The-Clitoris.com - The Female Sexual Experience: Shared Sexual Histories and Experiences Volume 5, Part 2

Dana

I don't know if you would call it masturbation or not. but my first mutual orgasm was with my best friend when I was 11. We were sleeping over. We got to giggling about our new pubic hair and that 'squirmy feeling' down there. We started to show each other. Next thing you know we were naked and spread eagle. We were showing each other our pussies. Then we started to kind of touch the others. Next thing you know I leaned over and licked my friend's clit. But at the time I did not even know the word clit. All I know is she moaned and I didn't want to stop. I licked and licked and licked. My friend squirted on my face. Very curious, she then licked me. but I did not squirt. I loved her musty smell. We did it every week-end for about a year. Funny, I am married now, and not gay, but I still remember that beautiful musky smell and the sweet taste of her pussy.

Anonymous

While the information on this site is very thorough and useful, I feel I have something to contribute. I am currently nineteen and lost my virginity about a year and a half ago to my boyfriend of a few months. I had never masturbated before and had limited oral sex experience. I had never had an orgasm. The only expectation I had for my first time was pain and I was not disappointed in this. He was a virgin, too, so I imagine it did not last long, but all I could focus on was the immense pain. It could have been half a minute or half an hour. I have no idea. But this did not surprise me. Afterwards, we laid together and I bled all over his white sheets for hours. But I don't consider this a bad experience. Our relationship had not been long at the time but was very intense and we could not get enough of each other. After a while, sex (for me) got better. I don't regret the experience in the least, not even the pain. I'm glad I got the full experience from someone I trusted rather than experiment on my own just to prevent the pain. Losing our virginity together made us feel very close and I would not have done it any other way. Sometimes I feel the people on this website wish they had prepared themselves for sex more before they began with a partner. I would like to be a voice that says that its OK to learn together and experience all the emotions involved with sex, including both pleasure AND pain. It all depends on how you feel.

Unsure About Sexuality and Masturbation

Well I have had only two sexual experiences, if that's what you want to call them. My first was in kindergarten. The class was having story time and I had to go to the bathroom, I asked the teacher if I could go, and since our bathroom was inside the class she let me. This girl I was friends with followed me in. I told her to get out but she said no, I told her to leave again but still she said no. This went on for a while until i decided to go ahead, because I had to use it really bad. As I was using it the girl just stood there and watched. When I got up she started humping me and pretty soon we were against the wall. I had no idea what we were doing, but I thought it was a fun game even though I knew it was bad. She pulled her pants down after a while and we continued until this boy walked in and she pulled hers up and walked out.

My other sexual experience was when I was 11 and this fifteen year old boy I had been flirting with for a couple of days rubbed my vulva. Since I had known him for the past year, but only talked to him for about three days prior to when he touched me, so since I didn't want to be known as a slut I moved his hand and told him no. I actually kept talking to him over the phone and see him around a lot but he hasn't tried that again yet.

But I belive because of that girl I have an attraction to women. I'm only 15 and still am a virgin but I would like to have sex with a women. I would never have a serious realtionship or fall in love with one, but I would like to have sex with one. I don't even hit on girls. I believe I'm straight, because the only attraction I have to women is sexual and thats only if I see them already having sex in a porn or something. Boys on the other hand I hit on all the time. And have fantisies about that one boy constantly. Yet I cant masturbate, I tried it once I got the tip of my finger in and it hurt so I don't try anymore. I read on here how everyone explores their body and all but I can't masturbate, it just hurts. I would like to know how to fix that.

This young woman's experiences with and feeling towards girls are normal and common, as indicated in the shared experiences on this website, and is a subject that us addressed in the article about Sexual Orientation. The likely reason why she hasn't found her attempts at masturbating pleasurable is she is trying to stimulate her vagina rather than her clitoris. Learning to masturbate is addressed in the shared masturbation experiences and information for preorgasmic women.

