Question: How can I manully enlarge my penis? Can I do it with my hands or any exercising easy method?
Answer: The only non-surgical ways I know of to enlarge the penis are through vacuum pumping and stretching. Please see the products linked to below. In any event, it would likely take repetition and persistence to gain and measurable results. I don't believe there are any techniques that utilize only your hands, at least that are realistic.
http://www.drjoelkaplan.com/
Penis Pump
http://forums.newart.com/phpbb/index.php
Question: Unlike most girls here I'm wondering how I could get my clitoris large enough to be somehow able to penetrate my girlfriend. I am not unsure at all about my gender and I'm happy as female, but both of us are fantasizing of me penetrating her like a man. A strap-on is an option, but I would like to feel it skin to skin. Is it possible? I tried to search information on genderbender, lesbian and intersex forums but didn't find anything. All the info about clit pumps and stuff is about how the woman feels when a man is penetrating HER.
Can you help us?
Answer: The only way I know of to significantly increase the size of the clitoris is
through testosterone injections, or testosterone cream applied directly to
the clitoris. Even then, your clitoris would likely only be 5 cm ( 2 inches) in length,
and I don't know if that is long enough to permit vaginal penetration. There
would probably be side affects you wouldn't want, like increased body hair.
You can research information on Female to Male Transsexuals (FTM), and
female bodybuilders who use steroids, to learn more.
I don't know if it would actually work, but applying a clit pumping cylinder to your clitoris, and slipping a hollowed dildo or penis extension over it,
may allow you to feel as though you are having intercourse with your
partner. You could place a bullet style vibrator inside the cylinder or
dildo to provide you with additional stimulation you desired.
Question: For some reason, I can't get aroused sexually any more. I am 18. When I was 15-16, I used to get aroused all the time, I had a high sex drive and I masturbated almost every day. When I was 17 or so, it gradually disappeared. I can't think of any reason for this, apart from that I was quite depressed, though if I'm honest, I was quite like that even when I was 15/16, depressed etc. However, I went on the pill about May this year, and it all came back, I started getting aroused again, and started masturbating... despite the fact that I was on a pill which reportedly lowers sex drive (dianette/co-cyprindiol). I was on it for 3 months, after that I forgot to collect it from the doctor again, and my sex drive went away again. Anyway, I have now moved to university, went to get the pill from a different doctor, it's dianette but a different brand, and it has had no effect on me. I'm really down about this - why don't I get aroused any more? What is wrong with me?! Please reply.
Answer: In a recently added Q&A, linked to below, a woman mentions experiencing a
positive change in her sexual responses when she started taking the Pill.
The Pill has a wide range of possible side effects, because each woman tends
to be unique, but the prescription isn't.
qa_44.htm#q6
The website linked to below says one potential side effect of Dianette is "depressed mood," so it is possible this time it increased your feelings of
depression. You may need to discuss this with the prescribing doctor,
especially if the two prescribed Pills aren't exactly the same. You may need
to call your prior doctor and find out exactly what you were taking in May,
and request the same now.
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/medicines/100000754.html
If you started taking the pill in May because you had a partner and were
engaging in partnered sex, or were contemplating the idea of partnered sex,
this may have been the reason for the return of your sexual desire. You may
have felt more attractive and as a result were more receptive to sex. In May
you may have been completing high school and were looking forward to moving
forward with your life, to freedom, but moving from home and attending
university is often very stressful, and could cancel the positive effects
the Pill may have had prior.
A news report here in the States indicates colleges here are seeing a
increase in students seeking out psychological counseling, and perhaps the
same is the true in the UK. We are living in very stressful times. Perhaps
you need someone to talk to, especially since you are living in a totally
new environment. Your school may have counseling and support groups
available. I've also heard that blogging can help a bit, as you can express
your true feelings.
If you are feeling stressed, you may have to take steps to reduce it. Be
sure to get some exercise, eat well, and get adequate sleep. Find some quiet
time if possible, in the library or shower. If your class load is
overwhelming, you may want to consider reducing it a bit.
