Question: I am 17. I was told about this website from a friend who said it had some good information for girls. It has helped me a lot as I have been under a lot of stress. I am still a virgin, but my boyfriend would prefer that I was not. I think that I am not yet ready for sex and I have told him that. I do not know what else there is to say. I look forward to your reply.

Answer: If your boyfriend really cares for you and is concerned about your well being, he would not be putting pressure on you to be sexually active before you are ready. You need to tell him to accept you, as you are, a virgin who wants to be a virgin, or find someone else. When you look in the mirror in the morning, do you want to see virgin? That should be all that matters. Be firm and direct with him; do not leave any doubt as to your position on this.

Do not compromise yourself just to keep some guy happy. It is your body and spirit, if you do not respect them, who will? No guy is worth losing your self-respect over. Guys will come and go, but you will always have yourself.

There are a lot of seventeen-year-old girls and boys who are still virgins. There are more seventeen-year-old virgins today than there were five or ten years ago because being a virgin is more accepted by teens and their peers today. I receive questions from women in their mid-twenties who are virgins and proud of it. It is okay to be a virgin.

Please read the section on Virginity in the Intercourse section of the website if you have not already.