Question: 1. Regarding vaginal intercourse does a man's penis really need to be that large to cause vaginal orgasm and if so, how large.
2. I read the anterior-fornix of the vagina is an erogenous and can be quite pleasurable if stimulated, is this true ?
And is there an erogenous on the posterior fornix as well ?
And how would I go about stimulating these areas ? (anterior fornix and posterior fornix)
Thank you for your time, I find this website to be extremely informative and helpful.Answer: The answer to your first question depends on the individual woman you are having intercourse with at the time. It isn't necessarily a question of size as much as a question of how you use your penis, and if a penis is the appropriate instrument to use when stimulating her vagina. The majority of women aren't going to have a vaginal orgasm on a regular basis, if at all, regardless of the size of your penis, and I haven't seen any evidence that suggests otherwise, regardless of the size of a man's penis. If you expect your partner's sexual pleasure to be the end result of your penis your pride and self confidence will be in for a major blow. If you want to give your partner vaginal orgasms then you will need to explore different way of stimulating her vagina, and using your penis, fingers, and dildos are some of the instruments available to achieve this end. If you current partner prefers something larger than your penis, say several fingers or a large dildo, then use this form of stimulation rather than your penis. If you see your penis as being too small you limit your potential, and actually decrease the likelihood of fulfilling your partner's sexual needs.
I have heard of different "X-Spots," the G-Spot and A-Spot being but two of them, within the vagina that are reported to be the secrete to vaginal orgasm. Whether these claims are true depends on the individual woman. The area of greatest vaginal sensitivity varies from woman to woman, with the majority of women reporting the front wall is most sensitive. The area you describe, the front wall of the vagina near where it merges with the cervix, and commonly referred to as the A-Spot, is one potential erogenous zone. This area is the location of the female urethra, bladder neck, tail end of the female prostate gland, and the location of the G-Spot according to Deborah Sundahl, but others say the G-Spot is located further forward. Since 2 to 3 major nerves supplies feed this area it is certainly a potential erogenous zone. While the clitoris generally has a higher density of nerve endings, it is supplied by only one nerve.
If you are looking for the Holly Grail of female sexual pleasure will never find it, as every woman is unique in her sexual needs and wants.
Additional information is linked to below.
nerves_2.htmsize.htm
vag_org.htm
polls_indx.htm
http://www.heretical.com/miscella/g-spots.html
http://everything2.com/index.pl?node_id=1359247
The male A-Spot:
http://www.talksexwithsue.com/Aspot.html
Question Part 1: I recently asked you some questions and want to thank you for the response. I now have some other questions. One of them is regarding penis size. I read your article on penis size, but it seems like women all want a large penis but just wont admit it I guess because its considered slutty. I see the women in porn and I know porn stars are actors and I know they are paid and they are having sex with men with huge penises and seem to enjoy it, I mean the women are getting paid but if they didn't want to do it they wouldn't be porn stars in the first place. I know penile vaginal stimulation isn't the option but if you can't satisfy a woman with your penis then what's the point? Any BRUTALLY HONEST comments or opinions would be greatly appreciated.
I have another question too. When humans have sex I know we can do it just for the physical pleasure and not be emotional about it or committed, and then there's sex with emotion. Is it possible to not feel any emotion or closeness during sex or is it a hardwired response in the human brain that all people will feel to some extent no matter what when they have sex?And if it is how does it work?
Thank you for your time.
Answer Part 1: Based on a survey on the website:
20% of women say they like a large penis during intercourse.
15% of women say they like a large penis during fellatio
27% of women say they like a thick or long penis, or both
28% of women say they prefer a dildo that is larger in diameter than the average penis, but only 23% report having actually experienced this.
51% of the women who took part in this survey have experienced intercourse with less than 10 partners, with 31% having experienced intercourse with 3 or fewer partners. 20% have experienced intercourse with more than 10 partners. 22% have not experienced intercourse. In general, these women have not experienced intercourse with a large number of men, so the odds are they haven't experienced intercourse with men having a penis that is significantly larger or smaller than average, or wouldn't know if they had. Their preference may not be related to experience so much as their own believes and social expectations.
In another survey:
33% of women said their partner's penis would ideally be longer than 6 inches.
64% say they like deep penetration, to varying degrees.
So while the majority of women report they like deep penetration, only half of these women say they prefer a penis that is longer than average. A penis 6 inches or less in length penetrates deep enough for the other half to count as deep penetration, and fulfill their needs.These surveys have only had 67 and 32 participants respectively, which is a very small sample size, but still, it indicates only 15-33% of women may like a penis that is larger than average in size, in one way or another, and their expectation change depending on the circumstances. This does not support your claim that "all" women like a large penis, but rather that the majority don't want or need a large penis.