There are support organizations in the UK for those feeling depressed:
http://www.depressionuk.org/
http://www.clinical-depression.co.uk/
Question: I had labia reduction surgery. And after the surgery my labia still remains sensitive but I never get aroused and my orgasms are weak and I don't have pleasurable sensation anymore. Do you think that the surgery takes away pleasure and damages the brain permanently?
Answer: I'm not a doctor, but physically I don't see why the surgery should adversely affect sexual desire and orgasm. Your hormones should still be the same as they were before surgery, and the nerves for your clitoris and other erogenous zones shouldn't have been affected. I believe, psychological factors are more likely to be the cause. Body and self image before and after the surgery would be my guess, based on what little I know of your experience.
Question: Hey, I'm 15. I bled after I masturbated. The blood didn't come right after I masturbated but it came the next day and I had my period a week before. The blood looks like a period blood at first but when I checked it in the evening, it's brown and I didn't bleed very much too. I didn't do any fingering or put anything into my vagina and I'm not that rough when I masturbate so I don't think I tore my hymen... I think... So what's up?
Answer: I'm not a doctor so I cannot provide a medical diagnosis, only general
information.
My guess is that the spotting had nothing to do with your masturbating, as
injuries to your vulva would have been readily apparent at the time. I
suspect it was mid cycle bleeding or spotting. I can only suggest that you
read through the articles the following Google search finds, and consult a
doctor if you still have concerns.
http://www.google.com/webhp?hl=en#hl=en&source=hp&q=mid+cycle+spotting+brown
Question: Hello. First of all, thank you for a wonderful site. I think you're doing a great and important work here.
I have this little issue. I think. I'm not sure where to start. I have a history of abuse. Sexual, physical, mental, you name it. I've had a lot of bad luck.
My parents physically and mentally abused me from a very young age until I moved away, at which point I entered a series of really bad relationships. The last one, a three year relationship that ended two years ago was undoubtedly the worse. He abused me in public, threw me into the street when I argued against him, and he also raped me. And when it wasn't actual rape he made it clear that a no wouldn't be acceptable, that I had no right denying him his desires. It took me some time but when I finally walked away I made up my mind to never have sex again. In the time since I haven't, and I haven't even missed it, rather just felt relief that it is now MY decision and my body is mine on my conditions. The idea of having sex again appalls me, my body cramps up with the thought of it, and I feel physically ill. On the few occasions when I've tried to masturbate (which in one way might be considered useless as I never had an orgasm in my life, and I don't even know what to expect, so it could be seen as just wasting my time). I've experienced intense, acidy burning pain around and inside my vagina. I can't even insert as much as a finger, and even when not attempting to masturbate I can't even use tampons because it hurts too much. And this haven't really been a problem to me, as with all my past experiences I more or less don't have a sex drive to speak of. But now I met this man, and all of a sudden it does matter. Not that he minds that I'm generally asexual, he respect this, and respect my history and don't want to pressure me to anything, but for once I actually want to have sex. I find him attractive. But the problem is, I just cant. There is no way. It hurts too much. I can't even be aroused without it hurting. This is all very frustrating for me, and I really don't know what to do. Because right now I actually feel like having sex, but my body just can't. I don't know how to get past this, or what to do. I also feel very ambivalent, because I still have the "sex is appalling" feelings, so this makes me feel very conflicted about what I want, or what I think I should do, as one part of me also wants to try to move on.
So, question. Why does it hurt so much? What is happening with my body? And is there ways pass this? Or have I just been screwed up beyond repair and should take up knitting instead? Is it possible to actually loose your capability to have sex?
Also, a lot of times after I have had sex in the past I get like a mini version of menstrual pains in my lower back for an hour or two afterwards, and sometimes even bleedings, which also makes me hesitant to want to try having sex again, as that have proven to be quite a bother in the long run. Why is it that happens?
Thank you for your time and I apologize if I'm bothering you with nonsense questions.
Answer: The pain may be caused by a condition caused vaginismus. I mention it in the article linked to below. This article may also help you determine the cause of the pain, even though you have engaged in intercourse multiple times.
