Question: I just started having sex (i.e. vaginal intercourse) with my boyfriend and I feel nothing. When will I start to feel something? Is there something wrong with me?

Answer: This is a question I frequently receive from young women so you are not alone, and no, there is nothing wrong with you. You are perfectly normal. Given the significance of engaging in vaginal intercourse, and the manner in which it is portrayed in movies and on television, many couples, young and old, have false expectations of it. Basically, young men and women expect it to be this wonderful experience that includes intense pleasure. Why else would people make it seem like such a big deal? Young women are understandably bewildered when they try it a few times and find it is not pleasurable for them and is in fact boring. They keep doing it because they figure the expected pleasure must be right around the corner, if only they keep trying. They have these great expectations that are never met. Everyone else is reportedly enjoying it so that must mean there is something wrong with her if she does not. This simply is not true. The specific answers to why it is not enjoyable for all women are provided on the pages that address, Vaginal Intercourse, Vaginal Orgasm, and Virginity. Please read through the information on these pages.