Very few porn stars are getting rich doing what they do, and as a result they do whatever work comes their way. There is also a lot of competition, which means if you don't do it someone else will, so you will do it if you want or need to get paid. The film producers and ultimately the customer controls what the women do in these videos.
We all have an emotional response to sex, but that doesn't mean we have an emotional connection with our sexual partner, or any other type of connection. You can basically use your partner to masturbate with, if you choose to. Now the average man and woman do have some form of emotional relationship, but it can be a beneficial or harmful relationship with the resulting emotions from their sexual interactions being positive or negative. Men who have sex with multiple women simple to count them as a sexual conquest may not have an emotional connection with these women, but feel good about themselves as a result. The women on the other hand may feel bad about themselves and these men. So partnered sex isn't without emotion, but can exist without an emotional connection, and the resulting emotions may not be mutually shared.Question Part 2: I would like to thank you for taking the time to answer my questions. The information you provided was very helpful.
I now have another question.
I asked you if all humans experience emotion during sex with or without an emotional connection and you said "We all have an emotional response to sex, but that doesn't mean we have an emotional connection with our sexual partner, or any other type of connection."
My question is, when a man and woman engage sex without emotional connection what are the general emotions experienced by the man and what are the general emotions experienced by the woman during their sexual encounter?
I would also like to know when a man and woman engage in sex with emotional connection what are the general emotions experienced by a man and the general emotions experienced by a woman during their sexual encounter?Answer Part 2: I believe every emotion can and does occur, but one would hope they both most often feel happy and content after a successful sexual experience. In reality the full range of emotions is experienced, the good and the bad. It depends on their motives to have sex and if those motives were fulfilled. Add in a few neuroses and you end up with a cornucopia of end results.
I believe you are trying to over simplify the whole process, more than is practical.
Question: Does it really hurt to break the hymen? I really want to insert things into my vagina because I'm getting bored with just rubbing and humping. The only thing holding me back is the pain. Please respond soon so I can have a great time masturbating!
Answer: I don't believe anyone as done a survey to determine how much discomfort girls and women typically experience when they start inserting fingers and objects into their vagina. There is likely a wide range of experiences, some experiencing no discomfort or pain while others experience a lot. The surveys about a woman's first experience of vaginal intercourse and vaginal sensitivity will likely provide some insight into what women experience when something is inserted into their vagina for the first time.
Active surveys:http://www.misterpoll.com/polls/239041/results
http://www.misterpoll.com/polls/301267/results
Archived surveys:http://www.misterpoll.com/polls/239042/results
http://www.misterpoll.com/polls/301268/results
Additional information on this subject can be found in the articles linked to below:
Question: I am a 52 year old women with early menopause and have noticed lately that my clitoral area seems to be shrinking or rather retracting into itself, that is, the hood seems to be retracting or diminishing. Also, when I pee I have to lean way forward so that the stream doesn't shoot straight out rather than down as is normal.
What going on we me? Is this normal in a woman my age?Answer: I am not a doctor so I cannot provide a medical diagnosis only general information.
During menopause there is a significant decrease in the amount of sex hormone circulating through the body, which is the opposite of what occurred during puberty. During puberty your genital structures likely increased in size, and may decrease in size during menopause. I don't have immediate access to the specific references but recall it being said that the clitoris increases significantly in size during puberty and does the opposite during menopause. This is the likely explanation for the physical changes that you have witnessed. Hormone replacement therapy is an option, but I am not versed in the pros and cons as they stand today.The change in your urine stream could be the result of these changes in the soft tissues of your vulva and vagina, and decreasing muscle tone in your pelvic and vaginal muscle. You may need to explore Kegel exercises to determine the strength of your pelvic muscles, and your need for regular Kegel exercises.
Question: I know this sounds kinda dumb, but I would just like to ask and get it off my chest. My boyfriend and I have been masturbating each other to orgasm for a while now. Recently full nudity has been added and at one point he orgasmed into his hand and wiped it clean. When I felt him touch me he was completely dry like nothing had happened. I just wanted to know if there was any high risk of pregnancy involved with that. There was no touching of the genitals. Just the hand thing. So I was curious and thank you for listening to me.
Answer: It is impossible for you to become pregnant unless live viable sperm came in contact with your vulva, vagina, inner thighs, or immediately adjacent areas. Sperm while hearty and determined in the right environment are relatively delicate and easy killed. Even if they were still alive on his hands, without a suitable fluid to move about in they couldn't go anywhere. If his hands were dry and the area of your body that he touched was dry then they could not go anywhere even if they were alive at the moment of contact.