A Guide to Locating the Vagina and Determing the Cause of Vaginal Pain
Here are links to additional information on the subject:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vaginismus
http://www.womentc.com/content.php
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vaginismus
Several men and women have asked about similar situations, though I believe without the history of abuse.
If the pain occurred only during actual penetration then hymeneal remnants may be the cause, or vulvar vestibulitis. Vestibulitis may be caused by vaginismus, as a result of friction during sexual intercourse.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vulvar_vestibulitis
Based on your comments, I don't recommend you try to explore partnered sex, and you both may need to seek counseling. With your boyfriend, you might explore intimacy building exercises like body massage, but only if you don't experience sexual arousal that results in pain.
There are support groups in the UK:
http://www.google.com/search?q=uk+sex+abuse+rape+support+group
With a supportive partner and appropriate counseling I believe you can discover and enjoy your sexuality, but it may be a challenging journey, one in which you may require the support of multiple people.
You should share this information with your boyfriend.
Question: If a man got operated for vasectomy, will he ejaculate? (will the thick white substance come out from the penis)? also what are the effects or side effects of that operation in male?
Answer: A vasectomy prevents sperm from getting from the testicles to the prostate gland, but the
prostate will still produce and release its fluids during ejaculation. This
means that while the contents of your ejaculate will change, you will still
ejaculate during orgasm.
There are many websites that address the potential side effects, as the
following Google search reveals.
http://www.google.com/webhp?hl=en#hl=en&source=hp&q=vasectomy+side+effects
Question: Bit of a weird question. I was wondering if the vagina is meant to emit a particular smell when you are sexually aroused?
I don't notice it in myself that much, but I remember when I first started having sexual thoughts (before I discovered masturbation) I was lying in bed one day fantasizing and getting very wet. And my bedroom became very stuffy and smelt like "arousal"... what is this smell exactly?
Answer: In the wild male animals often use their nose to determine which females are receptive to sex, and this principle likely applies to humans as well, though socially we may not want to acknowledge this animal magnetism. In the wild, some animals can smell a receptive female who is located miles away.
When you become sexually aroused your body temperature and production of sweat and vaginal lubrication increases. The body heat gets molecules moving about more energetically, and the bacteria that produce some smells have more to feed on, sweat and vaginal lubrication. During puberty our body begins producing increased amounts of body fluids, which results in stronger body scents, and if we don't bath regularly, stronger smells. In addition, our bodies produce scents and pheromones to indicate our current reproductive state.
As I mention in the article about hygiene, the vulva should have a distinctive scent, which is not the same thing as a smell. Your vulva should have a scent that is different from other areas of your body. I've heard, but haven't confirmed, men are sexually aroused by the scent of a woman's vulva.
Feminine Hygiene: Care of Your Vulva and Vagina: Scent
The following article addresses The Scent of Sex:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/smell-life/200902/the-scent-sex
The author of this article has a book, and a review of it says the following, on Amazon.com:
"Herz, a Brown University professor specializing in the psychology of smell, demonstrates that this sense is vital to our well being-so important to mental and physical health that its loss can drive some people to suicide. Herz explores the relationships between scent, emotion and behavior, emphasizing that scent is an important component of sexual attraction and thus crucial for the survival of our species. Many intriguing facts enliven her book. For example, scents are intimately connected to memory and can be used as memory aids; olfaction shuts down while we are asleep; newborns and their mothers recognize each other by their scent. Herz debunks the mystique of aromatherapy, which she says is effective because of our emotional associations with scents rather than because of any direct action of the scent. "
Another Article, Sexual Magnetism: Pheromones - The Scent Of Sex, states the following:
"In humans, pheromones are activated at puberty. Both men and women produce varying amounts of "male" pheromones: androstenone and androstenol, only women secrete the "female" pheromone copulins. Produced by the apocrine glands in the armpit and around the genitals pheromones send signals that are picked up by the vemeronasal organ (VNO), just inside the nose. The VNO passes these messages on to the limbic part of the brain which governs the most basic human sensations, like joy, anger, love, hate and sexual arousal."
American's in particular have come to believe, through advertising campaigns and social morality, that all body scents and smells are bad, but this isn't true.
