Question:
I am 26 yr old guy, getting married next month and my fianc will be my first
ever sexual partner. I always believed in having only one partner and masturbated
myself whenever I felt the need for sex. I would like to understand female
sexuality better before I enter wedlock. Your web site helped me understand lot
of things that I didnt know about. You have a separate topic on female orgasm
in your site. You have addressed how it is usually achieved in several ways.
Id like to know what is the exact physiological process (not the mental
stimulation) that happens during female orgasm. I have read erotic stories on web and most of them talk about
both the man and woman cumming. For males, the release of semen from the penis
signifies orgasm. What about women? You have mentioned G-spot stimulation
results in ejaculation? Is that the female orgasm? Or a release of something
else is female orgasm?
Answer: The answer to your question depends on the individual woman. Some women release fluid through their urethra (ejaculate) during orgasm, others release fluid during sexual arousal, some experience orgasm without ejaculating, and some experience everything at different times. Orgasm and female ejaculation are two separate things that may or may not occur together.
If there is one common component to the type of sexual stimulation women want and need if they are to experience orgasm it is sustained and consistent stimulation. The exact type of stimulation required may vary among women, but whatever it is it needs to continue unchanged for five, ten, twenty, thirty, or sixty minutes. Perhaps nothing frustrates women more than having their partner continually change what they are doing. This is why vibrators work so well and are so popular, and where invented.
In general though, most literature referring to women "cumming" is talking about orgasms, pleasurable muscular contractions. Orgasms come in many different types. Some women have clitoral, vaginal, uterine, or full body orgasms. Depending on the activities they are engaged in, women experience their orgasms differently. The muscular contraction may be the same, but how a woman experiences each orgasms varies greatly.