Shared Sexual Techniques

Anonymous

Well I'm not a female however, I am the husband and feel that I do a really good job if you will on getting her off to which she LOVES VERY MUCH and in return gives terrific blow jobs. She is such a tease some times and I know she wants me to play with her tits and pussy lick her clit if we have time. I will find her on her stomach with her feet and legs sticking out from the covers. She sometimes has already removed her panties. If she is awake "will you rub my legs and feet for just a minute?" Well I'm red blooded and never turn this down. I accept with pleasure. Rubbing the small of her back her legs and butt. I go all the way down to her feet and rub the soles of her feet pay lots of attention to the arch & the ball of her feet. She becomes so hot during this. I move her legs apart more and more all the time she does not stop or resisted any of it enjoys it all. As she is on her stomach, I work my way back up her legs and put one hand on the small of her back and one with my fingers in just the right place one inside her pussy. It is so wet!!! I can move around enough to feel her clit is very big and sensitive to the touch. Sometimes by now she is so horny that she rolls on over. I never loose contact with her body as she does this. If I'm not already naked I soon will be. But I keep up the finger inside her and then I also rub her clit in circler ways, and then I lick her clit. This almost puts her over the roof. I can feel her squirming and moaning she begins to tell me right there do not stop keep going, I'm close don't stop now. She will reach out and grab my leg or anything close, her legs are jumping all over the place when she will suddenly clamp them down. She just holds it there for up to a minute shivering almost. When she is able to talk she says the room so still spinning. I gentle try and rub her clit and lips. I will sometimes go down on her and take her over the top again. Then we will have time with me inside her. Yes this site is really great, I think I will be going to the local hardware store and getting one of those hand held shower heads. I am more than wondering as to how that works. We have been taken a few showers with each other. That is also another great place and another time.

Anonymous

Ken

Although I am a male I have read your site with great interest. I started reading because I wanted to give my wife more pleasure. She can not have an orgasm while I am making love to her and I think that this is partly my fault and it worries me. Sometimes I hold back so long I do not cum myself, but this is OK as it is her pleasure that concerns me most. So what we do is start with foreplay, kissing, kissing her nipples etc. I then slide my hand down and make my fingers wet by inserting them into her. I then rub her clit, stopping just before she cum's, letting her relax a bit then I start rubbing again and stopping. Finally I don't stop and make her cum. I then make love to her and she enjoys the feeling of me filling her up. When I have finished I lie next to her and start to rub her clit again until she cum's. Sometimes I will insert a finger into her anus while rubbing her clit. She also enjoys me licking her clit and making her cum. Thanks for the great site you have given me ideas on how to make things more pleasurable for her.

Ken

Mike

I met my wife, through a friend during our teens. I fell in love with her gentle nature and we were married within two years. We were both virgins when we married as very young adults. To each his own, and I have no regrets. She would not consent to sexual involvement before marriage, assuring me that her body would belong to me afterwards. Following the wedding, she appealed to me to postpone sexual intercourse for the first several days of the honeymoon. She asked that we first begin a discovery, easing into sexual familiarity. In the process we learned about mutual masturbation, and how our sexual organs responded and released during orgasm. After several days, she decided that she was comfortable with intercourse and gave up her virginity. My skill developed with experience. Offering her slow, gentle massaging was the beginning towards building intensity in a sexual encounter. At times, patience was greatly rewarded, as I was able to witness a response in her that was precious to me. Before penetration, as she descended into her own world of rapture, I could study a transformation. Her head would tilt back, her eyes would close and lips would part. She would arch her back, raising her knees while simultaneously spreading her thighs far apart. Her swollen vulva would be exposed and her pelvis would begin air-grinding. I was touched by this attitude of surrender and I realized that she had attained confidence in being safely vulnerable. Surrender was not to be taken, but was hers to gladly give. In reflection, I felt better for my patience, in the first days of our marriage. I must say however, that any innuendo of submission stopped with her posture. I soon learned that her position was her design to better ensure deep penetration during sex. Her desire was for me to penetrate as deeply as possible, while simultaneously massaging her clitoris and swollen genital areas. She also entreated me to lick her nipples, as was possible. She would continue in this fashion, having multiple orgasms for an hour. When she finally spent herself, I would be able to experience the relief of climax and collapse. After bending and reaching in so many directions, my shoulders, arms, wrists, fingers, back muscles and (occasionally) thighs would ache, and I have always worked out to stay in shape. I would console myself that the person in greater need had been satisfied.

