Question: I had intercourse with my boyfriend some time ago. The first time we tried the condom broke but he didn't come, he just pulled his penis out very fast. The condom had spermicidal Nonoxynol-9 and we did it 8 days after I passed my period. The other time we tried was 18 days after I passed my period on the same month and we also use a condom with spermicidal Nonoxynol-9 and that condom didn't break. My period is sometimes irregular; I can't really determine when it will come. From my last period in March to April it took 35 days.
My questions are:
Answer: First, is having intercourse really worth all this anxiety? There is a lot more to having sex than intercourse. If you are afraid of becoming pregnant then it is hard to relax and enjoy sex.
The condom breaking could indicate you were not adequately lubricated or that the condom was not put on correctly. Get some water base lubricant and apply a generous amount to both your vagina and his penis. When applying the condom to his penis, pinch the little reservoir at the tip to remove any air and then roll it onto his penis. Make sure there are not air pockets or large wrinkles. Then lubricate his penis. This will reduce the friction between his penis and your vagina.
Your Questions:
1. Can I get pregnant from the first accident with the condom?
Yes, an accident is an accident. It does not matter whether it is the first or last. Sperm will use every opportunity they can to hunt down and fertilize an egg. Sperm do not have emotions and have only one function, getting you pregnant.
2. How can I know when I am in my ovulation days? You know, when the egg comes out.
Since your periods are irregular, there is no way to predict when you ovulate. If your periods were regular you may learn to have some idea as to when, if there are physical indicators. The rhythm method of birth control, where you avoid sex around the time you ovulate, is only about 80% effective. The withdrawal method, removing the penis prior to ejaculation, is 80-90% effective. Both methods still leave a significant chance of pregnancy.
3. Can my period get more irregular if I have intercourse with my boyfriend or masturbate?
Hormones produced by the brain control your menstrual periods; physical activities do not affect it. Many teens experience irregular periods for several years before things get into sync. You still can become pregnant; it is just harder to know when you are. Sexual activity and orgasm may bring on a woman's period a day or two early but it is not a good means of controlling your entire cycle.
4. How can I regulate my period? I am tired of waiting for it to come, at least I want to know and be a little close in my prediction of when my period will come, right know I am experiencing some menstrual cramps but it doesn't come.
Some doctors will prescribe the birth control pill as a means of getting a teen's or woman's menstrual cycle into a regular pattern. I am not personally a supporter of this but it does work. Today, we just expect everything to be neat and controlled, no guessing or worries.
Unexplained abdominal pain should be brought to the attention of a doctor. It may not be anything to be concerned about but it isn't worth the risk. You may have endometriosis for example.
5. I have been looking like crazy for symptoms on pregnancy, what are those symptoms?
Some women do not experience any physical indications of pregnancy so you may not immediately know that you are pregnant even if you are.
Symptoms of pregnancy include: missed menstrual periods, fullness and tenderness of the breasts, enlargement and darkening of the areola (skin around nipples), enlargement of the oil glands surrounding the nipples, secretion of thick yellow fluid from the nipples (colostrum) after the first few months, lack of energy, nausea and vomiting (morning sickness), frequency of urination.