Question: Every time my boyfriend and I are engaged in intercourse, there is a liquid that comes out of my vagina. It is clear in color and comes out in heaps. My boyfriend and I don't know what it is and it gets very embarrassing for me. Please tell me what it is and if it is normal. I also have another problem. We find it very difficult for him to enter me. Is it because I'm not wet enough? Or is it because he is not hard enough? Or what? I want to know how to make it easier for him to enter.

Answer: It is probably your natural vaginal lubrication that is flowing from your vagina. Your vaginal lubrication should be clear and slippery. Many women get very "wet" when they are sexually aroused. I would not worry about it. It is normal for women to create a "wet spot." I recommend you relax and enjoy it.

It is also possible that some of the fluid is coming from your urethra and is called Female Ejaculation. This too is perfectly normal. You can read about this in the Orgasm section of the website.

Your vaginal and pelvic muscles may be a little too tight. When you masturbate, you might want to start inserting one to three fingers into your vagina to help stretch them. Learn to do Kegel exercises so you can relax your muscles to let him in. You can learn about Kegels by following the links on the Links page.

Do not place too much emphasis on intercourse. On some days only masturbate together, give each other a full body massage, or engage in oral sex. You will both likely find sex more enjoyable if you do.