This adventure started 28 years ago, on our wedding night. She became athletic and experimental in sex, but this favorite position was always her way to pleasurable endurance. A mutual commitment to physical fitness has prevented the middle-age darts from stinging the joy from a continuing, rich sexual relationship. During the last 12 years I have noticed relocation in the position of her "spot". Her vulva and clitoris are no longer the areas of the most swelling, when aroused. The area over the pubic bone, just above the clitoris has become by far become her most tingly area. This transformation has presented remarkable avenues for her to experience very intense orgasms. We have various modes of enjoying sex, but she now prefers to quickly mount on top of me, while I am lying on my back. She allows me quick penetration and then she slides down until her pubic bone is exactly over mine. She enjoys applying a great deal of pressure to this otherwise fragile area, while grinding her pubic bone against mine, in circles.

Our love-making has evolved over the years. Often, when I look up at her, I will notice her panting with closed eyes. Her grinding motions are deliberate and increasing in intensity. Little energy is required on my part, and I allow my face to melt up into her bosom. I take in her natural aromas, amplified by body heat. My mind is enveloped in the tapestry of senses that abound in this experience; sight, touch, texture, tastes, scents, rhythm. She can bring herself to orgasm in 5 minutes, doing this her way. But she waits an additional 15 minutes for me to climax and then she sighs with a final convulsion. I finally have the kind of experience that I've sought. And she is patient, satisfied that the person in greater need has been satisfied.

Mike

Santiago & Verónica

Hi there, webmaster (¿webmistress, should I say?) of The-Clitoris.com. Your web page is a great source of knowledge and arousal ;) I'm a guy and I'm 17, and I have a girlfriend of 17 too. Some days ago we managed to get her first two orgasms with me (she had experienced orgasms before, alone) one with me heavily stimulating her vagina with my fingers and she rubbing her clit, and the other one the other way around. But this isn't why I'm sending this e-mail. I'm sending it to share something we've found to be a great source of arousal. This source is... masturbating in public places. Not in a way that can be openly seen - in a discreet way that so people won't know, if they're very clever, suspect. Today, when school finished, we spent some ten or fifteen minutes besides a newspaper stand, as always. By that hour the stand is closed but there are other people in the street. I was with my back on the wall of the stand, and she was standing and leaning over me. We were hugging and kissing and talking, and we eventually started to talk about the kinky things we did the last day when she stayed at night at my home. I asked her if she got her period, she told me it was supposed to come the day before, but she say it didn't. So I brought my hand to her mouth and she licked it, and already knew what I was going to do (and agreed). Since she was wearing my jacket, and leaning against me, nobody could see what was going on - but I slipped my hand in her panties and masturbated her for a little bit. It wasn't an incredible pleasure but the fact of doing it in the street was a huge turn on. We did that three times and she liked it a lot. I'd like you to post this at your web page. My name is Santiago and hers is Verónica (though I nicknamed her Hadita, which means "little faerie", and now a lot of people call her that way), we live in the Andalucía, in the south coast of Spain. I'm the one who's writing this because Hadita can't speak English, she reads your page thanks to the Spanish translation =) Your page is wonderful.