If he touched your wet vulva with his hands while there was sperm present then it is possible for you to become pregnant, but very unlikely, as the dryness of his hands should have killed the sperm. If there was a glob of ejaculate hidden between his fingers...
I would recommend having him wash his hands with hot soapy water before touching you.
If he ejaculates on his hands and then touches your vulva and/or vagina then it is possible for you to become pregnant, but I don't know the likelihood. I certainly wouldn't recommend doing it.
If you cannot risk pregnancy then you don't want his penis or any part of his body that comes in contact with his penis, or any object that does, to come in contact with your body, as then there is some risk of conception.
I don't want to scare you but there are a lot of variables at play here, and I don't know exactly what happened, and perhaps you don't know for sure either.
Something to consider is where you were at in your menstrual period at the time. Please see the information linked to below. It may be impossible for you to become pregnant even if live sperm did come in contact with your body, and you worry needlessly.
Question: This is kani [male(24)].
I have a practice of masturbation for 12 years.
Because of this habit, my penis changed to U-curved.
Also, the quantity of sperm also reduced.
Within one minute I could ejaculate the sperms.
I have foreskin problem from birth.
When I was in beginning stage I asked my friends, they told me to do masturbation for 10-20 times. I did the same, but it was not cured and I was also not able to leave this habit.
Now I problem is,
1. Is U-curved penis ok for sex?
2. How can I prevent from premature ejaculation?
3. How can I increase the quantity of sperms?
4. What are the food items [fruits, vegetables] that can increase the quantity of sperm?
Answer: A slight curve to the penis is normal and not a reason for concern, and can be of added pleasure to the woman in the correct sexual positions, especially if they enjoy G-Spot stimulation.
In some instances having a very cured penis can be an indication of a medical condition. Please see the article linked to below.
http://www.wrongdiagnosis.com/sym/bent_penis.htm
Photos of penises of different shapes and sizes can be seen at the website linked to below:
http://www.thesexualgod.com/tiki-browse_gallery.php?galleryId=1
There are different types of problems that occur with the foreskin. See the web sites linked to below to learn about your foreskin and proper ways of caring for it.
http://www.embarrassingproblems.co.uk/penistight.htm
http://net.indra.com/~shredder/intact/anatomy/
http://www.cirp.org/pages/anat/
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Foreskin
http://www.drgreene.org/body.cfm?id=21&action=detail&ref=513
You can help prevent premature ejaculation by learning to control your ejaculations while masturbating. Instead of going straight for orgasm, learn to tease yourself, and pause for a few seconds prior to ejaculation, then start again.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Premature_ejaculation
Please take note of the fact that even if you can hold off ejaculating for an hour your partner probably will not experience orgasm without providing direct clitoral stimulation.vag_org.htm
There is no way of increasing the quantity of the ejaculate short of ejaculating less often, i.e. masturbating less often, despite what rumors and folklore may say. I am aware of no aphrodisiacs that actually work.http://www.askmen.com/love/dzimmer_100/117_love_answers.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ejaculation
"An average ejaculate contains 40-150 million sperm," and it only takes one sperm to get a woman pregnant, so you are fighting a needless battle.
http://www.webmd.com/content/article/4/1680_51511
If you expect your future sexual partner's sexual pleasure to revolve around your penis you could be in for a rude awakening.
Question: Can you tell me if it is possible for the female glans (beneath the female hood) to become perforated? Or damaged?
Also can this happen during development?Answer: The clitoral glans is made up of soft tissue so it can be subjected to injury just like any other area of the body with soft tissue. Trauma to the vulva isn't unusual during childhood, as a result of straddle injuries that occur as a result of slipping while playing on the playground or while riding a bicycle, and the like.
I would not expect there to be a hole in the glans, but you never know. If someone forcibly retracted the clitoral hood when adhesions were present then tearing of the tissues is a possible result, and the resulting scar tissue would alter the appearance of the glans.
qa_18.htm#1
As indicated in the body image section of the website the clitoris comes in an infinite number of shapes and sizes.
body_indx.htm
Some of the unique appearances of the clitoral glans are likely the result of how it developed in the womb. There is often a slit or groove in the bottom side of well developed clitorises, as this is where the urethra would be located in the penis.
http://www.the-clitoris.com/y/vulva2/46.jpg
I have seen adult women with the "Epithelial Tag" shown in the upper right illustration linked to below, even though it usually disappears prior to birth. This results in a pointed clitoris, or I am guessing at the cause for this unique characteristic I have seen a couple times in photos.
devel1.jpg
In some cultures the clitoris is nicked or cut as part of a coming of age ceremony; a lesser form of female genital mutilation.
