wasn't more observant when I was younger but I was brought up, as were the girls I knew, to believe sex was both dirty and ugly even when it was art. Please ladies continue to give us silver surfers pleasure | 2009-08-21 06:23:11 |
| 1047 | 6785 | Yes this site is good for that. I admit it's probably the friendliest forum i have been a member of - and i've been a member and moderated quite alot of sites. I think the advice given on this site is good and it is certainly a nice website to read and get helpful hints off. I'm glad there is such a website where we can tell others how we masturbate, without getting booted from the site! | 2009-08-21 21:40:20 |
| 1048 | 6786 | Who is using contraception? I've been using Depo for just over a year and i've had some ups and downs with it. I have to take a calcium tablet as they said because i am so young, it could damage my bones. | 2009-08-21 21:48:10 |
| 1049 | 6791 | how usual is it for even an experienced guy to come very fast when he enters a pussy? & Thanx, Melissa & | 2009-08-24 00:23:45 |
| 1049 | 6792 | depends on far too many circumstances to say. experience has little to do with how quickly a man comes and more to do with sensitivity and state of mind. | 2009-08-24 03:29:45 |