Mary - Age 65

I am 65 years young since finding this website. Born and raised a puritan society influenced my sex life completely. Don't look, don't touch, don't feel, and never talk about it is what I was raised with. My knowledge of myself and my body has enhanced my sexual experience 210 degrees. For the first time I looked at my body and was amazed at what I looked like and all of a sudden knew what everything was and the way and why things functioned. I never knew at the age of 63 that a woman could have an orgasm through clitoris stimulation. I only wish I'd had this available to me at a much younger age. The information here is so complete, as it covers every subject I've ever wondered about and many that had never occurred to me to wonder about. I've changed all of my medications to take ones that don't inhibit me sexually and I have come alive for the first time in my life without frustration. I have this Website in favorites, it's not something you can just read, it's information to study. Yes, I was very surprised to find out a man is behind this website. Thank you! Everything I'd read all my life was focused strictly on male sexuality even though they only make up half of the world population. Thank you so much for turning on the light for me.

Lisette

I am glad to see that on this site their our other woman who are sexually aroused visually as I have been since grade school. I thought that I was the only female that was like a male who was sexually aroused to the point of orgasm without being touched by thinking or looking at something erotic. Having always hearing that men our visually stimulated and women aren't. Thank you for this site.

Lisette

Anonymous

First of all, I would like to thank you for this site; I can't express my gratitude. I was given the link to it by my current boyfriend, and I think it's safe to say that it changed my life, or at least how I will live it. You see, I first experienced sexual desires (and recognized what they were) in my mid-teens, when I regularly started masturbating. Unfortunately, my parents found out and gave me a negative impression about it (along with the "sex kills" and "men are horny bastards and want to use you for nothing other than sex" ideals), so ever since I have suppressed any feeling of the kind as second-nature. It didn't help that when my breasts started developing around thirteen, they weren't going at the same rate (yes, they're even now, thank you), so I was brought to the doctor's and examined like I had a tumor or something. I didn't get my period or develop pubic hair until a year later; neither was I much explained to about what was happening to my body, by my parents or school health/sex education class or otherwise. It was only until recently (thanks to my boyfriend, of course, who's much more experienced and tuned with his sexuality, though he thankfully puts emphasis on it without pressuring me) that I learned to accept myself for who I am, and have even tried cultivating the desires I first felt so strongly at thirteen and again (grudgingly) at sixteen. It's slow going, but this website has certainly sped up the process and helped me tons.

Heather

Thank you SO MUCH for making such a sex-positive, female-friendly, bolstering-broken-body-images site. I recommend it to all my friends. Every time I'm feeling down about my body, I surf over here. It's amazing. Thank you.

Susan

Hello - Thanks for the wonderful website. I was wondering if you are aware of or ever suggest progesterone? I've been using it for about 10 years, arriving at a very low dose now at 62, and the boost in sex drive for myself and everyone else I know using it is tremendous. If I stop using it my sex drive mostly fades out, which as you say doesn't mean one must avoid sex, nor does it promote sex either. It is such a potent androgen, and such a natural female hormone I haven't ever really understood why anyone would emphasize testosterone. Progesterone can be applied as a simple skin cream and honestly I would be surprised if almost any woman wouldn't report aphrodisiac effects within days, if not upon first use. It also promotes good sleep, noticeable within days as well. Luckily for me I live in Berkeley CA, and found that using progesterone, eating gourmet take-out and Adelle Davis stuff like brewers yeast, starting a rock band and staying stoned much of the time made menopause a, what can I say, a really special time.

Thanks for the ear.
Susan

Anonymous

My absolute favorite sex is when my boyfriend starts by going down on me. He did this the other night and it was amazing. He started by pinning my hands behind my head with his, kissing my neck and breasts. His heavy breathing and animal-like movements were a huge turn-on. Once he let my arms go, he opened my legs and pinned them down, if my hands wandered down to investigate what he was doing, he would pin them back to the bed. His tongue felt so warm and sharp as it darted over every nerve. Knowing I love it when he puts his finger in, he just touched the outside of my opening; teasing me enough to moan and buck-which was stifled by hands gently pinning my legs once more. The sensations down there were almost too much, it got to a point where I could feel every little lick as though he was licking all of my insides. When my whole body began to tremble and shake-a finger came in to toy with my insides. I squeezed him hard during the release of an orgasm. He stayed on and licked until I tried to squirm away. I lay on the bed panting and moaning, legs apart and very wet. He slid in and a second wave of pleasure hit me. I began squeezing him on purpose this time, watching him sweat and quiver. He moaned and leaned his head down to kiss my neck, all the while hitting my g-spot at the perfect angle-hard enough to make me scream into his shoulder. As he started to cum, he pulled out and finished himself on me, spraying all over my vagina, legs, and lower tummy. I'm on birth control, but the semen often irritates the inside if my vagina. This method is my favorite because it makes sex painless and enjoyable. Since he just pleasured me, it makes me want to pleasure him as well. I love giving him head, and often he'd rather have sex to get his orgasm. He's the only person I've has sex with and we started less than a year ago, so I haven't been able to cum from sex alone. Luckily my partner wants sex to be enjoyable for both of us.