Question: I was wondering if it is possible for every woman to "squirt", as they call it? The reason I ask is because I've seen videos and it looks like they enjoy it more so than I guess a regular orgasm. Any info would be much appreciated.
Answer: Deborah Sundahl, an author of a book and producer of several DVDs on the subject, believes all women can learn how to squirt or ejaculate. I haven't seen any scientific information that supports this claim. I know there are many who believe female ejaculation and the G-Spot are a myth, because they can't locate the G-Spot and never witness or experience female ejaculate.
All women have the associated anatomy, a functional prostate gland and muscles that contract rhythmically during orgasm, but I don't know if they all have the ability to squirt a large volume of liquid. As I mention in my article about female ejaculation, it is likely that all women release some amount of liquid from their prostate gland during orgasm, but it may only be a minute amount, or a couple drops, which mixes in with the vaginal lubrication and sweat present. This article also mentions how the female prostate is always producing liquid, and begins doing so during puberty.
During masturbation, 43 percent of women have indicated they have ejaculated during orgasm. This means the majority have not.
http://www.misterpoll.com/polls/184812/results
During orgasm, 49 percent aren't sure or have never experienced female ejaculation.
http://www.misterpoll.com/polls/180801/results
Based on women's experiences, it appears women have a 50/50 chance of ejaculating.
Different nerves supply the female prostate gland than the clitoris and outer vagina, and this may in part explain why women report G-Spot and vaginal orgasms are different than clitoral orgasms. Many say G-Spot and vaginal orgasms have a greater emotional affect on them than clitoral orgasms. While G-Spot orgasms may be perceived differently, I'm don't believe this necessarily means they are more intense, perhaps only different.
female_sexual_nervous_system_2.htm
In order for a woman to ejaculate she may need to surrender full control over her body, which may allow her orgasms to be more intense. Many women believe the sensations that occur just prior to ejaculation are indicative of a desire or need to urinate, which cases them to hold back and prevent not only ejaculation but orgasm. Perhaps it isn't the experience of ejaculation that results in more intense orgasms but the willingness to surrender control during orgasm, not holding back.
Most if not all ejaculation orgasms and pleasure portrayed in mainstream adult video are faked, so you can't go by these videos to determine what is normal or common for women in general.
Question: I'm 23 years old, I have rarely ever masturbated...not because I feel it's wrong, but because I never felt like it and more so, I didn't know how...the first time I had sex was 1 year ago, and I have had sex with several partners from then on, but never to the point of orgasms. Vaginal stimulation feels good, but soon I get bored, because it never goes further from that feeling, it's just good, but I never get anywhere near to an orgasm. when my partners would stimulate my clitoris, it would be too much for me, I couldn't handle it, but I can't even say that the feeling was good, it was too much, my knees shake and I just have to stop it. recently I bought a vibrator, and again the vaginal stimulation really doesn't do anything for me, and when I use it on my clitoris it's just too much, and again I can't say it's good, I'm not sure what the feeling is like, but I can't handle it. I need to stop. and I am getting very frustrated, so I'm writing to you...maybe you can help me, and if no, please, tell me if there is a type of doctor I cab go to, or something...thank you in advance!!!
Answer: This is a common experience for women who do not learn how to experience orgasm at a younger age, and don't know what the experience of orgasm is truly like for their peers. There is nothing wrong with you, you simply need to move beyond this wall you have created for yourself. An orgasm isn't going to harm you, so there is no need to stop when you begin to shake or feel too much. When this occurs, remember to breath and allow your body to move and make noise, but whatever you do, don't stop the stimulation.
Many women have asked about the same or similar experiences:
Q & A: Female Sexual Arousal & Orgasm#impaired
Q&A Subject Index: Puberty, Adolescence, and Self Discovery
The following articles address this subject:
how_to_have_female_orgasms.htm
Most doctors have no formal training in female sexuality and probably wont be able to help you. You would have to find a sex therapist that has experience treating anorgasmia to find guidance. There are no medications that are likely to help you, as you aren't abnormal or broken.