Well anyway, is this possible without any physical stimulation whatsoever (mental or whatever though a LOT!) and should I have known or been able to feel this AND is it possible that this "stuff" could be somewhere besides my thigh meaning that someone else might actually see this and KNOW what it is?????
Girl 1 Answer 1: While his motivations for you to go bare bottomed are sexual, there are hygienic reasons why it is beneficial for your body. I understand your feeling uncomfortable, as you were probably taught to wear panties 24/7 at a young age. You literally feel naked, psychologically, when you are not wearing them, even if you are fully covered, and no one can possibly see your vulva. You probably haven't noticed humans are the only mammals to wear cloths. Every other species' vulva is directly exposed to the air. You body is also designed for you to run about naked, if you lived in a warm climate.
Your vagina is constantly cleaning itself by producing fluids that keep it healthy. The estrogen in your body creates an acidic environment that helps to fight off bad bacteria and such. The moisture that is produced should be able to evaporate away. Wearing panties and form fitting clothing restricts that process. Clothing traps moisture and body heat, and can create an environment that bad bacteria can thrive in.
The moisture that your boyfriend noticed on your thigh was likely the normal fluid that your body continually produces, to keep your vagina healthy. When you wear panties the fabric traps the moisture. By going bare bottomed, the fluid does as it is intended. Since the fluid is at body temperature you may not be aware of it when it exists your vagina, unless there is enough that you feel its movement. After all, how soon do you become aware that you are sweating? The processes of sweating and vaginal lubrication are very much the same.
When you spread your legs, your outer labia will naturally spread. I suspect this is what your boyfriend has noticed. I would not expect you to notice unless the surrounding air was cool, and then you might notice. Stand in front of miror and look at your vulva, then squat down and look at it with your legs apart. You will probably find that your labia spread apart as your legs are spread.
Girl 1 Question 2: Ok, my boyfriend is challenging your last answer...sorry!
He says the fluid he saw on my leg was clear and he insists that it was excess lubrication being produced as a result of my thoughts caused by his "attention" ALL day to me (no physical touching though, all mental!)...I still wonder if anyone else could possible detect this if it went farther down than my thigh which I didn't even notice...I don't want to embarrass myself!
Also, he thinks your labia only open when you are anticipating sex and not just from the mechanical opening of one's legs
One last question, my boyfriend gets so mad when I look "cold"...he thinks I should be able to control it or at least know when I look that way...am I supposed to be able to tell if my nipples are sticking out and do most girls look at themselves to tell?...Actually the way I'm built I can't see anyway, just wondered
Girl 1 Answer 2: I suspect your boyfriend believes your sexual arousal is as self apparent as his own. When guys become aroused they have a tell tale erection to make this blatantly obvious. It is not something you can overlook. He may expect you to experience the female equivalent. Research indicates women frequently aren't aware of their true level of sexual arousal, at least as measured by medical equipment in a research laboratory, in every instance.
I do not know how you experience sexual arousal so I cannot comment on whether you should know if you are aroused. The first physical indication of female arousal is usually vaginal lubrication. How much lubrication you produce may determine how apparent it is to you. It may not be until the lubrication reaches your vulva that you feel it, as the vagina can be insensitive. Many women report their clitoris comes alive and becomes erect and pulses, I do not know if you experience this. You may notice an increased heart rate and a strong physical sensation, butterflies, that occurs during arousal, when your boyfriend does arouse you.
You may need to spend time masturbating and becoming self aware of what it feels like to be sexually aroused. Do you feel the vaginal lubrication, are your nipples erect, and is your clitoris erect? Go slow and think about what it feels like to be aroused. Do not try to have an orgasm, explore what is feels like to be aroused. Touch yourself, and when not touching, think about what your body feels like, compared to normal. Self awareness is a key part of sexual development.
Your body naturally produces vaginal secretions all day so you may not have been aroused and he may have these fantasies of how sexually attractive or stimulating he is. I think his little head is in control ;-)
I do not believe you have to worry about your natural secretions being visible to others. Even if they are, so what. It is no different than sweating. Do not allow your boyfriend or society make you feel bad about your body.
Your nipples are little muscles that become erect when the muscles contract. Erect nipples are not always an indication of arousal, and they may not be erect during arousal and orgasm. Your boyfriend is misinformed, as are most boys.
Again, you need to spend time exploring what your nipples feel like when erect and not. Stimulate them and explore how they feel when erect compared to when they are not. Are your nipples sensitive? The degree of muscle contraction may determine whether you feel them. If your nipples are naturally prominent, they stick out even when there is no muscular contraction, you may not be aware of it. If your nipples are naturally outies, and even if they are not, there is little you can do about it. Some women wear thick or padded bras to conceal their nipples, but I do not feel this appropriate. Guys do see erect nipples as symbols of arousal and may stare at them, which may not be a bad thing if you can accept that form of attention. I suspect your boyfriend may be jealous if he has noticed others looking at your erect nipples, or fears others may find you sexually desirable. He may be trying to exert a little too much control over you and your body.
Girl 2 Question: Am I suppose to it feel when I get wet? Because while my partner and I were about to do it, I was taking off my pants and all of a sudden my panties felt very wet. Is it supposed to feel good when I get wet?
Girl 2 Answer: Since the moisture was likely at body temperature, it may not have been obvious, especially if your vulva is normally moist. A teen wrote last week (see above) asking about the same thing, so you are not alone. It could be that you are not in tune with your body and need to spend time getting to know what it feels like to be sexually aroused. Some women feel the increased wetness, their clitoris becomes erect and throbs, their heart rate changes, and they feel butterflies in their stomach. You can do this exploration while masturbating and thinking about what it feels like. Do not try to have an orgasm, just think about how your body feels. It would be beneficial to know when you are aroused. It is easier for guys, as they have a six-inch erection that cannot be easily overlooked.