Question: Hi, I'm a 16 year old girl and I have been masturbating for about 3 years.
Lately when I orgasm I go partially deaf. It only lasts a few minutes and I will get a lot of ringing in my ears.
What could this be?Answer: I answered your question the best I could on the discussion forum.
http://www.the-clitoris.com/sexforum/view_topic.php?id=802&forum_id=7
Question: Is there any way to stop to be "over lubricated"? It is embarrassing and makes it difficult to "work" my pelvic muscles around his penis, everything is just too wet.
Answer: The vaginal lubrication is the end result of increased blood flow to the pelvic organs during sexual arousal. So short of decreased sexual arousal there is nothing you can do to decrease the amount of lubrication, though I am sure the side affect of some medications is decreased vaginal lubrication, and probably impaired orgasmic response too.
You might explore increasing the strength and your control over your pelvic muscles through Kegel exercises, so you can grasp him tighter. You also might try ribbed condoms of the like to increase the amount of friction.
Sorry that I cannot be of more help.
Question: Hi! I am a 19 year old virgin and for some reason I rarely feel sexual arousal. Also, when I do, I just can't seem to masturbate. I feel turned on, but I don't get wet and I don't feel anything when I touch myself. I've never really tried masturbating before a year ago, and I usually give up due to frustration. Will buying a vibrator help? Am I too late? After reading some of these stories about girls twelve years old and younger reaching orgasm I feel a bit insecure about my lack of sexual skill/knowledge.
Answer: There is nothing wrong with being a 19 year old virgin who hasn't discovered her sexuality, and don't assume there is. Instead of looking at yourself as a 19 year old woman exploring her sexuality imagine yourself as a 10 year old girl first beginning to exploring her sexuality, as then you will have a more realistic expectations of yourself. You are in no way immature, only expecting too much of yourself. It isn't your fault that you are less sexual than you perceive others to be, and I am sure you are not alone in your experience. Don't compare yourself to others, as you are a unique individual.
Yes, reading about all the teens and women who discovered their sexuality as a girl or adolescent can be intimidating for those who didn't or haven't. If you read through the website though you will find mention of many women such as yourself who discover their sexuality later in life.The onset of a hormonally based sex drive during puberty means the majority of girls discover their sexuality by the age of 14. Based on survey results gathered on this website, 75% of women discovered their sexuality by this age, but 25%, or 1 out of 4 did not or have not. While physical puberty is a major factor in when girls discover their sexuality, other major factors are their community and peer group, whether they permit adolescent sexuality and sexual expression. You likely have never had a positive sexual role model, and as a result don't know how to be a sexual woman.
I believe you need to start listening to your body, and spend time exploring it. If you are a busy person with a lot going on in your life you may not have time to be sexual, or for your sexuality. Perhaps you need to set time aside for yourself, to relax and explore your body and feelings. This isn't just about sex and masturbation, but everything. Perhaps you need to prioritize "me" with "me time." Discovering your sexuality can begin with the simple act of taking a long bath or shower once a week and exploring your body and feelings. Though, if you have a lot going on in your mind you may not be able to listen to your body.
The Puberty and Self Discovery section of the Q&A presents a lot of information on the subject of exploring your sexuality. Unfortunately there isn't a short answer to your question so you need to read through the information presented and determine the advise and information that applies specifically to you.
qa_index_puberty.htm
For starters learn to recognize when you are experiencing sexual arousal, and this may clue you into when you are experiencing sexual desire. Learn to recognize when you are having sexual thoughts and dreams, not just physical sexual arousal. If you truly aren't experiencing sexual desire that is a separate subject altogether.
Getting a vibrator or muscle massager isn't a bad idea, but unless you are feeling sexually frustrated I would hold off on that for a short while longer. The use of one may help you discover orgasm, but not necessarily help you discover and explore your sexuality. The use of one in the beginning may shortcut the discovery process. Explore more subtle forms of stimulation first, and also explore your feelings about sex and life in general. If after reading through the information I present, and trying out the advise I give, you haven't discovered your sexuality and orgasm then certainly give a vibrator a try.
If you aren't a sexual person then don't pretend to be, or rush out and have partnered sex simply so you can say you have. You are still very young, so don't place unnecessary pressure on yourself to be like your peers, as they may not be as sexual as you believe they are.