Bob

My wife (67) and myself (73) have been doing something different that most people and I would like to share what we are learning. About four years ago, after thirty-five years of marriage, we were only joining about twenty times a year and were close to divorce. We changed many things, one was our habit of intimacy. I will be brief. We now wear nothing to bed, at my wife's request. We automatically join as soon as we are in the bed using Astroglide. We do not do any preliminaries but joining immediately. At first it was difficult because I had severe erectile dysfunction and her vagina was somewhat open and the tissue was kind of papery. We started joining a lot and for long periods. With time my ED went away and I can stay erect for long periods (thirty minutes or more and will recover quickly, better than thirty years ago) and her tissue is now more like when she was in her thirties. We join on the average of four times in a twenty-four hour period. Usually when we first go to bed and when we are about to arise, after our exercises and after our showers. If either of us get up during the night we automatically join when we are both back in bed. I have kept track and we have joined fourteen hundred and eighty-three times in the last twelve months. I am sharing this because few are doing it and we are both very well educated, advance degrees, and very successful in the business world. What we are doing has brought us closer in marriage than I could ever have imagined. I can get into bed with her sound asleep and as soon as she feels the movement of my getting into bed she positions herself to join. After we are together for a time one of us will ask if they are ready and we will then spoon with my penis in her and my hand on her breast. We both sleep VERY well. Her vaginal muscles have now developed into what every man dreams about. If I am not fully erect and she coughs her muscles can just push him out. When he is full erect he just gets one heck of a squeeze. She used to have to concentrate to squeeze but now most of it is often and involuntary. There is much more if you are interested. Our health is excellent and we both now exercise daily. We have a Gym. If you have read the chapter on sex in the book "You, The Owners Manual" by the two Doctors on the Oprah show this seems to fit what they talk about. They say how much younger your body is the more often that you join sexually. They even say that your body will be eight years younger if you join seven hundred times a year but then say who would. We are doubling that and are happy doing it because we are now in marriage what we always hoped for. I think the world is beginning to wake up to the fact that true intimacy outshines passion. We know all about passion but we now know that true intimacies on a higher plain and our minds, bodies and spirits agree. We would be glad to share more if you are interest. I really like the detail that you are researching and sharing in the various area's. One area that I would like to see someone feather out is the sexual practices of various societies throughout the world and throughout history. I know some of the Asian practices. I have been a world traveler. I have been everywhere but Africa and Antarctica. I think some of the things that are taboo in our society came over with the Puritans and has stayed. I would like to know how the needs of women we met in other societies. Where and when cunnilingus was practiced and what other methods we used to help bring a woman to completion. I can bring a large number of people to your web sight if we help people learn truth and knowledge. I won't go into leadership positions that I have held. I have worked with a number of young people who are just begging to learn truth. It is really needed in today's world and you have a great start with what you are doing. Best Bob

Anonymous

After very exciting foreplay, ask your partner to blow hard with vibration on your clit the same way you can blow hard on skin and make a rude sound. Blow hard over and over in rapid breaths to make the clitoris vibrate with your vibrating lips of your mouth. My partner can have uncontrolled screaming orgasims lasting up to one full minute this way. Adding rapid thrusting penatration against the G spot with with two fingers or a vibrating toy adds to the pleasure. Consentrate the thrusting on the G spot and not depth of vagina. I hope this technique will give you a great deal of pleasure. Please use caution and not blow air into the vagina as this can be dangerous to a woman. Blow only on the clitoris.

Arianna

My man will get on all fours on the bed. But instead of getting down below him as I would during doggy-style, I get behind him, usually standing on my knees behind him on the bed. It's kind of a role reversal. Then, I reach around his legs and wrap my hands around his erection and proceed to lube it up with whatever fits the bill. Heightening cream will usually drive him wild. I then proceed to milk his penis, the same way he would normally do if he were pleasuring himself. But, this way, I'm in total control. He can't go anywhere and I control the pace, holding off when he feels he will cum. Then I start up again, each time moving my hands up and down his shaft, especially focusing on the head. I make sure to point his penis downward at a 45 degree angle or more, which increases the pressure he feels with each stroke. Again, when he feels he will cum I stop stroking and put pressure on his perineum to hold him off. Then, after numerous starts and stops I begin my final milking by pointing his penis towards the ground and vigorously stroking his shaft while his sac bounces against my breasts and he moans in delight. This is a very effective technique, especially when I want to be in control or, perhaps I'm not quite in the mood for vaginal sex with him.