Susan

Hi! I just wanted to tell about an amazing experience I had Labor Day weekend. I had been talking to this boy who's two years older than me (fyi I'm 17), and well he came home from school for the weekend. Well about a couple of weeks before then, we hung out the day before he left for school. Well that visit ended with grins on our faces, so we planned to see hang out at his house on the first day of September. Well its weird how we actually got started. We both like college football, so we were watching some game that was pretty boring, and when it got close to half time, he started caressing my neck with his tongue and lips. It felt good, but not as good as when this one boy caressed my neck and almost made me cum with his tongue. Anyway, I knew he was ready to go, and well I was too. We started off 69ing which he likes to do and then with me on top, and God it felt great!! He had me going and screaming my head off. But my favorite position and he knows it is doggy style. Of course we saved it for last. I never felt so invigorated in my life. And every time he smacked my ass, it got me closer to orgasm. Going like this for a while, I could feel pressure building up, and I wanted him to smack my ass so bad but he didn't. After the pressure became really strong I told him too and I felt myself orgasm. Well it was more like heard myself. But after I did he was still going because for me, it takes a while for me to become satisfied with sex. I can orgasm up to four times before I'm truly done. But anyway, he kept going and I looked down, and I saw clear liquid dripping from my vagina. I kept staring at it until all of a sudden a lot of clear liquid just rushed out all at once. Like it could have filled a cup and it shocked me because it had never happened before. But shortly after that we had stop because for some reason or other I started bleeding, which too was a first. We got done a little after half time so we were still able to finish the game. All-in-all it was a pretty great day. We enjoyed each other's company greatly afterwards until I had to go home later that night.

Anonymous

I remember being so excited years ago, when lying on the bed, my ex sat between my legs. I didn't have on any panties and was wearing a dress which made him easy to just spread my legs and pussy lips open and started his concentrated inspection of my pussy which I found exciting. He then pushed back the hood of my clit and two fingers in my pussy. My pussy was so wet that he gently ran his finger over my wet glistening clit. I was so excited spreading my pussy for his intense inspection.

Polly

Last weekend my boyfriend and I decided to have some fun and do something a little different. We got together with another couple and had some wine and then started playing some sexy games. In the process I discovered something about myself - I love to eat pussy! I had only the tiniest taste, just one quick lick, but now I find myself thinking about licking another woman's cunt whenever I masturbate. I can't wait until I get my next chance to suck on a woman's clit until she screams with pleasure and squirts hot pussy juices all over my mouth!

Anonymous

Whenever I was younger me and my brother would sleep in the same room. We were about 5 or 6. I had never masturbated before. One night he pulled out his penis and I asked him if I could touch it. Afterwards he insisted he touched me. Every night from then until we were old enough to know what we were doing we took turns touching each other and sometimes we used our mouths. It felt so good and I can remember the feeling so well. I masturbate every day at least twice, and I always find some guy to eat me out. I'm addicted to the feeling...its amazing!

Anonymous

Fantasies arouse me a lot. Imagining that someone is watching me strip my clothes, observing my breasts arouses me. Porn is one of my favorites. I really like reading sex and masturbation stories. Right now I am so horny that I had to pull off my pants and underwear. I usually masturbate after watching porn or reading erotic stories.

