What will also work, cost much less, but require you to devise a way of holding the vibrator in place, are items like those shown below. These wireless bullet vibrators would perhaps work best, as there is no wires to deal with. Sewing or safety pinning a sport sock or similar item to your underwear may create a pouch to hold the vibrator in place. You can also sew together two pairs of briefs or thongs, creating a small pocket for the vibrator, in the area of your clitoris. You may have to experiment to determine the best location for the vibrator.
The least expensive vibrator to use may be a vibrating bullet or egg that has an attached battery pack, like the one shown below. They may not work in public, because of the associated power cord and battery pack, but you may be able to sneak the cord into your pocket if you wear a long lose fitting blouse.
Eventually you may want to try stimulating more than one erogenous zone at the same time, using a vibrator like those shown below. One vibrator can be positioned against your clitoris, the other inside your vagina or anus. Items inserted into your anus should probably be encased in a condom, a sandwich bag, or plastic wrap, ensuring enough of the condom or plastic remains outside your rectum so that you may retrieve it.
Something you may already have in your home, or that is readily available at a local store, is an electric toothbrush. While not necessarily appropriate for many forms of exercise and dance, it may be adapted to some, at least at home. Removing the brush and using the body as a vibrator may allow it to fit comfortably against your vulva.
An electric vibrator would eliminate the need for batteries, and a rechargeable model would be the most convenient, especially if you find yourself repeating the exercise on a regular basis. If you are wanting to rub against something while you dance or exercise, then an electric wand vibrator placed under a towel or on a pillow may provide the necessary stimulation. Holding or taping the vibrator to a metal pole that you then rub your vulva against may also work. Please don't apply too much pressure with your body, as you don't want to crush your clitoris, potentially causing decreased sensitivity for a period of time afterward. You may be able to secure the vibrator to a chair or another piece of furniture with shipping tape, positioning it at the elevation of your vulva. You may also be able to hold one in place, over your cloths, while dancing or exercising at home.
Combing the Physical Activity with the Sexual Stimulation:
This is very much a free form activity with no set guidelines and rules. Ideally, you exercise or dance until you are comfortably warmed up and your heart rate is elevated at least a little, but not so much you are gasping for breath. You then turn on the vibrator and continue the activity, preferably with little or no interruption. Allow things to occur naturally, don't try to force anything. Either arousal and orgasm occur or they don't. If you use a wireless bullet vibrator you may have to turn it on before you begin the exercise. Having a remotely controlled vibrator would be ideal, as it would be easier to turn on and off with ease. In public, you may have to make a quick bathroom break to turn the vibrator on, or if jogging or walking through your local park, stop at a bathroom midway through the session.
The main thing is, the vibrations should be doing all the work, hands free. You can explore light pressure if you like, keeping in mind your erogenous zones probably aren't as sensitive to pressure as they are rhythmic friction and vibration. If your vulva and clitoris aren't sensitive to the vibrations, either the vibrator isn't powerful enough, it isn't positioned correctly against your clitoris, you aren't sexually aroused yet, or you experience impaired sensitivity, perhaps as a result of trauma to your vulva or insufficient hormone levels.
You may want to experiment with shorts or jeans that fit snuggly in the area of your vulva. Some women rave about jeans with a tight inseam, so you may want to experiment with this, along with the vibrator. A thong may conform closer to your vulva than briefs.
You may need to experiment with lubricating your vulva beforehand, as lubricated tissues move about more easily, and reduces the chance for irritation. Since there is no need to use a condom to prevent conception, you can use olive or vegetable oil as a lubricant.
Don't over do it, as you will be less inclined to repeat the activity if you are exhausted or sore afterwards. If your exercise session is over, say after 15-20 minutes, then cool down and relax, while still allowing the vibrator to stimulate you. Walk, sit, lay down, straddle a pillow, whatever helps you feel good, and relaxed. If your vibrator is battery powered and waterproof, you might even jump in the shower with it and your underwear in place. The cool down should last at least twenty minutes, time enough for the potential peak in your post exercise sexual responsiveness to occur. Relax have fun, don't "masturbate," just allow things to happen, or not happen. It may take repetition before you notice sexual feelings, or increased sexual feelings. Please don't expect instantaneous results from this activity.
You may also want to experiment with turning the vibrator on after your period of physical activity. Experiment with doing it immediately after, and then after waiting 5 to 20 minutes. Relax during this time. If you start experiencing pleasant sensations, don't get greedy, it isn't unusual for it to take 30-60 minutes for women to experience orgasm, and their level arousal must be allowed to slowly increase over this extended period. The mainstream media greatly exaggerates how quickly orgasm occurs for the typical woman.
