Question: I'm 14, at points I became horny and I used a [bed?] cover and pressed it up against my vagina. I guess this is what you call masturbation please set me straight. I also have a problem where after masturbating I went cold turkey and I felt so dirty that if my vagina moves an inch I take it as masturbation because I'm not sure of it and just sitting still is real hard and I can't watch or say anything dirty because somehow I even get turned on though I'm not touching myself and from what I learned from the movements of my vagina I'm masturbating. Please help me decipher what's what because I won't be able to live a normal life.

Answer: Masturbation is a normal and beneficial activity for teenage girls to engage in. My advice to you therefore is to masturbate. Explore your body and enjoy it. By not masturbating you are probably doing more harm than good.

During puberty, most girls, and boys, experience strong sexual feelings that they have no control over. It is a normal part of being a teenager. Instead of fighting or ignoring these feelings explore them.

If you want to enjoy partner sex, you need to understand your own body first. You do this in part by learning to masturbate to orgasm. Please read the pages about Virginity in the section about Vaginal Intercourse.