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Question: I'm 14, at points I became horny and I used a [bed?] cover and pressed it up against my vagina. I guess this is what you call masturbation please set me straight. I also have a problem where after masturbating I went cold turkey and I felt so dirty that if my vagina moves an inch I take it as masturbation because I'm not sure of it and just sitting still is real hard and I can't watch or say anything dirty because somehow I even get turned on though I'm not touching myself and from what I learned from the movements of my vagina I'm masturbating. Please help me decipher what's what because I won't be able to live a normal life.

Answer: Masturbation is a normal and beneficial activity for teenage girls to engage in. My advice to you therefore is to masturbate. Explore your body and enjoy it. By not masturbating you are probably doing more harm than good.

During puberty, most girls, and boys, experience strong sexual feelings that they have no control over. It is a normal part of being a teenager. Instead of fighting or ignoring these feelings, please explore them. They are going to be with you for many years.

If you want to enjoy partnered sex, you need to understand your body first. You do this in part by learning to masturbate to orgasm. Please read the pages about Virginity in the section about Vaginal Intercourse.

Many teens experience the same feelings, sensations, and guilt, as disclosed in numerous questions and answers featured in the Puberty Q&As. Many girls experience feelings of guilt after masturbating, at least until they learn other girls masturbate too, and share the same feelings, as frequently disclosed at our sister website DoubleClickHeaven.com.