Lexie

I like when my boyfriend and his friend masturbate me. I lie on my bed naked and my boyfriend spreads my legs. His friend holds my arms up over my head and rubs my nipples. My boyfriend starts by rubbing and fingering me until I'm soaked. I can't rub myself because his friend is holding my arms so I can't reach my pussy. My boyfriend inserts a popsickle into my pussy and at the same time rubs my clit until I cum and cum and cum. OMG it feels so nice as I scream from the contractions as his friend sucks my nipples really hard. Best orgasm ever!

Anonymous

Buy pure peppermint oil and put a drop on your finger than rub gently on your nipples, vulva, and clit. Then wait and don't touch yourself for a bit, just enjoy the sensation the oil does to you alone. It will be extremely cool and hot. Enjoy!

Note: You should dilute pure peppermint oil with vegetable oil in the beginning to ensure it isn't too strong and cause irritation. You probably don't want your clitoris to feel like it is on fire.

Adele

I have discovered a good way to pleasure your boyfriend/husband/fiancee etc.

I discovered this technique when my boyfriend was around my house. We were in my room, and I decided to masturbate him, so I locked the door and we proceeded to the bed. Then he suggested that perhaps he should instead, sit on my computer chair while I knelt in front of him.

So he sat on the chair and removed his jeans and boxers, and I began to masturbate him. Now, here's the trick: alternate between fast and slow rhythm. This drove him crazy, but I couldn't make him come because it killed my wrist after a while.

Also, take breaks from the wrist action to give him oral, and slowly circle your tongue around the tip of the penis, whilst it is still in your mouth. My boyfriend loves this.

I also got him to undo his shirt so I could kiss his chest while I masturbated him, and he loved it when I gently nibbled on his nipples with my teeth.

I hope this can help women find new and exciting ways to pleasure the man in their life. =]

Angie & Garrett

Found your site and love it. Garrett and I have been going together now for 8 months and have masturbated each other often. Last month he made a makeshift type gyno table. The stirrup parts of it are made of wood and when we are not using it they fold down and the table just sits by the wall in the bedroom. When we use it I lay with my legs open and he tantalizes my vulva, vagina, and anus with his fingers, dildos and a vibrator. I already had as many as six orgasms as he masturbates me and gives me oral sex. I find the position I'm in is exciting for he and I alike. When its his turn I really take my time and first give him oral sex. Then I rub baby oil all over his penis, balls, and anus and just massage him awhile until he is able to get another erection. He has even used Viagra a few times so he can last longer. At first he was reluctant to let me use a dildo or vibrator in his anus but once I did he loves it. I put it in very gently and slow and move it in and out as I pump his penis. We use this table at least twice a week now and keep finding new ways to stimulate each other. If you have never seen a guy with his feet in stirrups, trust me, its a sight to behold.

Steve

This made me laugh! I've always loved to eat pussy! It's just more interesting then fucking.... I've told many female friends, when I've got beautiful nude body in front of me I want to touch ALL of it! It's great fun to watch how a woman reacts to the touch.... Of course it helps if I'm into the person I'm eating!

I love the opening paragraph on your page! I've had girls say I'm "theirs" like their personal fluffer!! : ) It does kind of suck when you're with a super hot girl who's body and pussy is just PRIME for eating and she's playing shy.... Of course all you can do is take it slow and try again at a later time which normally does happen because once you give them a little taste they start wondering hmm maybe I'll give this a try! I've got friends with boyfriends that don't or don't eat pussy well that text me all the time for a meeting! Then something that I've always thought meant I was ok at, it is that I have a couple of ex-porn girls that are very aware of what I do and they take advantage!!! Not going to name any names, but you would know their names...