Incorporating Kegel exercises into your routine is likely a good idea, as it will help generate muscular tension, help you focus on your pelvic area, and strong pelvic muscles produce stronger orgasms. Strong flexible pelvic muscles are essential, as if they are too relaxed then your orgasms may be weak, or if too tense, incapable of rhythmic contraction. It has come to my attention that Kegel exercises were never intended to be performed with an empty vagina, without something for the pelvic muscles to grasp, and the items mentioned below may fulfill this requirement.
Incorporating Additional Erogenous Zones:
Some women desire or require more than one erogenous zone be stimulated at the same time, if they are to experience orgasm. Many also experience a vaginal ache when they become sexually aroused, which compels them to seek out vaginal penetration. Vaginal stimulation can be provided by inserting Duotone Balls or similar items into the vagina prior to your physical activity, under the clitoral vibrator. You can also insert small balls of appropriate size, encased in a condom or a plastic sandwich bag, into your vagina; the condom acts as a retrieval string.
Some may want to incorporate nipple stimulation, and this many only be possible at home, and accomplished with your fingers and hands, or clothpins if you are wanting more intense stimulation. Devices that suck on or pinch the nipples may also be appropriate, at home. I'm not aware of anything small and discrete enough to be worn under a bra. Nipple stimulation, as well as internal vaginal and anal stimulation may stimulate oxytocin production, which may help facilitate orgasm.
Anal stimulation may also be desirable and pleasurable, though it may be challenging to find a butt plug that is appropriately sized and shaped for your specific physical activity. If you are doing pelvic thrusts and similar aerobic exercises at home, then anal stimulation will likely be easier to incorporate than say at a dance club; though you wouldn't be the first to do so. You would want to be careful not to irritate your anus, or have the plug slip out at an inopportune moment. Internal anal stimulation may also work, but only if you insert an object having an appropriate removal string or handle.
With a Partner:
This exercise can be incorporated into partnered activities. A woman's partner can exercise or dance along with her, providing support, emotional and possibly physical. They can also engage in dirty dancing, with a vibrator positioned against her vulva. The woman's partner can control the vibrations, especially if she tends to feel overwhelmed and turns the vibrator off moments too soon; this should amount to gentle teasing, not force. In some cases, the woman's partner only needs to watch and be supportive of her actions and experiences. The activity should always remain focused on the woman and her needs, not her partner and their needs, and it may be up to the partner to ensure this is true, as women tend to put the needs of their partner before their own.
Video: Do You Love Me - Dirty Dancing
Closing Comments:
In closing, I would like to say this activity is primarily meant to be fun and ultimately relaxing. Prior to learning about orgasm, young girls masturbate simply because it feels pleasurable, and may help them relax and fall asleep. Teens and adults shouldn't expect more of this activity. If while performing this activity you suddenly realize you are sexually aroused and experiencing sexual pleasure, wonderful, lose yourself in that pleasure, don't start counting orgasms. If you hit a wall or feel overwhelmed, dance or exercise your way through it, rather than pulling away. The more intense the sensations, the more intense your movements should become. Make some noise, sing, grunt, yell, just don't stop. Remember, an orgasm isn't going to harm you, it is a completely normal bodily function. But whatever you do, make sure you are having fun, or at least improving your mental and physical health through exercise and dance.
Supporting Medical Information:
Medical Abstract:
Originally Published: April 2008
PHYSIOLOGY: The Roles of Testosterone and Alpha-Amylase in Exercise-Induced Sexual Arousal in Women
Introduction. Several
studies have demonstrated that moderate
exercise increases genital response to
erotic stimuli in women. The increase
in genital arousal could be the result
of various changes that can occur in
response to exercise including changes
in hormone levels, neurotransmitter levels,
mood, and autonomic nervous system activity.
Aim. The present study was an
attempt to shed light on two such mechanisms through
which exercise enhances sexual arousal.
Method. Sixteen participants came
into the lab on two separate occasions: during
one visit, they filled out questionnaires for 20
minutes, and during the other visit, they exercised
on a treadmill for 20 minutes. The questionnaires
and exercise were both followed by the presentation
of a neutral then erotic film during which the
women's physiological sexual arousal was measured.
Saliva samples were taken at baseline, prefilm,
and postfilm.
Main Outcome Measures.
Subjective arousal was measured using a self-report
questionnaire, and genital arousal was measured
by a vaginal photoplethysmograph. Testosterone
and a-amylase (a marker of sympathetic nervous
system [SNS] activity) were measured via saliva
assays.
Results. Findings
replicated previous studies showing a significant
increase in physiological sexual arousal with exercise. There
was a significant increase in α-amylase across
the study in the exercise condition, but not in
the no-exercise condition. There were no differences
in testosterone levels between the exercise and
no-exercise conditions.
Conclusions. SNS activity is one
mechanism through which exercise increases genital
sexual arousal. Testosterone does not mediate the
relationship between exercise and genital sexual
arousal.