It started when I was around 14. I used to lock my room and change cloths without closing the windows. I liked the feeling of someone watching my naked breasts, but that didn't happen even once. One day, I was with my cousin and we started discussing masturbation. Then we slowly touched each other's breasts and private parts with clothes on. We didn't proceed further. Slowly, since we liked it a lot, with the pretense of reading a book or something else, we used to lock ourselves in a room and strip ourselves naked. We touched each others private parts and I realized my nipples were getting bigger. She would play with my nipples and I would ask her to squeeze them tight. We then slowly went over to the bed, she on top of me, rubbing my breasts, and my pussy became so wet, the moment she touched it, I couldn't let her take her hands off it. Then she rubbed my pussy softly in circular motions and slowly came the wonderful feeling.

Now, I masturbate naked. The touch of a cool bed sheet against my naked pussy feels so good. I first rub my pussy against it, then slowly hump using my pillow or some clothing.

Anonymous

Between the ages of 9 and 10 my best friend and I had our own world full of sexual role play. I was a man, she was my wife. We kissed in a way I have never kissed anyone else since - it was so new and raw. In our world we went from a first date to marriage and kids - with a lot of humping on the way.

With another friend, around age 11 and 12, we started to discover more about our anatomy, conducting our own investigations into our vulvas, how tampons are used, whether we would be able to have sex. It was all very scientific and practical and, er, rather hands on!

I am 24 now and currently single. Since then I have only had meaningful relationships with women and have not had full sex with a man, just everything leading up to it, although the opportunity has presented itself many times - I have always changed my mind. I can now still only see my self in relationships with women but my sexual fantasies are purely focused on men. These fantasies are usually in my dreams - rough sex, my face being pushed against a wall while being taken very roughly from behind, etc. My sexual relationships with women have always been very intense - strap ons, etc - so I do not consider myself a virgin in any way. I can still only mostly think about men though, in a sexual context.

The first time I masturbated to orgasm, I was 13, in bed at night, just playing with myself down there like I normally did every night. I remember it very clearly because I achieved orgasm through using my fingers inside me, which I do not recall ever being able to achieve since then. Nobody else has ever given me an orgasm - during sex, I enjoy full, deep penetration, but can only orgasm through rubbing my clit. Nobody else has even rubbed my clit right either. I'm very much of the opinion that if you want something doing right, do it yourself.

I have had various masturbatory obsessions and techniques since then, such as rubbing on the corner of the mattress, shower heads, inserting a variety of objects, drawers full of sex toys - many broken rampant rabbits - and my life long best friend the electric toothbrush (always while sat on the toilet with my legs wrapped around the back of it). I have to remain very still and rarely make any noise. I often breathe very slowly or hold my breath altogether.

I have looked at porn since the age of 15 but it is only lately that I've discovered how much I love watching short videos online of amateur couples. My favourite thing to watch is anal sex, nothing turns me on more than this, along with reading stories about it. Generally I simply rub my clit round and round, holding off a few times before I come very hard. I HATE it if I come before a video has finished or before I've finished a story because as soon as I have come this way (from watching porn or reading a story about forced anal sex) I feel incredibly guilty, which simply annoys me, as I know I have nothing to feel guilty about. I suddenly feel very stupid and exposed, like somebody knows I did it. I'm working on trying to ignore that.

I love being fisted with looooads of lube while I rub my clit very hard and fast, with no lube on that - I like the friction sometimes. It feels incredible, although I once came so hard I almost broke someone's thumb with my clenching.

Nobody has ever licked my anus and I am desperate for this to happen.

I have incredibly sensitive nipples (I can almost come from stimulation of these alone) and as I have very large breasts, in the right position I can lick, suck and bite them which sends me crazy. I do prefer to have someone doing this to me though!

I also have a niggling desire to have my clit and pussy licked by a dog. I have no desire to engage in any other sexual activity with animals, I simply want to experience it once.

Of course, I'd rather not be single and just have a girlfriend who can do that instead...not that it would make me come...I wish I could do that myself too!

Typing all that out was an incredible release. Gotta find me some porn now!

Anonymous

I am a first year graduate student at a major university working on my Master's Degree in Clinical Psychology and Counseling. I have a rather unusual sexual past. It is now clear to me that I have a much higher sex drive than the ordinary girl next door. No one knows anything about my past, but as long as it is anonymous, it might be beneficial to share it here.

