Question: I love your website and have found it quite informative. I recently went to the gynecologist for my 1st ever exam. My vagina was so tight that my doctor could not perform a pap smear or locate my cervix. She suggested I stretch my hymen before attempting sex. I was wondering if you know of any techniques? I don't know a lot about hymen stretching or the proper way to do it.

Answer: Please have a look at the information on Virginity in the Intercourse section for the information you seek. I give some recommendations there. Prepare your vagina before you engage in intercourse and you will likely find it a much more enjoyable experience. Remember, pain is bad period. That goes for at the gynecologist's office as well. Do not allow doctors to hurt you either.