Question: To my knowledge I have never had an orgasm before and I just wondering if I did. My boyfriend has fingered me before but the last time was different. He was rubbing me and at first it felt really good then it felt like it was getting hot in my room and the my legs got cold and started to jerk or shake and I got light headed like I could have passed out. In a way it felt like I could have exploded but in a good way. Please help me and answer my question!!

Answer: It sounds like you were close to orgasm, but did not have an orgasm. I believe you were holding your breath; this would cause the lightheaded feeling and perhaps the cold legs. The jerking and shaking of your legs was likely caused by sexual tension in your body. Be sure to keep breathing when your partner is sexually stimulating you. When the strong feelings start to occur, it can be hard to stay relaxed and go with the flow of things. Remember, practice makes perfect.

Whatever your partner did to cause this, be sure to let him know he was doing something you enjoyed a lot and want him to do again.

I highly recommend you explore masturbation. If you can give yourself an orgasm, it is much more likely that your partner will be able to. You do not want to have to rely on a sexual partner for all your sexual pleasure.