My first overt physical sexual experience was with a friend of my Mom's when I was very young. I didn't think of it as molestation at the time and still don't, because I initiated it. My parents were very open about sex, and I had seen sexual activity a number of times prior to my own initial experiences. I had intense curiosity early on and began masturbation by age 6 when I discovered my clit in the bathtub. I had my first orgasm before age 8.

I am an only child. When I was 8 my parents were divorced and Mom and I went to live in a different state. When we arrived in our new state, Mom met and started dating a very nice man. I would go to sleep in my own room, but was sometimes scared, so when I would wake up at night, I would go into Mom's bedroom and crawl into bed with Mom and sometimes her man friend was there. Mom would always ask me to go back to my own room, but I'd get into their bed anyways. A couple of times, when Mom and her man friend thought I was asleep, I saw my Mom and him having sex in the dark. I loved watching her suck him. He never touched me in any way, but I know I was curious about what they had been doing, and sometimes I thought about it when I touched myself. In fact, I remember touching myself while playing like I was asleep but watching them.

Shortly after I turned 9, Mom changed their relationship and she began dating other men, but we were still good friends with this man. When Mom had "dates," she would have the man come over and sit with me. Nothing unusual ever happened. After a while, when Mom would have a date with someone on weekends, and wanted him to spend the night, she would take me over to our friend's house and I would spend the night at his place. He'd always would put me to bed in his guest bedroom, but when I was scared I'd get up and go into his room and crawl into bed with him. At first, I'd wake him up and tell him I was scared. He let me cuddle up against him, and he would hold me. I really got excited about this, and wouldn't immediately go to sleep. I don't know where I get the idea, but I would think about touching him or him touching me. One night I crawled into his bed and didn't wake him up. I still don't know why I did this, but I slid down under the covers and laid my head right on his lap. He had on boxer underwear on, but his penis was hanging out and I could feel it against my cheek. I laid there a while, thought about touching it, but couldn't get up the nerve, even though I would feel it swell against my cheek. Eventually, I slid back up and laid next to him and masturbated before I went back to sleep.

I repeated this almost every time I was over at his house and kept building my nerve. He woke up about the 3rd or 4th time with his erect penis in my mouth. He pushed me away and started asking me why I did that. I told him I had wanted too a long time. He said I could never ever tell my mom or anyone else what happened. He said it was a very naughty thing to do and that we shouldn't do it anymore. I began crying and wanted to know why not, but he seemed a little angry about it and asked me how many times I had done that. I told him a couple of times. He said he thought he was having sexual dreams and told me I couldn't do that anymore, but he was gentle and cuddled me and told me not to worry, that he would never tell my Mom and that it was okay this time, but not anymore.

The problem was that I didn't want to stop and I got to spend at least every other Saturday night with him for the next year while Mom went out dating men and partying. Once something starts and you really love it, it is hard to stop and it just progresses. It didn't stop until Mom got remarried and we no longer saw each other. I hated my new stepfather because I no longer was able to see my friend.

Megan - Age 45

Wanted to share this. I am 45, my husband is 27... We practice spontaneous wild uninhibited sex... We are determined to keep the romance in our sex, so we will never tire of each other.

I am only 4'7", live on a very private piece of property and we have a large pickup truck for pulling our boat... The bucket seats in our car say no no for a sexual encounter... However, the truck has a unencumbered 60-40 bench seat... I almost always crawl over my husband and get out on his side... One rainy afternoon I came across and perched on the console before he could open the door...

I told him I wanted to sit on his console...

He got the message...

He reached down and took off my sandals, raising my foot and to kiss it, then his lips came up my calf... As he reached my knees, I pulled up my dress only enough for him to kiss them-just a little tease... Still holding my foot, he raised my leg even more - which would allow him to see up my dress-telling me he wanted to look at me and let his eyes adore me.... Leaning over to hold his face and kiss him passionately, I raised that leg higher and whispered yes, look at me..

As he kissed my inner thighs, spreading my legs, I pulled up my dress just enough to stay ahead of his kisses... I spread my legs, and he told me how beautiful I looked... He gently pushed me back over to passenger side and raising the console, followed me to that side...

