Question: My boyfriend enjoys going down on me and I of course enjoy this, but the problem is he has a hard time hitting my clitoris with his tongue, however when we are having sex it is very easy for him to hit it. Just curious on why that might be when we would both like for him to be able to hit it with his tongue just as easily. Could you please help with this question?
Answer: It may be necessary for you to help him by using your hands to hold your vulva open and to retract your clitoral hood. Place your hands on either side of your vulva and slide them outward and upward to open your vulva. With his face against your vulva it may be hard for him to get his hands in there and spread your labia and retract the clitoral hood himself.
When your vulva is nice and wet and slippery it can be difficult to know when you have the clitoris between your lips, especially if it is small or hidden by surrounding tissue. You may have to tell him when he is directly stimulating your clitoris.
You may also need to give him directions. Tell him when he has found your clitoris and to stay in that spot. Use your hands and thighs to position his head.Another option is to get on top, sit on his face, and position your vulva where you want it. Try facing towards his face or feet to see which position works best for you.
It is okay to be a little aggressive to get what you want and need.