Question: My partner brings me to orgasm by oral stimulation. Then after about 20 minutes, we have sexual intercourse because I find it a little awkward to have intercourse straight after my orgasm. I heard and saw somewhere that having intercourse immediately after orgasm is better, because the muscles around the vagina relax. Is this true? Is it safe to have intercourse straight after having orgasm? Is this the way to having multiple orgasms? I once saw in a porn movie, it was a threesome, 2 girls 1 guy, one of the girls gave oral sex to the other girl, then when that girl had the orgasm the guy had intercourse with her straight after the orgasm. That's where I got the curiosity from... Anyways please answer my questions...

Answer: The last thing you want to use as a reference to compare your sexuality to is a porn movie. Most often these actors do what they are "paid" to do, not what they personally enjoy. Often, it is all show, and usually shows very bad technique and almost always the pleasure and orgasms are faked.

I mention on the pages about virginity that orgasm helps relax the body. This has to do with overall relaxation, not just the vagina. Orgasm does help to relax the vagina and pelvic muscles. This relaxation will last as long as you feel comfortable.

It is best to do what ever it is that you find comfortable. If you are not ready for intercourse immediately after orgasm, there is nothing wrong with that. You might want to ask, why do you feel you have to have intercourse at all? If you both enjoy it, go for it, but do not feel obligated to.

If you are to have multiple orgasms during intercourse, you first have to be able to have an orgasm during intercourse. This is not something you mention being able to do. If you want to have multiple orgasms, I would recommend continued oral stimulation and/or manual stimulation of your clitoris after your first orgasm. Using a vibrator may help you to learn to have multiple orgasms.