He pulled me up to a sitting position, lifted my dress over my head, and again told me how beautiful I was to him...

Helping him remove his Bermudas and briefs, I slipped under him, taking into my mouth what I could of his erection... licking the wetness off his glans, I tell him how delicious he was today... Not being able to take much of this pressure, he pulls away, takes off my soaking panties and places my left leg over the seat-and the other one on the dashboard, he goes down to give me a a great orgasm...then I reached down to peel back my skin, exposing my tiny clit... I wanted to see my organ...he immediately takes it between his teeth and strokes with his tongue...

It seems only a moment or two before I am screaming for his dick... We have a tendency to orgasm maybe a second apart- me first-then with me in a frenzy from the pumping of his dick, I go again...oh damn, he drives it home so hard and fast- then shoots off in me...he doesn't stop driving into me until I beg him to stop to let me catch my breath...

He helps me roll over on top of his now rather limp body...trying to get upright, I move, with the sweet mix of our love gushing out onto his abs, then his chest.. He takes my ass and lifts me up onto his face...trying to get all of us out... Then I slide back down-we kiss and we kiss, and sometimes fall asleep right there in the front seat of our truck...

I suppose to some, talking/whispering is a no no... I like to hear him say how beautiful I am...and that he wants to look at me-like the song-let his eyes adore me.

And forgive me, I didn't realize the length of this.

Megan

Anonymous

Although I masturbated pretty regularly throughout my teen years, I had never felt like I wanted to have sex with the guys that I dated. Sometimes this caused breakups, but I figured if the guy only wanted to be with me for sex then he wasn't the right guy for me anyways! It wasn't that I was being religious or anything, I just was never with anyone that I cared to share myself with. Then I met the man who is now my husband (of nearly 5 years). We had sex while we were still dating/engaged, and although I enjoyed it, I never orgasmed. I know that orgasm has a lot to do with being relaxed and "letting go" during sex, but I couldn't seem to do it. I also NEVER took charge in bed, always letting him lead the sex. I think partially this was because I had never had any sexual experience with a partner, and he wasn't a virgin, so I was afraid of being clumsy or inadequate compared to the other women he'd been with. We lay naked in bed one night, and he asked me about what might be holding me back from having orgasm. I told him I wasn't sure, but for some reason I just couldn't let go, and that I felt tense and self-pressured. We talked for over an hour, and slowly the subject changed from my worries and problems into what I liked (sexually). As we laid there in bed and talked, he began stroking my skin; just innocent places at first like my cheek and my shoulder, but the more I talked about the things I liked him to do during foreplay and sex the more his hand stroked across places like my breasts and down my stomach to my inner thighs and crotch. I asked him if he wanted to have sex (the first time I'd ever brought it up!) but he said, "Not yet; I want you to enjoy just being touched for awhile." Then he started talking, and saying that I was beautiful and that he loved the way I gave him pleasure during sex, and that I was completely desirable to him and that nothing would ever change that. I got so relaxed listening to the sound of his voice and what he was saying, that I started stroking him back, the same way that he had done to me, without any tenseness or worry at all. It was like a load off my shoulders, and I began to get really turned on, and I asked him to start talking a little dirty to me. He did, and I could tell that the more I was getting turned on, the more it was turning him on, too. I never initiated sex, and didn't take the lead on anything, so when I said I wanted to do 69 (the sex position, which we had never done together) he got even hotter and agreed. I got on top (I'd never been on top! he'd asked if I wanted to before, but I'd always declined), and sort of knelt on all fours above him. There was some light from a street lamp coming in the window, and although it wasn't very bright, I know he could see everything. It was the first time I really felt relaxed showing off my body (especially my pussy), and he started breathing a little harder and stroking my pussy (which I realized was very wet by now) and talking about how he loved the way it looked and felt and that my ass was very hot as well, and he was stroking my buttocks, too. I took his cock in my hand and started running my fingers over it, really admiring it for the first time. I listened to the way his breathing got heavier and he even moaned a little when I rubbed my finger and thumb over the head of his penis, and the ridge that goes around it. I leaned down with my chest, so that he could keep touching my pussy with his fingers, and started to lick his cock, especially around the head where I realized he really like it. I liked the way he started moaning, and moving his hips like he couldn't stay still, and I wanted to take charge even more. I took my mouth off his cock and told him that I wanted him to put his fingers inside my pussy to get them really wet, and then rub my clit. I had never "talked dirty" before, but I started telling him exactly how I wanted it, and then what it felt like when he did it. I kept moving my fingers on his dick, and his hips were almost coming off the bed, and he kept whispering "oh god" as I talked dirty and let myself moan a little when something felt really good. I told him that I wanted him to lick my pussy, and put his tongue inside while he fingered my clit, and I finally let my hips down to his face and the feel of his hot tongue on my wet pussy sent electric shocks through my hips and stomach. He did exactly what I asked him to do, and I started taking his cock in my mouth again, even though I was really distracted. After a few more minutes I wanted more inside of me, and I told him that I wanted his cock in my pussy. He'd never heard me talk like that, and was really turned on by it. I turned around and straddled his hips, facing him. I kissed him, even though he tasted like pussy, and started rubbing my clit against the head of his cock. I leaned back a little so he could see everything, and he said it was hot that I was using his cock like a sex toy. I kept going, and was getting even more turned on. He started gripping the sheets and begging me to give him more and ride him, and I could tell he was really working to keep from cumming right then. I leaned forward and told him to watch while I put his dick inside of me. I felt really tight when his cock was in me, and I really loved it. I started moving my hips in short strokes at first, then longer ones. He had his back arched and his eyes closed by then, and I told him to look down; that I wanted him to watch. He did, and I wet my fingers in my mouth, then started rubbing and even pinching my clit a little. I kept moving over his cock, and with the extra stimulation on my clit I realized I was going to orgasm soon! I grabbed his hands with my free hand and moved them to my breasts. I guess he'd noticed the way I was playing with my clit, and he started rubbing and even lightly pinching my nipples in the same way. I told him to keep watching, but it was hard to say anything because I was getting really short of breath. Within a minute, I had my first orgasm during intercourse, and it was incredible! Watching me cum made him totally lose control, and within a few seconds after my orgasm he grabbed my hips and started making me really ride him. I loved it, and went right along, pounding his cock into my pussy until he cried out and his whole body seemed to arch off the bed and he came. We completely collapsed after that, breathing hard and giving each other little kisses.