I've had quotes like "Damn you know how to eat pussy!" "And I've been missing this!"

Tenorhorn 1

My wife Carol had had a very secluded childhood. She and her mother lived in a modest one room apartment and shared the same bed. Simply there was none of the usual adolescent arousal and exploration. She divorced a sexually ineffectual jerk. My first wife Joan was a total slut and I divorced her.

Carol and I had a fantastic sexual relationship indulging in about everything we could think of. However, she had a lot more trouble with fantasizing, something I enjoyed a great deal.

Things changed dramatically when I took a job halfway across the country and we would not be able to be together for about 5 months. The wait was very frustrating. I flew back and forth as much as I could afford to and, when I couldn't, I thought about how beautifully sexual she was and got myself off big.

On the phone one day, I asked her if she were taking good care of my favorite pussy. She really didn't know what I was talking about. I asked her if she got horny thinking about me and getting turned on and "doing herself". She admitted she missed our mutual sex, but had never masturbated.

She have been a bit surprised when I told her that I frequently got horny thinking about her and played with myself until I got off. Sometimes I would go to bed, be unable to fall asleep and give myself a little "nighty night". Sometimes I'd be sitting in front of the TV, slip off all my clothes and simply play with myself until I shot off all over my hands and belly.

I suggested we take care of her lack of release by making a date. We would set a time when I would call and both of us would be soaking in our respective bathtubs. When we connected on the phone, we would talk about sexy things and I would ask her to try a few sexy things, relaxing at first and more and more explicit until she couldn't keep from having an orgasm.

She was surprised at how she felt after our "first date". Uncertain perhaps, but she had to admit that it was a lot better than nothing. The next time things were much more relaxed and much more explicit as I suggested things for her to do, tweeking both nipples at the same time, soaping her entire vulva, putting a finger in her pussy as deeply as she could, "polishing" her clit and on and on until she couldn't keep from getting off.

We kept indulging in phone sex until it was possible for her to move and she joined me. We both admitted that our sex was better when we were with each other. We also admitted that masturbation was a lot better than no sex at all.

Tenorhorn 2

Talk about "love" at first sight. We started dating in our Freshman year of college and rather quickly our relationship developed into passionate smooching and groping. Without an automobile or an available room, how far we were able to go was limited. We would find a dark corner on campus. Quickly, I was in her panties and she was in my fly. "Finger fucking" was quite effective and so was jerking me off. Rather quickly we moved to a point where she didn't bother to wear panties when we went out on a "smooching" date. And, sooner than one might suspect, we were mutually involved in oral sex. I got down on my knees and lifted her skirt and she wrapped her coat around both of us so all one could do was speculate that I was kissing her pussy. I loved tickling her clit with my tongue although, when she orgasmed, she almost fell over. We moved on to full intercourse; however, we continued to masturbate each other and have oral sex, partly as a means of birth control.

Even after we were married, we did a lot of "playing" with each other including a different kind of oral sex when we would fantasize about doing different things with different people. Or, even doing different things while we were together with another person. I would stroke her mons and gently tickle her vulva and talk about bringing a friend into our relationship, preferably someone with a really big cock. It didn't take long to reduce her to floundering all over the bed. She'd stroke my cock and talk about me "face-fucking" some luscious snatch. She would get me off and I would shoot my load all over her thighs and crotch and then rub it in around her cleft.

There were time when I'd get her all heated up and then abruptly stop and urge her to finish herself off while I watched. She quickly lost all inhibitions (if she had any) and I'd watch her finish herself off. And then, I'd jerk myself off shooting all over her.

We moved on from that actually fulfilling some of our fantasies alone with others or in small groups. However, I never ceased being horny about getting my fingers in her hot little pussy and making her come and come and come.