Question: I'm 23 years old and was a virgin until recently. I noticed that I felt more when I put my finger inside my girlfriend's vagina than my penis. I hardly felt anything during intercourse. My girlfriend continued to ask me when I was going to ejaculate. I'm not sure what my problem is -- or if there even is one. I want to satisfy her in every possible way. I think I'm my penis size is average. I'm not really sure how or where to exactly measure it. I think it's around 5 1/2 to 6 inches. What is the average penis size? Also, my girlfriend said her vagina is smaller than normal. I also found sex to be very overrated. I thought I would ejaculate very quickly. I guess I lasted longer than the other guys she's been with. Is this good or bad? I think she was a little self-conscious because I didn't ejaculate as quickly as other guys she's been with.

Answer: I am guessing she finds intercourse uncomfortable, since she mentioned having a smaller than average sized vagina. You need to ask her if she enjoys intercourse. If she did enjoy intercourse, it seems she would not be so eager for you to ejaculate. If it were pleasurable why would she want it to end? Her vagina may have started to dry out which would have resulted in discomfort and pain. If this occurred she would be eager for intercourse to end.

It could be that she does not feel you find her attractive. Many women view their partner's sexual pleasure as an indication of their own attractiveness and sexual ability. Their partner's pleasure is far more important than their own. Many women take it personally when their partner cannot get or maintain an erection or ejaculate; they feel they have failed. Lesbian or bi-sexual women may feel the same when their female partner does not reach orgasm. This is unfortunate; women should value their own pleasure just as much if not more than their partner’s. Women often lack the self-confidence necessary to have their own sexual needs fulfilled.

There are just as many men as women who do not like vaginal intercourse; it is just a form of stimulation their penis or vagina is not sensitive too. Please tell her how you actually feel. You both may prefer manual or oral stimulation of your genitals. This is perfectly normal.

It may be as simple as using some lubricant when you have intercourse. Perhaps your penis is not gliding in and out smoothly. There are those who recommend that couples always use a lubricant, even if the woman is dripping wet. Many women find lubricant adds to their sexual pleasure, solo and with a partner. Applying the lubricant to the vulva, vagina, and penis can be very erotic.

The average size of the adult penis is 6 inches, so some are bigger and some are smaller. The size of a man’s penis is only as important as he chooses to make it. The size of your penis does not affect your ability to give your partner pleasure.