Since that time, I have enjoyed numerous orgasms with my husband. I'm not always the dominant one in bed, but since that experience I can let go and ask for exactly what I want whether or not I'm "in charge". We have a wonderful, open relationship and the honesty we share about sex and our pleasures is a blessing. I look forward to many more years with this wonderful man!!

Sarah

Hi, my name is Sarah and I had sex when I was 15. Me and my boyfriend had been dating for 3 year. We had heavily made out but nothing sexual besides that. We were sitting in his room watching a movie when we started kissing. His hand slipped up my shirt, but then shot down and said that he was really sorry. I said no it's okay we've been through a lot together you can. So he felt me up, and finally took off my shirt. I was laying there in his arms naked. He kissed my neck and asked are you sure about this? I replied Yes. So he unbuttoned his jeans and stood up to take his pants and boxers off. His dick was standing strait up, I couldn't help but tough it. He got on top of me again and started kissing my breasts I squealed with excitement. It was so exciting, that I got to share this with him. He took off my pants and for a few seconds we just looked at each other because we had never seen each other like this before. Finally I told him to be careful with me, he fingered me for a few minutes and then slowly started putting it in, it hurt but luckily I had been masturbating since I was ohh 7 or 8 so it didn't hurt. It felt so good. It lasted but 30 min. But the best part was the connection and then we just laid there and he held me, I think that was the best part just being in his arms. He was very sweet and I didn't bleed, so no one knew. I got up and left 45 minutes later, we are scheduled to marry in March of 2008 on the 15. I never believed that you should wait until marriage. But if you do have sex and you don't plan on having children then use protection of some kind. Because when you love someone it doesn't really matter. His name was Tucker and I love him very much.

Maria - Age 45

Maria's experience of discovering and exploring her sexuality at the age of 45 has been presented in the Q&A section, and can be accessed by Clicking Here. Be sure to read her follow up email, which follows my advice to her.